believe it or not you just answered your question. what i would do i would tell him exactly what you told us. tell him how you feel. you dont want to be too controlling. your scared you'll lose him or something will happen. you just dont think it will turn out well. your just uncomfortable. but also ask his opinion. see if he wants to go. if he does then... i would say let him go. just thinking about it seems hard. but tell him how you feel first. so he knows. but i hope everything works out. just look at your question. tell him what you told me and everybody else and that should make it cleat. just explain it to him. talk to him at school tomorrow and hope everything goes as you planned. good luck!!!
Bluebell78

i think its hard to talk to guys becuz you get nervous. your afraid your gonna screw up and look like an idiot and get made fun of. you might also just not have the ability to go up to a guy and start talking to him like other girls do.it takes you alot of courage to go up to them. you amy also feel insecure about yourself and in other words low self-esteem or dont wanna talk to them because you think you look bad and stuff like that. your afraid what they may think of you. you may alsso think that you dont have anything in common with a guy but you really do or you need conversation starters. most of the time its just nerves. fear of what they will think of you. or you may be afraid to talk to them because they're so popualr and you may not be or something like that. well i hope i helped you and ask me anymore questions anytime. just go up to that guy and think as if he were just one of your girlfriends. :)

well "smack that" by akon seems to suit most guy's "love" tastes..

but truthfully try some vertical horizon. I specifically like the "your a God" and" "best i ever had" by them.. and im not gay so yeah. heres something else. make sure you know what he is interested in like country, pop, rock and roll, hip hop whatever. but thats my thought but after you find out look from there. im having trouble with this question becuz i dont know the age and that would really be helpfull. if you want you can email me back. dont ask him because that might give it away. ask like his friends or something. well i did the best i could without knowing his age so i hope this helped you a little. good luck and like i said you can email me again so i can know his age then i can give you a better answer.
Bluebell78

im kinda in the same boat your in.im not that crazy about it even though i want to. i think you do. you probably getused to it and dont mind it becuz your used to it. YES!!!! guys (that are stuck up and jerks) judge you on your kissing skills. but i highly doubt all guys do that. the nice charming ones dont mind. now that i do know. they care less about looks and the way you kiss and when you meet that perfect guy he will apreciate you for who you are and not the way you kiss. i hope i helped you. feel free to email me anytime.
Bluebell78

your brother cant tell you what to do. so what if your brother has issues with your BF brother. its his problem not yours and its your life. you can date who you want to date. you need to tell him that your not going to stop seeing him. you have strong feelings and whatever history him and your Bf had then to get over it. you and only you make decisions for yourself. so dont flip out. i say keep seeing him and just talk to your brother. i hope i helped and if you have anymore questions then email me at scdgirl288( the "at" sign. my keys arent working)yahoo.com good luck!!

Its not your fault. no matter what you think. I feel that it could be a joke. he only went out with you to see what your reaction was and what his friends would think. I think you should just forget about him. hes not anything special if hes gonna do that so dont try to get him back. that would be pointless. but move on. find someone else. His friends could've also told him to break up with you or not to be mean but maybe he started to like another girl and watch if its true hee'll do the same thing to her. anyways dont get down on yourself. like i said. hes nothing special if hes gonna do that. your better that that and a guy should like you for who you are like personality and looks. not just if your hot or not. well hope i answered your question as best as i could. please feel free to email me anytime at scdgirl288@yahoo.com. bye.

Bluebell78

well in my own opinion the guy likes you but " he is somewhat afraid to tell you becoz he is also trying to figure out if you will like him also its like a case of misunderstanding you are trying to know if he likes you and he is trying also to know if you like him also , the best thing to get anywhere with this guy, you're gonna have to be bold and make the first move, as scary as that might seem. But you have nothing to lose, so go for it! This guy might like you and wants to take things slow. he may not want to get into a fast relationship and is taking his time to know you more since you just met. you can try asking him why he doesnt IM you back and see what his response is.Heres the big whammy which takes alot of courage. you can ask him. its really not as bad as it seems. i did it once. sure i was scared but i did it and you never know untill you try.make sure you Don't try to rush anything! If he likes u let him chase you. I have noticed that most guys like the thrill of the chase. For now be his friend, and don't put any pressure on him. you might scare him away. It sounds as though he is slowly coming around. You might be best off just hanging back to see how it plays out. Considering you are both young, he may still be in the "I don't like girls very much" stage. When guys are young, they are still trying to find themselves. Girls mature faster than guys, so don't worry about just this one guy. Let him come to you. If you are on the Internet, you never know if he has any of his guy friends with him. Guys don't like their friends knowing they like someone. Things get said, and they don't like to be embarrassed. thas just a thought though about not telling his friends. Boys are strange creatures by nature,i think you are both shy,so just talk to him when he talks to you,and sometimes its ok to talk first,part of him still wants to be a boy and part of him is trying to learn to be a man,friends of either sex is always a great way to start as well. okay well i hope i helped you as best as i could and sorry i got to answer this so late. i got caught up in my homework. good luck and i hope i did my best. email me again if you have anymore questions. its scdgirl288@yahoo.com my name is also Brianna. bye and good luck again.

it is way okay not to be interested in guys yet at this age. dotn feel bad. everybody matures in different ways. be yourself and dont try to date or act like you like someone just because your freinds are. you probably are into boys a little bit but maybe not fully yet. and thats good. you get to concentrate more on school and dont have to try to be anyone your not just to empress a guy you like. well anyways i hope i helped and feel free to email me anytime at scdgirl288@yahoo.com.

What i would say is that you never know untill you try and thats the best you can do. i say go for it. he may be waiting for you to make the first move since he is shy. you want to kiss him and he wants to kiss you. to bring up your courage just do it. go for it. like i said you never no untill you try. and you know if he doesnt want to kiss you back then its not your fault. you tried and thats all you can do. i really dont know what else to tell you. i know how you feel. it was when i was a freshman and i did it cause he wouldnt make the move. and let me tell you i was so scared and so nervous and i kept asking my older sister for advice (shes 5 years older. shes had experience) and she said the only thing she could tell me was never know untill you try. give it a shot. hope i helped. any more questions feel free to email me at scdgirl288@yahoo.com. good luck!! you can do it!!

yeah i think its still that way. some of them are like that still. they are SO interested in you. they think its funny and fun and stuff but secretly they still like you. i honestly think they grow out of it. it tkes them longer to mature for girls remember!! hope i helped!!

Bluebell78

i would talk to him and ask what his problem is. friends dotn really get that creepy. like call him and tell him that its freaking you out before you go to the movies. he should get the picture then. that would freak me out too. i really say call him and ask him.

you cant really make a guy fall in love with you. i didnt get my boyfriend till i was 14 and know im fifteen. yeah its hard. everyone would talk about their boyfriends and evrything about them when i was 13 and 14. i was so sad becuase i never thought i would get one but then i did. i think God will give you one when your ready. and after i got so sad i just forgot about trying to get him and whatever to like me. i just forgot about the thing and just had fun. it was like who cares. ill get one when i get one. you have to stop trying so hard and just go with life. God will figure out the time to give you one and thats that. i think every person in the world finds a boyfriend or girlfriend so dont woryy about it. your going into 8th grade and who cares if you dont have one in highschool. i still have 2 friends who havent had a boyfriend yet. but that never gets them down. you have 8th grade and 9th grade and all the grades after that. who knows. maybe there is some romance instore for you this year but dont get so mad over yourself. heres a tip if you try to get a boyfriend. be yourself. guys dont want you to try and be someone else. they want to see the real you. im not saying that you arent but its just a tip. just dont get depressed and sad all over it. i know because that is hoe EXACTLY how i was but i had my sister for help and you can talk to someone about it too. ive talked to my mom about it before and it wasnt embarrising. just wait and dont try so hard. well I hope i answered your question as best as i could. if you have anyother questions feel free to ask me one. email me if you want at hsmfan15xo@yahoo.com. Good Luck!!

there is nothing you really can do because its her parents choice. take this from me becuz this is how my parents are. cant date till college. but my sister is turning 18 this year and id like to see if she can date yet. if you love her then you can wait for her of if your up to it talk to her parents and tell them how you feel about her and see if they give you a chance. i hope i answered your question. please feel free to ask me any more questions!! Good Luck!!

no its not weird. if you guys are truly in love you shouldnt be ashamed of your selves. i know this may sound weird but its just an example but you've seen the age difference between katie holmes and tom crusie (really popular movie stars). almost 11 or something but no one cares. its your bissness. dont feel bad about it. I hope i did my best to answer your question but if you have anymore questions fell free to ask me!! Good Luck!!

just tell him that your not ready to kiss him yet and tell him why. he should understand. if your not ready just wait till you feel you want to do it. you dont have to do what he or anybody else tells you to do. its your choice and he will have to respect that. and if you want to do well... just do it. get over your fear. once you do it you'll feel so good. i know you'll be nervous but the only way to get over your kissing fear is to confront it. just try it for a sec and if you dont feel comfortable with it and pull away just tell him your still not that comfortable with it still and tell him you really want to but your just not ready and if he breaks up with you for that then he is not worth it. well i hope i helped and answered your question as best as i could. if you have anymore questions please feel free to email me for a question!! Good Luck!!

Bluebell78

well just go up and talk to him. ask him like how many kids has he seen or like how his day has been. ask him to hang out with you on your break or ask him out. you can do that. ask him if he wants to go out to lunch sometime. talk to him about TV shows or music or life. whatever he likes. if he likes you he'll find every reason to talk to yoou. he'll find every excuse in the world. he will flirt,
Notice how he behaves when he is around you. It really is not that hard to tell if a guy likes you if you can look at his behaviour objectively. If he is very friendly and talkative (more than he usually is) when around you, or if he is the opposite, shy and avoids you (when he usually isn't) then he probably likes you. Watch him watching you. Does he stare at you for a period longer than normal? If he tries to be near you and suddenly takes an interest in things you like, he likes you.
If he talks to you and acknowledges you in some way, this is a sure sign he likes you!
If he tries to make you laugh or says stuff sarcastically that he thinks is funny, again he most likely likes you.
Lastly, if he is nervous around you, he likes you. good luck!!

no i would keep it. it can be a long distance relationship. but COMMUNICATION is the key to that.you could see him every summer and stuff. dotn kill it. keep it!! but it is your choice. if you dont want to do all of that long distance thing just tell him. but i would save. if you have feelings for him and dont want to lose him keep the relationship going. i hope i helped!!

Bluebell78

i9 say just go find someone new. forget about him. its not worth waiting for. i think he has found himself someone he likes better than you or that the reason why he told you to wait for a month is becuz he was messin with you. anyways just go on. if you dont want to wait then dont. hes not controlling you. go on with life and find someone new.

Bluebell78

i would just be his friend but if he said wait for him his lyin or he would have ended it with his girlfreind already. go on. its a waste of your time. just tell him that to forget it and just to be friends. hope this works for you and i know alot of girls are saying the same thing. good luck. search for someone new.

now you know the right thing to do would be to help them and not to tear them apart by talking about eachother. its really not worth losing your friendship over this. i just wouldnt talk to him as much. im not rying to be mean or anything but i think the reason your getting jealous is becuz he is such a great guy and everyone gets jealous. dont take that personally. you have to be happy for her. keep helping them. its the right thing to do. just dont talk to him to much so he doesnt make you go over the edge with jealousy.another thing. try just to be with your friend without her boyfriend more often if you dont do so allready. that should cool you off.

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