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heyness my names Regina im 17 and i live in VA i love jus helping people out and giving advice...soo lol ask me anything and i'll try my best to help!

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what does it mean when a guy offers to let you wear his jacket?

aw thats sweet lol...
he might be thinkin bout you as more than a friend but its not somthin as big as kissin you or anything...he might just be trying to be nice...unless you can tell he does kinda like you by other stuff he does...but other than that its no biggie...observe on the other sweet stuff he does ffor you if any cause he might be tryin to tell you somthing...ya never know lol...hope i helped! xoxo

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This is long, so I'm sorry for that. With that being said, let me tell you the story.

So, about 2.5 - 3 weeks ago, I met this guy. His name is Matt, and he's really sweet. He's 18. Well, I'm 15. Anyways, we slept over at my friend's house across the street, and we cuddled all night, and even slept in the same bed with each other. There was no sex included, I'm a virgin, and I wish to wait til it's with someone I love. Well, it was nice, and he said he liked me. We kissed, and I liked him too. So, since then we've been talking on the phone everyday, and recently hung out at the mall the other day. Things were weird, but he kissed me there too. Then, a few days after we hung out, his ex girlfriend Jamie messages me on MySpace asking if I had done anything with him, so I asked if they were together, and she said "Sorta." Well, I didn't know who to believe about the situation, so I asked my friend Joey, who is Matt's best friend. Joey told me she was lying. Then I later found out that her & Matt were back together. I was really upset because he said he was thinking about asking me out, and he thought I was pretty, and he liked me. Well, during the time that we talked, he'd blow me off, and lie to me. It made me mad, but I figured "What the hell, you're not his girlfriend, don't let it bother you so much." The only reaosn we didn't end up together was because he said he didn't want a girlfriend. Which is retarded, because he's now back with his ex. I don't get why they're together because if it didn't work the first time, it's not gonna work this time either.

Anyways, after they started going out, I threw my fits of cries/screams. And then I went for a walk while talking on the phone with one of my friends, because he knows how to calm me down & make me feel better. Well, I got home from my walk, and I found out that Matt only liked me because I had a nice ass & he thought he could get into my pants easily. And he said my chest was the size of Hong Kong. So, he pretty much used me for sex, since he wasn't getting any from Jamie, since they were not together.

Well, he's coming over to my friend's house today, and I'll be over there, and I'm just wondering what I should do? I have this gut feeling that he's gonna look at me, and that I'm gonna cry, and my feelings are never wrong. I know he probably isn't worth my time, but for someone who's hurt me so much, I really really like him.

So, my question is, should I back off & give him space to be with his girlfriend, or do I get to know him better & see what happens. Is he even worth my time? I really need to know, because I won't be able to do anything before I know.

Thanks for your time! ♥

girl he is def. not worth your time...i mean think of it...he jus did all that cause he thought he could get some...it may be hard for you to get over him but you gotta realize that what he did wasnt exactly right...you can get a better guy than that dont go round chasin this one guy thats not even worth it...good luck hun nd hope i helped!

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ok so me and this guy are bf and gf and it's only been like a week right. well he is amazing, like he treats me so good and it's like woah, calls me every night, walks me to class holding my hand yadda yadda yadda haha. well i heard from his ex gf from like 2 years ago and she was saying how mean and horrible he was and to not make the same mistake that she did. but everybody else that i talk to that knows him says the complete opposite. but i'm worried that since we haven't been going out long that i just haven't see who he really is...what could possibly be going on?

we're both 17 if that helps

yeahh definitley dONt listen to her...she prolly just doesnt want you two together and she could still have a lil thing for him...
besides it was 2 years ago when they went out...if what shes sayin did actually happen he might be different now so i say just give him a chance you never know what'll happen ;)...hope i helped hun!...

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So theres this guuy, lets call him "rick".(( we are both 13)so he always does this thing with me where he will start flirting like he likes me, then when i start liking him, he ignores me completley like he doesnt care anymore. well anyways this has happened about 3 times already. hes not even going to my school next year, so i was trying to forget about him. then he just starts texting me like saying "hey sexy" and stuff like tht. then i flirt back and after awhile its like he gets bored or somthing and just stops tlking without saying anything at all. i have no idea whats up. its like one day he likes me, the next he doesnt even care. i have no idea what to do. what happens if he does it again? should i flirt back or just ignore him? and im afraid to ask him upfront cuz i dont wanna like make it seem like i care too much or turn it into a big deal. what do i do!?!?!

oh lord...boys at 13...ah...
but yeah anyways lol...okay its either hes just messin with your head or hes playing hard-to-get... whatever you do dont flirt back...dont act interested at all...if he wants you to flirt with him he'll start it...if you stop flirting with him and you see that hes not trying to flirt back then he was just playing with your head from the beginning...good luck hun hope i helped! =]

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15/f -- me and this guy ["jack"] have been friends for about 4 months and lately weve both started to "like" each other more and he's been wantin to ask me out for awhile [he told me so himself] but he knew that although i liked him too, i was really enjoying the single life and wasnt ready to be in another relationship. his brother was talkin to me a lil while back and said that if/when i decided i was ready to go out with jack, i could let him kno and then he'd tell jack he should ask me out. but i wanna put a spin on things and just ask him myself. the prob is, i dont kno how. ive never asked anyone out before. we only get to see each other about once a week cuz he works almost every day and stuff but we talk on the phone every night. so i was wondering should i ask him on the phone like tonight or wait till this weekend when i see him in person? and what would be a good way to do it? like when he says i love you, should i say something like .. i love you too, wanna make it official? or something like that? i wanna make it good but not complicated you kno? :]

definitley ask him out in person...its just better that way...if you ask a person out on the phone or computer or something like that it might give the other the wrong impression like they might think you dont want a serious relationship...and try to see him more than just once a week it could help...yeah and let him know you love him too...aw good luck hun =] hope i helped...

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16/f
i dont know how to cope with the loss of this guy who i almost could have said i loved. hes not dead but he might as well be. he doesnt treat me how he used to, infact we dont talk at all really anymore. i know he doesnt have any feelings for me anymore but that doesnt mean i still dont have them for him. no one has ever made me feel the way he did. i dont want him back though because it wouldnt be the same. i just want to get over him. i try but it always fails. i dont want to hang out with my friends and when i do i always think about him and when im on the raod to a softball tourny, all i can think about is him and im always depressed.im never happy or excited for anything anymore.
anyone have any ideas on how to get him out of my mind for good?
thank you much
xo

omg that must be so hard for you...ive gone through something like this myself...i think you should start seeing other guys and once you find a guy you like and who will treat you right youll totally forget about this jerk...dont waste your time thinking about him constantly especially when youre with your friends...dont let him ruin your fun like that...i know its soo very hard but later on you'll just regret it...hes a waste of time...
find better, nicer, guy and he'll dissapear from your thoughts...hope i helped hun...good luck!

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So a while ago, a few years now, I really liked this guy and I was sure that he liked me. We saw very little of each other through these past few years (we went to different schools). But I always saw him at camp. Now, I see him everyday for like 2 hours but we haven't really talked in a long time. And for some reason, I really like him. I don't know why. I am completely honest with my boyfriend (well, now ex) and so one night, I just told him. And because we are best friends and have dated on and off for a while, he told me to go for it, even if that just means just talking to this kid.
So ok. 1 question cuz i know this is getting long. How do you think I should talk to him--- like randomally go up and talk to him? and how will i know if he still likes me?!

randomlly going up to him would work...if you can think of somthing to talk about...dont stress over what you want to say just start off with a "hey hows it goin" or "hey havnt talked in a while?..." and just see how the conversation goes from there...if he wants to talk to you he'll come up with somthing to say too but dont let him do all the talking...if you "plan" what you want to say to this guy you'll probably forget all about it once you guys acutally start talking so dont think about it that much just see how it goes dont think just do. lol hope i helppped

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So there is this girl. I've seen her at this resturant for the past 2 years but never said a word to her because i'm so shy. We had a picnic this weekend and my mom's friends daughter came and with her was this girl.After the picnic I was told that she thought I was cute and such a nice person. So I was invited back to the apartment the next day of these 2 girls. We watched 2 movies and ate dinner othing big. So when I got home I text the girls friend and asked if this girl even likes me or what. I got in reply She does but wants nothing serious. How do I go about that? Do I still try to become close and hope more happens or what? Any help is thankful.

still hang out with her and like still talk and stuff dont like backout or anything...when she told you she liked you but nothing serious or anything i think it might be because she doesnt know you well enough yet to think anything else...
when you guys get to know each other a little more maybe then will she start thinking about somthing serious...but for now i think you guys should just get to know each other and be friends since you guys just met

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okay..so there's this guy that i've sorta always liked..and we dated at this beginning of this year but we broke up after like two weeks..and he told me a few days ago that he likes me and he wants me to ask him out or something cause he'll have more respect for me..anyways i really dont wanna get hurt like i did last time and i want something that's going to last..and he says that he's tired of being single and he wants a relationship..but i dont know if i should believe him or not. so what do you think i should do?

why did you guys break up in the first place??
it depends on what happened the first time and if its somthing that he did then i dont think you should consider getting back with him if it hurt you too much...unless its somthing that you know he wont do again....and the whole thing about him wanting you to ask him out just so that he'll respect you more??....wow okay i've never heard anything like that before...even if you didnt ask him out he still should respect you and treat you the same way if he liked you like that...
when you say that he wants a relationship and is just tired of being single it seems that to him it doesnt matter who hes with...he just wants to be in one...
if you want to get back with him you should make sure he likes you and will resepect you AnD you know that it will last...
good luck! and hope i helped =)

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OK so like omg its me again from like the other like love handle question and like like, a love handle is like a handle shaped object that like she uses to have like pleasureable fun with. so like what should i like do?

what do you mean what should you do....let her have her "fun" lmao and ashish...get a lyfe LOL

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Ok, so like omg totally theres this one girl right, and shes all like...in my religion class and stuff, and like omg she has this totally huge obsession with love handles! Her hair brush was one but like like like now she doesnt use it and like wants a new one. Like what should i give her for her to use as like a new love handle?

sincerely,
totally-omg-helpless-like-neeeeds-advice-teen

ps: this girl is like really weird too, she had a thing for a duck

define "love handle"
then get back to me later....

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My 8th grade prom is coming up(towards the end of the school yr.) and its not a problem to find a date for the prom the problem is that i get nervous dancing infront of people i dont know why though. Just to let you'll know i do know how to dance. If anyone has any tips on ways i could get over this please let me know!

aw just get on the dance floor and have some fun! i dont think people are gonna stare and see how well you dance because they'll prolly be too busy dancing so yeah dont worry about the other people just remember to have fun!

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hi i think im beginning to have a crush on this boy Michael, Michael is a senior and I am a sophmore, I met Michael last year when my cousin who was a senior last year took me to a party at his house, it was in the winter and very snowy and we drank s we stayed there. everyone was downstairs playing beerpong and i was in his living room tired, about to passout and he sat on the other couch and talked to me, hes just naturally a really nice yet really popular kid. so yeah in school he usually makes eye contact with me but we havent really talked since last feb/march? so i went to the football game with a bunch of people and i saw him on the bus and he was lookin at me ( well i think) and so somehow i had balls today and IMed him saying "nice game last night" and he said "thanks, i still couldnt play though" and i said ohh yeah.. then we didnt talk and i dont want to IM him again, and he obviously knows who i am ( my sn basically says my name) i want him to kind of get the feeling i like him (rmember we dont talk) what should i do when i see him in the halls at school? thankss

talk to him more so that you guys get to know each other better because it seems that you guys dont talk much just look or stare at each other but yeah talk to him more and get to know him say "hey" to him in the halls and hopfully you guys start talking more at school as well as IM hope i helped!

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me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months and things have been going great and since i can only see him once a month it has been hard. school has started and so has the girls hitting on him again and his ex tryin to be all over him. but any how for the past 3 days (school started on tusday for him) he has been spend A LOT of time at the mall or at the store doing soemthing. i dont know with who or anything just that when i call he says he will call me back and NEVER does so yesterday i called back and he said 7 words hi i will call you back later.. i was like ok bye and hung up on him yesterday i only talked to him for 30 minutes the day before that to. i am scared that he found soemone else and since i am not around him all the time idk what is happening?? i want to talk to him about it but idk what to say i love him and dont want to loose him.. any advice??

love always,

sad hearted girl

aww that sucks...try seeing him and hanging out with him more...the next time you call him and he says to call you back later, tell him that its important and that you really need to talk to him then tell him how you feel ask him if everythings okay and if he wants to tell you anything and if he asks why tell him because your relationship doesnt feel like it used to and hes always telling you to call him back ask him if theres anything wrong if he doesnt mention any girl but he makes it so obvious that there is one then tell him straight up what you think is going on but dont like, give him the impression that he cant trust you because that'll def. make him mad just mention it if you really really think theres another girl, other than that, its probably because hes busy all the time with school and whatever he does but yeah talk to him fist dont assume unless its really obvious hope i helped! good luck!

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ok, well me and some of my friends are bi. i just found out that one of my friends who i like likes me too. but we dont want anyone to know about us being bi. so we sorta wanna go out but if we were to go out we agreed we wouldnt tell anyone. so we also agreed that we wouldnt be jealous if the other person went out with a guy or got with another girl or something. so my question is should we go out and just keep quiet or shoudl we just stay being friends with benefits?

hmm i think you should stay benefit friends keeping you guys going out on the down-low can be hard to do

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ok so heres the question...

if im too scared to ask my boyfriend if he's been messing around behind my back, should i get one of my guy friends who is like a good friend of him to do some investigating, like secretly and what not? i am scared to ask him cuz i dont want him to think that i dont trust him. i love him to death, but theres always that possibility that he is messing around with other girls. he says that he loves me and that he wouldnt do anything to hurt me..but i have heard that before. i ended up with a broken heart. i have never felt this way about a guy, i feel that i am in love with him and i want it to work out but if he is messing around i want to know cuz i deserve to know. so what should i do?

thats very true you do deserve to know if hes messin around behind your back id say talk to his friends and ask them how he is around other girls but only if you really think somthings going on, if you really think hes cheating on you, because if and when he finds out that youve been talking to his friends about him you have somthing to say, dont just assume hes been messin around youve gotta have a reason to it aight hope i helped! and g/l! xoxo

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ok so my boyfriend and i have been going out for a little while now and i really love him. i had a crush on him for a while before we started to go out. well now he's on vacation and i am missing him like crazy! the place where he's at has girls who are whorish and what not and i want to ask him if he did anything with them while he was there. i dont know how to ask him and i dont know if its a good idea or not. i do trust him 100% but its the girls there that i dont trust. do u think that it would be a good idea to ask him or not? and if u could tell me how or what to ask him? thanks a bunch!!

oh yeah it always sucks when they go out on vaca lol you start to worry a bit lol well hmm i think that maybe you should say somthing about it if its bothering you just dont take it too seriously because he'll prolly get made and start to think that you dont trust him just be like, dont do anything now! like, playfully but in a way that he knows that you really mean it...hope i helped ya out! and g/l! xoxo

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my friend hooked up with this guy for the first time yesterday...he walked out of the room laughing 5 minutes after they went in and she locked herself in the bathroom...according to the guy...she didnt know how to french so he left her...is there anything i can tell her to make her feel better or any pointes i can give her...ive tried everything, but shes still devistated and i would like to know if theres anything else i can do....thanks!!!

omg what a jerk tell her that hes not even worth it if he treats your friend that, thats really mean and low and that shouldnt even bother him if he really liked her hopefully that works! hope i helped

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ok... when ever i go on vacations i meet/see really cute guys but im really shy so we barely talk. Then the day to leave comes and i get all emotional about it and i barely even know them. But im really hard on myself over it and i get mad that i didnt get any contact information and stuff. So how do i over come the shyness and get the courage to go talk to them more???

just be cool around them be yourself and have fun! yeah you really should get some numbers or e-mails to keep in touch dont be scared or too shy to ask thers nothin wrong with that you just wanna keep in touch nothin to be shy about...so yeah as i said earlier just have fun dont be shy! hope i helped!

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Hi my name is April 15/f.i have this really nice b/f name ralph he's so cute and very sweet.weve been going out for about a month now.we talk with each other constantly on the internet and on the phone.. but since this week passed by which it became a month now i have this feeling that my b/f is thinking of something but hasn't said anything to me. what if my b/f ask me if i still have feelings for him. and obcourse i do cuz i love him. but most of the time i feel awkward when talking to him i don't know why i just do. most of the time he ask if he's boring me and other things like that. if you were in my position and had a cute and sweet b/f which i think you do or may be not.what would you say if your b/f asked you if you still have feelings for him? and how would the outcome reflect on the behavior of the relationship. thank You for helping. ^_^ April

aw yeah tell him that he doesnt bore you and that he never bores you because you really love him right...and say, of course you still have feelings for him and tell him how much you love him...yeah a month isnt that long the begining maybe kinda awkward but it'll get better yeah thats happened to me before and it wasnt just awkwardness tha whole tyme it became really diff. after a while an it was great we lasted a long tyme soo as long as you guys keep talking and you know how much you love each other it should be just fine!...good luck! and hope i helped!...

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