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Cheating
K so i dated this guy for like a month untill yesterday, hes realllly hot & cool to hang with... & tues. night we went out to a really nice dinner with the people he works with. We wore dresses, suits, ect. & after his co workers went to a cabin on a lake 2 hours away.. I didnt go kas i need to get home kas i live an hour away. anyway... i told him to be good & all & it seemed like we were ok ...but then the next day he texts me that he cant b with me anymore kas he got drunk & lost his virginity to some other girl.. i didnt really get all that upset..i didnt cry or anything.. i was just like ok.. thanks for telling me see you at tcu in the fall... so now were not talking & this friend of the family was like well you can still b with him if you want ...its just sex..no big deal.. & now im confused...i dont want to be with him anymore...but do i have the right to b mad at him? it was only a month but we were exclusive? bleh it makes me so frustrated..anyway any advise on my situation? thanks
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Well my concern is towards your reaction, what is the reason you weren't mad at him? did you really like him a lot? how were your feeling about him before all this happened?
if you don't want to get back with him it's your decision, whether or not you think he's worth it. but he could have lied to you and never told you about him getting drunk and sleeping with some one else, i know it doesn't change what he did, and it doesn't mean you shouldn't break it up.
i think you should ask yourself how much did you or do you (if you still do) like him? because i think we normally get mad at people if we feel strongly towards them, it is these people who are closer to our hearts, that can hurt us.
i hope i make sense, if you think it might be worth giving him another chance you can do, if you think you can trust him, but if you don't feel anything towards him, maybe its best you bread it off.
i have always been told there's a reason behind everything that happens, maybe this happened so you can actually see for yourself how you truly felt about this guy.
I hope i've helped, take care, i mean there will be other guys, and with each one you will have more experience of the relationship.
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okay so he cheated on you.
UHH YEAH YOU SHOULD BE MAD AT HIM!
i mean seriously.
the real question is..CAN YOU TRUST HIM AGAIN? if I were you i would break up with him bc of it. it would really get him to learn his lesson. expecially about drinking.
hope i helped,
XOXO,
MOlly
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14/M
Yeah even if you been datig him for a month you do have the right to be kinda mad at him.1 i guess if you are dating(and consiter each other bf&gf)then he cheated on which iz a good reason to be frustrated.2 (i guess if your both virgins)then havin sex would have been somethin been an experience youd both wanna share wit each other.i cant really be specific cuz i think i need more info but since you dont want him as a bf anymore then i guess you guys can just be friends since you dont hate him.hope thiz helps a lil
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I'm not sure what you want advice on, SPECIFICALLY. However, I think you're right to just leave him be and see him when you see him. You obviously don't care for him, otherwise you would've responded differently to his news. So don't let others make a big deal out of this b/c it certainly seems that you weren't stressing it. You don't want to be w/ him b/c if you did, then that would've been obvious; you would've actually been wounded by his cheating. But you weren't so don't stress it. You don't care for him, and you have the right to be angry w/ and at him. Don't worry over someone you don't care about, and don't let others blow things up to something that they aren't. I'm quite sure you have enough drama to be getting on w/ in your life. You seem fine.
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I would be mad, but since he's totally not
worth your sad feelings, then dont even worry
about him anymore. He's obviously not a trust
worthy boyfriend, or person @ that!
Move on from him & find a nice guy who will
treat you right & respect you (:
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Honestly- you have every right to be mad at him. There are three reasons:
1.) He broke up with you over a text message. This is BEYOND lame and shallow. If he had something to tell you- it should have been in face-to-face conversation. He obviously wasn't man enough to face you in person.
2.) He got drunk. People who drink this early in their life will most likely become alcoholics. Is this someone you want to be with? Someone who can't control themselves enough to not get drunk.
3.) He went off and had sex with someone else. He C-H-E-A-T-E-D on you. Cheated! My personal philosophy is "Once a cheater- always a cheater". If you go back to him- he'll know that he can get away with it again.
He isn't worth it. Find someone who won't text message break up, get drunk, and cheat on you. Trust me, there are plenty of guys out there that DON'T do that stuff.
--Jack
(15/m)
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