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Hi so i am a 17 year old female and i am dating a male the same age. We have been dating for about 7 months now and we were both kind of scared to make the first move so the first time we kissed was prom night before we went out to eat. So it was graduation day and at our school juniors show up to support the seniors (the place they hold the ceremony is right by the school so everyone shows up to school and seniors ride over first and then juniors and then we come back blah blah blah)and there is a little ritual going on, anyways that day came and me and my boyfriend were both there and were in the same class and i was just sitting on the table and he was sitting in the chair across from me and at first that was all it was i was just sitting across from him then he kind of leaned in and grabbed my ass and pulled me in towards him so we were sitting closer and had kind of burrowed his head in my chest - i had on a low v-neck romper and a big fluffy jacket because i was cold - so he had his head on my chest and put his hand behind the jacket like out of peoples view and was rubbing my back and my ass , mind you we had just had our first kiss like a week ago, so anyways the teachers had left to take care of stuff and half of the class migrated out so it was just us and then some of my friends and some of his friends. So we were cuddling as we were before and i leaned in and kissed him and we kissed like a couple of times and i was happy because after 7 months i was ready and wanted to get things moving along like i am still a teenager. So we were cuddling and at some points kissing, but after i kissed him one of those times he started kissing my chest area, the area in between my breasts. now remember i had on a big fluffy jacket so he was somewhat hidden and i was getting turned on but we were still at school so i kinda backed up and we went back to playing a card game but i could clearly see he was turned on and so was i so we went to the classroom next door which was open and no one was in there and we started kissing and what not (which we adapted to pretty quickly surprisingly) so we were kissing and he was grabbing my butt and i had my hand on his head and of course the sexual tension was building but we were still at school so we both kind of broke off and it was time to leave for the graduation. by the time everything was over it was like 9:15 and we had gotten invited to a graduation party which i decided not to go to because there was going to be heavy drinking and i don't drink so me and my boyfriend decided to go to his house and watch a movie. so we got there and started off watching a movie but half way through it turned to me on top of him, he was kind of dry humping me, we were kissing and things were getting very heated, but then his older sister came home so we stopped and went upstairs and things started again but no clothes came off he was thrusting but it was never any penetration and he came just in his pants.. i don't really know what i am asking or how to ask it i don't know like what next, i want to wait to have penetrating sex until marriage but our relationship is getting pretty serious i have known him since 8th grade and we have had little crushes on eachother but this time it turned ready, i am open to oral sex. i dont know what i am really asking i guess what are some things we can do to relieve sexual tension between us, why do you think it was such a quick switch between us first kissing to like all of this, anything like that. he is supposed to come with my friends boyfriend over to my friends house who i am staying with this week and they're also in a similar place but they've been dating for like a year and aren't having sex but have done stuff, so there will be a lot of sexual tension, do you think it would be a good idea to even have them over if they do come over should we all stay together...ughhh i am so sorry this is messy and i don't completely know what i'm asking i am just confused and ready. (link)
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First love and the new sexual feelings that come with it can be very confusing, but everything you have described is absolutely normal for your age. Kissing and touching can escalate to sexual intercourse very quickly at 17 when hormones are running rampant. I applaud you both for acting responsibly in the heat of the moment and not having unprotected sex. If you wish to wait until after marriage for penetrating sex there are many ways you and your boyfriend can relieve sexual tension. Please keep in mind that there is still a danger of transmitting STD's through oral or anal sex. If you choose to experiment please use protection. The best advice I would give young people in your situation is to find sexual release through intimate touching, aka "hand jobs", or by rubbing against each other fully dressed as you described. You might also consider using fingertip vibrators or other "toys" meant for sexual pleasure. It IS possible to get pregnant if any of his semen gets near your vaginal opening, (for example, he has it on his fingers and then touches your vagina). It isn't common but it has been known to happen. If you are not 100% sure of your decision to wait, please make sure to use some form of reliable birth control as well as condoms. It sounds like you are both very mature for 17, and can be trusted to act responsibly. Best wishes!
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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance? (link)
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If he came over to ask why you were late and he is teasing around with you I would say that is a good sign that he is interested in you. I believe the best way to handle this would be to ask him about his hobbies. When he starts to tell you, show your interest by asking questions and then tell him you would love hear more about it. Ask if he could call or text you later and tell you more. If he is interested he will. Then once you develop a comfortable texting relationship flirt with him a little bit(tell him you bet he looks really hot playing tennis, riding motor cycles, bowling...whatever the hobby is)and see if he takes it to the next level by asking you out. Step out there and take a chance unless you want to spend the rest of your life wondering "what if"!Good luck!
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Is it possible for a second grader to get pregnent. (link)
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I don't believe for one minute that a second grader is asking this question. I believe an older male who wants to have sex with a second grader is asking this question...because if she turns up pregnant people are going to ask questions, right? You had better listen very carefully to what I am about to tell you because your life depends on it. If you are having sex or thinking about having sex with a child that age you are going to hurt her, you are going to leave scars and evidence that can be used against you in a court of law even 50 years later. There is NO statute of limitations on child molestation or rape. This child WILL eventually understand what was done to her and you WILL be prosecuted. If you are a teenager you need to stay away from this child and ask your parents to take you to counseling immediately. If you are an adult male this is very sick thinking and you need help. Please do the right thing and turn yourself in. Do not follow through with raping this child! You are going to ruin her life and yours as well!
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Alot to say here,but will start with this,I have a somewhat sweetheart and for as long as I have know,has an obsession with a porn star,I feel.He's always visiting her Instagram,always leaving her comments,always trying to make her feel better,something he has never done for me,yet with this one,it seems frequent,he'll go back and like photos from 2 years ago,etc.likes her Facebook,its goes on and on,is he obsessed? or this normal? My complaint is that his ideas of this woman are unrealistic,and obviously he wont go to bed with her,but he doesnt care.He also watches porn quite heavily
He also leaves comments all the time for other girls,calling them sexy,beautiful,wow this,wow that,it goes on and on
Ive been dissapointed with him for quite some time,as I moved out of state to be with with him,Im very let down,because he still hasnt asked me to be girlfriend,I've seen him for a 5 times in the last 2 months,even though he's just 25 minutes away. He also when I got here though it was a good idea,to go on a date with some woman just a few days after moving here,as he recorded this on his Snapchat,and on top of that he admitted he did go on a date after I confronted him. We have of course talked and kept in touch.
To top this all off,he uses the dating APP Tinder,and what he does is look at profiles and looks them up on Instagram and follows them,I could go on about him.
I dont want to make it sound like I'm complaining,but is this is NOT OKAY with me.Not okay to accept this behavior from someone who is making life plans with you. I think maybe he does have a problem,I know that men will look at women,I get them,but he goes a little above and beyond.Its not my place to judge whether he watches porn or not,I myself,am against it,as it teaches nothing about love,and looses touch with what sex truly means,as I feel is the ultimate expression of love and affection for someone else,not because people do it on camera for money and never see each other again.Anyways,back to him,its quite obvious he wont change,and he'll only get worse.... So how do I stop all this from bothering me,and then let him go,I men honestly,does he really sound like man anyone would want to spend the rest of their lives with?
I worked so hard to move here,I got a job,getting another job and am trying so hard to make ends me,whil he jacks off to porn,plays video games,lives with his parents,and as of current has no car...it goes on.Im more mature and established,and I try to make value of m life. I feel we are just so opposite,and I cant tel you how much Ive cried or how his obsession of his whore has hurt me,how he is always looking around behind my back,Im hurting,and want to know what to do,it isnt fair,and if I say anything,its my fault,Im the one who has the problem and is jealous.It's not my fault he lusts after other women? Thats my problem? No it isnt!
What do I do? How do I handle this? Please,thank you! (link)
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It really bothers me that you have to ask how to handle this! This boy is very immature and he has a porn addiction. In addition to that...he isn't into you! In addition to that... you have mentioned several other reasons why he is a pathetic loser!!! I think you need to seek some counseling in order to better understand your choices. I also believe you have some serious self esteem issues. You know all these things about him and yet you will not kick him to the curb without someone telling you to??? It doesn't matter what you gave up to be with him you are going to lose one hell of a lot more than that if you choose to stay! Best wishes to you!
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i've been in love with the same guy for about 3 years. we've been dating for a little over a year. we've *lived* together for about 4 years.
i used to always look forward to him coming home. and i've never been more sexually attracted to a person as i am to him. but lately i've become almost bothered by his presence. idk if this is a fluke thing or if i'm seriously just not into it anymore. we haven't been fighting or anything, i'm just kind of bored i guess. we haven't had sex in two weeks. and i relish my alone time more than i do my time with him. i've felt like i was losing interest before,( and i know this happens a lot in relationships, especially when people live together,) but i've always found myself getting over it and feel like we're lovers and best friends again. but for about a week now i've been using any excuse i can to not see him. i feel smothered and trapped. we just signed another year lease on our apartment. i don't want to hurt him though, he's extraordinarily sensitive and can act like a little bitch sometimes. which is also bothersome. i need a man, not a girl. idk what to do. maybe it will change in a couple of days or something but for now, i just want him to leave me alone. (link)
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I would almost be willing to bet the farm that within the past two weeks you have met someone you are comparing him to... The best advice I can give is to leave him immediately. He deserves better! Everyone deserves a partner who appreciates them, not someone filled with so much contempt that they would refer to the person who loves them as "a little bitch"! This man seriously needs to kick you to the curb and find a new room mate!
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im a blunt bold person, so I asked this guy out last year .....nothing happened, yet I still frequent the store he works at, super low prices ( he's a store manager there)....anyway he just stares at me everytime I go into the store, well today I needed some help finding something and he was the only one on the floor, so I went to him and asked where's the canned corn, he got up and I said thanks assuming he was going to help me, and he turns to me and says I didn't say I was going to help you, so I called him a fukker and he put his head down and showed me where the item was and walked away....wtf is up with his shitty attitude.....he doesn't like me that's fine, im over the crush.....wtf is he acting like such an azz towards me? thanks (link)
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Well I am going to go out on a limb here and make the assumption that "nothing happened" means he wasn't interested in starting a relationship... I am going to go a little further out on that limb in thinking that your "frequenting" the store to the point he is feeling like perhaps he is being stalked. Guys really hate that. At any rate there is no excuse for a manager to behave that way towards a customer. I would either change stores or make sure you go there when he isn't working. If he is ever rude in a professional capacity again I would complain to higher management. You are lucky he wasn't interested in you, he sounds like a real jerk!
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Hi guys! My boyfriend quit smoking at the beginning of this month, April first. He mainly did it for me, I didn't like it and I want to keep him around as long as possible...obviously. So, when he reaches his one month mark of not smoking, I want to do something special for him but I can't really think of anything that I'm really stoked about doing for him, to really exemplify my love and appreciation.
So, if any of you guys have ideas, I would greatly appreciate it! I was thinking a little gift - he's been wanting a smart watch lately so I was thinking of looking into getting the one he has bookmarked on his amazon wish list. He just got a new car, I wanted to take it out and fill his tank for him so he didn't have to do that. Maybe bake him something. I just want to do something for him that really shows how much I appreciate him doing this for me and congratulate him for making it a month and for many months to come.
Again, any help is appreciated! I'm 21 and he is 23. (link)
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I think it is wonderful that you want to show your boyfriend how much this means to you and how proud you are but I don't think lavishing him with extravagant gifts is necessarily the best way to show it. In fact it might make him feel that you will expect lavish gifts in the event that you do something that pleases him and then you have created a very uncomfortable dynamic that will be very stressful to continue. I think a quiet dinner where you express your appreciation with words is all that this situation calls for. I would save the smart watch for a birthday or Christmas gift! I am sure he is already knows he did the right thing by quitting!
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Question Posted Tuesday October 4 2011, 1:28 pm
i do not know how to start this but appology for this long statement. i couldn't analyze these things anymore... let me start it this way, i am married for almost two years now and i love my husband. recently, i work with this lady and i find her very attractive. the thing is i don't know if she's gay or not and sending me mixed signals. i find her going on her way just to be around me or something, used to flirt with me before (i've seen her before i worked with her), stares at me when am not looking, used to stare at me when i was talking (before) and seems to be jealous when i talk to another men (like in a friendly way, not flirty). MOST IMPORTANTLY, i wonder so much why does our coworkers watches us whenever we are around together. they look at us, literally! it seems to me that they are listening to our body language or something. i don't understand... i really don't. since i started working with her i don't remember doing any flirtatious act on her. i never have. the only thing that happened was before i worked with her. like i say 2-3 times. well anyways, all of these happened before until last night... she worked with me directly and asked me bunches of personal questions like how is my husband, where did we met, etc and etc... do i have plans going back home to my country. i said yes i do. but am looking for someone to fly with me so i won't be by myself. she said she would go, she'd love to. then later when i asked her to go out with me and my friends because my other friend is bringing another person ( i don't wanna be out of place) she said yes if i wanted her to go (said yeah i do) and asked if we go to a bar and i said nope we don't do that. we just go out shopping. she said that's cool. i just thought you want me to WORK FOR YOU (what in the world does that mean???). that really got me. i laughed it out though. i asked her number and she gave it to me. later i asked her if she wanna go out watch movie, she said it's up to us. i can see she seemed to be starting in doubt, so when i got off from work i told her she don't have to go if she don't want to and that if something would come up. i even said i really like her and she said oh really? (she said it in a deep low voice) but i didn't told her that in a romantic way. she said she'll let us know and that she's saving her money because she's going to college soon. well anyways the fact is nobody knows am bisexual but i can see that she can sense that (that am bi). well, an hour after i texted her and she seems to be not interested or something...? i asked her questions and she answers it but she's not reciprocating my point on texting her and asking her out. i just wanna know her and be friends. she's very nice in every way. gracious i must say. am attracted to her, i admit that. however, i know where i stand on my ground and i cannot act on it. did she found everything weird? is she losing interest on me or did she even have an interest with me at all?
i honestly don't know what is going on so please please please i need everybody's help here analyzing these situation. am not even understanding my own self. i wanna know what is going on with her and what does she want from me.i (link)
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It seems to me you need to be asking yourself some questions, not your co-worker. It is time to get really honest with yourself here about what YOUR motives really are. You are obviously sexually attracted to this woman and yet you say you are only looking for friendship. I am too old to beat around the bush so I will tell you straight up that I don't believe you! I think you are trying to set up a scenario where this woman admits that she is attracted to you as well. I think you want to find yourself in a situation with her that could turn sexual and then you can tell yourself that she made the advances, you were caught off guard and things just got out of hand...you are playing with fire and I think you very well know it...so unless your husband is okay with this then you need to stop worrying about what this woman does or doesn't think. If you do not want to find yourself in a position you deeply regret then you need back off and leave her alone.
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I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.
I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.
I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help. (link)
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Both of you need to just get on with your life. I think perhaps his offer of friendship is not as pure as you might imagine. If he really cares for you then then he would either give the relationship another chance or want you to move on and be happy. I think he still holds some resentment and this is just his way of continuing to make you pay. I know this sounds harsh but let it go. He is not the one for you. That is why it didn't seem right to commit in the first place and you questioned it. Your gut instinct was telling you not to jump into anything with this guy and you can always trust your gut. It will hurt for a while but I assure you it is for the best. If you didn't cheat with this other guy then I don't see where there is anything to forgive yourself for. It is acceptable to have male friends and you weren't even in a committed relationship at that point. If your story is true then your bf sounds like a total control freak. Someone doesn't fall out of love because their gf talked to another male friend. My advice is to wish him well and go on with your life. I think you will save yourself a lot of future grief. Good luck!
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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You do not mention whether you have discussed this with your husband or not...sooo I have to assume that you have discussed this scenario with him and he is agreeable to it. I really don't suggest surprising him with this unless you know for a fact that he is open to it. If you bring it up after your friend arrives and he gets upset(with my knowledge of men I don't EVER see this happening) but...in the unlikely event that he does it would be very awkward! If he is aware then I would invite your friend for dinner and drinks(perhaps a bondage movie afterwards)which would set the mood and allow them to warm up to each other. It is important that your husband is happy with your choice as well. Again you do not mention that he was involved in the process of choosing someone...It almost sounds like you are planning a surprise party here and I really don't think I would recommend that unless he requested it. I think both parties need to be involved from start to finish. If bondage is not already part of your sexual repertoire with your husband I think you need to discuss that as well. Without more info this the best advice I can offer: Just make sure everyone is on the same page!
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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As long as nothing of an illegal sexual nature is taking place then they are with their rights to show affection for each other in public. Everyone has their own ideas about what is "too far" so that is why we have laws to dictate the limits. If a couple showing PDA surpasses your comfort level then the best advice I can give is turn to the side and look in another direction. If indeed the couple is trying to incite anger(which I seriously doubt)losing their audience is the best way to encourage them to stop. I am a firm believer in not trying to shield children from the ways of the world they are going to have to live in, so if I were in that position, once again as long as they do not surpass legal boundaries, I would allow my children to watch and answer any questions they might have. I do have to question your statement that you have no problem with the age, race or gender make up of the couple, otherwise you would just addressed your discomfort with couples showing PDA...period.
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Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
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I believe you should tell him. If he loves you he deserves your honesty. You have to realize this is going to break his heart and break his trust in you. He might possibly break up with you, but you are becoming an adult now and this is the mature thing to do.You can't go on living a lie. The fact is you knowingly cheated on him and when you make bad choices there are consequences. You need to come clean ASAP. If you truly love this guy then you know he deserves better than this from you! Hopefully his feelings for you are strong enough to get past it. If not this is a lesson well learned. Personally I am having a lot of trouble with your explanation of how you planned this and in your own words "were completely aware of what you were doing" and yet never stopped to think of your boyfriend's feelings or reactions at any point before you followed through with it! You give no reason why you you chose not to wait and have this special experience with your boyfriend, other than wanting to "get it over with"! I'm sorry but this whole story just doesn't add up for me! Cold hard truth is you used one guy for sex and then tried to make a fool of another one by cheating behind his back and continuing to let him believe his virgin girlfriend is waiting for him! You seem to know his heart well enough to know he will be shattered. Why didn't you think of that BEFORE you willingly lost your virginity?!!I realize you are only 17 but you need to stand back and take a good look at this behavior!I really don't think you are ready for a committed relationship yet. You should come clean, let this guy go and just be a teenager for a while and enjoy your life!I hope this all works out with as little pain as possible to all parties involved! Good luck!
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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If you believe he is talking to you because he is interested in you romantically then I have to assume from the nature of your question that you are NOT interested in him that way.I hate to make assumptions but I don't have a lot to work with here! First of all,flirting is not accidental! I am a female and I have never"accidentally"flirted with anyone in my life! Flirting is like teasing and innuendo, body language and subtle touching. Being friendly is polite responses and no signals or body language that would indicate otherwise. If you are doing nothing to encourage him and he still asks you out then just politely decline. Good Luck!
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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You shouldn't have lied but this does not seem to be an unforgivable offense. I think perhaps he wanted to end the relationship anyway and he is using this as an excuse. No one breaks up with a person they care about over something this petty. If he can't understand this and forgive you soon then he is not the one.In the future do not lie to someone you love and care about for any reason!It isn't worth it!Good luck!
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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You know the answer to this already. You need to spend your first anniversary with your husband. If you make any other choice I can assure you it will be the beginning of the end for your marriage. Trade places with him for a minute.Let's say he chose the friend over you? If your friend is so adamant that you attend, even knowing you must risk your marriage to do so, you need to rethink this friendship.No true friend would continue to insist knowing that it will cause major problems in your marriage!Your spouse should ALWAYS come first. NO EXCEPTIONS! With the technology available today, I am sure you and your husband can send beautiful heartfelt wishes on her wedding day and she and her new husband can wish you both a happy anniversary.If she ends the friendship because you chose to be with your husband then she is a spoiled immature brat who is not good friendship material anyway! A brief explanation and your sincere apologies should be enough.Anything more and she is bullying you. Stand back and really look at the position you are in. I don't believe it is the same one you THINK you are in!
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I have been dating my boyfriend for one and a half years now. He was in the same college, two years elder. Passed out the year we started dating and started working. We haven't ever had major problems except for once when he couldn't clear a major exam and his parents blamed it on his distraction because of me but we eventually got back because he got a good job and he loved me.
We just spent the last ten days together on a holiday with his friends and a couple of mine and then at his place alone for a couple of days.
We got into a petty fight two days back and he told me he really thinks we should see new people. He feels since I'm just 19 and he's 22 there is a lot more in life then getting serious for each other.
I let him be for a day and when we met next to talk this out he said he doesn't want to see new people. He was just saying that to make me angry. But he feels like we should break up because he thinks relationships are restrictive and he feels bound and he can't be himself. He told me he wants to still be with me and do all the things we used to do like go out for dinners, watch movies etc but he can't be physical with me. He feels when we do he gets too emotionally attached to me and he doesn't want that .We are too into each other.
He accepted that he still loves me and will because I'm a huge part of his life and he doesn't want to feel this way for any other girl. But right now he feels like he isn't fit for relationships and he can't see himself in one ever, even in the future. He knows i'd wait for this to work out but he said he didnt want to give me false hopes. He would try to make this work out too but right now he cant.
He feels now that we are bound by a relationship he would be able to express his feelings better in front of me. He loves me as much as he loves him mom and best friends and he wants me to be there but he said he can live without the sex.
We agreed on neither breaking up or dating. And I couldn't accept calling this a friendship so we just agreed on not defining it till he clears his head. But I can't stop feeling hurt and insecure.
I love him. But I can't understand what happened to him suddenly. What am I supposed to do? I'm in a delimma because I want him and this relationship back. Is there a chance ? Is this just a phase and should I just play along by giving him time? (link)
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There is a LOT more going on in his head than what he is telling you. He could be questioning his sexuality or he could indeed have someone else in his life who is fulfilling his sexual needs but I am almost certain he is not being completely honest with you. My advice to you is do as he asked and move on. He has already told you this won't change. You can save yourself a lot more pain if you just believe him. Good luck!
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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
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I can't say for 100% certainty that she couldn't be pregnant but it is very unlikely. The best way to prevent this from happening again is for her to get on birth control and for you to always wear a condom. You know what they say, an oz. of prevention is worth a lb. of cure!In a case like this it could be 7 or 8 lbs! If she is going to be sexually active in any way(this includes fingering, oral or anal sex) your girl friend needs to get an appointment at a women's health clinic or with an ob/gyn as soon as possible. In the meantime please be careful!
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I am married for 22 years but my mental health declined and i went voluntary to a mental health unit the day i went in there my wife stopped talking to me and sent abusive texts to goad me in to killing myself i was in there for. 4 months and my wife who i adore has refused to have me back or even talk to me we have two daughters together and whilst i was in the unit she told our eldest daughter to leave which made OUR daughter homeless which i never understand how she could do this thankfully my daughter has now goto somewhere to live . The thing i struggle most with is that i am still so in love with my wife and don't want to live anymore i know that is selfish because of my daughters but i can't help the way i feel i just don't understand how my wife has turned so against me whilst together i THOUGHT we was happy doing things that family normally do holidays celebrations and so on i just don't get it (link)
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While you are already getting help, now is the time to be honest. You have stated that your mental health had declined to a point of needing inpatient care. Things were obviously NOT okay at home! You were married to this woman for 22 years. I feel pretty certain you know what led up to this and the reason for her behavior at this point. You are going to need to examine it honestly and stop pretending this just happened out of the blue. If she is texting you and goading you to commit suicide then she obviously needs mental help for herself as well! Just because you had some good family times and celebrations does not mean that things were okay!If someone wants you dead after 22 years of marriage things have probably not been okay for quite some time! You need to get honest here if you really want to get well! I am guessing you know plenty about what caused your home life to fall apart but you just can't bring yourself to look at it yet! If your wife ever does get to the point of considering a reconciliation you both need to go to counseling together. If your eldest daughter is an adult maybe the best thing for her was to push her out of the nest! If you really love your wife the best thing you can do for her (and yourself) is to get honest and work on fixing your problems before you try to get back together as a family!I hope I haven't offended you but I won't beat around the bush or throw a pity party either. You need to work on the things that put you in this situation to begin with! Good luck!
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Idk if my other went through bc I can't find it, but there's this guy that is a host at a restaurant. I really want to talk to him, but we haven't talked before, and I don't even know anything about him (not even his age or his name). He always sneaks glances at me whenever he can so I think that's a good sign. I just want to talk to him, but don't know how? (link)
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It sounds like he is interested!Go up to him and say "you look familiar, did you go to (the name of your school)?If he says yes then talk to him about people or teachers that you both may know. If he says no then ask him where he did go. Then you could say"Oh that's awesome,so how did you end up here in (Your town)? You could then follow up with"Wow I'd love to hear all about it, maybe we could go for coffee sometime? At this point if he is interested he will ask you out. If he doesn't then I would just wait for him to make the next move. Sometimes guys can be slow but they usually don't respond well to girls being too pushy either. If he is truly interested he will make a move fairly soon after you approach him. Good luck!
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can kissing and fingering causes late periods
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Not to the best of my knowledge. If your boyfriend ejaculates and has semen on his fingers before touching your vagina there could be a chance of sperm entering your vagina and making you pregnant. The best thing to do is get an appointment with a OB/GYN and get checked out!Don't be afraid to ask the doctor these questions. He/she needs to know what type of sexual activity you are engaging in so they can help you be better informed.
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