Its this girl i met a month ago she said she had a real good time with me. She also told me when shes was around me everything was clearer. i told her she special to me and i really enjoy talking to her, she responded by saying the feelings mutual. we talk everyday our conversations usually last for an hour or more. But the problem is i haven't seen her sense the day we met, she blames her job should i leave her alone or keep pursuing her
i think you need to pay her a surprise visit, go to her job, see how she is doing, bring her something thought so she want think you don't believe her.. then go from there.
Askshay
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Ok,so about a month ago I was dating this guy.I had liked him for a long time and he sort of played me when we were just friends making me think he liked me.Then we dated around a month ago and we lasted 2 weeks and he broke up with me saying I was "too young for him" ....when I'm only a year younger than him? So I said ok(he broke up with me right before valentines day too) I actually found out the real reason he broke up with me is because I wouldn't have sex with him.He said I was good for nothing but looks! So I tried to move on and after a month I'm emotionally exhausted of acting like I don't care about him.I tried so hard to forget him,I quit talking to him,I wouldn't even look at him,I started talking to hoards of other guys,even his worst enemy! But I still miss him,so,so much! All my friends hate him because he's been known to be a player,but they told me if it makes me happy to go for it.One of my friends is good friends with him and she tells me he talks about me alot,but its not very appropriate talk.Its stuff about how he likes me and wants to screw me and he wants me to give him blowjobs and how he wants to hit my G-spot and all this other sexual stuff.I know its bad but,I fell hard for him I wouldn't ever have sex with him or anything else and he knows that and that's why he ended the relationship in the first place.He always asks me if I hate him and why I don't talk to him anymore but,I just thought itd be the best thing to do! But he makes it so hard to forget him when he texts me,always looks at me,talks about me to my friends,comes to my locker,tries to talk to me! So the question is based on the information I gave you do you think I should take him back and try it again,I just want him to change he wants sex and I want a relationship.
I don't know,there's plenty of other guys that like me,and they're not ugly...I just don't want them and I don't know why? So any help is appriciated thanks in advance!(:
By the way I'm 14 and he's 15 if that helps with anything.
ok let's say this first, i am proud of you, you are indeed to young to be think or having sex right now,
if this guy really like you then he will respect your wishes in not doing the DEW yet, having sex should be with someone you love not to just get his approval, he sound like you need to freak him first in order to be his girl,boys at that age only think of sex, personal if a guy keep putting pressure on the fact then he aint good anyway.
so basely follow your heart which seems like its in the right directions , wait till you are ready , L.I.G. HIM honey ,he indeed not worth the time ,effort,or the topping to go with anything.
Shay
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my boyfreind for about 10 years said he just want to live together but just be friends i really love him and i know he have another girl on the side but if i don't let him move in with me he might leave what should i do
confuse.
i wound not say he's your boyfriend because you say's he have another female on the side if he was your man then you should be all he need and the next thing is living with you on an friendship level is indeed an NO for the simple reason is he will be bringing his female friends to your house when every he wants because he lives there and you are just friends instead of lovers you do not need that kind of drama it will only piss you off and then you will snap i should know i was there when i was in my early twentist it's not worth it at all so find you someone who will lovw you in return the way you needs to be love okay
i hope this help
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I was dating this guy for about a year and it was going really well and we got on so well! About a month ago he dumped me I am mixed raced and he is white he said me being mixed raced confuses things to much and he cant get to serious with me becouse I am mixed? I still dont know what he means as we dated for a year unless he finds me weird.
okay there is nothing wrong with you so dont put your self down like thatokay next - he just use that excuse to break up with you because he was seeing someone else and did not want you to ind out about it so youshould just let him flow and move on to someone else who will love you for you an not for the color of your skin, you will find that person soon i am here if you need me you can email anytime or visit me at www.dear-askshay.com
enter your question and i will holla back soon
i hope this help
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Okay there's this guy that I've been talking to since August of 2008.... I'm blk and 21 yrs old, he's whte and 31 (if it helps any). He has a son by a woman who cheated on him with his best friend which he was engaged to at the time (so if he dosen't really tust women I understand).
Anyhow I have to admit we're pretty close now... we've gotten closer I would say since New Year's... we've been on a few dates, and what not and overall you can tell there's a vibe between us and it seems as if we've known eachother for years. I'm proud to say we've taken things really slow until recently...
Well just this past saturday we both went to a party together where we FINALLY shared our first kiss and then we went and got a hotel together and had a "night cap" (yes with the happy ending)... I can honestly say I love him... and I know he cares alot about me... and nothing is awkard between us even though it happened...
So I was wondering what could be done to get us to that next level... I'm ready if he ready, but we still both two shy and stubborn people... any ideas?
If you love him and he feels the same way then make that move , plan an romantic dinner you want that night to be special so it will be special and romantic, so as i said make that romantic dinner for two and place an rose on the table and rose petals on the floor and bed/ bath water and some nice slow music and learn how to do the belly dance it will make all nature rise in him and once dinner is finish then have an slow dance together and then take him to the room an give him an performance of an belly dance an watch how happy he will be now you might not beable to finish the whole dance (i know i was not) , then have fun and head for the tub for the next round.
i hole this help.
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when a guy tells me that he isnt glad he is diabetic because im so0 sweet hat does that mean.. does it mean he rlly likes me.. i mean i really think he likes me.. plz answer and i will rate U.. thanks
girl that means he like you an whole lot, stop playing and get with him
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My boyfriend and I haven't been together long but we were very close friends before we became a couple. We met just after I split up with my ex, who I was very upset about and took a long time to get over. I liked my current boyfriend for a long time although I still wasn't over my ex. When we finally got together, I was really happy and I can safely say that I no longer have any feelings towards my ex.
My current boyfriend and I both have alot of problems at home and always look to each other for support. However, recently I find that all I want is some stability, not a boyfriend who has just as many issues as me. We always have some form of problem with each other and I'm constantly finding faults in him. I worry that I'm only with him because I don't want to be on my own. I love him and he is like my best friend but I can't continue to do this all the time.
I really am at a loss as to what to do. I don't want to break up with him, but deep down I keep thinking I have to. I'm considering asking him for a break from each other, so we can both think about our real feelings but I'm worried that will cause more problems. What should I do?
Okay, all relationships has it's ups and downs i should know because i been there and do understand how you feel,but to be in an realtionship it takes two and patients, so try to keep it togehter, if the two of you love each other than you can work it out but if not then break but don't do it because he have problems at home and you don't want to hang with him and his issues, do it because you two realize it's the best thing to do,but remember real true love will always have baggage that is been carried along.
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Ok so i recently had sex with a jerk who i don't talk to anymore now i am still sort of interested in my very first love he goes to high school with me but is a freshmen because he failed but he has always been thier for me and did love me at one time i would like to have him back in my life but of course he has new girls and has moved on also so should i send him a myspace message because i don't have his cell anymore and tell him how i feel and see if we could rekindle what we had or should i not and just let it be
okay will yeah, send him an myspace message and make small talk first then wait awhile an see if he feels the same way,Holla Back either her or on myspace
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My boyfriend is such a jerk to me! We have been together for a cuple of years now in a long distance relationship. He comes to visit me every 3 months but its such a drag to convince him! He is always making me feel bad and saying mean things to me. He is a jealous control freak! I feel that its my fault beacuse I let him do that to me in the first place. I've never been a party girl,I would say that im a stay at home girl. I dont have much friends..Im always with my mother..to me shes like my friend, sicne I share with her everything. I'm pretty confused i don't know what to do I really love him and i know that he loves me too but hes hurting mee verbaly and i know the consequences of that but i just can't let go of him. i live in US and he live in Mexico and i am willing to leave everything for him!! I know that its such a stupid attitude!!
The big problem here is because he doesn't trust me at all and I have told him that I am willing to do anything to show him that he can trust me. He tells me that I probably cheat on him and stuff like that. But why would i cheat on him? What would be the point of wasteing money on phone calls on wasting all this time with him i i has someone else right? I feel so depreate!! What can I do? I feel like i have tried everything and nothing seems to work! I just don't want to let go him just like that. I truly love him. We have talked many times of marrige. He will be turning 21 and ill be turning 19 soon.
So what can i do!
okay, i am going to give it to you straight and simple, if he ia accusing you of cheating hello he is doing it , yes he is cheating, when you accuse someone of something that means you are doing it yourself and any time there is verbal abuse then down the line it will be pysical abuse you seems like an nice girl and i normally tell people to follow your heart or you gut feelings but in your case let him go, because he sound like to me like he is controlling and you don't need that from personnal experience once you get to deep you can't get out so let him go, you can find someone better and who will treat you like an princess you are.
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my boyfriend call me last night after we had sex for the first time and told me it was over ,i am so hurt i feel like i been use did he break up with me because i am fat or what i weight 190ibs and i am 5'6 is that the reason.
there is nothing wrong with your weight you are not fat you r heathly he just use you to get what he waned and that was sex you are what the new age say phat so don't be upset it's his lost okay just learn rom this lesson to wait to the time is right, take an hot bubble bath and get him out your head.
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hi askshay, I AM REALLY REALLY DEPRESSED!! PLEASE HELP ME!
MY STORY: well in childhood i had a mild problem in urinating which was latter corrected, now at the age of 25 my penis though well developed still is small in length!!!!!! yes to add to it recently my doc said that I CANNOT FATHER A CHILD!!!!!! since i dont have enough sperms!!!! However he did say that the size though small was adequate for me to satisfy. I AM SHATTERED FRIENDS AND I M REALLY DEPRESSED!!! I M TRULY IN LOVE WITH A GIRL AND WE HAVE BEEN GOING AROUND FROM PAST 10 Years and i will definately tel her every thing!!!! but idont know WHY ME WHY??????? I HAVE STOPPED CONCENTRATING ON MY WORK, MY PERSONAL LIFE IS AFFECTED, you know how being able to father a child is treated as masculine in our world!! i dont know what to do. HOWEVER I AM SURE THAT I CAN KEEP MY GIRL HAPPY AND SATISFIED AND WE DID GET PHYSICAL SOME TIME AROUND AND WE HAVE GOOD CHEMISTRY BUT SOMEHOW I DONT KNOw HOW SHE WILL TAKE THIS NEWS (she is 21 years old)??!!!! OH GOD PLEASE HELP!! AND YOU FRIENDS PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO BECAUSE I AM REALLY DOWN.......PLEASE ADVICE ME. I found to be one of the right person since you are matured enough for this question.....and i really need your help!
okay that an deep breathe and relax now if your girlfriend is happy and satisfy then you have nothing to worry about if you are planning on being with her for ever talk to her and let her know your conditions and ask her to marry u on valentine's day and look for option for adoptions if the two of you want children so don't stress it will be alright.
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ok hi
i was talking to this boy and we were just friends with benfits but i really liked him and although he told me he really liked me i dont really believe it. so earlier this week i left him a voicemail telling him i wanted to just be friends and nothing eles because i fell in love once and got hurt and i didnt want that to happen again. so now hes not talking to me and not answering my calls and i think i hurt him but all the time when i tried saying sorry and talking to him he wont talk back. so should i just foget about him or keep trying to talk to him.
sound like this boy thought you was easy and tried to get into your pants instead having an relationship so let him bounce there are other guys out there for you, so don't sweat it
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kayy i really like thisguy but whenever im around him i get all nervous and cant walk or even breathe .. is this normal ..i know this sounds like a weird question but how do i get past all this to be able to talk to him calmly and flirty?
just go to him and start an regular conversation you never know he might got the fever for you
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What are some signs that a guy likes you? Preferrably a guy you're friends with/talk to a lot in school? I've never had a boyfriend and no one's ever liked me as far as I know so I don't know this stuff too well lol.
the way you can tell if an guy like you if he 1. keep playing with you 2.always around you 3.wanting to seat next to you instead of his friends 4. always looking at you 5.ask you out
i hope this help good luck
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so the other day, i had my period but it was almost over .. soo my boyfriend was at my house and i didnt tell him i had my period .. but i diddnt worry cuz it was the last day. soo we started fooling around and my flow started getting really heavy and he was eating me out and all of a sudden he looked at me and there was blood all over his mouth!!!!!!! now he cant even look at me in the eyes. i dont know what to do! please help me!
that's an big no.no you should have told him your girlfriend was visting now he is man because you did not say something or tried to stop him give him some time to forget and then tell himyou are sorry for not telling him and you thought your girlfriend was gone, and next time wait 2 days before plessure.
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I think Im over him but Im not sure... Somedays I can't stop thinking about him.. Somedays I don't think about him.. How do I knw If I am REALLY over him??
been there done that if you see him again that will tell you if you have feelings for him othink about hte goods and the bads as well
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okay my bf broke up with me not even a month ago. i was devastated and under the circumstances that he was telling me i shoulda said fuck you, but i stayed around and i messed around with him even though he had another gf already. bc he said he 'still loved me' B.S. right? i didnt know whether it was or not. his best friend tyler begain talking to me after he broke up with me. he told me that he has had a crush on me. i told my ex and he got really pissed (the purpose of telling him). but as i talked to tyler i learned he cheated on me 3 tiems while we were datng and he is tellling me all theis stuff about my ex that i didnt know and it pissed me off. do you think he maybe exagerateing bc he likes m e or telling me the truth. im kind of in the middle because i don't really know/.
okay if you two have broke up then why are you telling him what other people is saying? and then your ex bestg friend got an thing for you so on that sitution you need to follow your heart on that.
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My boyfriend doesnt call me when I ask him too. He always yells at me about something. He hurts my feelings 24/7 and expects me to wait on him hand and foot. I do everything for him and yet that still isnt enough. everything he has iv bought it. I feel worthless and I get stressed out with him and we get into screaming fights because he wont let me do what I want but I have to let him do what he wants. He used to be friends with this guy and I cheated on my boyfriend with him like 2 years ago. I know it was wrong and I admitted it but this "friend" of his keeps lying to him. and everyone thinks im the liar. What should I do?
jirst of all i am going to keep it real ,straigtht to the ?????? point
get the ???? away from him , now its mentallly. then physically, i been there done that LEAVE
there are aways other guys for you , you don't need that from anyone....
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Lets say you were intoxicated to a point where you ended up blanking out and dont remember every detail of the night, and someone tried to get you to have sex with them by touching you where they shouldnt but you you managed to tell them no you cant do it so you didnt have sex, didnt kiss them, or touch them back. Would you consider that cheating??
PS: drinking is only ok in moderation and I dont think I will be touching any for a long time. That could have turned to a dangerous situation and I am aware of that.
no it does not consist of cheating because you stop and went yourway.
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my boyfriend broke up with me bc he said im 2 down on my self he was like were done. he also said i put 2 much emotional baggage on him.. i am rlly saddd.. but is it right for a guy to break up bc of me being too down on myself..im really sad
first of all you need to love yourself , which means stop being so down on yourself , look into the mirror and you will see that you are beautiful
all Gods creatures are beautiful so stop being like that, secondly if he can't comfront you in your time of needs then forget him., you don't need noone that going to make you feel worst then you are already feel, take and hot bubble bath imagine candles around you and take a deep breathe
and say i'm BEAUTIFUL,
Keepin it real
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