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My names Jordyn,I`m 13 years old and live in little old Delaware. I was orginially born in California

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well lately i keep questioning the relationship between my boyfriend and i. i analyze every little thing he says in letters,emails,on a site we both use,on the phone. i dont do it as often when him and i are together in person. i'm not sure what to make of it. perhaps i'm afraid of things ending and letely paranoid he will find someone else. the thing is he doesn't realize hes too good for me because i am his first girlfriend so i suppose he hasnt seen what exactly the best is yet.

Just relax, analyzinq every little thing won't do anything for the relationship but make it tense, like you are now. Yes, he still has alot to explore, but right now he's with you. And if he didn't like you and think you were the best thing for him right now, he wouldn't have picked you as his first. and that saying, "you never forget your fist love," is so true so what ever happens in the future.. you`ll always be apart of him. Young relationships end eventually for one reason or another and you'll both find someone new.. but enjoy it now and make the best of everything or else you'll have no good memories to remmeber.

Things will work out for the best, x0x JordY|♥

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breaking up with your boyfriend for his best friend...?

OR

still going out with him because he's a really good guy and you're afraid to break his heart...?

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what should I do, because my boyfriend is the most amazing guy ever, and he'd cry and be depressed for months if anything happened. But I just don't have feelings for him anymore, and his friend and I like eachother... help!

I think it would be worse to go out with a guy just because he likes you. That would just make a dishonest relationship. Just tell him, "Okay, you have no idea how bad I feel about this. I sort of lyke someone else and I don't want to break your heart but.. don't you think it would be worse if I acted like I was still 100% in love with you if I really wasn't.. So, I don't want to lie to you and deffinitly don't want to hurt you but I think we should split up." There's no easy way to do it but that's whats got to be done and after that, don't go out with his best firend imeddiatly. Just give it some time fo him to mend.

Hope this is helpful, x0x Jordy|♥

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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now (I'm 15/f) and things have been going great! We love eachother very much but lately he's been getting to protective of me. I'm sure many of you know what a "myspace" is, if not it's a site where you pretty much make/find friends. One of my friends that is a guy commented on almost all of my pictures telling me how beautiful I was and how lucky my boyfriend is to be dating me yadda yadda yadda. My boyfriend sees the comments and gets really mad because he said it's a "dick thing to do" for a guy to call another guys girlfriend "hot" and "sexy" and "beautiful". He said to me "I don't know what goes on in your school and I don't trust the guys there." So, now he's mad at me for not saying anything to the guys who were merely COMPLIMENTING me. I said to him that he should be happy that another guy is telling me that I'm pretty because you're the one that is dating me and you're the one who has my heart. He said that's not the point, he doesn't want other guys saying I'm pretty. He's driving me FREAKING INSANE! I don't know what to say to him! He's never been like this up until a few weeks ago! I can't convince him that there is nothing for him to worry about. What should I do? This is getting out of control.

Simply ask him, "Would you be mad and say something rude back if a girl told you you were hot?" That's all there is to it. And if he said he would, he's lyinq. And if he's lying, get one of you=r friends to tell him he's hot and show how he reacts to it. But after that you don't want him getting mad so just remind him again, that it doesn't matter to you what other guys think of you or even what other girls think of him.. it's him you love.

He'll eventually understand, x0x Jordy|♥

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My ex-b/f and I play this game where we ask each other any question and we have to answer truthfully. We found out we loved each other and all that stuff. Yesterday he asked how I felt when he hugged me and I poured my heart out then he says, "By the way I'm in love with someone else." He's going out with this girl who hasn't attended school until 3 days ago. Now my question is did he set me up? Did he try to hurt me or is he really that stupid? And I how do I cope? I love him and he has just ripped my heart out.

Well, ask him.. if he has to answer truthfull, just be lyke, so did u set me up or what was it.. And don't worry about boys. They're stupid. Just spent alot of time with your friends to keep your mind off him.It works. And remember, "There's plenty of fish in the sea" =)

Things will be fine eventually, x0x Jordy|♥

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i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared

Teacher, parent, COPS.. what even it takes ! That's not the way ANYONE should be treated no matter what this situation is. Not even this girls should you be concirned about, if he's beating you like that I would personally gotot the cops. Try talkinq othere girls he's dated and done this to , into going to the poilice with you.. Or some sort of high authority. Wow, don't deal with this any longer. I think your life it more important that some rep..

If you need any more help feel free to ask, x0x Jordy|♥

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ok there's this guy that I like and he and I are old friends. And now, looking back I think he liked me a few months ago, but doesn;t anymore. (i didn't like him then) Now I think he likes this other girl, who likes him back. If they started to go out i would be so upset, because I like him a WHOLE lot. What can I do to get him back??? help! please,i'll rate!

Wow, you really need to talk to him..fast! Don't loose somthinq that could be. And, this is something you're probably gunna have to do yourself. Maybe the reason he doesn't seem to lyke him anymore is because you didn't even realize those few months ago that he liked you. Let him know now ! Maybe those feelings are still there.And he'll be totally understanding i'm sure about everything since he does/did have a crush on you.

Go get him, x0x Jrody|♥

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ok, so my best friend's boyfriend raped her, and i don't know what to do. i know i should tell someone, but she's being dumb, and saying it was her fault, but when you get down to the point SHE WAS RAPED. i don't want her to be mad at me, but i should tell someone right? either that, or i could kill him, but i wouldn't do that. so help????!!!!! please. thanks everyone
Sincerely,
Confused concerned friend

Deffinitly tell someone to get her help! That's the best possible thing you can do as a friend right now. It's hard for some people.. things that tramatizinq. So no matter how much she hates you for it, she'll take you later.

Do whats right, x0x Jordy|♥

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I'v always had low self esteem and latley i'v been feeling a little better about myself. I always wish how i had a bf or someone who cares about me like that but i never ask guys anything cuz im to shy. I'm kinda the type of girl who mostly has guy friends but not the really hott popular ones because im to shy to talk to them. I'd just like to have someone there for me thats more then a friend but i never think that anyone will like me. I hate having low self esteem and i try to do things to help it but nothing ever works. is there a way to make me feel better about myself besides a "make over" cuz im not tha girly and its juss not my thing, and is there a way to maybe get noticed more?

I honestly belive that there's someone for everyone and you jsut havent found him yet. He'll come soon enough. Just be concirned about making friend with people not looking for a boyfriend. Then eventually you'll find that person who you feel comphortable around and maybe something between the two of you will work out. Get one of your freinds that you talk around alot to introduce you to some guys also. Sit with them at lunch and the conversations will flow since you have someone you know well and talk alot to there. Also, just wake up in the moring feelg a little more confident about yourself knowing and actually beliving your beautiful. He'll notice that in you. Don't worry so much about it.

He'll come, x0x Jordy|♥

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me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months this guy jake all of the sudden starts liking me and all of my friends are telling me to break up with my boyfriend and go out with jake because jake seems way nicer and that he would treat me better. they say this because my boyfriend is kind of scared to make the first move and its fine im not in no big hurry but jake n i were talking and he said that my boyfriend doesnt give me what i want and he was talking about .. you know.. well c i dont know if jake only likes me for that or because of my personality and stuff and he said i was awesome n nice ? help

I think you should stay with your boyfriend. So? hes a little shy about making the first move. there's ntohing wrong witht hat and i'm sure he'll move fast the mosr compohortable he feels. As long as your happy with him and he's treated you well, there's no good reason to leave him. Jake sounds like he only likes you cause he wants a little something. Atleast you know your boyfriend won't preasure you into anything.

Follow your heart, x0x Jordy|♥

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Ok, there is this boy named Eryc, he's in 4/6 of my classes. My friend thinks he likes me, and I kind of believe her, kind of don't. Sometimes he can be such a bastard! But then when I need help he stands up for me. My friend is only in 1/6 of me and Eryc's classes, so she wouldn't know at all what I go through with him and what he does. But in the one class she is in, she thinks he likes me. My question is do you think he has a crush on me?

That's sweet how he stnds up for you !! but I still say, you can never know cause guys can be so confusing lol But nots or friends always work! Write him a note befor one of the classes where you dont share so he'snot ocwardly reading it infront of you simply saying something like "i do have a crush on you but i dont wanna make things uncompohrtable so its cool if you dont lyke me back. you should call me sometime tho -your digits-" OR just get a close friend who will tell you the truth if he likes you. Either thing will work

Good luck, x0x Jordy|♥

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ok this is probably the most asked question EVER. lol, but what do i do about guys. i mean, whenever is see a nice guy at my church...the mall...idk around, i ALWAYS want to talk to them, but i never do. I wanted to know how to talk to guys without feeling stupid or embarassed...or without having them think im a freak or like a terrorist. lol. but sometimes they are surrounded by girls. Like this one kid i saw today at my church, he was hott and really funny, but he was SURROUNDED by girls that were his friends. i wanted to talk to him soo much, but i couldnt do it. i need to be more comfortable around guys, but how do i do it??

Find any way possible to sit near them or be around them. Sometimes it's usually better if it's just the two of you so he's not occupied talking to someone else but if you do hear something they're talking about comment on it if you have something intresting to say about it and they'll willingly let you in their conversation. but if you're okwardly sitting or standing near a guy alone, make a comment on something if it's too weird to just start talking to him. That way you can get up a conversation then ask him about himself and stuff like that. After that, you'll know eachother and they'll probably start aproaching you. = )

Good luck with these guys, x0x Jordy|♥

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ok well heres the deal..i REALLY like this guy and hes sooo sweet! he told me i was hott and hes always talking to me and leading me on..and if he askes me out..i would have my first boyfriend ever. thing is, one of my best friends supposedly "loves" him and she doesnt even know him and they never talk..unlike me i have talked to him lots of times. and now my best freind and him are starting to talk like online, but he ignores her a lot so he can talk to me..and shes making it seem like a competition and always rubbing things in my face whenever they have sumthing in common. another thing it, she knows that he likes me, but she doesnt know that i like him...its really confusing. if she found out she would be soo upset..she even said "if u ever liked him i would hate u" and i dont know what to do cuz shes had tons of boyfriends and i really want this guy to be my first bf. pleas help..ill rate everyone.

You DON'T need a friend like that. If she's going to make it a competition and say things like "if you ever liked him i would have you" yet she doesnt even know you like him.. that's not a good firend at all! What so called good friend would say stuff like that? Obviously he's not into her if he ignores her for you so ditch the friend if she's gunna b b!tch!e and b w/ someone who would care more for you.

Hope everything turns out, x0x Jordy|♥

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my and this guy are just friends now. hes really nice and sweet and i like him a lot. the other day, i spent all of my class time talking to him. not romanticly, we were talking about what was going on that day. we didnt say anything about us well i didnt. he talked about his mom a little and we talked just talked like friends. i do like him a lot becuz he seems like a nice guy. so what should i do. becuz if he doesnt like me in that way, i dont want to screw up our friendship and i dont want him to break my heart

Well it's good that you guys can keep a conversation going and all that stuff which is always a plus. Maybe he would have feelings for you? After a day of talking in class hand him a note as your going in different directions. Just let him know that you like him but its 100% cool if he doesn't feel that way 'cause you wouldn't want to wreck an awesome friendship. Then give him ur # and tell him to call you later or just write back. Not harm done there.

Hope everything turns out well, x0x Jordy|♥

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well last night i went skating and hung out with my friends and all. This Girl likes this guy , like alot and i like him too. Well the kissed that night and i think made out. But then he said to me that he likes me. And at the end of the night i hooked up with him. The girl says she doesnt mind. But when he was all over me , she started crying. I dont wanna hurt her but i really like him. And he's a player..which i dont mind but i heard that he cheats alot and i dont know if i wanan go out with him if that's true. Well do you think i should go out with him?

Thanks ,
C

Well, it must be true that he cheats alot or atleast ocassionally if he made out with two girls in the same night. Personally, I don't think anyone desirves to be played over like that and if it's that close of a friend, that will be something your putting on the line also. You have to just put in in the perspective: is it worth the chance of getting hurt by getting cheated on and is it worth possibly lousing a really good friend of yours. But even though theres so many disadvantages to it, say you don't go with this exact advice.. atleast let your friend cool off for a few days so she's a little more understanding and over it.

Make the right choice, x0x Jordy|♥

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ok i'm 17/f (almost 18) and i tend to fall for younger guys. the past 3 guys that i've liked (i went out with one) have been 15 and young 16. i'm a senior and they're all sophomores (one should be a junior). to make it better, my brother is a sophomore as well, and is older than one of them (the one i went out with). my friend says that going out with sophomores would make me look like i'm easy (which i'm definitely not...i'm waiting until marriage). is there any way that i could get myself to stop liking younger guys or is there nothing wrong with it? thanks so much :)

oh my gosh, there is absolutly ntohing wrong with you! =D Your fine and don't be bothered by people telling you things lyke your easy. As long as you know your not, thats all that matters.

Enjoy your love life, x0x Jordy|♥

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Yesterday I told this girl. That I like one of her friends but she wasn't suppose to tell anyone because I am not ready for that drama yet. And today she called him and told asked him if he wanted to go with me. She told me he said yes but I dont believe her. And now everyone knows about the me and him thing and its kinda getting out of hand. Also the girl she said she was mad at the boy I like because he likes a girl like me. And by that I mean a normal girl. Did I mention hes the most popularest 7th grade boy int our whole entire school. Please help me what should I do?

Well you can`t change the past so whats said was said. Just wait and see what happens. Don't deny liking him now because if it's true that he likes you seeing how word gets around reallie fast there, enough word will get around to you if he really lykes you or not. And if he does lyke u, why not go out with him? he he

hopinq everything turns out perect, x0x Jordy|♥

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me and my bf just broke up.. he doesnt wnt to ruin the friendship we had before.. is there anything i can do in the future if ever we do want to get back together that will make him want to stay with me even though it could mess up our friendship?

I really don't think theres anything anyone can do to be a better girlfriend. You know if a relationship feels right for you all. Maybe he felt it didn't? and personally, I thynk thats really respectful to not want to ruin a friendship feeling something will go wrong. What's meant to be will happen so just focus for now on being friends.

Thyings will work out for the best, x0x Jordy|♥

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OK, this might sound stupid on my part but i just want to know for sure and not question it

I've never had sex, but my cherry popped while being fingered. does that mean im not a virgin anymore.

thanks in advance

Nope. Virgin is just a term meaning, yove never had sex before. You can pop ur cherry very easily. just my falling, you can pop it.

Hope that helps, x0x Jordy|♥

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Hey im 14and have never had a b/f and i really like this boy at school. But i go to a school where if anything happens everyone will kno in 5 minutes. This kid i like is real popular and im not really. In 6th grade we would hang out alot but now im in 8th and we dont talk that much. I want to tel him i like him but i dont kno if i should. Then if i did everyone in school would kno and i waould be the lauging stock in the school for like someone way more popular than me. I was gonna have my friend tell him for me but i was then having second thoughts. I dont kno what do do please help!!!

Don't worry at all about wat other people are going to think. Liking people is normal and no one is going to critsize your fot hat. And if anyone does, they honestly have nothing better to do with their lyke than things lyke that-you can let them know that too. Get his # or screen name and tell him you sorta have a crush on him and you don't want the whole school to know so ask him not to tell anyone. After that say we shud goto the movies this weekend and hang out or sumthin to see if he lykes the idea (which means hes most lykely into you).

Good luck, x0x Jordy|♥

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ok me and my boyfriend recently broke up..it was really hard because of rumors..anyways theres this guy name bradley and well im starting to like him. hes been holding my hand and stuff and me him and my friend were walkin to gym and i had grabbed his wrist to show him this girl and he slid his hand and we ended up lockin hands and he started rubbing my hand.im so confused because 1.this guy named lets call him joe is supposed to ask me out because he wants a girlfriend 2-because bradley can be known as a player sorta and 3- because i still love my boyfriend.what should i do?

Flat out, don't go out with them. Don't go out with someone jsut because they want a girl friend. That's stupid, imature and needy. Braley is just going to break your heart if he's a player. You don't need even more of a broken heart on the top of still being in love with your ex- boyfriend. Just take it slow.. "there's pleanty of fish in the sea."

you`ll find someone, x0x Jordy|♥

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