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this guy and i were pretty good friends. now we are going out, an we dont talk nearly as much as we used to. and sometimes i get the feeling that he wants to break up with me. what should i do? i really like him! (link)
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Sometimes when people who are already friends decide to take their friendship to the next level and date each other, its not as easy as they think it will be. It may be a little awkward to talk about things you used to talk about when you were just friends, because now there is that added pressure of being boyfriend and girlfriend. A similar thing happened to me one time, and what used to be fun and interesting phone calls between the two of us suddenly turned into 30 second conversations consisting of him asking, 'what time should I pick you up at?' You really need to make sure that you continue to cultivate the friendship aspect of your relationship. Instead of going on dates to the movies or out with a group of friends, suggest somewhere where you guys can talk, and where you would be forced to engage in conversation, like to a small little cafe, a picnic, on a walk, or even something like cooking together. These activities will bring you closer together as a couple and will get you talking again. And don't just call each other to set up dates, call him 'just because' and strike up a conversation. Maybe after a TV show you both watch ends, you can call him and talk about what just happened on the show. Communication is important in any relationship, and I really hope you are able to get talking as much as before you started going out. It will really help the relationship. Make sure you try the different dates too, its easy for a guy, or a girl for that matter, to get bored in a relationship that always consists of the same things, but changing things up all the time will keep that 'new relationship spark' alive! Good luck, let me know if you need anything else!
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you have been a really great boyfriend and a relle sweet guy. im relle thankful ur part of my life. but as for our relationship, i need to be completely honest with you. i dont think its going to work out between us and i dont really see our relationship going anywhere. im really sorry, i just feel like we've reached a plateau and this is it. but we've been good friends much longer than we've been boyfriend and girlfriend and i would really like us to still be friends and i know it will be akward at first but i value our friendship and i really dont want us to stop talking and i hope we can stillbe good friends like before we were going out even though thats hard but i care about you a lot and i cant imagine not having you as a friend (link)
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I think that's quite good actually. It's great that you are completely honest with him, yet you are still kind and considerate to his feelings. Its sweet that you still want to be friends with him, and I hope you can still remain close like you said, but be prepared if he isn't ready to do that yet. He may need some time! But I think that sounds really good, I'm sure this must be hard for you, but good luck!
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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me and once he was starring at me so I turend around to look and he quikly turend around.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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Hi!
Well, from what you have written, he seems likes he may like you. Boys at that age usually aren't mature enough to express their feelings in a more direct way, which is why you probably won't get him to come right out and say he likes you, but you'll catch him staring at you, or just paying more attention to you than normal. But, I don't think you're going to be able to figure this out without talking to him. You're going to have to eventually, so just start with a 'hi' whenever you see him, or ask him how his weekend was. Hopefully those little conversations will get you to be a little more comfortable around each other, and you will be better able to tell if he likes you or not. He is also more likely to drop more hints that he likes you if he thinks there is a chance that you might like him back. So, drop some hints of your own. Next time you catch him staring at you, smile at him before he has a chance to turn away. Another way to try to tell if he likes you is to compare how he acts towards you compared to other girls. Does he pay more attention to you than the other girls? But most importantly, just start talking to him, and see where it goes from there. Good luck!
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i really like this guy, and i have heard ors that he might like me. i heard them about a month ago. but now thanx 2 some blabbermouthed friends, he knows. i havent really talked to him since. cause i used to occasionally flirted w/ him. but now... and we might be moved into seperate classes this year!! help!!!!!!!!!!
~A*m*a*n*d*a~ (link)
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Hi Amanda -
I'm really sorry that it has taken me so long to get back to your questions. I havent been signed on my computer in a really long time. Sorry!! I don't know if you still need advice on this or not, but I'll answer it anyways just in case. In my opinion, it might be a good thing that he knows you like him. Try as hard as you can not to make it awkward. It will show confidence if you act like it doesn't bother you that he knows, and it will make it easier on him to approach you. Continue to make a point of talking to him, and still flirt with him if you feel like it. It could be that he doesn't take what your friends said seriously, so he could still have doubts about whether or not you like him. I wouldn't worry too much about it, if it's meant to be, it will all work out, just keep on being your cool self. Hope that helped, and sorry again it took so long! I'll be back signed on now, so feel free to ask if you need help with something else.
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i dont know everyone always says "your to abusive" because ill hit guys and stuff just messing around but i guess that is my way of flirting with them but it dosent work aparently what are some ways i could be nicer or just flirt in a more gentle way? thank you. (link)
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Most guys probably don't mind playful hitting from a girl, but if you want some more gentle ways to flirt than try these...
-Instead of hitting them, just give them a big hug! They might be taken by suprised, but they will be flattered.
-Don't hit, but put your hand on their shoulder, or arm or something. It is still contact, but it is being less violent, and still flirty.
-Tickle them. Note: this one only works on tickelish guys... ;)
-Instead of hitting a guy as you walk by him, ruffle and mess up his hair or something like that.
-Just smile, and make eye contact. This is more subtle, but still effective in a more subdued manner.
Hope this helped, good luck!
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Ok I have a boyfriend, and I just wanted to make sure that it was normal to think that he is a better person than you. He is smart, funny, nice, and overall an AMAZING guy. I just feel like he could do so much better than me! I know it's a silly question, but I just wanted to know if others felt the same? I just feel so incredibly lucky that he likes me and is going out with me. Words can't express how I feel.
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Aw, I am glad you got such an awesome guy. You must be amazing too, or he wouldn't be going out with you. Remember, he probably feels the same way you do! Its okay to feel the way you do, just don't idolize him so much that you let him take adavantage of you or anything (although it sounds like he wouldn't do that anyways, if he's such a great guy...) It's fine to look up to him and admire him, because obviously you love him! Don't criticize yourself though, or compare yourself to him, because you are worthy of having a great guy, and not only are you lucky to have him, he is lucky to have you as well. I went out with this really popular guy last year for a long time, and I felt like the luckiest girl, and I absolutely adored him. I was so flattered that he liked me, and I know exactly how you feel. I finally realized that others see the great things in you that you don't see in yourself. While you are focusing on all the things you don't like about yourself, your boyfriend just sees how beautiful and sweet you are. I hoped this helped you, congratulations on finding such a great guy, good luck to the two of you! Have a great day!
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Where do i begin? I was recently married 9 months ago to a 47 yr. old nurse. I am a female,45,and officer and have 2 girls, 11 and 16. I was single for 6 yrs. before, having been abused and mistreated for 11 yrs. I started over and now have a nice home and 2 cars, and have worked hard alone for what I have. So anyway I always wanted to marry again someday and have the family thing, and be happy.So I took a chance and boy I have been wondering about my judgement. We so rarely make love its getting hard to recall. He is just not interested he says, He hates when I say something about it, Another problem is I wonder could he be Bi-sexual, Right after we got married I caught him on the computer with men and women and talking sex, writing Bi-Sexual couples etc. I have caught him not about 5 times since we got married,. I Now have forbid him to use my computer, well he went to the library, and did it and he probabley does it at work. He denies that he is BI, saying it was for kicks, he was just messing with them and he was just curious about people. He hurt my feelings so much and not wanting to sleep with me, makes me feel unloved,and depressed, I love him, and want my marriage to work, but you dont have to be a bright light bulb to figure something is wrong here. I have threatened to go elsewhere for sex and he says go right ahead. I am so hurt Im miserable. He says he loves me but he sure dont know how to show it and says he will leave if that is what I want. Im getting to where I dont talk to him, I hold things in, Do I need someone to just slap me and make me wake up here and quit wanting that fantasy of a decent kind,loving husband? Thanks P.s. He has 2 kids that wont have anything to do with him, he was an alcoholic and married twice before. (link)
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Communication is KEY in any relationship, especially marriage. Confront him about exactly what is bothering you. Whatever you do though, don't lecture or verbally attack him. Instead word it in a way that phrases it like, 'I love you so much, and it really hurts me that we aren't close.' If he said he loves you, and doesn't know how to show it, well, show him how! Try being a more affectionate all the time, and not just in a sexual context. Snuggle up next to him on the couch when you are watching TV, or hold his hand when you are walking somewhere, just random acts of affection all the time. He will probably start catching on and following your lead, and hopefully that affection will carry over into the bedroom. Check your local book store for books on the topic, I'm sure there are countless books out there that are relevant to your situation. Maybe there are even some you could read together as a couple. Whatever you do, just don't hold your feelings in, that will only make things work. Like I said before, COMMUNICATION IS VITAL. Also, talk to him about your suspicions of him being bisexual. All humans are curious, and maybe that's all that it is. If you still suspect it is more serious, talk to him about it. Tell him you aren't judging him, and that you will love him no matter what, but you just want him to be honest with you. All marriages go through rough times, so try to work things out before either of you decide to leave the other. Please feel free to leave me a message in my inbox if you want anyone to talk to about this, or need any more help or suggestions on what to say. I hope this helped a little bit, at least. Good luck!
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hey ok heres my problem. my boyfriend thinks im too shy too kiss or do anything!!! im not evenshy in the least bit! is there anyway i can tell him im not too shy to do that kind of stuff without sounding slutty? (link)
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You don't have to say anything. When the timing is right, and you feel ready, just kiss him yourself! That shows that you aren't to shy to do that, and it isn't slutty at all. After all, actions speak louder than words!! Hope that helped a little, good luck!
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So many people in my grade have a b/f or g/f but they don't take it seriuosly. In the hall all they do is say "hey" to each other, they talk to each other on-line about "who knows what?" and in their binders they write "I love----". They don't talk on the fone or anything like that.I feel so left out, but if i ask a girl out it would be weird for me to be going out w/ a girl and telling everyone, but the girl wouldn't look me in the eye or anything like that. it's so stupid. What could i do so i don't feel left out? (link)
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Well, I'm guessing your a little younger, since you didn't put your age... Please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, since then I might have a little different advice to give..
Anyways, don't feel that you need to have a girlfriend just because your friends do. It seems to me that you don't even really like the kind of relationship they have, and would prefer a more mature relationship. If you do want a girlfriend, maybe she doesn't have to be from your school. Try meeting a girl through church, or an after school club. If you don't go to school together, you would probably end up talking on the phone more often, and thus it would be a more serious relationship, like you said you wanted. It wouldn't be awkward at school this way, but you would still have the luxury of saying you have a girlfriend. If you don't want to do that, I would suggest waiting until the right girl comes along at the right time, and you can have a serious relationship, since you would probably be unhappy and frustrated if your girlfriend never made eye contact with you or held a meaningful conversation with you. I hoped this helped, good luck and let me know how it goes!!!
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well i am a male and i am 15 i have a problem with my love life.... I am a tennis player and this 1 girl i was playing with i sorta like. I never talked too her... she seems nice... and she is pretty.. im sort of a shy guy though when it comes to me talking to a girl. I dont know y though. I am afraid of rejection. that is a maid reason i am afraid to talk to her. How do I get over my fear and work up the courage to talk to her? (link)
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Come up with an opening line (NOT a cheesy pickup line) that you feel confident and comfortable approaching her with. You already have something in common, tennis, so maybe ask her something about tennis. Try something like, 'Hey, I noticed you have a really good (insert something tennis-related here)...would you help me out with mine for a minute?' Right there, you have a compliment and an offer to join you for something in one little phrase! Or, just compliment her. Girls love to be complimented, just say 'Hey, I just wanted to tell you, you're really good' or 'good game.' The more times you approach her and even just say hi, the more comfortable you will be, and hopefully things can progress from there. Good luck! I hope that helped a bit.
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Hey guys! i just started going out with this boy who is absolutly amazing... he's perfect for me, and is soooo sweet and increible i love him !lol.. we've only been going out for a month but already i've like fallen for him. But i was wondering, what are some tips to keep it going realy well? becuase i don't want to loose him. He also likes me a lot too, but i just want little things that could make him more attachted or somthing. Thankss (link)
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Well, it sounds like you are off to a great start! Now, to keep it going this way, its the little things that matter, so constantly remind him how much you care. Don't go overboard, just once in awhile suprise him with something special, like a batch of his favorite cookies. Or suprise him and take him to a romantic little spot to have a picnic, write him love letters, give him spontaneous kisses...whatever. People tend to get bored and restless when they are in predictible and boring relationships, so try not to let the two of you fall into routines where you always do the same thing every weekend, or always talk about the same things. Change it up every once in awhile, and suggest new places to go on dates, and try new things together, like hiking, or rockclimbing, or a new type of food. It will be a great bonding experience, and a sort of adventure to keep the relationship from getting dull. But, most importantly, keep open communication with each other, and maintain mutual respect and trust. Those are truly the keys of happy couples. Good luck! Leave me a message in my inbox if you want some fun ideas for dates, or cute things to suprise him with!
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A year or two ago i went out w/ this girl. i liked her, she liked me. i dumped her ,because i relized that she wasn't that actractive, and she hated me. she wouldn't talk to me look at me etc. now i see her in the halls and at dismissle. now she really actractive. i don't want to go out w/ her or anything, i just want to be her friend again.what should i do?
p.s. she has a boy-friend now (link)
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Hey. Well, it is going to take a little finesse to get her back as a friend...I sure hope you are persuasive. If you seem sincere, and make it clear that you aren't out to date her, you just want to be her friend, I think you have a good chance. You need to realize, though, that you have hurt her in the past, and she is going to be a little hesitant to become close to you again, so this will take a little time. Approach her in the hallway on day and say something like, 'Hey, how have you been? Long time no talk!' Just something simple like that. See how she responds, and just keep saying hi to her when you see her, or at least look at her and smile, or wave. Then, a couple days after that, just say something like, 'You know, I really miss talking to you, I feel like I barely know you anymore. Could we maybe catch up sometime? I really wish we could be friends.' This is sweet, yet not flirty, or insincere. Hopefully, if she is understanding, and forgiving, she will at least think about it, and will give you a chance to be her friend. Really, just start talking to her when you see her, and make it known to her that you really value her as a friend, and that you aren't the same guy that dumped her because she wasn't pretty enough. Girls know when guys are interested because they became more pretty, so she may think you have other motives, or be annoyed that now you are finally giving her your attention. So, just be respectful of her feelings, give her distance for a little while if she needs it, but still be friendly. Give her time, trust me, and if she sees that you aren't easily discouraged, she will realize that are sincere, and will be your friend again. Hope that helped, good luck!
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Hey Again! I think I still dont know what to do on some of the pages of the powerpoing! :/
I duno! Any sugestions?!
I'll Rate a 5.
THANKS!
:)
-*KeLs*- (link)
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Ok, here's what I'm thinking. If I were you, I would fill alot of pages with just pictures. But, for the pages in between try something like this:
- 'Why I love you.' On this page, make a list of all the things you love about your boyfriend, like how he kisses you, how he smells, his sense of humor, whatever.
- 'My favorite memory of us.' On this page, describe your favorite memory of the two of you. Start if off by saying 'Remember when.'
- 'Why we are perfect together.' Make a cute little list of all the things that make you such a great couple.
- Fill one page with a cute love poem.
- Fill a page with a movie picture of a movie you guys have seen together, one that he would remember.
- Some pages could just be blank with a cute quote that fills up the whole page...like for example, one of the ones I gave you in a previous answer. Make it in a cute, fancy font or something.
- Put romantic love song lyrics from a song that reminds you of him on one of the pages.
- For your last page, you could be really cute and put 'The End...(this is where you kiss me.)' or something sassy like that.
Hope that helped! Basically, just fill it with anything that reminds you of him or of your relationship... things that would mean alot to him. I'm sure he's going to love it!
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How do you put the songs on powerpoints? can you do like certin points in the song for each slide?
Im soo bad at this! I dont really know how to use that stuff, I only know backrounds and stuff like that.
Help! I wanna make this a good one!
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P.S.-I'll rate you a 5. (link)
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Hey! Whatever song you want to be playing, make sure you have it downloaded onto your computer. Alright, now go into Powerpoint, and click on the heading at the top that says 'Insert.' From there, go down to 'Movies and Sounds' and from there, click on 'Insert Sound from File.' That will open up a box where it will allow you to find the file the song is stored in. Play around with it a little bit, there should be an option where you can either pick to have it play for just thay slide, or just have it playing in the background for the entire presentation. That might be your best bet, have it continuously going throughout the whole thing. Let me know if it works, it should. :-)
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heyy! its Kels, can i get some of those quotes from your for the powerpoint?
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There is only one happiness in life,
to love and be loved. - George Sand
You know you are in love
when you see the world in her eyes,
and her eyes everywhere in the world.
- David Levesque -
(this one is part of a cute poem)
He whispered softly,
his words like music to her ears,
"I Love You,"
and her response the same,
heard like the gentle breeze,
"And I, love you, forever."
That was the night they promised
to be together through everything,
each to care for the other when old and gray
A lovers' pact
the most likely to last.
When you love someone,
all your saved-up wishes start coming out.
- Elizabeth Bowen -
Love is like the sun coming out of the clouds
and warming your soul.
Love is a moment that lasts forever...
- Julie Wittey -
Love is a many splendored thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love!
~ from the movie Moulin Rouge ~
The greatest thing you'll ever learn
Is to love and be loved in return.
Seduce my mind and you can have my body,
Find my soul and I'm yours forever.
To love a person is to learn the song
That is in their heart,
And to sing it to them
When they have forgotten
My love for you is a journey;
Starting at forever,
And ending at never
A whole new world
A dazzling place I never knew
But when I'm way up here
It's crystal clear
That now I'm in a whole new world with you
(Aladdin)
All my life I prayed for someone like you
I thank God that I, that I finally found you.
(All my life, by K-Ci and jojo)
You’ll always be a part of me
I’m part of you indefinitely
Boy don’t you know you can’t escape me
Ooh darling ‘cause you’ll always be my baby
(Always be my baby, Mariah Carey)
I don't want to close my eyes
I don't want to fall asleep, cause I'll miss you baby
And I don't wanna miss a thing
(Aerosmith)
If I can't have you, I don't want nobody baby (LFO)
I don't want my love to go to waste
I want you and your beautiful soul
(Jesse McCartney)
When I look into your eyes I know that its true
God must have spent a little more time on you
Nothing compares to you.
And I'd give up forever to touch you
Because I know that you feel me somehow
You're the closest to heaven that I'll ever be
ans I don't want to go home right now
(Iris, the GooGoo Dolls)
I'd stay awake just to hear you breathing.
(Aerosmith)
Why cant I breath whenever I think about you?
Why cant I speak whenever I talk about you?
(Avril Lavigne)
So this is love...
(Cinderella)
Ain't got nothin' but love babe
Eight days a week.
(Beatles)
Let me know if you'd like more, that should be a start at least... have fun with the powerpoint!
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Okay- Ready?
I am going to make like a powerPoint for my boyfriend!
Like with all of our pictures, and little things offline that say stuff like "I Love You" and things like that. We have been together over a year. Do you guys think that that would be cool? like with all of the memories and stuff??
:)
What do you think?
or anything else i could do to it to make it even more AWESOME!!
*-KeLs-*
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I think that would be cute. If you and your boyfriend have 'a song' maybe you could have it playing in the background of your Powerpoint presentation. Fill it with a ton of your pictures, that would be so adorable. You could put little quotes about love, or quotes from songs in it too. Like this one by Shakespeare: 'I do love nothing in the world so well as you.' Just stuff like that. Use romantic colors, but stay away from making it all pink and fluffy, or too girly. I make a ton of Powerpoints, so if you need any help, I'd be glad to help you. One thing I really reccommend is keeping the background similar for all the pages, if not the same. That way is alot better than doing totally unmatching backgrounds of colors and patterns on each page. I would love to help you make one, or help you set up a background with cute quotes and stuff, and send it to you so you could put the pictures in....if you would like. But really, I think its a great thing to do for your boyfriend... it's thoughtful, cute, unique...I'm sure he will love it. Leave me one in my inbox if you want more help with this. Good luck!
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you seem to be really good at answering questions.. so maybe you can help me. im almost 14(f) and ive never had a REAL boyfriend. the most i ever did with a guy was like hold hands. all of my friends have had boyfriends and have made out with guys or gone further.. i had alot of chances to do that with guys but ive turned them all down because i thought i didnt like them.. but maybe im being too uptight and nervous about getting that close to a guy.. theres only 1 guy who i want to go out with but he has no interest in going out with me and he has a gf.. and for some reason hes all ive been thinking about for almost 3 years. he liked me 2 years ago now were just friends.. i need to move on from him.. all i want is a guy to be with and cuddle with.. am i just too uptight or is this guy the only person im gonna love? (link)
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Hey. First of all, it's absolutely fine that you haven't had a 'real' boyfriend yet. I actually think that's great. Alot of girls skip around from one boyfriend to the next, and that's only because they are insecure and don't know how to manage on their own. I am glad you aren't like them. Don't ever feel bad about not making out with a guy... this is how I feel, anyways: If you don't like them, why make out with them?? It's pointless. Wait until someone comes along that you really like, and who likes you back and isn't just using you. That's not being uptight, that's being smart and waiting until its the right time and right guy. If you are nervous, thats okay too. It may not seem like it, but guys are just as nervous as we girls are. So when you do find the right guy, and you go to kiss him, don't worry about if you are doing it right, or if you are a good kisser. If your heart is in it, than it will be good. All the girls who go around kissing any boy that breathes don't put their heart into it. Those kisses are passion-less, and empty. So it really is best to wait, I promise you won't regret it.
About this guy you like... the only reason you can't get over him is because you haven't found someone you really like yet. I had this same problem. I was so caught up with this one guy, he was all I could think about. He lived far away, and finally I got over him because I found someone I truly liked. This is what I think happens... When you don't have someone you like alot, you revert back to an old crush, or you end up not letting go of a crush, usually one that is unattainable, like in both of our cases. But trust me, soon there will be a guy who will totally sweep you off your feet and make you wonder what on earth your saw in that other guy. That's what happened to me anyways. The guy you can't get over right now is just a temporary obsession that will be over when you meet someone new. Don't worry, he definately will not be the last or only guy you will love! Good luck, hope this helped a little. If you need any more help, you know where to come!
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my boyfriend is pakistani and muslim. i am white and agnostic. i really care about him and he's head over heels for me but his parents wont let him do ANYTHING (were seniors in high school living w/our parents)with me (b/c of my race- wow im a victim of racism for the first time and it sucks!). he lies so much to see me but even then its not a lot. i see him at school and then occasionally after school while his parents are at work. we NEVER EVER go on real dates and it drives me nuts!!! i feel as if i deserve someone who can take me out and see me without lying or sneaking around. the situation just SUCKS. should i break up with him or just settle for seeing him barely ever? (if i broke up with him i'd still be friends with him)i really dont know what to do- i feel bad breaking it off but i'm unhappy in our current situation- its not fair to me.
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Have his parents ever met you? Maybe he could arrange for you to meet his parents, and have dinner or something, so they could get to know you and see how great you really are. It seems like you two really care about each other, to go to such lengths to be with each other. It would be a shame to let the relationship go because of something as stupid and ignorant as racism. Try talking to your boyfriend and ask him to talk to his parents. Or, write his parents a nicely written, thoughtful letter that explains how much their son means to you and how much you two love each other. That could be easier than facing them in person, and what parents could turn their backs on such a nice gesture. You two deserve to be able to be together, and have a real relationship. I don't suggest breaking up, nor do I think you should settle for how it is right now. Do something to change it, like one of the things I suggested above. Who your boyfriend dates is HIS decision, and not his parents. I understand that his parents may not totally approve of their son's choice of girlfriend, for whatever reason (race, religion, whatever...) but it is still their duty as parents to support him. Good luck with this, I really hope this works out for you two. Please keep me updated with how this turns out.
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ok i really wanna do it but im only 13 and in 7th grade. is it wrong 4 me to even be thinking about it bcuz i really want to have sex. Is it okay for me to lose my virginity yet?
sincerely, confused (link)
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No, it is not alright. You are waaay too young, and you have no idea what you would be getting yourself into. Do you think being a mom in the 7th or 8th grade sounds like fun? That's very well what could end up happening. I'm not saying it's wrong to think about it, just don't do it. Trust me, you will totally regret it. Once you lose your virginity you can never get it back. NEVER. Get that through your head. I don't mean to lecture you, honestly, I just don't want you to do something you will regret immensely in the future. I doubt this is a result of peer pressure, because I don't know what seventh graders run around pressuring each other to have sex... But your body is changing, you are around that age, so inevitably you have some hormones going crazy in your body. You can't help that, but you CAN show some self-restraint, and self-respect, and wait to have sex. What has happened to good, old-fashioned morals? And besides that, along with sex comes huge emotional obstacles and stress. I don't care how mature you are for your age, no seventh grader is ready for that. Also, I don't know where you live, but most places would consider someone having sex with a 13 year old as rape. So besides being wrong, stupid, and irresponsible...it is most likely illegal as well. Alright, well I hope this has answered your question. I really didn't mean to be harsh, but its for your own good. I hope you make the right decision and wait. Leave me a message in my inbox if you have any more questions, I would love to help you out with anything.
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hi.. my girlfriend died a 3 months ago from a car crash. i think about her every minute. she was my absloulte everything. I feel that im still going out with her but i feel a need a girl friend. I need some one to take her place. I need that some one who will give me what im looking for. Please help wat should i do (link)
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I'm so sorry about your girlfriend. That must still be very hard for you. First of all, you have to know that you are going through a grieving process. This is completely normal, and I'm sure you are feeling a ton of different emotiions. You also have to realize that no one is going to be able to 'take her place,' at least not for awhile, anyways. It will probably be hard to fill that void, but it is good that you seem ready to move on. Dwelling on your girlfriend's death is not only unhealthy for you, but it will make living the rest of your life very hard. Don't rush into any new relationships right away. Since this is a unique situation, you have to be careful with your heart. A part of you probably feels like some of your heart still belongs to your girlfriend that died, since you said she was your absolute everything. Try meeting some new people, like through mutual friends. You might try a date or so and find that you are not ready to have a girlfriend again yet, I'm not sure, especially since you said you still think about her all the time (which is perfectly understandable). You also might feel bad when you are out on a date with another girl, like you are betraying your girlfriend, but you have to remember, even though your old girlfriend has died, she would want you to be happy. It seems like you are on your way to moving forward with your life, which is great. Good luck, and please leave me a message in my inbox if you need anything else at all. I'm not sure if I answered your question or not, but I hope that helped a little. The hardest part will probably be sorting out your emotions as you start dating again. Hang in there!
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