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13/f
I'm in 8th grade and I have 3 classes with this guy. I have had a crush on him for the longest time. What I know right now is that he likes me as a friend. He talks to me and teases me a lot. I don't know what to do though. I mean I think he knows I like him but then again he may not. But either way he still talks to me. I am really confused right now on what to do. Also I have a feeling another girl likes him too. She seems like she is really interested in him and always talks to him, also stares. So I have a feeling she does. But I am so confused. I know there is nothing really I can do to make him like me but I just want it to be easier talking to him and have him actually want to talk to me. Well more than he does now. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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Dear 13/f,
This may help a little I'm 14/f and in grade nine and I was in your same place last year. If you think he likes you make a joke about liking him and see if he seems sad that it was a joke then he probably likes you. Another thing not to do is make yourself to avalible, by that I mean don't walk up to him all the time or wave every time you walk by. If he waves say "oh hi" instead of "hey!" or somethig like that and if you have msn and talk to him take a little longer to reply then usual. It is a fact that most people want what seems harder to have.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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okay. so im a freshman and theres this guy ive known my whole life. i know him but were not really that close. you know how when youre younger you always have crushes?? well i always had one on him. might not forever but for a while, then ill forget about him, then again. hes really good at sports and thats pretty much all he does. when he started school his parents held him back so he would be bigger and older than the other kids. well in the past couple of years i found out someone i go to school with knew him too. im a cheerleader so i saw him. and the girl who also knew him and i kindof had a competition over him i guess n he couldnt stand her but would talk to me all the time. well his parents and g-parents ask about me all of the time and my mom said that everytime he sees me he always stares at me and smiles. well i cant forget about him! everything reminds me of him, i dream of him, hes always there! well he has a g/f but its one of those things where its just middle school and the relationships arent that serious. heres the weird part- hell txt me and ill text him back and stuff. i dont like to hide my feelings or be untrue to myself so i just tell him how i feel but he doesnt stop talking to me. then ill text him, wondering how he is and he wont text back!! later on (few days, weeks, months) hell txt me n well start talking again! idk whats going on! his g/fs not that great (he deserves way better!). i think about him all the time. he always stares at me and smiles. and lately, ive questioned myself "do i love him?". even my mom said that i did but i acted like she didnt know what she was talking about. does he love me back? please help by telling me whats going on.. thanks you so much! (link)
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Dear Love?,
Well no one knows how he really feels but him. The same thig goes with you. I would say though if you have to ask if you like him you probably do. Well ask him if he likes this other girl you talked about then jokingly say, " oh what do you like me" and see how he reacts if he acts like he likes you tell him you like him. I fhe acts like he dousn't like you mopre then a friend just laugh like it dousn't bother you then you can still be friends.
Sencerily Maggie Maclean
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okay, so theres this guy name Jacob. we're pretty good friends[although im like totaly in love with him! and he sure knows it]. we usualy talk to eachother 24/7 in all the classes we got together.
and well i've recently been avoiding him, try to make short conversations, and not to talk to him or even look at him.
but i've been laughing and hanging around with his friends[my friends] quite well and alot too. right in front of him, i dont mean to haha. its a coincidence..
i dunno if hes' jealous or just feels left out, but now hes trying to make me laugh again[been going to the emo side lately] & talk to me. you can tell if you were me. felt awkward.
i just act like i dont care cause im quite mad at him. =\
also.. in the halls, wen we pass eachother alot he usualy smiles realy huge at me. which makes me laugh to but i mean cmon, im mad at him, im not suppose to laugh >_<
also, me best friend has a class with him and she sits in front of him and she tells me that he also throughs paper balls at her[ i got reasons to believe that hes flirting with her. but you no how naive a girl can be..xD] but anywayz. it makes me wonder if he's really jealous.
&& i got a huge test[state test whatever mines the FCAT and i dont wanna be stressing out and fail it bkuz it determines if i going to high skool or not and i dont wanna be worrying about what hes thinking]
so i wanna no if hes jealous or feels left out?
14/f and in 8th grade (link)
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Dear Jealous,
Well from my point of view I would guess that maybe he likes you, he didn't like you as much when you were around all the time but now that your not he started thinking about you more. The other possibility is that he is afraid to lose you as a friend. You didn't mention what you were angry about but if its not a big deal just forgive him. Odviously he wants your friendship, or more, pretty badly but whatever it is you should probably find out. Hope this helps.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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okay, this girl britnii cannot control her feelings towards this boy named adam. and everyone knows she likes him but i donno if he likes her back. yes, i like him and compared to britnii im a gorrilla.. okay not that bad but she\'s tiny compared to me. but annoying and has no personality whatsoever she changes herself for people to like her, but she flirts with him none-stop. and nooo im not the jelouse type that i know of, but it kinda bugs me. adam helps me with everything-- this kids awesome in school and gets straight a\'s and because he basicly tutored me in science im getting a b which he\'s very proud of=]. he helps me with the new laptops which are apples so he\'s showing me how to use them but sometimes i forget**. well i think britniis noticing my hanging out with him because we just got progress reports back and adam really wanted to see my grade in science and i was like jumping up and down like yes adam you rock!! and just having an awesome time celebrating, were queer haha. well she comes over and was like oh, katie let me see your grades so being all excited about it i showed her [[ive been getting d\'s in science because its really hard.]] she\'s like oh you only got a b?? im getting an a and i didnt need any help from --the smartest guy in class.
i was pissed and even adam noticed the [tone] she used and was like yeah, well were not as gifted as you britnii and we walked away leaving her miserable hahhaa. no he said it nicer but just the way was awesome.=]] then after he was like i wouldn\'t help her even if she got f\'s she\'s that annoying.
so i dont think he likes her which is a-ok but she\'s having her weirdo friend practicly harass him asking him if he likes her and he wont answer. he also told me he likes that the girl has enough courage to tell him herself, not have all her friends bug him.
he\'s sooo cute. he\'s like boy next door adorible and is so sure of himself. i have like tons of storys i could say but that would be getting off subject.
if britnii gets the balls and tells him she likes him, i donno what he\'ll say. he\'s to nice to say no but if he doesnt like her he wont lead her on. thats how awesome he is
but i can\'t ask him like \"do you like her?\"
because i dont want him to know i like him either but by the way everyone tallks about me flirting with him i already thins he knows and were still friends but he hasnt said anything so i donno.
i know this isnt an exact question, but what am i saposed to do if he says yes i really like him and i still want him to tutor me, because if i fail science my parents will kill they saw my report and almost died at the improvement and said they want to meet him which is never gunna happen my parents are too weird and i dont want him to know i think him remember. but they just want to thank him, but i told him i wanted to get his kinda grades and he laughed at me cuz he\'s getting like 99 but said he\'d try and becuase hes heard what people are saying, and hasnt said anything he either thinks ts weird that i like him, or doesnt know what to do so anything would be awsome.
thanks.
sooo long i know. (link)
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Dear likes him too,
Well if she likes him to eventually she is going to go for him and possible get hurt, if you think he dousn't like her. If you think he likes you ask him if he likes her just to see first because if you don't get him you might want your friend to ;)(ya right..lol) Anyways ask him if he might like you, and if he says yes see what happens from there. If he says no act like nothing has happened, maybe even make a joke. By doing this it makes it seem like you don't like him, then it won't be aquard if you want to stay friends. If you need more advice just ask.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean.
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I'm a twin. End of story. My twin sister is funny, more confident than me and sometimes I think better looking (people say we look very different). I'm in what will be a long term relationship and already has lasted a year, and I'm very sure that my boyfriend loves the hell out of me, just like I love the hell out of him!
My problem? I've shared everything with my sister for my whole life. Friends, everything. Her and him, they're close friends. Shes always telling him her problems and they talk on a personal scale. They joke around and stuff and sometimes when hes talking to me about like, e.g. when theyve been alone together he's not entirely truthful. Oh, I don't mean anything like they DO anything together, I trust him in that sense. But I get so scared. I can do everything she can do, but I'm not as confident and although I equal her in things like drama I'm kind of the quieter one, who likes a good laugh and whose more academically skilled. I just get so worried that he likes me - and hes said that he used to fancy her - and we're twins! How can he not like her as much as he likes me? we look relatively the same (we're identical but don't like to look the same), she's brighter, more full of life. The other day, although they constantly abuse each other and flirt for fun, he rung her up expecially so he could walk with her to school. I somehow don't think he'd do the same for me. He says I'm the better twin, that I'm worth alot more than her, but he doesn't show it in his actions. What do you think he thinks? What would you feel in his position? I'm confused and probably shouldn't be, am probably overreacting. He can talk as much as he wants with other girls. By my twin? That feels so different. Its like they have a whole kind of different other relationship. Please help.
Thank you, Faye :) ^^ (link)
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Dear Faye,
Well first I would say maybe you feel a little inferior to her and that is effecting your relationship with your boyfriend. You could possibly just be taking the signs to seriously. But if it douse not cool off and you still feel like something is wrong talk to him about how you feel. Explain to him to just cut back a bit on the flirting and stuff. They can still be friends but you just feel like he isn't spending as much time with you as your twin.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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15/Female [Asian]
I have naturally straight hair [very long] and I'm absoultely tired of that. How can I get hair like this; http://www.fresnobeehive.com/archives/upload/2007/05/taylor.jpg or http://www.jeremycowart.com/photo_images/0000/2349/h22.jpg I was thinking a permanent wave but as I read online, it causes hair damage but I've never died or added any chemicals to my hair. Should I get my hair permed? Oh, and if I do get a perm can I straighten my hair again? [Of course after a few weeks.] (link)
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Dear Perm,
Well be warned when people perm their hair they hate it or love it(most of the time). What would be a good idea before you perm your hair is to go to the hair salon and ask them to curl your hair like a perm so you can see what it looks like. Afterward if you like it then yes you should go to a salon and get it permed. Hope this helps.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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ok so its like this, i like alot of guys. but none of them are really the same. well i have a boyfriend and he seems cool but now this other guy said to me that he was next in line to go out with me. and it makes me wonder if guys really thinks that i go by a line up. it makes me feel as though guys think that i just use then when really i just dont know what i want in a guy.
i am someone who likes alot of different things. and sometimes i like to think about stuff. I love to talk but other times i wish people would just leave me alone. i love to read but i love to just go to the mall and be free of whatever i was thinking about. i play soccer but i am also in tech. club. so as you can see it is hard for me to find a guy that is more than just 10% like me. And then i went out with a guy and when i broke up with him it broke my heart because he said i brake his. it just mkaes me feel bad to brake up with guys but if i have to i have to. (link)
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Dear guys,
If a guy says something like that and asks you out after you do break up with your current boyfriend flat out say "I'm not interested in someone who doesn't respect me". Then others guy will eventually learn that you respect yourself enough to know you don't use people. If you have such a diverse personality be friends with guys first to see if there is any chemistry, or if you have more then 10% in common. Well I hope this will help you.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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I have a boyfriend. Me and him have this notebook that we pass back and forth and when anyone askes to see it we always so no. Well, my friends went off on me saying that i was a fake friend, and then she claims that she tells me everything when she tells me nothing at all, well, then she gets all of my other friends mad at me and keeps pretnding like she's innocent, but she's far from it. I have a really REALLY big secret that i could tell everyonethat could really hurt her. I don't Know if I am better off without her as a friend, or not, or if i should tell her big secret. Please Help Me! (link)
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Dear War,
Well first of all DO NOT tell her secret what if she had a big secret of yours, even if the situation was reversed do you think it would be okay for her to tell your secret. Probably not. If she did this to you then you are better off without her as a friend. Find some other friends that are more understanding about this "note book". Explain to some of your kinder friends what happened, if they are your REAL friends they will forgive you...
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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Well, me and my friends babysit, and the kis is the wrost you could possibly ask for. If he is not in the room and you cjange the channel he comes in and thorws the biggest fit, and if you don't give him wah the wants he has a temper tantrum. How do we stop him from being so untamed??? (link)
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Dear annoying,
Well if you are punishing him for doing bad things don't. What you should try is taking things away that he enjoys, television, toys. that kind of thing. That way he realizes he's not just getting in trouble he is losing things he likes. He will start to wonder if its worth it. Hope this helps.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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Let's See Here.
Well, i've liked this boy for a [LONG] time;
And when i say long time i mean about two year's
on and off! Anyway's My friend's knew i liked him
be he never knew; Well I stoped chilling with him
last year.. THEN THIS YEAR ROLLS AROUND And we started hangout out again; like everyday & weekend's too; & i started to like him AGAIN
[goooo me] & THIS TIME I LET [everyone] KNOW
I LIKED HIM! so we would flirt here and there
but this girl he like's COME IN THE PICTURE when
things are going GREAT! like he'd be right in
front of me flriting with her knowing i like him
then when she would leave he'd flirt with me [WTF]
i was confused.. days go by & she says i wanna be
with you.. & now there together. it's been about three week's now & i havent talked to him since
it's driving me crazy she wont let him have GIRLfriends BLAH! only her friends. i dont know
i know hes happy so i wont try and mess things up
anyways to day thay broke upp.. HA for an hour
she say i wanna be "FRIENDS" then says im so happy with you -BLAHHHHHH! what should i do?
he's the only guy i think about; & the only
guy i wanna be with
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS ONE!
a n y t h i n g will help me at this point. (link)
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Dear I Like him,
Well give him some time to recoup even if you didn't like her he obviously did. So solution you be supportive of him as a friend so he sees how good a person you are. COMPLETELY forget about him going out with her unless he brings it up, it may wound his pride a little.Don't try to jump into a relationship with him, be patient.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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so there is this guy Brian and he moved here from Washington i have a myspace and so does he i added him first but he talked to me first hes very nice and then we get to school and we smile at each other..... i come to find out i like him more then just a friend. i got my friend to talk to brians friend jordan and to ask him for me "hey does brian have a girlfriend,because michelle likes him" and jordan brians friend said " yeah hes single but....his ex is comeing down from washington.." i was like hmm okay....so i need advice do you think they still have something becuase she is comeing down should i keep trying to talk to him i really want him!!! :D please give good advice!! (link)
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Dear I LIKE HIM,
Well if you really like him keep talking to him as a friend then when his girlfriend comes down see how he acts toward her, like he likes her? as a friend? Then when she leaves talk to him about how you feel then you don't get hurt if he douse still like his ex.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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Alright, i think this would be alot easier if i start from the beginning.. sorry if its long, but it might give you a better understanding.
2 and a half years ago i met this boy dylan. i just recently found out that he has liked me ever since we first met. i didnt know this at the time, so during the 2 years i've known him i've just went out w/ a few of the guys he hangs out with.
back in october is when he finally asked me out & i told him yes. he ended up breaking up with me in the middle of november, but he said he still wanted to be really close friends. i dont know if that was just some lame break up line, but i wanted to stay friends too.
in december, dylan told me that he wanted to go back out w/ me, but that his friend jeremiah wanted to go out w/ me also. i told dylan's friend that i didnt know if i wanted to, so we just hung out as friends & got to know each other instead.
then in january they actually got into a fist fight b/c over me & i witnessed it. jeremiah backed out of the fight cause he said he didnt want to fight w/ someone he had so much history with, but dylan is telling everyone that he kicked his ass and that he ran away like a coward and is just talking alot of shit on him. they aren't friends anymore & i feel like this is my fault. i never meant for them to stop being friends.
at the beginning of this month dylan was telling everyone he knew that he was going back out w/ me. but we arent.(btw we go to different schools) & just last week is when he really did ask me back out again. over the weekend i told him i'd think about it, but that too much stuff was going on & i dont want anyone to get in anymore fights and that i think it'd be better if we werent going out and just stayed friends for now. but now today jeremiah told we that dylan is now talking shit on me as well as jeremiah. jeremiah was saying that he heard my name clearly & something about my race(ethnicity), he told me he didnt hear anything else but i dont know if he was just holding back from anything else he heard cause he didnt want me to get hurt, but i really dont care b/c dylan's just saying all this cause i turned him down. or atleast thats what i think.
before me and dylan first started going out, we never really talked. so i never thought he would be the type to lie(he's lied to me about alot of things), go behind your back, or talk shit. i really do still want to be friends with him though & i want him and jeremiah to be friends again, so im thinking maybe if i could talk to him about it & tell him that its really hurting me that he's disrespecting me and just get everything out in the open so that we could resolve all this. do you think this would be a good idea or would it just make the situation worse & use it against me? also, why do guys feel the need to talk shit on a girl that doesnt want to go out w/ them? i told him the reason why, & i thought he would understand. he's liked me for almost 3 years, so why would he do this? is it some kind of ego thing or what? how do i make him stop? (link)
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Dear Ex,
Well what I would do first is just give them a few weeks to cool off. I think your right about the ego thing. You turned him down so he wants to make it seem like he didn't even really want you. After a few weeks talk to them both. Keep in mind if you decide to go out with either of them your friendship with the other one will be ruined, they will feel betrayed. Find another guy your interested in to show both of them that you are really over them, forever. Hope this helps.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean.
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ok well here is the thing: ok well my friend dated this guy named robert and well it didnt work out and like a week later she left him and he was hurt ok and well i secretly liked him for a while and well weeks went by and well he started to notice me and he fell for me and well we started to date but i saw that my friend was upset that i was dating him and none of my other friends like him, bu t no one would tell me why. well i wasnt sure about keeping the relationship going because last year i was with this guy for almost a year and all my friends were telling not to trust him becasue he was bad news and i didnt belive them and we had a fight and i lost all contact with my freinds and then like a month later i found out he was cheeting on me and when i confronted him about it he beat and raped me, and well i finnaly got my friends back after that happend and with this new guy i was afraid to lose them again to a guy so i dumped him and it hurt really bad because deep down i love him. it shook him up pretty bad he got depressed and i couldnt even look him in the eye because it hurt me too much to see him sad. and well now he has been hanging around me alot not talking to me but everyone else around me like he is avoiding me but whenever i see him in the halls at skool and he sees me coming he goes up some other gurl and starts flirting with her just to make me mad. and i feel really bad about what i did and i can still see the hurt in his eyes when he sees me and i love him i really do but i am too afraid to go up to him and ask to have him back, When he first asked me out he asked me if i would ever hurt him and i told him no and then i ended up doing it anyway i hate myself for what i did and i want to make it better but im not one of those outgoing kind of people and i dont like totalk much and want to know if there is anything i can do besides go up to him and talk face to face with him, he wont read my letters he just tosses them on the gorund he dnt have a phone and he dnt have myspace or anything
thnx in advance
---amaya (in need of advice) (link)
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Dear Amaya,
Well first of all I want you top know I do not judge you it seems to me that you were just trying to do the right thing. What i want you to think about is that there are a lot of fish in the sea this will not be the only guy. Well my advice would be first to, if you just cant face him in real life, send him an e-mail explaining why you broke up with him. If after a few days he douse not respond to that you'll have to go face to face, or on MSN maybe. If he is important to you, and you care about him find a way to tell him. After explain that you want to be friends before jumping into a relationship again. This tells him that you do care but don't want to hurt him again. I hope this will help.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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hey^_^
i want to know names of colleges that i can learn more about space science in.Can you help? (link)
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Hey Science,
Well really it depends on where you live because you could live in Canada and i could give you 20 science colleges from all over the world and might not get the right area. Go to wikipedia.com and look up universities/colleges in your area. Hope this helps.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean.
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Ok, I play volleyball for my highschool team, and I have to dive for the ball a lot. Is there anything I could wear under my knee pads so that they don't leave a carpet burn when I slide? I tend to dive a lot [habit ha ha] and I always get big carpet burns so my knees are all red and it hurts to put my knee pads on. My friend said to wrap them in medical tape, but that would just make my legs stiff. Help? (link)
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Dear Volleyball,
Hey this is Maggie Maclean's sister Maggie doesn't know that much about volleyball so I told her I would help her with this question.
'I to play Volleyball, and I would personally suggest that if your knee-pads aren't working for you, then you should definitely invest in some new ones.
Now, if your anything like me, your knee-pads are probably pretty important to you, and maybe you don't want a new pair. So I would suggest that you buy some of that headband material, that basket ball and volleyball players wear in order to keep their bangs back, and out of their face. Just use it to wrap around your knees, hidden under your knee-pads.
I don't know if it would work, But it's worth a try.
Sincerely,
Matty Maclean.
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I am 15 and about 5'2/3 short for my age. I have been trying to loose weight for about 2 years now, but i never ever stick to eat. I always find myself binging when i get home from school. Its like a race between me and my friend, we are the same size. But shes lost so much weight and i really dont no what to do the obvious thing is to stop binging but its sosososo hard i get really hungry. I do exercise quite alot but it justs turns into muscle so i look even bigger. I need to loose weight fast for the summer especially!! (link)
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Dear skinny,
My first comment to you would be DO NOT BINGE. You may think it is helping you but the reality is wearing down your teeth, esophogus, and doing more harm then good. Not to mention it also could become a habit not just for you but also for your mind, and your body. Furthermore purging does not help us keep weight off it just makes up take weight away for a short period of time. Moving on because different people have different body types. Mine 14 short(4'9"), and I weigh 80 pounds. The only reason I do this because the only person I challenge is myself. Maybe you thought it was a good idea to challenge you classmate but you must challenge yourself. Make a goal for yourself, a healthy goal such as 5 pounds in 1-3 months. Then everyday do things such as running, sit ups, push ups, crunches, it really helps. Eat healthy vegetables and foods and stuff i ts okay to eat a treat without binging but you have to figure out what your going to do to work it off.
Hope that helped.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean.
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i died my hair recently about 2 weeks ago now maybe 3 i died it blonde but its turned out with ginger strikes it looks quite bad compared to how nice my hair use to be according to everyone else, its getting me really upset, as i care alot about my image. My friends keep saying like i cant bleieve how ginger your hair it and pointing people out and saying its like hers, its aweful! Im not allowed to die it again as it will get in really bad condition. Does the sun make hair colour fade? alot? any tips on how to fade the colour naturally? I heard tomato ketchup but i read that just if your hair truns green from chlorine. My friend said is faded hers loads when it went a gingery colour. but to be honest i dont really trsut it.! (link)
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Dear hair,
I have died my hair many times. From my experiance it all depends on how many times you have died your hair, and how recently to how badly it will damage it. If it is a really big problem for you try to cut a deal with your parents promise them you won't die your hair for a year, or two years or whatever seems fair. But you must be aloud to die your hair back to its original color, or close to it. explain to then that it is really important to you, and that they should really listen to what you have to say. Hope this helps.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean.
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ok i have a friend and she is my friend somedays but other days shes a really big b***h. i talk bad about her behind her back with another one of my really close friends.
well this friend of mine ahs a boyfriend and he is the one i liked last year, but my friend hated him (last year) and now they're going out. she is so obbsesed with him. and plus before she was dating this guy she was really good friends with this other guy but now shes says tons of crap about him for no reason. i dont understand her. and plus she talks bad about my other friends and me sometimes. but she can be a really good friend. what can i do with her? ignore her or be the best friend i can be?? idk (link)
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Dear Friend,
Well think about when your relationship started going downhill. Was their an event that started it off? If so talk about it with your friend and try to patch up your relationship first. If that doesn't work and she keeps acting weird and rude explain to her that you can't be her friend if she keeps acting the way she is. What might also help is if you have other friends that feel the same way about her, nice but can be kind of b***h, get them to speak to her separately so she sees its more then one person thinking she is acting different. Hope you work it out.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean.
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I lost the cord that goes to my kodak that downloads all the pictures to my computer. Is there any place i could buy one and about how much it would be ? (link)
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Dear Cord,
The first place I would check would be the place you bought the camera they may have extras.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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okay. i wanna know if there a practice doll somewhere out there thats just like a baby it needs to be fed and needs attention alot just like a baby. i really need it so because of school. alot of people already got em but i dont know where to look can someone help? (link)
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Dear Baby,
Well my first bit of advice would be to ask the other people in your class. If htat is impossible my second suggstion would be to go to an adoption center, or a hospital and ask if they have them sometimes they will.
Sencerily Maggie Maclean
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