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Q: My boyfriend and I recently started to dry hump. I have looked up this subject to see if I can get pregnant but no one seems to have the right answer... I was swearing jeggins and underwear and he was wearing thick shorts and underwear as well.. but the thing is i haven't gotten my period yet, and im just super paranoid. I dont think he came, i asked him but its a awkward question and he said he didnt. What do you guys think...can i be? please help ahah im dying here.

You can not get pregnant unless the penis entered the vagina, so you are not pregnant. Your period is probably just not coming on time.

Q: How long should a person wait to have sex with someone?

In my opinion, I think you should wait at least 6 months. Because it gives you time to know the other person, but I always say to wait until marriage because that's when you really know that you found the right person. Hope this Helped :)

Q: This is my first crush right now and I am scared to tell him I like him. We have known eachotger since kindergarten Nd we are now in 6th grade. I sit right next to him which is nice, but sometimes i freak out!! How should i tell him? Also how do I tell my mom about my first crush??? Thanks to all answers given. P.S. I am a girl and I am eleven.

You should tell your mom first cause maybe she has tips and tricks, and your mom will feel good that you trust her enough to tell her. Okay now to tell your crush, you shouldn't be to forward, instead, give him signs like flirt with him. Hope this helped.

Q: me and my boyfriend just started dating like a week ago and he calls me everynight and i dont know what to talk about anymore...any ideas?

Talk to him about things he likes, such as sports. Or try to ask him questions, get to know him better. And lastly you can try to do fun things together where you don't really get personal.

Q: Why does my boyfriend not want to kiss me?

Well if he is at a young age, maybe he is shy, and afraid he might not do correctly. Or maybe it has something to do with you, like you might have bad breath when you want to kiss, or maybe you pick the wrong times to wan to kiss him. Or he might be one of those guys who don't like to kiss in public. But, the top answer is probably because he is afraid he might not do correctly.

Q: if i went to a girl wat shud i bring her plzz i need to no

If you mean gift wise, It all depends on the type of girl. But, something that probably works for every girl is getting a dozen of her favorite flowers, a necklace with a matching ring, or something more simple like a romantic poem about her. Or just a poem about her. Hope this Helped :)

Q: My best friend and i have known eachother for 3 years now. Weve fooled around alot but have not had sex. every time i mention being in a relationship he freaks out. ive had boyfriends since ive been best friends with him. but my heart is definitely with him. he truely is my best friend, we tell eachother everything and do everything together. and we are sexual. so isnt that a relationship? i dont understand why he doesnt want the title. he isnt involved with any other girls and hasnt been since ive known him. thats 3 years that im the only girl hes even kissed or gone out with. i guess i dont have a specific question. i just dont know what to do. my heart is breaking because i cant have him as more than best friends/ friends with benefits.

Think of it this way, you two are best friends, if you two were to become something more than that, and break up it wouldn't be the same for you both, it can ruin your friendship, and I assume you don't want that. Maybe that's why he freaks out. For example, if you watch the Jersey Shore, Vinny and Snooki were friends with benefits, and then Snooki started to develop feelings for Vinny. And their friendship has not been the same since then. But if you want him really bad, you can give signals or hints that you want to have sex with him, and if he freaks out then you know that he doesn't want to lose you as a friend. :) Hope this helped.

Q: Hi im 14 years old and i need help I'm curently dating my boyfriend and we've been going out for 3 weeks now, and i care about him a lot. and just 2 days ago when i was at my younger brothers baseball practice i was watching my 2 youngers sibs and 2 other kids that were friends with, and I turned around and i saw my ex-boyfriend walking to another basball field. I kind of just looked at him and he looked at me, we didnt smile at eachother or anything b'cuz we broke up a month ago. but after i keep running into him my stomach drops and my heart starts racing. What does that mean? and i do love my BF but i also think about my ex-BF help please.

Don't you think that your current boyfriend is the rebound? I mean if you got out of a relationship a month ago, and started dating your current boyfriend, for about 3 weeks, it looks like you rushed into another relationship, so it's normal to still have feelings for your ex. When it comes down to it, it looks like you love both of them, maybe in different ways.

Q: Hi im 14/f going to be 15 in 3 months and its going to be my golden b day too. I have a question. Im currently dating by boyfriend right now and i do love him, but two days ago i saw my ex and walked passed by me and everytime i would walk some were he would star at me. and we broke up a month ago but everytime i see his picture or see his name somewere my stomach drops and my heart starts racing what does that mean?? and my boyfriend now all he wants to do is get me things i mean it was nice the first week we were dating by now im starting to get sick of it. but what should i do about my current bf and my ex??? Please help me!

It's seems like your boyfriend is wanting to buy your love or maybe trying to show to much affection. If this is bothering you, you can always talk to him, and tell him in a nice way that the gifts are fine, but he doesn't have to always do that. Now your ex, you might be feeling this way because your thinking about how your boyfriend is annoying you, and probably miss your ex and the good times you spent together. Another reason you might be feeling that way is because you have your ex on your mind, the less you think about him the more you will not have those feelings. And Lastly since you say he is always staring at you then you like that attention from your ex, and in your subconscious mind you probably want your ex back. So tell your boyfriend to lay off the gifts, and if he doesn't then you can always go to your ex. But it's good to be single, so you have more time for fun and friends, it works with ME :) :)

Q: I just found out my boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me in the begining I confronted him n he told me it was one time a few months ago he calls me n lies n says he has to go to.his moms n wont be home cause something happen but I just got off the phone with his mom we had a big fight over the phone n he didn't come home the next day he smelled like lavender down there n I found dirty text messages in his phone I love him so much n my son. calls him daddy I don't know what I should do please any advice will help

If a guy cheats on you then he doesn't deserve you, even though you love him and your son calls him daddy, you shouldn't take the heart-ache. I think you should take the high road, and leave him, because if he cheats on you then he doesn't care about you.

Q: Hi, im 17 turning 18 and i'm a black female. I've always been interested in dating outside my race because i've always been curious to know what it's like to date a white guy. I live in South Florida and it's not easy to get a white boy's attention (well for me) i know im pretty but what is it? What do i do to catch a white boy's attention if there is a difference. How do most of them feel about black girls anyway?

Well I don't think that getting a white guy's attention is really hard because we are all humans, but I'm Hispanic and I like to date out of my race too, so get a white guy's attention the way you would get any other guys attention, look cute, dress nice, and be you. P.S white guys do like black girls :)

Q: i have been with this same guy for over three years now,and we are good together.we have always had exciting sex life,and he says he loves me much,but the other nite,he told me he had sex wtother girl,4o5times,we started working on us,then he admited he was still seeing her.we r talking again,nd he swears no more lies,thathe is only wt me,but im hurt nd he dont understand y its so hard 4 me 2 believe in him again. can i ever get past this,o just walk away be 4 he hurts me again??

No man should ever cheat on his girl especially if you have been together for 3 years!!!! I always say if a guy cheats on me then he doesn't care about me, dump this guy before he hurts you again, because men say they are going to change but never do. So to avoid the heart-ache DUMP HIM!!!

Q: hey i'm the 12 year old girl with the 16 year old bf. alot my friends have really older boy friends.and they've had sex before. i'm really not sure what i should do? my friends are always talking abuot how they had sex. sometimes they would ask me if i've had sex with my bf and they know i'll say no. should i have sex with my bf?

You should be a leader not a follower, just because your friends are having sex doesn't mean that you should too. Also, your to young to have sex, maybe your body hasn't even developed for that yet. My advice to you is to not have sex, do it when you know it's right like at the age of 18, don't do it because your friends are doing it. :)

Q: 14/f

Last night a boy that I've liked for 2+ years started texting me. We talked for 2 hours and then he asked me if I wanted to go to the Exhibition (like a fair, with rides and stuff) with him. I really wanted to, but I told him I was going to my cottage and couldn't. I don't think I'm allowed to even go on group dates, let alone one on one. He also asked me to a dance 2 years ago, but I didn't really like him then, and I said no.

The thing is, my family sort of knows about this boy, but not in the best way. I used to tell them stories about him, cause he is a bit crazy and nerdy, but sweet and cute at the same time. I kind of left the sweet and cute part out. I really want to ask my parents if I can go, and they aren't crazy overprotective so they might say yes. I just don't know if I can handle all my family (aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, sisters, and parents) and friends, with their opinions and ideas. What should I do?

It won't kill you if you ask, and since you said that your parents aren't really overprotective, then they might say yes, so i say go ask, BE BOLD!!! :)

Q: 17/F

I asked a few questions a while back about dealing with my overly shy boyfriend. Recap: He's super shy and he's a couple years younger, but he acts even older than I do sometimes. He knows when to be a kid and when to be an adult. Problem is, he doesn't seem to know how to act around me. He turns red and squirms when he has to kiss me or if he's sitting next to me on the couch.
And this is how I tried to solve it. I myself am shy, but I forced myself to overcome it today and invited him to a double date in town. I tried so hard to get him to talk and to order something to eat, but he wouldn't. He just smiled some of the time or laughs quietly as if he was stuck. I tried to urge a conversation about his job and about how life is, but he wouldn't go into it. I know guys draw the line at talking about certain things, so I avoided deep questions. Just normal questions. I really hate to say this, but I don't think this relationship is working out. And it's hurting me to even think about breaking up with him, but he won't discuss it. Should I just break up with him and ask to be friends or maybe keep trying? (He does seem to like me, but he's just too shy to do ANYTHING.)

From the looks of it, it seems that your boyfriend and you don't make the perfect match, due to his over shyness, he should understand why you would want to break up with him. But maybe first you should tell him how you feel, and maybe he can change, if he doesn't then you know he's not the right one for you. :)

Q: my bf want s sex i'm12 year old girl and he's 16 i'm not ready he would touch me and kiss my kneck. I would say stop but would say babe relax. i say stop he says ok but he always bugs me about sex and once he tried to take off my shirt. i love him but not sexually. what should i do?

You should break up with this guy, even if you think you love him. He is 4 years older than you, which means he's more experienced then you, I bet if you give in to having sex which your to young for, he will probably break up with you that's what happened to a girl I know. If he's always trying to have sex, then that means that he only wants something physical, he probably doesn't want you for you. Please take this advice :)

Q: well I'm in college now I'm almost 22 and my teacher is 28.he is really shy and very gentle.well he used to be my teacher for 2 semesters.now im still at the university studying but I won't be seeing him anymore cause I don't have any classes with him.I only have 1 semester left to finish college.This guy never gives his phone number to his students but after the semester ended I wrote him a message and told him that i have bought him a gift as a thank you.he gave me his phone number and when i called him he invited me to his own office (he works at a company)so i met him there.we talked I know that he was a little stressed out because the books fell down of his hands.but when i was leaving he said that give me a call sometime.that's it.I was thinking maybe i could tell him that i like him.I don't know how he would respond.i really need help i wanna know if I should tell about my feelings or not!help me please!!

There is nothing holding you back, your almost done with school, your in college and with these signs he might have a thing for you. So go for it!!! :)

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My name is Eunice and I made this advice column to help others with the issues, problems, etc. No matter what your problem is, I'm pretty sure I can answer it. This Advice Column is not about Me it's About how I can help you. :) :)