Sorry, sweetie, you just got 'faded'. This is a typical guy technique (I myself have used on a number of occasions) to basically 'fade' out of a girl's existence. I simply would not take her calls or check my caller ID. I would move my things out of her apartment before I'm ready to go. It's really quite useful and effective. It's also an asshole maneuver made by and perpetrated by guys like me. Simply put, you got used and once he used you, he's movin' on. You have options at this point. Move on yourself or get back at him. I'd suggest move on because karmically speaking, what goes around comes around and he'll get his due punishment in the right time. That said, if you DO want to get back at him, there's a few possibilities. You could try keying his car (a classic attack) or, if you're inventive, could hide raw meat in a place he'll never be able to find (like under the floor of his carpeted bedroom) or date one of his friends and talk about how small his penis is. If there's one place a man doesn't like to be attacked, it's his penis. A penis is a man's pride. It's what makes him a man. To belittle it, if you'll excuse the pun, is the same thing as cutting it off. No, I take that back, it's actually worse because you can always sew back a lopped off penis but it's much harder to heal a man's fragile ego. Only the strongest of men and smallest of egos (such as myself) would be able to throw off such attacks. It's your call.

Wait 4 more years. There's nothing you can really do at this point. I'm going to give you advice I would normally not give any person. My advice is to lie to your parents. While true that your parents are an influence into how you think and feel, they don't control it directly; you still have a choice. Since you're more enlightened than your parents, give them what they want. Tell them what they want to hear and always have a friend (in this case, white) give you a rock solid alibi so they'll let you out of your cage. To tell you the truth though, I think your parents are more concerned about their 14 yr old daughter hanging out w/ a boy of similar age. Simply put, you're a teenager raging with hormones. They don't want you to be pregnant which is a logical reaction. However, their reasoning for that reaction is stupid. A white boy could just as easily impregnate you as a non white boy.

Date and date some more. Dating is the process of getting to know someone on an intimate level. Some ppl you click with. Others you don't. Obviously this one was a non-clicker. Keep chuggin' along till you find one that does.

Breaking up. Get back together. Rinse, repeat. Sounds like a broken record. I will commend you for being analytical enough to recognize that you are both afraid of getting close and that's the crux of your problem. Since you recognize it, now the only thing left to do is find a solution. Here is mine:

Stay away from each other for a month.

Absolutely no contact whatsoever. This is to test the resolve and stability of your relationship. If, after the month, you still have deep feelings for each other, then I'd say you had a pretty good chance at a long term relationship. Caution: only 2 things certain in life - death & taxes - so there's no guarantee that a particular relationship will last. Relationships are like old swords - if not taken care of and maintained, it will become rusty and dull. If a relationship is tempered by time/hardship/pain/love and is capable of still working, then, like a sword again, it will shine anew and last a thousand generations.

Ah, yes, 'puppy love'. Despite the fact that you say you love her and claim it's not immature love, where is your proof? Your feelings of love aren't false - however the love itself is. If she is 'breaking you' yet you keep coming back for more, that's not love, that's someone who likes to get punished. Love, as stated in another answer for another question is about sacrifce, commitment, and endurance. Love means sometimes sacrificing your happiness for your love's benefit. It means commiting your all to do whatever it takes to make your love's happiness come true. It means having the endurance during times of pain and suffering (sometimes after the death of a loved one) and to go on with life. Due to your age, I wouldn't doubt that this girl is one of the first girls you've fallen in love with. If you're smart then it won't be your last. I'm not telling your to go around loving every girl you meet. Instead, I'm telling you that there will be other girls to fall in love with. The one you love who loves you back is the only person that can make you happy. If this girl doesn't love you it's a one way love and that is not love, it's called stalking.

Decide. You waste more time seesawing between 'should I?' or 'shouldn't I?'. That time could be spent doing stuff couples do - going out to movies, hangin' out, etc. instead of sittin' there thinking. What's holding you back from being his gf? Are you worried that your friends won't approve? If you are, then stop. It's shallow to think that way and only stuck up snobs do that. Are you worried he's only in it for the sex? Well, here's a good reason not to be his gf. If he just wants you for sex, there's no point. Tell him to find an easier girl and find a guy who will actually care. Are you worried he won't know what to do being the bf or you won't know what to do being the gf? Well, that's what a relationship is - to get to know each other better. You won't know unless you decide. So decide already.

I sense a disturbance in the Force. Methinks you sound desperate. Don't be. If he really wants you, make he work for it. While I admit I'm no saint, every girl that I've always wanted to be with me after I've sex'd them were the ones that made me work for it. Seriously, if the boy wants you bad and isn't just in it for the bed squeakin' he's gotta put out 110% effort. Anything less means he doesn't care as much as an easier girl. You're not easy are you?

All's fair in love and war. No person can possess any other person. If they did, it's called slavery. No person can call 'dibs' on another person. It's whoever that person wants to be with. Congrats! That person chosen was you. You friend will seeth and simmer with anger but if she was really your friend, she'd be happy either way (you getting the boy or her getting the boy).

Your bf is a wuss. Help him become a man by taking charge and make the first move. He obviously won't.

Before the movies. Don't be evil. If you want to move on, have the decency at least to be upfront about it. You will be saving grief both for you and him. Forget about hurting him. He's going to get hurt either way but it hurts more if you prolong it. It's like ripping off a band-aid. It hurts but not for long unlike taking off the band-aid a bit at a time. It hurts the WHOLE. TIME. THROUGH. Do it now and do it quick.

Go out with one of the other guys who asked you - simple as that. The more you date, the more you will find that other guys will have qualities that you will find overwhelmingly attractive. But you MUST give them a chance. If you don't give another guy a chance, then there's no way for you to get over the first guy.

I have devised an ingenious method for such an occasion. For every week you have been boyfriend/girlfriend (this does not include the 'just seeing each other' period; only official bf/gf status) add 2 weeks of 'mourning' period. For every month add 2 months. If you've been dating a year and you can still stand each other, it's time to step back and ask yourself, 'do I want to date other ppl?' The 'mourning' period is the period of time in which you allow your friend to sob, bitch, cry, and let out any other emotion. It is a way of cleansing one's soul and closing a chapter in their lives and start anew. If they still have feelings after that, then it's borderline stalker crazy. If your friend has been dating this guy for a month and 3 months later she's still got issues with him, she's nuts. She's needy and insecure and needs to get over herself. Go out on that date. Besides, she was the one that dumped him.

Yes, he just wants sex. Next question.

It shouldn't matter whether you're asian or black or white or green or purple or blue. Fact of the matter is that your boyfriend is still in party mode. No way around it. Don't expect him to even consider settling down until well until his mid-to-late 20s. I'm asian and 28 and I STILL party hard. Marriage is not a consideration for me right now and will not continue to do so till I'm at least 30. Take that into perspective. I doubt that he's gonna settle down anytime soon so maybe you should find someone who has more similar interests. You sound like 2 completely opposite people. Find someone who is more compatible with your interests. While the old adage 'opposites attract' is true, very few people hear the 2nd half of that adage 'but hardly stay together'.

Nothing. Only you have the ability to make yourself happy. Self-esteem is influenced by outside factors but cannot in fact change if the person is not willing. They don't call self-esteem for nothing. If others could in fact change your self-esteem, it wouldn't be called self-esteem anymore would it? It would be called others-esteem.

You're not really in love with him. I'll tell you why. Ever hear the phrase "Distance makes the heart grow fonder"? Well, you're a textbook case. You just want to hit it, split it, hit in the back; Thing's so big you need a carjack. So why not just be FTF or FWB? If you don't know what they mean, ask another question.

Like my name says, g'head make my day; ask me anything. I'll answer the boring (Is the sky blue?) to the bizarre (should I bring a glow-in-the-dark cock ring to the bukkake party?). I only have one request: if you want a serious answer, please do so using (S) as an indicator. Otherwise, I will decide whether or not to apply my witticism (which may not necessarily be witty) to yon inquiry.

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