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What's up? Well, I'm sure like each and every other advice columnist is that, we all enjoy giving advice . I like to keep things real and you'll find out how real when you ask me a question . I absolutely love helping people . Hollah at me sometimes !!! Oh, and yahoo me . Goodness sakes knows that I could do with the mail.
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Well there is this guy at my school who I think is cute and seems to be nice. His locker is right across from mine and I am not in any of is classes. I see him at lunch also. I want him to notice me. When I say notice I don't mean going out with him then and there. But becoming friends if the friendship seems good, then possibly consitering going higher into our friendship(taking it slow). If it doesn't seem possible then we could remain friends. What my question is,is what's the first step into introducing myself(please don't give me any advice letting him know I like him.
Be yourself
Speak when you can
Start conversations with him
Don't try and impress him noticeably. Just talk.
Be cool, casual and grounded. Guys like that.
Oh, and be yourself. (i know i said that already) But guys don't like women that front, unless they're after one thing and one thing only. And that's when they don't care about u. Just be u and you can't go wrong. If he doesn't notice or like it, then he isn't the one and I advise you to not waist your time. But, just try. 8 out of 10 times a guy likes a girl for who she and for the way she is when she is truly herself. And that's proven. Hope I was some help. Bye.
I recently met a wonderful, mature guy in his forties (I'm in my thirties) and we spent a great night together and a long late breakfast the next afternoon in which we told each other quite a lot about our past relationships. I divorced four years ago after a marriage of seven years. This marriage was to my first boyfriend, my first sexual experience, and turned out to be somewhat abusive. I tried to get out of the marriage twice, first by simply telling him I wanted out. I stayed that time because I couldn't handle how much it seemed to hurt him to leave. The second time, I went off to an artists' colony for a month and actually cheated on him, the first time I'd ever done this before or after. I told him immediately and it was the end of our marriage. One of my friends thought the cheating was the only way my husband would have let me go.
So I told the new guy all of this. He had said something about my being mature enough to get out of the marriage or something that I thought wasn't quite right, wasn't quite honest if I agreed, so I told him of the cheating so he'd really know what happened and told him I suffered untold guilt about it for a long time.
Well now I'm wondering if I made a mistake, if my desire for honesty will simply scare him off instead. He took what I said very kindly, seemed to understand, but now I'm worried. Maybe it's just that I'm waiting for that call to see him again that's gotten me so worried. In any case, would you recommend this kind of honesty on my part in the future (on future dates, if this one doesn't work out)? Shouldn't I keep things open? Or am I just shooting myself in the foot.
Thanks,
handwringing
Babe, you did the right thing. You went with your gut instinct first and foremost, and you can never go wrong by doing that. Second of all, you let him know then and there that you are an honest woman. A lot of women wouldn't have him what ACTUALLY happened, so the fact that you did so (when you didn't have to)says a lot of positive things about your courage. You're brave and bold. It lets him know that he can trust you.
I think that you should talk to him about it. Mention it again and let him know EXACTLY HOW & WHAT you feel about what you told him. Let him know how much you want him to trust you, and let him know that you don't want to scare him off by simply telling him the truth. Try to get some verbal response on his *take* of this and if it's not much, then don't push it. Don't make the issue any bigger than it already is. It's probably nothing. But find out anyway. That's the only way to attain peace of mind. OK, bye.
K so i dated this guy for like a month untill yesterday, hes realllly hot & cool to hang with... & tues. night we went out to a really nice dinner with the people he works with. We wore dresses, suits, ect. & after his co workers went to a cabin on a lake 2 hours away.. I didnt go kas i need to get home kas i live an hour away. anyway... i told him to be good & all & it seemed like we were ok ...but then the next day he texts me that he cant b with me anymore kas he got drunk & lost his virginity to some other girl.. i didnt really get all that upset..i didnt cry or anything.. i was just like ok.. thanks for telling me see you at tcu in the fall... so now were not talking & this friend of the family was like well you can still b with him if you want ...its just sex..no big deal.. & now im confused...i dont want to be with him anymore...but do i have the right to b mad at him? it was only a month but we were exclusive? bleh it makes me so frustrated..anyway any advise on my situation? thanks
I'm not sure what you want advice on, SPECIFICALLY. However, I think you're right to just leave him be and see him when you see him. You obviously don't care for him, otherwise you would've responded differently to his news. So don't let others make a big deal out of this b/c it certainly seems that you weren't stressing it. You don't want to be w/ him b/c if you did, then that would've been obvious; you would've actually been wounded by his cheating. But you weren't so don't stress it. You don't care for him, and you have the right to be angry w/ and at him. Don't worry over someone you don't care about, and don't let others blow things up to something that they aren't. I'm quite sure you have enough drama to be getting on w/ in your life. You seem fine.
15/f. so there's this boy that i really like and one of my friends told him i liked him by mistake and he didn't say anything. but he told my other friend he liked me. we always talk on myspace but he never tells me wat he feels. wat should i do to find out if he likes me or not.
ASK. Trust me, it'll work. I did it and I was in your position three days ago. And tell him easily that you aren't into him like that if that's what you're feeling b/c it's not right to string someone along. Bye.
I went out with this guy and he is the one who broke up with me, becuase we are in diffrent countries for the summer. He still likes me, but we've went out about 4 times. And he is the one who breaks up with me. I told him that I didn't want to go threw him breaking up with me again, because it is really anoying... He lkes me now, and I kind of like him, but I don't want to tell him, because all my friends and other people in my school are telling me don't go out with him again... He isn't right for you.
Now I don't know what to do... What happends if I like him a lot again and he still likes me... He said he wouldn't ask me out, but I might want to go out with him.... I'm the kind of person who gets asked out, I don't ask 'em out... I've had about 2 boyfriends so far. 4 from this guy who I'm telling you about and another person who I dumped because he was too shy around me! :\
Please Help Me!!
People are right when they tell you to leave this guy alone. And if all that he's done and put you through, the four times that you've been going out and breaking up with you; and you still can't resist him, then I don't know what will do it then. Just remember the pain and negitivity he caused you and hopefully that'll shield you. From what you've written, he doesn't deserve you and you shouldn't waste YOUR PRECIOUS TIME on him. That's for those who care. Use the strength that you would've never thought that you had and just forget about him. Let him go. There will be others. And don't try so hard, that may be your problem. Don't try so hard when it comes to relinquishing those feelings. You're letting go b/c it's something that u need to do for u. Don't let him continue to fool you. Fool you once, shame on them, and fool you twice shame on you. Don't let it happen again, be strong, and don't try so hard when it simply comes to letting him go b/c your needs are the only thing that matters. And you need this to happen. Bye...
Okay well im a 14 year ols female and my boyfriend think we are ready to have sex and i was wondering , what do you think i can do to pleaseure him
First, honey, you need to establish if pleasing him is what you really want to do. And if it is what you want to do, then are you doing it b/c you want to? Or are you simply doing it b/c you're afraid that you'll lose him? If you're going to do something like this, which is a big step, then you need to establish where you are emotionally and whether you're satisfied with your questionable desires to pleasure your boyfriend. To me, you're simply too young. But, if you want to do it, then make sure that if and when you decide to do it, that your heart or mind has no regrets or quarrels about your actions. You must think like this, for it may bother you later. And then, you must always think about the consequences of your simply pleasuring him.
You know your boyfriend and you know what pleasuring him means. Sex or oral sex, basically. The question is are you ready to have sex b/c you said," my boyfriend think we are ready to have sex...". Question is, have you established if you're ready to do so, because it's your body your life and your choice. And anyone that cares about you shouldn't make you feel, at least an inkling, that you have to pleasure them in order to keep them. Someone that cares about you wouldn't make you feel like that, even if they don't know that they're making you feel as such. Just make sure that you're ready emotionally and physically. Hope I was some help and bye.
ok so is it true that guys like it when they have to chase a girl.. n work for it? if that makes any sense
Yes, it's true. Guys do rather enjoy the hunt for their prey more when their prey puts up a good challenge. It makes it all the more intriguing and interesting. However, guys, well that is experienced rational and mature men, are able to recognize when they're being played around w/ for some time. And experienced rational men, while enjoying the challenge itself, like a womanly response to their male vitality or woes. Not a childish one, although I believe they'd understand fully if you weren't exactly experienced in the area in which I speak, which ranges from kissing to a mere hug and so forth. Yes, they love the challenge. But it should always be so much more than that, although that should always be remembered as an essential element in the game of love, which is what I like to call it. Hope I was of some help dear, and bye.
theres this guy that i've known for a week and a half. he has a girl friend but today he confessed he has a major crush on me. he's pretty cute and he's been going out with his girl friend for two weeks. he wants me to call him tonight. i kind of like him but i have to get to know him better. he thinks if we talk on the phone then ill get to know him better, i think talking online is good enough. normally i only talk on the phone to my aunts and uncles and my best friend if theres an emergency. he called me earlier but i didn't answer. now i feel bad and want to call him but i don't know what to say. what the heck should i say?
I don't want to seem harsh when I say this. However, you really don't want to find yourself or get yourself emotionally attached to a guy in a relationship. Why cause yourself the grief when I'd bet he hasn't even mentioned to you that he might break with his girl if she doesn't compare to what he thinks he can have with you? If he's making no effort, except for telling you that he has a huge crush on you, to give you the more active role that you're seeking in his life, then don't waste your time and energy there. He's taken and to me, it's like you're digging yourself in a hole that's too deep. Just be careful.
Unless you really want to be friends with him, although that's not what that sounded like. Anyway, you also said that talking online should be good enough to get to know him better. Also, arrange some dates to get to know him better b/c that too will help a lot. And also, it's not like you know he'll know that you deliberately didn't answer his phone call earlier. If he asks when you call him, or when he calls you again, just tell him you weren't home or something. I do it all the time to my guys and they go for it. Just don't make it big or complex; Keep it simple. And as far as what you should say, just say what you truly feel. Bye and hope I was some help.Just be careful with your heart.
ok there is this kid that likes me, but i dont like him. he told me yesturday thru text and i couldnt write anything back. i dont want to tell him anything that will hurt him because i kno what it feels like to like someone who doesnt like you back. so how do i tell him, hurting him the least possible. thanks in advance!!!
First, to his face, you must sit him down and talk to him. Then you must tell him exactly what you've just written. I know, that's not any help. But thinking about it really isn't going to do anything about the situation, and your words are the truth. You can't help what you don't, in this case, feel for him. Its the truth, which your serving him in a compassionate way. The deliverance and the tone of your deliverance really shows that on some level, your concern of his feeling on a friend level shows that you care for him as a friend. Tell him that. It should make him feel better. Don't fret, you'll be fine.
A while ago (Nov 25th '06 to be exact...)I was at my sisters house. Shes 19, Im 14, and her boyfriend is 24. She decided that it would be super fun to get me drunk and it sounded like fun so i went along with it. And then her b/fs friend came over (call him John...) and he was nice and all. And then later when him and her bf were outside, she told me that 'John' wanted to make out with me...John was 20 years old...I was like...ew no hes old..but my sister insisted that it wasnt weird. So then later My sister and her bf went to sleep and it was just me and John...and i layed down on the couch and he was laying next to me and he asked "would it be wierd if i kissed you?" and i was like "yeah...i dont know" and he said "let me help you make up ur mind..." and he started kissing me and we started making out (im still drunk btw) and it got pretty intense and it realized how wierd it was (id never kissed, let alone made out, with anyone before...) so i got up and left. and ever since its been branded into my brain and im just haunted by it. BUT ANYWAY. Ever since, Ive been having dreams that i have older boyfriends and ive been attracted to older (18, 19, 20 y/o) guys and im just not sure what to do.
I want to forget whaat happened but i also want an older guy..is that wierd/???
Of course, it's natural that it feels weird, even to this day. You, I can tell, are morally inclined and you have principals that you stick by. That's good. You probably feel that you did something that was wrong, and it makes you slightly embarrassed, uncomfortable, and awkward to reminisce about it. In fact, I'd bet that you don't like to even remember this. You don't feel that it was wrong, or guilt intensely, but it's probably there, just a little tiny bit exceeding slight. Also, it's probably weird b/c you probably haven't kissed a lot before then. And, I believe you probably liked the kiss you had with the 20 year old fellah. It's nothing wrong with enjoying a kiss, and yes, there was a 6 year difference, but its not like you had sex with him. You did what you did, it's done, it's over with, and there's nothing you can do about that now. Subconsciously, you both made a decision, and when it comes to kissing and sex, it's important that once you make those decisions that you stick with them for that very reason. You've kissed him, there's nothing you can do about that, and you enjoyed it. That's not a crime. You can like guys that are older, just consider the law, the boundaries that you are willing or UNWILLING TO CROSS,and the coveted boundaries that MAY Want to be EXPLORED by one party or the other. It's weird, awkward , and that's natural. But that's the way it is and there's nothing you can do about that. It's done, and no ones going to burn you at the stake for it. Just be careful.
well, i had my first makeout yesterday under a bridge. this isnt something i would normally do because usually i am prude. i kinda feel slutish even though it was only like a 20 second makeout, is that normal? should i feel like that? and are you supposed to swallow during it because the first time me and my boyfriend did it, i swallowed and it made a really weird sound and i dont know if i wasnt supposed to but i dont it just felt weird. and then his friend told me that he said i was good for my first time. is there and do's and don'ts about making out? im just really scared i did something wrong
thanks in advance!
On everyone's first makeout, nothing is ever perfect. I'm a virgin and I've made out with three to four of my boyfriends, and I've done something that's made me insecure and conscious of what I'm doing. In the end, all you have to do is to know that when you make your mind up to do something, you stick with it. Even if you haven't really thought about it rationally. It's over, it's done. That's it. No one can judge you b/c everyone has even worse skeletons in their closet. Nothing to feel ashamed of and I bet you the boy even loves you more for it. Trust me, no matter how bad you think you were, they always will love you more for it or for trying at least. I'm very proudful, so if it's coming from me, then this is probably the best it gets. Hope I was help. Later...
I like this boy.. a lot. And last weekend he said to me "there's something there but im still not over my ex" meaning he feels a spark but is still stuck on his ex gf who by the way was a complete and total B**** about breaking up with him and already has a new boyfriend!! and I respected what he said, and now, he says hes gonna call me and never does and doesnt talk to me nemore what should I do?? should i let him go, play hard to get?? fight for him?? what?!
please and thanks
To be on the safe side, you probably should confront him again. Try and talk to him casually. Ask, how you've been, what you've been up to. Also, try to in a casual way ask like," have you thought everything through. About what you want to be between us?" It's perfectly alright to go and ask him. If he bullshits you, then let him go. I know its easier said than done, but I'm going through this right now and lucky I wasn't in too deep, or it would've been hard for me. Don't be afraid to convey your emotions, you're doing this for you to be true to yourself which matters above all. You'll be surprised about how much you learn of yourself after this, and this only doesn't refer to courage.
Okay I like this guy and he is so sweet! I want him to know but I also don't want to. Do you think it would be best if he found out? He is a real nice guy though. I have a feeling if I don't go for him then someone else will take him. He might have a feeling that I like him since I stare alot and he looks back. And when he walks by my friend starts talking like oh don't you want to go that way now? Like in mushy way. So what do you think I should do? Any advice would be awesome!
Just tell him. If you really want him, then you'll definitely know the right time to go and get him. Act on your instincts, which no advice columnists can tell you or do for you. It's better to act on something you want, rather than always second-guessing what could have been. Don't let something like your friendship with the guy stop you. Like I said, it all comes down to how MUCH you want him. AND if you REALLY WANTED HIM, THEN YOU'D DEFINITELY GO AND GET HIM. If you decide to, then good luck and good night. Sleep tight...
I found out that my bf was libra and i'm vigro. I read this one thing that said what was happening to me word for word. He was playing me, and my friend, and my friends step-sister. We're all about the same age and we all LOVE him so much. Truth is i gained courage to ask him out. So he walked to my house (he lives two steets away) to tell me he would go out with me. It was so cute he walked all the way to my house just to say yes! Anyway my friends we're happy for me but mad cuz they knew he liked more than one girl. I didn't seem to care because, I liked him way to much. So I just ignored it. Now he likes my friend, and her stepsister, and ME! Should I leave him or deal with him liking them too?
I don't think i could deal with leaving him cuz i like him way to much, but i dont know.
First, don't go on what you are speculating because you could be wrong. Just ask him who he wants. If he says you, stay with him. But if you feel that it's just not right, then you should definitely break it off. Don't waste your time with anyone. However, if he says that he wants to be with someone else. All you really can do is just let him go. That makes more room, space, and time for the right person to be in your life. Always trust your instincts with things like this. What does yours tell you because mine say that you really might need to leave this guy alone. Find out the truth. Hope I was some help and bye.
ever wanted to decide for someone if they should get over someone? well here's your chance!
I will give you the background info, and then YOU guys decided, get over him or not.. if the majority says yes. then thats it. ill try to get over him.
You'll recognize the story because ive asked atleast 17 questions about this guy on here, since the year 2002 (yes ive had a crush on him for 4 years!)
I met this guy in june, 4 yrs ago, when i was on vacation with my parents. We live on different continents, but i visit his continent every year because my family lives there.
The first year when we met - we were watching a movie with my cousins and he said "damn, she's so hott! i love angelina jolie!" then he looked at me, winked..and said "you're hott too btw!" (sound cheesy, and sleezy, but he said it in a charming way)he left with one of my cousins and came back an hour later.. my cousin then told me "ehh, he thinks you like him!" (i had done nothing to make him belive that..except smile when he said "You're hott too!") but whateer, at this point i didnt really like him, i was more annoyed that he was hanging around while i was trying to spend some time iwth my cousins..
anyways, when he came back with my cousin, my cousin left to talk on the phone, and left me alone with this guy..he ssat down next to me on the porch and said "what's up? you look sad! why are you sitting alone instead of watching tv with the rest of the family?" i said; idk..it's nice outside. and he agreed. then he suddenly gave me a troubled look (which he had not had befofre) and said.. "damn im screwed" (he whispered this though..so i didnt hear it) i said "what?" and he repeated it.. and i asked why? and he explained that his gf of 5 months had crazy ocerprotective parents, and her sister (who is also very over protective) had seen them holding hand at the mall... i tried to give him advice on what to do since he seemed to really care about this girl, and then said.. aww its really cute how you talk about her, i can tell you're a sweettalker! and he said, yeah i guess.. then looked right into my eyes, and told me how beautiful they were.. after this we spent 4 hours togther, flirting and talking..basically just hanging out and getting to know eachother.. he found out i was leaving the next day, asked me for my email..and then said goodbye.
i didnt really start liking him, until after i left the country. thats when i started realiing it. and we talked online a couple of times but not a lot. One of the few times we did talk online he said "if i didnt have a gf, i would have kissed you when we met!" and on another occasion he told me "ive now been with my gf for 11 months and i love her soo much"
so he flirted with me but always made it clear that he had a gf he would never cheat on.
the last conversation we had before i met him the second year he said "if i break up with my gf this summer, are we set?" and i said "deal!" so we basically agreed on hooking up (just making out and getting to know eachother and stuff like that!)
when the day finally came that i saw him again, it happened to be the last day in his country AGAIN, we met..didnt talk to eachother for a while (he talked to my cousin, and made jokes the first few houres!) then we started asking eachother questions.. how've you been since last time? what's been going on? what's new?.. just the regular chit-chat.. and i asked him about his gf and he said "we had a fight yesterday, and we broke up.." and i said " aww really?" and he said "yah, otherwise i wouldnt be here!" (which shows that he thought of me as more than a friend..otherwise he wouldnt say that right?)
anyways, we hung out, flirted a bit (not as much as the year before..) and then he went home and we said "see you tomorrow!" but my family changed the plans.. so we left that same day, and i didnt get to say goodbye! after this i went to camp for 3 weeks, when i came back,, i had an email from him.. with two poems, and he said "i cant stop thinking about you, we never got to say goodbye! i didnt get to give you the present i bought you" and things along those lines, i answered..and we started emailing regurly.. then i for some reason got insecure and made up a story about how i cant email him anymore.. (dont ask, i dont really know why i did that) and we stopped emailing.. until this summer.. when i thought i was gonna meet him again, i went online, and we started IMing.. flirting, promising that we'd get together and have fun this summer, telling eachother how we feel about eachother and so on,.. until one night i found out i wasnt gonna get to see him because my parents had a fight with my cousins parents.. so i wasnt gonna get to cisit my cousins and see him. when i told him this he said "oh well, whatever, its not like its a big deal!" WTF? it is a huge deal! for me it was atleast.. and then i asked why his screenname was so sad...and his answer? its about my ex who im still in love with! he then sent me a 2 page email about who hes never cared for anyone else, how he loves her, how he'll never get over her, they're meant to be..and so on.
i cried, and told my friends.. they id "be honest with him!" so i was, i asked how he could say he loved me when all along he was in love with her? and he said "im sorry if i hurt you, but i didnt realize im still in love with her until recently,," i decided to get over him (of course) and didnt talk to him for a month..but now, we email again.. like nothing ever happened.. like we're just friends.. pen pals.. needles to say, i still have a crush on him, and pray everyday that we're gonna get to see eachother again this christmas! i keep praying he'll be over her by then..!!
so, what do you think?
should i try to get over him?
and HOW? stop emailing??
i dont think it will work..
unless i tell him that "ive chosen not to fall for you, so if i show up this christmas, i dont want to see you..andi cant keep in touch with you anymore!" but thas so awkward! maybe there's another way? what do you guys think?
Darling, yes I know that it is very tempting indeed. I know because I've been through something like this. Let me tell you now, get over him. The time that you're spending on him can be spent looking for the person that is really meant to be for you. I'm not going to say that you're definitely going to find him if you get over your pen pal. I'm just saying that you really need to focus your attentions elsewhere. To me, it sounds like this guy is a sly devil. It sounds like he'll flirt and say anything without considering the reprucussions of his actions. He may by lying to you, but why would you want to go through that. You know, basically you should get over him. Trust me, even when you see him over Christmas, you'll feel a lot better about it.
I'm a 13 yr old girl and really like this 13 yr old guy and he flirts with me a little bit, but everyone says that he likes my bestfriend. Obviously he denies it. He knows i like him and i don't know weather to like him or not to because he might ask out my best friend?!!!
always as sweet as sugar,
candygrlxoxo87
Candygrlxoxo87, the only way to find out what he will do for sure is to talk to him. Ask him if he likes you in that way? He's probably flirting, but there's the slight possibility that he may like you. Go for it and stop questioning and speculating. It's easier said than done but you really should go and do it. If not, I don't want to sound mean, but you probably should stop fretting about it all. I'm pretty sure, you got other things to worry about. And don't get involved with guys who like your BEST FRIEND AND LIE ABOUT IT.
okok, I told this guy I loved him!! And we used to be friends, and now he's avoiding me!! WHY? and what did I do wrong!? PEOPLE ALWAYS TELL ME NOT TO HIDE MY FEELINGS. How do i make this right?
You know what you need to do and I understand why you you haven't really went ahead and did it yet. Obviously, you have to approach him about it and tell him that you know that you two are friends. And tell him that you love him as a good friend does. BUT, if it's bigger than that, then I have no idea what to tell you. All I can say is- talk to him and see where his mind may stand on an issue like that. According to his response, then obviously you either should go for it or not. It all depends on his response. HOWEVER, THAT'S IF YOU LOVE LOVE HIM AND IF YOU WANT TO BE WITH HIM. If you don't, tell him that he interpreted your comment in the wrong sense and that there's no need for him to avoid or to feel awkward around you. Assure him and move on. It's a guy thing though, surely you understand this.
ok heres the problem me and this girl was datein and i really cared about her,but i broke up with her because i felt like she was cheatin on me,she was always callin other guys hot,she was talkin 2 them on phone all the time,and constantly talkin about them. so i broke uo with her and now im startin to realize that i made a mistake but then it turns out this girl i have liked for a really long time starts to like me and she wants to date me but she has some1 that treats her bad but she still cares for them.can someone please help me out on what i should do..
WHO'S HEART DO YOU KNOW BEST? By that I mean, who do you know more emotionally ( far as mentality goes) about their life. Or about certain issues. WHO DO YOU FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE AROUND? You don't want to be around someone that you're always tense around. Try to feel relax around more. WHO DO YOU HAVE GOOD CONVERSATION WITH? Conversation, is a very important thing in a relationship and some have it and some don't. A relationship is basically- hardly nothing- without it. WHO PLEASES YOU MORE AND DON'T ONLY THINK ABOUT APPEARANCE WISE, THINK MENTALITY AND ETC.? Consider everything here, such as habits and the WAYS IN WHICH THEY ACT. That's important. Just think about those, and think about the other questions that will occur in your mind b/c there will be other questions. I mean, only if you're seriously thinking.
Hi, recently an extremely attractive guy moved in next door to me. I didn't see much of him as he is relatively quiet. He speaks to my mum sometimes and they even lend books to each other, but I've never gone pass saying "Hi"
Thing is, I can't stop thinking about him. Like constantly. He's 27 and I'm 17 and I know with that age difference we could never be, at least not right now. I've even started looking through my windows snooping at his house hoping I can catch a glimpse of him. I'm starting to think I'm getting a bit stalkerish but I don't know how to stop myself. I don't even know this guy. Does this seem like a harmless crush, or is it getting too far? Should I get over him? If so, what's the best way to do it?
Thanks advicenators.
Well, to tell you the truth, it seems like a harmless crush. Then again, something that's harmless could escalade into something that's way serious. So, to stop yourself from taking this way too far, you should remember THE REALITY OF THE SITUATION. Reality is that you are 17 and he's 27. THAT SIMPLY JUST CAN'T HAPPEN. I know that some older men don't care but I think that your new neighbor would. And if he doesn't care, then you have your mother who'll definitely care. Think of the reality of things. Be very for real. Besides, I think that it's harmless but it can be controlled only be recognizing what truly is and isn't. Also, I don't know how to tell you to get over someone. That just comes with time. Because with time, we all grow as people and our opinions and perceptions change. Hope I was some help and see you later.
There is this boy who has a girlfriend who always come to my house to play with my brother. He is so cute. when he comes over, he always flirt with me. I want to go out with him, but he has like 15 GF's. Besides, one of his girlfriends is my friend. I don't want to ruin our relationship. She knows that I used to like him. What should I do.
It depends on HOW MUCH YOU WANT HIM. If you want him, the question is if you're willing to get him. If you want him, YOU CAN'T BE NOBLE TRYING TO GET. WHICH MEANS, YOU CAN'T CARE ABOUT HIS GIRLFRIEND- YOUR FRIEND. But that's ONLY IF YOU REALLY WANT HIM. But if you can't force yourself to do it, THEN YOU DON'T WANT HIM AS MUCH AS YOU THINK YOU DO. So don't worry about it if you're not going to go through it. IT'S ALL ABOUT HOW MUCH AND BAD YOU WANT HIM, AND WHAT YOU'RE WILLING TO DO TO GET HIM. If it's not that, then you don't want him as much as u think u do. Don't sweat it girl. Besides, I think I'm a little off today. Don't worry so much, you'll get wrinkles.