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I have been through a lot, a lot more than you'd think. I will answer any question you give me. You can take my advice, or just leave it alone, but DO NOT tell me it's bad advice. kay?

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I have a boyfriend of a year and 3 months. but, i think im starting to like another guy, and i think he likes me. things between my boyfriend and I have been rough lately and this boy asks how we are everyday and he always tries to flirt with me and even asked me to go to his football game. Although i do have really strong feeings for my boyfriend, i kind of want a change and just be single and flirt or maybe go out with this new guy. BUT, I cannot picture my life without my boyfriend in it and i have a feeling that if i get to know this other boy more i'll just want my boyfriend back. Do you guys think that i should just take the plunge and just go for it? (The new guy...oh, and i havent liked anyone since my boyfriend and i have been going out.. this is the 1st person i've liked since) Or, do you think i should stick with my boyfriend that i have now because he is a sure thing? please help.

don't stick with your boyfriend just because its a sure thing. It will definitly be hard if you do break up with your boyfriend, but you'll get over it sooner or later. I'd wait it out a bit and maybe get to know this other kid a little better and see if you still want him. Whoever you have a better time with, pick him.

I made out with this guy at a party and he gave me his number. He said he'd only give it to me if I'd actually call and not just BS him. So the next day i called him and he didn't have my number so I told him who it was and he hung up. I thought we just got disconnected but he never called back and isn't taking my calls (I only called back once but still). What the heck is his problem?

I'd wait another day or two, maybe like on a week-night, call him up again. Then see what happens.

ok let me start by saying i am a freshman
and of course i have a huge crush on this guy name cameron and he i think he likes me and he is older den by i think he is a junior but anyways i talk to him everyday and he is so sweet but the problem is he is going to his ex girlfriend's homecoming wit her(she goes to a different school)..and its basicallly killing me inside but what can i do he is not my boyfriend but he always flirts with me but i dont want anything to do with him if he still has feelings for his ex
PLEASE HELP!

I wouldn't get your hopes up, just because you think he's flirting with you, it could just be in his nature to be nice to people. And from personal experience, any junior i know or knew that was interested in a freshman, always turned out to be a total creeper. So if you find out he DOES like you, I would ask around to older people, one probably in his grade. But as for now, I'd lay off. If he does like his ex gf still, there's nothing you can do about it.

ok, so i have a neighbor who lives across the street and the parents are away. there are three guys home, two brothers and a cousin. the cousin's a year older than me and the brothers are one year older and one year younger. i'm a not-that-experienced 16-year-old-girl who previously had only been felt up. so i was walking on my block and they invited me over, which was a little weird b/c we never hang out, but w/e. the cousin had been wanting to hook up with me for a very long time. we ended up in a room together and i ended up giving him head and a hand job, but i had to stop before he came b/c my mom was outside calling my name. i think he wants to do it again but i'm feeling really weird about this. he's texted me and called me twice while i was sleeping, at about 2 in the morning. what should i do?

If you like him then there is no problem with it. But if your gonna end up getting hurt in the end, i woudn't do it. But if you just want to hook up like he might, then go for it. He probably wanted you to sneek out and thats why he called you at 2 in the morning.
And here's a plus-- if he wants to do it again than obviously you did something right =)

ok so my boyfriend made a wish a couple of days ago on myspace ofcourse...It was a bulliten he posted...It said "11 signs you love someone (if that will ever happen)"...I confronted him about it because he always tells me how much he loves me and stuff..And he said " i wished that katie and brandon would break up" and we got into a huge fight...Because he sleeps over at Katie's house all the time and he asked her out in september and she said no...He asked me out in november and him and Kaie are like brother and sister...But he likes her...He says he doesn't love me like he used to but he wants to be with me because he does love me...But he can't stop thinking about how things would be if him and Katie were going out...He says he'll do whatever he can to keep us together because he wants to be with me..
My first question is: How can I make him relize that she will never go out with him ever because it would ruin their friendship?(she told me that herself)
And my second question is: How can I help him fix what's wrong in our relationship?because it is just as much his fault as it is mine I had the same problem when we first started going out 6 months ago...

Let him know that if your not his one and only, then it's not worth it. Try and ask Katie to tell him that she doesn't like him like that, and never will. But in the nicest way possible because you don't want to become a rebound.
As for the 2nd question, do things to keep the spark alive. Like do things with eachothers familys. Do things you normally wouldn't do, like go to an expencive resturant but don't let him pay for the whole thing. Do something cute and romantic for him. If he doesn't show respect for this back then maybe it just isn't meant to be.

i know turning a guy on can depend on the guy alot of the time. but are there any things that generally work a lot of the time to turn on a guy? like kissing them a certain way or whatnot? or a certain place?

the neck is always a good one. and like when your kissing and you have your arms around him just like suddenly squeeze him and draw closer and kiss harder. He'll know your getting "happier" and he will get a hint. Or if your sitting there kissing put your hand on his leg and gently slid it upwards. it works well =D

does anyone know any songs that like can relate to some relationships.. or songs that girls can put on their myspace about their boyfriend?

This may sound a little silly but if you ever listen to Avril Lavigne lyrics, they are actually really decent, and i've found they can relate to a lot. If your looking for like a love song, you can try the bands, "Boys like Girls" or "Thousand foot Krutch" or "The Spill Canvas" ((The Tide and All hail the heartbreaker. Are really good)) Or if your looking at some kind of break up song or something you should Try the Song "Tiny Vessels" by Death Cab for Cutie. Or Brand New, Bright eyes, and dashboard Confessional.

Anything else you can just reply, or ask me separatly.
Hope i helped!

So i have this amazing boyfriend. And the things is we have never kissed before because neither of us have ever kissed anyone else before and not really know what we are doing. i know that sounds gay, but neither of us want to mess up and look like an idiot. Got an tips?

If neither of you have done it before, then neither of you should be embarressed. If you guys like eachother as much as you think, then it won't matter. Obviously, you have to start somewhere, might as well learn together other than making a fool out of yourselves with someone else that knows what they're doing. And Practice always makes perfect =D

for everyone who has a boyfriend or girlfriend i have a favor to ask, please list everything you love about them and why you decided to be with them. as many things as you can think of! thank you.

We can talk for hours and hours.
We are never awkward.
If I say something stupid and he knows it was he will just kiss me.
He lets me play with his phone and invade his privacy, it lets me know he isn't hiding anything.
He thinks it cute when i'm angry.
He calls me beautiful.
He reminds me everyday how much he loves me and tells me how he really feels, and that i'm his one and only.
He isn't afraid to kiss me in front of his friends.
He sticks up for me and defends me.
When he says something, he goes through with it.
He lets me tell him how much I love him with his friends listening.
He chooses me over them.
He gives me hugs and kisses. Whenever.
He wants to meet my parents.

Thank you so much for asking this question, because honestly, i really do think that i needed to do that. =]]

Ok im going to the movies with the girl of my dreams and some other people from our soccer team. I talked to her freind who is also on my team, she said that I need to be nice and flirt with her, now there is the problem I dont no how to flirt. Her freind said dont be creepy flirt. Remeber were going to the movies. Ill put on what kind of movie when I get that sorted out. So geeting to my question. How do I flirt no matter what kind of movie im in? I want her to like me and I think she already does a bit.

well since you didn't give what gender you are. I'm going to do both,
If you are a girl also, i would probably make sure i was sitting next to her. And make sure she is gay also. make sure you look cute.

and for both gay and straight--
And let her have the arm rest, reach for her fingers suttely. look at her throught the movie, and make sure she see's you looking.

and i like her but she says i'm too young for her when i'm only one year younger, maybe it's just that i'm a freshman but i don't know what to do because i say i don't care but i really do and sometimes i want her so bad it hurts what do i do?

Well, if I were Gay like you, I would probably show her that I'm more mature than any other freshman and that I could please her the way she wants. And if she doesn't fall for it, I would ask for my necklace back. =P

I love you Jesse!

okay, theres this guy, bob and fred, they are best best friends, and i like bob who is best friends with fred. Fred likes me. but i don't like him. && i really don't know what to do, cause i really like bob alot, and i want to go out with him. we go to different schools, and idk i just really like him, how can i get him to like me? should i tell him? idk what to doo.

If these two guys are as good of friends as you say, then Bob wouldn't do anything with you as long as fred still liked you. So be nice to Fred, but even nicer to bob, make an effort to talk to him, but not to Fred. =]]

Hope i helped!!

ok so my best friend is a guy and after he broke up with his girlfriend 3 weeks ago we started a friends with benefits relationship. we've made out and a few other things. i've always had a crush on him and now i really really like him. ok so last week he said that at the next party we'd hook up because we havent seen each other in a while. so its the night of the party and i come into the room and he's cuddling with this whore who has been with every single one of my guy friends and now she's sprawled across my best friend. i was crushed and left the room after a dirty look to both of them. my guy friend sensed i was mad and pushed her off to come talk to me. he didn't know i liked him. then we talked and he told me that she liked him and he liked her a little but realized he only liked her for the attention he was getting. so that made me feel a tiny bit better knowing he only liked her for attention and not personality. i started crying because i didn't know how to tell him how much i liked him and he didn't know what to do so he just hugged me. the rest of the night was better because the whore left and he just stayed and talked to me but i couldn't look at him because i knew i'd start crying. later that night after we both left we talked on the phone and i told him i liked him and he apologized so many times and he started crying because he thought he "f***'ed up" my night. which he sort of did but i didn't tell him that. he said that he wished that girl never came because she always screws things up. at least he knows it. so now he doesn't like her. im so confused. i like him so much that its almost love but i know he's still grieving over his recently ended relationship. i knew him and his ex still have feelings for each other but agreed that it was over and done with so i told his ex about my feelings and she told me to go out with him.(his ex is also a good friend of mine). ok so the thing is today i was talking to him online and it was so akward, we had nothing to talk about. i think he started to like me but didn't think i'd like him back so i dont know what's going on there. my question is...finally...that i dont know how to start up a conversation again. he's my best friend and it's so weird not talking to him like we normally do. so how do i start a conversation with him and now that i asked his ex about going out with him i feel like we can start a relationship. but i dont know how to start it when i know he's still not ready for a relationship???

I would probably just go on with your friendship as it was, and if it doesn't get better than that just point out that its awkward and see if he agrees. If he does then be like, well why? and talk about it, if he doesn't then that might mean that he doesn't like you back and doesn't like the fact that you like him. Also, you have to keep an open mind that he might just be rebounding you so, i wouldn't do anything with him for a while, just hugs. and try talking to him a lot more, then after like a few weeks remind him that you still like him, assuming you still will. But for now, just comfort him. And talk to him as much as possible, hope i helped!

Well im 14 and i have been with my boy friend for 9 months. and lately he hasnt really been talking to. kinda like avoiding me. i dont know what i should. i mean i call him and try to talk to him. and normally we talk for a couple hours. but he tends to be like "i gotta go bye" after like 15 minutes on the phone. i dont know if its something i did.

what should i do?!

Talk to him about it, nobody else can answer his actions but him.

I don't know if my boyfriend is controlling. He wants to know where I am and who I'm with at all times. He says he loves me all the time and he wants to get married when I turn 18. I'm just about to turn 17. He wants all my time and he calls me a million times a day and expects me to spend all my free time with him. I don't think hes controlling, but I'm not sure. I love him though. How can I tell?? Is there any certain way?? Please help me figure this out.

He's not controlling, maybe Obbsessed, but not controlling. He wants to know who your with and where you are so he knows your not with like other guys, cause he is jealous your not with him. He likes you A LOT. HOPE I HELPED!

I like this guy but I have heard that he may be gay is there any way of telling ?
please give me some answers

Ask him.

well I`m a 14-year-old girl and I`d say I`m pretty mature for my age. Although I`m a freshman, I understand things that most kids in my grade wouldn`t. I`m in the highest English class and I find many upperclass men relating to me more then anyone, because they say that I don`t act like a Freshman, nor do I look like one. but thats the thing. I can barely relate to the kids in my grade, especially the boys. I`m not trying to steriotype, but its the majority of them. I hate when I try to talk to them and they just end up saying or doing something stupid. I don`t exactly WANT a boyfriend, but it`d be nice, but I can`t find one in my grade, and I`m not about to date an upperclass boy. It pisses me off because all of my friends have had a long-term boyfriend already, and I haven`t had one. I don`t know what to do! Any advice?

It doesn't really matter how old they are. If you find that you like one and they like you, I don't think there is ANY problem with that and I really don't think anybody else would. So what if all your friends have had one? Once you find somebody, go for it, no matter who it is.

HOPE I HELPED!

In English yesterday, everyone was walking around talking because it was the last day of school before break. I jokingly told one of my friends I'd like to go give him a hug, and, long story short, before too long all the girls in the class were in on this. Everyone told me 'do it, do it' so I finally walked up and asked 'hey, could I get a hug?' He said yes, to my surprise, and gave me a really nice hug. =)
My question is, what can I do from here? I'm sure he probably picked up somewhere that I like him, but I'm not positive. Should I ask him to hang out over break? He lives right by me, and I see him around sometimes. So what can I do?

No, you don't want to freak him out, just wait until you see him next and just say hey, maybe give him your number if he doesn't already have it and gradually talk to him and such.

15/f
I like my brother's friend (17 years old), and he's really nice to me (says things like "You're magic" and "You're on fire") and he always opens my doors.

But he doesn't look at me much (unless he's talking to me)...even when he's sitting directly across from me, or when it's just me, my brother, and him. When I point something out to my brother, he looks at where I point but doesn't look at me.

By the way, he's very outgoing.

So, why doesn't he look at me? I'm not sure if he hates or likes me. And, could he like me?

It could mean he likes you but doesnt want your brother to know. and knows he cant and shouldnt like you. so he tries not to

well my other question was about the boy who got really hott after i moved away and then like i was trying to get his attention...ya you would just have to read it. but, anyway, if we did start going out, what is something i could do to flirt with him and show him that im not completely prude, and im not a ho. like, ya, i know hold his hand and stuff but i mean, that can get boring, unless you really like the person, which i do, but whats something new i can do? oh ya and the only time i would see him is after lunch on break outside the school.

ask to hang out with him, like on the weekend or something but ask one of your friends to come too so its not akward. but yeah then just tell him you like him then, whats the worst that can happen? him telling you he doesnt like you back? so what!

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