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Getting a little too obsessive over him?
Hi, recently an extremely attractive guy moved in next door to me. I didn't see much of him as he is relatively quiet. He speaks to my mum sometimes and they even lend books to each other, but I've never gone pass saying "Hi"
Thing is, I can't stop thinking about him. Like constantly. He's 27 and I'm 17 and I know with that age difference we could never be, at least not right now. I've even started looking through my windows snooping at his house hoping I can catch a glimpse of him. I'm starting to think I'm getting a bit stalkerish but I don't know how to stop myself. I don't even know this guy. Does this seem like a harmless crush, or is it getting too far? Should I get over him? If so, what's the best way to do it?
Thanks advicenators.
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Hell girl, he's your neighbor. The peeping at his house is a little much, but you guys live next to each other, go meet him.. be friends. FYI: if it matters, :) I'm 17 and my bf is 27. So just imagine the possibilities. <3
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Well, to tell you the truth, it seems like a harmless crush. Then again, something that's harmless could escalade into something that's way serious. So, to stop yourself from taking this way too far, you should remember THE REALITY OF THE SITUATION. Reality is that you are 17 and he's 27. THAT SIMPLY JUST CAN'T HAPPEN. I know that some older men don't care but I think that your new neighbor would. And if he doesn't care, then you have your mother who'll definitely care. Think of the reality of things. Be very for real. Besides, I think that it's harmless but it can be controlled only be recognizing what truly is and isn't. Also, I don't know how to tell you to get over someone. That just comes with time. Because with time, we all grow as people and our opinions and perceptions change. Hope I was some help and see you later.
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This kinda happens alot especially when you've got a pretty major crush. That's why you feel so 'obsessed' around him.
The best thing to do, is let it be, but when you do see him, work on saying hi. And then whenever, you're like really thinking about him or you catch yourself going over to the window, you might deliberately want to do something else, like call up a friend or go to where your family is and talk to them for a bit or do other stuff you like.
But you, everyone tend to obsess a bit over Earth's gorgeous specimens, so don't worry too much about it, just make sure you do lots of other stuff and don't let it get out of control.
Cheers
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Age isn't necessarily a problem, my fiancee is ten years younger than me and, after some rocky patches in the past, we're fine.
Depending where you are you being 17 might be a problem though, age of consent and people's perception of what is and isn't right being different in different countries.
First step, regardless, is talk to him. He might turn out to be a strange or boring person in which case you'll get weaned off the crush or you might find out he can be more than just a stalking fantasy to you.
He reads? Find out what he reads, that can tell you a lot about someone.
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