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Never had a boyfriend
I'm 24 years old, going on 25 and I've never had a boyfriend, I've been on dates, if you want to call taking me to McDonald's as a date...anyway, everytime I see my friends or even relatives smooching or cuddling with their significant other it puts me down, it's like a slap in the face. I've never even experienced my first kiss yet. Everyone knows how I feel and everytime they say again and again "Don't worry, you're turn will come", I am so fed up with hearing that! Any advice you can give me?
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Put your self out there. Maybe even go onto a Dateing site. I know alot of people have. Or maybe get out more. Go to the movies with just ur girlfriends. Or dancing.
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Hi, I would have to say that I too agree with putting yourself out there. I also wanted to let you know that my very close friend was/is in the same situation as you. she is pretty and has an awesome personality but did not have her first kiss until she was 23. She still has never had a "boyfriend." Right now at age 25, she is having her first sexual relationship which is a non-attached sort of thing. This has helped her gain confidence and start to be more outgoing around the opposite sex. Before all this she was fed up with me always telling her that her time will come eventually. Instead of telling her that, I made an effort to take her out to public places, bars, concerts, etc. also touching herself up made her more confident. Go get some new clothes that compliment you, get a new hairstyle, just do anything that will make you feel good about yourself. If you think that you will never meet someone, you probably won't. I know it is hard, but stay positive and keep telling yourself that you are a good catch and any guy would love to be with you. Power of attraction. If you believe something enough, you will have it. Also, even if you are against it, you may consider internet dating. Craigslist is free and I do know someone who met their fiance on there. There are also the payed sites, and other singles clubs. When you go out, make eye contact with an attractive man, smile and let him know without coming out and saying it that you are available and a great gal. I cannot stress confidence enough. The more you put yourself out there, the more you will be noticed and thus the better you will feel about yourself. Confidence is definetly a turn on. Good luck, think positive and don't give up. one more thing...i strongely believe in fate, and perhaps you just haven't met your soul mate yet and you are supposed to only be with him. it could very well turn out that you find the most loving, perfect relationship because you had to wait so long for it. again, good luck, take care and never think that you are the only one out there in your position.
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I agree with helloxdear13 - you need to get yourself out there! Don't feel down about yourself because you haven't been with anyone yet. Dating isn't about ego - you don't need to feel "[slapped] in the face' just because you haven't gotten to know anyone yet. There are tons of guys who would love to be with you. They just don't know it because, well...they don't know you yet! Just be yourself, take a deep breath and go meet some people.
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Okay, well the best thing I can say is to put yourself out there. Visit places where you'll meet guys with similar interests to you. And if you spot one you may like (cute, outgoing, reserved) then walk up to him and say hi. Start a conversation, "What are you doing here" and the like. Talk about that interest. And if you end up liking him, then ask if he wants to hang out (you may have to try a few times before meeting a guy you really click with).
When you're ready you can use these instructions for asking him out... if he doesn't do it first.
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Good luck!
-Calli
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