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i dnt know what to do
ok well here is the thing: ok well my friend dated this guy named robert and well it didnt work out and like a week later she left him and he was hurt ok and well i secretly liked him for a while and well weeks went by and well he started to notice me and he fell for me and well we started to date but i saw that my friend was upset that i was dating him and none of my other friends like him, bu t no one would tell me why. well i wasnt sure about keeping the relationship going because last year i was with this guy for almost a year and all my friends were telling not to trust him becasue he was bad news and i didnt belive them and we had a fight and i lost all contact with my freinds and then like a month later i found out he was cheeting on me and when i confronted him about it he beat and raped me, and well i finnaly got my friends back after that happend and with this new guy i was afraid to lose them again to a guy so i dumped him and it hurt really bad because deep down i love him. it shook him up pretty bad he got depressed and i couldnt even look him in the eye because it hurt me too much to see him sad. and well now he has been hanging around me alot not talking to me but everyone else around me like he is avoiding me but whenever i see him in the halls at skool and he sees me coming he goes up some other gurl and starts flirting with her just to make me mad. and i feel really bad about what i did and i can still see the hurt in his eyes when he sees me and i love him i really do but i am too afraid to go up to him and ask to have him back, When he first asked me out he asked me if i would ever hurt him and i told him no and then i ended up doing it anyway i hate myself for what i did and i want to make it better but im not one of those outgoing kind of people and i dont like totalk much and want to know if there is anything i can do besides go up to him and talk face to face with him, he wont read my letters he just tosses them on the gorund he dnt have a phone and he dnt have myspace or anything
thnx in advance
---amaya (in need of advice)
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Send him an email or if you can IM him then even better. I know you said you cant go up and talk to him but it would be better if you spoke to him face to face, just wait until he is alone and try to talk to him then.
Tell him that your sorry and see if he will give it another go OR you could start of as friends first, just to see how things go. Also talk to your friends, If your friends really do care about you then they will want you to be happy. I didnt like my best friends boyfriend but i wanted her to be happy and i saw that he made her happy and that was the main thing.
And even if he doesnt want to have a relationship with you, he may still want to be friends, and its better to be friends with him than nothing at all.
Hope everything works out for you.
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The best you can do is to give him another chance because if you like him, then it should be fine with your friends.
I assume that you're going out with a new guy and not Robert? If so, then dumping him over your friends isn't good because it shows that you don't want to a have a relationship if it's going to spoil your relationship with your friends and you don't want that. Tell your friends about it first and see whether they approave because then you can date him to your hearts content.
Talk to him and let him know how you feel about him and that you really want to be with him again.
He loves you and you love him and that is all that should matter. Your friends matter of course because you need them as much as you need him so try and keep the two equal. This is hard but some people manage and i'm sure that you can as well.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Dear Amaya,
Well first of all I want you top know I do not judge you it seems to me that you were just trying to do the right thing. What i want you to think about is that there are a lot of fish in the sea this will not be the only guy. Well my advice would be first to, if you just cant face him in real life, send him an e-mail explaining why you broke up with him. If after a few days he douse not respond to that you'll have to go face to face, or on MSN maybe. If he is important to you, and you care about him find a way to tell him. After explain that you want to be friends before jumping into a relationship again. This tells him that you do care but don't want to hurt him again. I hope this will help.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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