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first makeout =\
well, i had my first makeout yesterday under a bridge. this isnt something i would normally do because usually i am prude. i kinda feel slutish even though it was only like a 20 second makeout, is that normal? should i feel like that? and are you supposed to swallow during it because the first time me and my boyfriend did it, i swallowed and it made a really weird sound and i dont know if i wasnt supposed to but i dont it just felt weird. and then his friend told me that he said i was good for my first time. is there and do's and don'ts about making out? im just really scared i did something wrong
thanks in advance!
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Whether you swallow or not is up to you. You make sure and do whatever makes you feel comfortable. And you're not even close to being a slut. Kisses, even making out ones, are sweet and an innocent to be close with someone. A slut is someone that sleeps with a million guys in one night. That's certainly not you. If you feel uncomfortable about making out at this point, perhaps you can just give short kisses until you feel comfortable to do it for a longer period of time.
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On everyone's first makeout, nothing is ever perfect. I'm a virgin and I've made out with three to four of my boyfriends, and I've done something that's made me insecure and conscious of what I'm doing. In the end, all you have to do is to know that when you make your mind up to do something, you stick with it. Even if you haven't really thought about it rationally. It's over, it's done. That's it. No one can judge you b/c everyone has even worse skeletons in their closet. Nothing to feel ashamed of and I bet you the boy even loves you more for it. Trust me, no matter how bad you think you were, they always will love you more for it or for trying at least. I'm very proudful, so if it's coming from me, then this is probably the best it gets. Hope I was help. Later...
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well it's nice to hear a young person actually talking about just making out instead of sex and stuff. but anywho. well seeing as you are usually prude, yeah it is normal. but trust me it's not slutty at all because it was with your boyfriend, it wasn't very long, and it was your first time. so don't worry about that part. and yeah swallowing is normal don't worry, the noise just happens sometimes, there's really nothin you can do. and it seems like your doin fine if your boyfriend said you were good. so don't worry so much, just have fun with it. it's supposed to be enjoyable, not stressful!
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Making out isn't slutty at all as long as you don't go around kissing every guy. It's normal that you feel like that, but there's nothing you should be ashamed of. You didn't do anything wrong but you just need to relax. Don't think about what you did right or wrong but enjoy it.
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I think it's normal. I must have been really fun too. Just don't start doing it a whole lot. :)
As for the swallowing part, I haven't had that problem before. When I make out with someone, we don't have our lips locked for that long. If you move around a lot, swallowing won't be so awkward because your lips aren't touching all the time. If you feel the need to swallow just pull away for a second, swallow, and go back in doing something different. That shouldn't be awkward. I think the only don'ts for making out are trying to talk and stuff like that. Everyone's technique is different and everybody likes different things. Nobody will judge you as much as you're judging yourself. Think about it. It doesn't even make sense. How would you know if you're a good kisser? It's not like you can kiss yourself! If you're not doing a good job, trust the guy to tell you what you're doing wrong. For now, just relax. Things like this happen. :)
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don't feel slutyish, its ok. just dont go bragging about it because then you'll get everyone's oppinions and trust me you dont want their oppinions. i also found this out yesterday because i kissed a good friend of mine and a bunch of people walked in on us who knew we weren't going out. just keep it to yourself, maybe only tell your closest friend. if you feel that you have to swallow just take a quick break from making out, swallow, and then go back to what you were doing.
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Congradualtions! It's good that you finally made out for your first time. It's ok that you feel slutish (since you are normally prude) but making out is the farthest thing away from being a slut, so dont worry =] There isn't anything wrong with swallowing, but I woulden't recomend it.
Since he said you were good for your first time, you had to have been dooing something right! If you want any more tips here are some.
- do practice on the back of your hand to get the right pressure. you never want to have very loose lips becuase sometimes that cause lots of saliva, but you don't want to press to hard becuase that can hurt.
- always be confident. that is number 1.
ask more if you are still nervous. hope i helped =]
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