I sorta like this guy who's a close friend, but he has a girlfriend. She's not exactly a friend but she's also more then an acquaintance. Is it worng that I like him? and wanna be more then friends? Of course I could never do anything until he and her break up, but I just wanna know if what im feeling is wrong? Im 15/f and he is 16
Can anyone really control who they fall in love with? the simple answer is no, but it's not the feelings that are wrong, it's what we do with those emotions and whether we act upon them the right way or the wrong way. It's very honorable for you to hold off on pursuing anything until he is available and this will help build a deeper friendship and respect with the man you love, so if there is a time where you can be more than friends, then the foundation is already set for a wonderful relationship. Good luck,honey.
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Last year I admitted to my wife of 3 years that I have been a crossdresser and bi all of my life. I am 31 years old. I also admitted having relations with several men during my life. She took me by surprise when she told me that she is supportive of all of this and wants to be part of it. She likes buying clothes for me and helping to dress me up. Occasionally we go out together as girlfriends. When we are making love she likes me to be dressed in the clothes she picks out for me. She also likes it when I tell her about the sex I have had with men. Recently she has been asking me to go out with her dressed up in search of a guy to pick up so she can watch me have sex with him. I don't have a problem making it with a guy but I am not sure if I should do it in front of my wife. She say's that she want's me to do this for her to help her understand my crossdressing. Is this something I should agree too?
Honey, here's the deal, you dropped a bombshell on your wife last year and she is taking it really, really well. In fact, to well.Most women are typically more emotional than physical and would typically not want to watch their partner with someone else unless it's to control the situation and make sure the other person knows that their territory is already marked and there is no emotional attachment that goes with the sex. Most guys would either be in the dog house or divorced right now, instead your wife is not only being supportive but being pro-active to your needs. However, her extreme acceptance is also telling me that she may have a real concern about where she stands in your life, as well as insecurities she may have regarding the marriage and therefore, overcomponsating for those emotions. The fact that she actually wants to watch you be with another man also tells me that she wants to be a part of everything you do in this matter to make sure that even if you do go outside of the marriage to fulfill your sexual needs, that you will always go back to her to fulfill your emotional needs, hence the explaination above. It may also suggest that she has a strong desire to also be a part of every aspect of your life, because you are married and have entered into a partnership, and this may be the one thing that will destroy the marriage, but by showing her on-going support and devotion may make you either change your ways or at least establish her continued exsistance in your life. Either way, i feel there is alot of insecurity that your wife is feeling.Sometimes actions speak louder than words and even if the partner dousn't say what they feel, they will often show it. My advice is to either sit down with her one on one or with a councilor who can mediate, and discuss how she really feels about you having sex with other people outside of the marriage and why she she feels the need to be there. This will most likely be her biggest concern. Establish your needs and what you expect or desire from her and voice what you feel her role should be in this situation. discuss with her why you are uncomfortable with her being in the same room while you are having sex with someone else and then reassure her of her of her place in your life. Also, analyse why it makes you uncomfortable to have her in there, this may open up some other issues about the marriage that hasn't been addressed yet, such as your need to go outside of the marriage for sexual fulfillment. Then Allow her to voice her concerns and encourage her to open up about you having sex with other people, address her concerns and insecurities and then try to work on a compromise that will meet both of your needs. This may take some time nd work, but could result in a stronger relationship with your wife or a decision to live a life that is more suitable for both you and her. I wish you the best of luck.
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so my boyfriend and i are going on three years together and we both just turned eighteen. we live together with a friend but we cant support ourselves yet............so we get a phone call one night saying my boyfriend of three years has a kid with the girl he lost his virginity too which was like five months before we got together. how do i handle this? i want kids but i want them to be mine and way way down the road. i love him but does that mean i have to love the baby too? what should i do?
I find it pretty ironic that he has a child that is three years old and it has never been brought up until now? Either your boyfriend has known about it or she may not be completely honest with him. The first thing is for your boyfriend to get a DNA test to make sure that the child is his. Once he is certain that it is his, it will be his responsibility to take care of the child. As for you, if he has known all along and has not told you, it may be time for you and him to have a serious talk. This isn't something that should be kept from someone you are in a long term relationship with and these are issues that need to be addressed. If he just found out and it is indeed his, you are not obligated to love the child or take care of the child, however, if you choose to stay in a relationship with him, then you are agreeing to support him in whatever needs to be done for the child to grow up healthy and happy. The reality is, is that things will change. The question is is whether or not you are willing to make the sacrifice for this relationship. Over time you will also play a role in this child's life, simply because you are a part of his life. Your combined income with partly go towards child support, medical and any other expences. Part of your time with your boyfriend will be shared with your boyfriend. The question you need to answer is if you are willing to live your life like that. If the answer is no, then you may want to reconsider this relationship. I hope this helps.
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Well here is some info about our situation. I am 17 f from Canada, he is 17 m from Usa. We met on the site omegle and ever since have been talking everyday for almost 13 months. We have never met in person. we only see eachother on skype from cam and voice. We have been planning for him to come up and meet me this summer. But...we are still waiting to see if his parents are going to allow him to or not. But there is also an issue of us getting jobs in the summer as well as him gettin the money to come here. Passport and wat not he has 2 get, but hes parents havent said if he is allowed to or not yet. so 4 or 5 months we are thinking a bout meeting. Dunno if its gonna happen though, weve been waiting for an answer for 13 months pretty much. I love him. He loves me. I know we are 17, but we are capable of love and it is my decision if i love some one or not. so please dont say i dont know wat love is. Yes everything is over the computer...you can still fall in love.
Well...i was talking to my cousin lastnit at a hockey game, and she was really talking to me about my whole long distance thing. ALot of wat she said made sense, and i have actually thought about them for months now. the idea that say he couldnt make it to come see me...what do we do then? still sit on the computer everyday and hope hell come next year? I love him so much, but my cousin said that ill regret not dating and doing stuff because im waiting for him. which is true, i feel that way. We both think that no one is going to come our way and that we are the ones for eachother. My cousin also said how his gonna be in college for 4 years...in that 4 years how many times is he gonna see me? which i tihnk is going to be very low not to metion its going to be harder because well only b able to see eachother for like 2 wks then he goes bk. There is alot more things on my mind, but i cant put them into words.
What i am asking is...should we still talk to eachother, but we can still date other people, as long as they know about the whole situation? should we try and do this because our love is so strong for eachother...in the mean while we have no clue how we are gonna be in person because its completly differnt? Should we end it and only b friends, but the thought of that makes me sick...cause we are so simular, he makes me so happy, he makes me laugh, he cares for me so much and does so much for me and hes always here for me. Iv never had a bf before...never kissed or had any physical contact with a guy ever. There is a guy i have been talkint to that wanted to hang out sometime...but id want my first date with Jake (the guy frm usa i talk to), my first kiss with him etc cause it means so much to the both of us, i just dont wanna do that for just anyone one.
There is alot on my mind at this point, it is extremely hard to do this, i cry at points because i just want to feel him or know how he smells or kisses ect. We are young, we do understand the positive and negative parts of this realtionship.
I just dont want us to regret dating within that 4 years or missing out on potential experenices. I dont want us to waste our lives on the computer when we could b in a real relationship with that physical intimacy. but we are perfect for eachother just no in the perfect situation. I cant see myself being with another guy besides him cause he has everything i want and need.
What do you think? Are you in the same situation?
what do you think we should do? Sorry for this being really long...i just have alot on my mind lol.
Ps. He is going to college next year...where there will me tons of new people and girls...so i think in ways us talking to eachother but we can still date is a good way...but he doesnt like it. he doesnt want to loose me. He was on verge of tears lastnit cause he doesnt want me to be with another guy. this is really hard decision...i just need some adive? thank you so much for your time and effort, i really appreciate it! thank you
Before throwing away something you might regret, here is what I suggest. Meet his parents and have him meet yours. Get both of your parents to talk and both your parents and his parents will feel more comfortable with you meeting each other, in fact, they may help out financially, especially if one set of parents are really looking forward to a vacation. If they choose to tag along, let them because it's only for your safty and visa-versa. This will be the best way to see what your feelings for him truely are. The second thing is to examine your feelings and what your fears are about pursuing this relationship. From what is written, you are afraid of wasting your time on a long distance relationship, which could lead to heartbreak, however, no relationship is a waste of time because it teaches us to believe in love. It gives us hope and forces us to get out of our comfort zone and be able to give our hearts to another person. Whether or not it works in the future, is really a mute point. Even marriages that last 25 years could still end up in divorce. No relationship is ever guarenteed. What matter's is that we take the chance. Win or loose, we always win, because we have created special moments that will last a lifetime. if it works out, you could have a beautiful life together. If it dousn't, then you have had some special moments together and a better idea of the type of relationship you desire. If you love him, then love him, whether it be for the moment or a lifetime, but nothing is worse than living with the regret of "what if". I hope this helps.
Angel
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So my baby's father and I broke up officially like a week before Valentine's day . This guy Sam that I like and have known for a while, claims that I never told him on that day , but I did.. not directly like "IM SINGLE" but I told him we didn't have to keep secrets anymore.. Since I've been single we've talked less and less.. I really like this guy and want to give it a shot. He never texts me good morning or good night anymore as we used to wether it was me or him now it's always ME texting him .Because before the baby's father and I broke up he would always text me at random times , and tell me cute stuff.. We even saw each other three times and kissed but not like crazy sexual just cute crush like kisses and then he'd also tell me he was going to take me jetskiing and if I wanted to go to lunch and all these great things. and Now its come to a complete halt, but yet when I text him he still flirts and acts like he's intereseted.. Like today I was picking up my daughter from the babysitter's house after school , and on the way there I saw him and my friend yelled out the window "SAM" and kept going cause I was late but I had to go back that way to go home so I texted him and I said "We have to stop running into eachother like this. " & he was like "Hahaha , I knew it was you for some reason, you need to stop running and say hi !", SO I TOLD HIM "I'll pass by now when I get my daughter." he said "ok" ... When I went back he wasn't there. So I told him, "You say I'm running but when I went back you weren't there", and he said, "he didn't know". Im just so confused by him and Idk what to do. I just want an upfront answer like if he is still interested or not, cause I can just easily leave him alone if he isn't . How would I confront him about that without being to 'clingy' ..or bitchy? Please help me sometimes I'm so dumb found when it comes to guys. : (
Even though you are now available, it sounds like he isn't. There could be a few explainations such as being in a relationship himself, but no matter what the reason you are no longer safe ground for him. You are single and available to pursue a relationship that he has no interest in being in. I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but he's giving your signs that he has no interest in a commited relationship with you. It's time to cut the cord and find the relationship that will good for you and your daughter
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Okay, so my friend found out that the guy i like does like me. The problem is i am 15 and he turns 19 on saturday. 2nd problem... he has a child who turns two in October. I have posted a question about this before a few days ago. But now i have decided i want to try to see if him and i can make this go somewhere. BUT, my mother and I are having serious trust issues with me. She does not want me hanging out with dirtbags, and i told her i did and she flipped. But i want to know how i can tell her that he is 19 and has a child. My mother got pregnant at 16 with my older brother so i want to think of a way to make it sound decently okay. I know it really is not but I want to try it. Does anyone have any kind of way that i can tell her this in the nicest, mature , understanding way? I would HIGHLY appreciate it! Thank you so MUCH!!
Your going to run into alot of obsticles by pursuing a relationship with this man. The first will be possible legal consequences because you are a minor and many states do not recognize adolescents having the legal right to consent to sexual intercourse with an adult, which may eventually lead to grounds for statautory rape. This could get him into alot of trouble, especially if your parents are against this relationship. The second obsticle will be that he dous have a child, so his time will be divided between you and his other responsibilites, such as the child, work, and school if he is going to school. In order for a relationship to work, priority will need to be on the child's best interest and needs from both you and him. Even though the child has a mother, the people in his life will also be a part of the child's life and you will have to take extra care to make sure your actions will be a good role-model for the child. He will need a partner that is mature and will be flexible and understanding about the responsibilities that he must take care of and may not be as emotionally available as someone your own age would be. The expectations on you will also be higher because of the child. The relationship will no be you and him, it will be you , him and baby, so make sure you are ready for this. If you feel that this is still something you want to pursue, then showing your mom how responsible he is for taking care of his child may make her feel more comfortable with you dating him.
I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck, Hun.
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while having oral sex just a bit of my sperms touch my girlfriends vaigaina but she washed in a second but now sheis not getting in periods its 37th day now????????can she be pregnant????????????we even did a test of pregranacy its negative means she is not pregnant so what could be the reason for not getting in periods?????????
It's not uncommon for a woman to be late or even miss a period, especially if she is irregular. I would have take another test in a week and see what it say's. It is possible to get a false negative if the test was taken to soon. She may also want to take notice if she is having any pain, irritation, itching or any other changes in the vaginal area, cramping, nausua or vomiting. If the test is negative after she retakes it and she is not having any other changes, then she may want to wait until next month and see if she get's her period. If she is experiencing some changes or is concerned then she should make an appointment to see a doctor. Only a doctor can tell her for sure whether or not she is pregnant or there is a problem.
I hope this helps.
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I have a boyfriend. He had a girlfriend before me.And he loved her since 7grade.. now his a freshman and they broke up 2months ago&&now his going out with me. But i don't know if he really loves me&&he is honest with me.
Alot of people who have been in a long term relationship that abruptly ends and very soon after gets involved in another relationship may be on the rebound. I don't have enough information to say whether or not this is the case, however there are usually some signs that you will notice if your guy is on the rebound.
What you want to look out for is frequent text messages or phone calls from the previous girlfriend or him acting strange when he gets phone calls or text messages, such as walking away, keeping the phone call very short, or saying that it was nobody when you ask who called. If it is her and he tells you, he may say that he still cares for the person but are just friends. This contact may indicate that emotionally they are not ready to move forward in another relationship.
If he starts becoming secretive and lying to you about where he is or where he is going and with who, then he may not be ready for a serious relationship.
Dous he still have pictures of her in his wallet or stuck on his bedroom wall?
If he suddenly stops returning your phone calls or makes alot of excuses as to why he can't hang out with you, he may not be ready for this relationship.
Though these signs are not a guarentee that he is on the rebound, it is something to look out for.
Take your new relationship slow and if it is for real, your relationship will continue to grow.
I wish you the best of luck.
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thanks. but does every girl bleed after sex? like wat r the odds?
No, not every girl will bleed. It's difficult to say what the chances are, so let me explain why a woman would bleed after loosing her virginity. Most women are born with a membrane that covers the outer area of the vaginal opening. This membrane is called a hymen. When the hymen breaks, this is what causes the bleeding. Some reasons for the lack of bleeding may be that the girl was not born with one, which is not very typical, but possible, if she was in gymnastics other sports, the use of tampons or other varies way's. For more information, you can visit this link or other web-sites that can give you a more detailed description about the subject.
http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen.
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Age: 20
Female
I need advice concerning my boyfriend. We've been together for nearly 5 years now. He has been depressed since he was a child, and he still remains depressed. He loves me very much and he treats me very well. Its not that I want to leave him because of any abuse. I want to leave him because I feel like he doesn't even want to live life. He plays video games all day everyday as a release from reality. Everytime we get in a fight he tells me, "if it weren't for you I'd be dead. I will kill myself because I make you so unhappy. I don't deserve you."
I care about him and I love him but I feel like there is so much more to life than I have. He wants me to marry him but I don't want to because I feel like I would always be longing for a better relationship. He doesn't work, or go to college so I feel like our future would be unsteady.
There is also someone else I've become very interested in. I can't get him off my mind. I feel like my thoughts are betraying to my boyfriend which creates my heavy conscious.
So what should I do? Thank you for your response. I feel irrevocably trapped.. I can't keep this up.
He is emotionally manipulating you and guilt tripping you into staying in a relationship that you are no longer happy in for his own personal gain.This is a form of abuse emotional abuse. Your boyfriend needs help that only a professional can give him. He has had this problem before you came and he will have this problem after you leave. By allowing him to continue this behavior you are basically telling him that what he is doing is ok which encourages him to continue the cycle of abuse.
The first step you will have to take is to accept that fact that you can't change him, you can only change yourself. Accept that this isn't the type of relationship you want for yourself or future children and the hardest part, that you are NOT responsible for what he chooses to do. When you decide to no longer take responsibility for his negative behavior, this will take a huge weight off of your shoulder. If he begins to act out and threatens to commit suicide, call 911 and leave at that.
Once you let go of the emotional aspect, you will be able to a clearer perception on what you need to do for yourself. You live with his mother and to be able to completley move on with your life without getting hooked back into the relationship, you will have to move out. This may take some time and some compromising on your part. If you have to move into a house that is less desirable, but not placing you in harm's way, then make the compromise. By going to school and working, you will have little time there anyway's while giving you an opportunity to save some money for another place to live. It's not going to be easy to make changes, however, it will be the first steps to a happier future for yourself and that is who your priority needs to be on right now. I wish you the best of luck.
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i'm 18 year old girl
i wouldn't categorize myself as a "sexually active" person.. but my boyfriend and i have talked about it and he really likes to get horny and mess around. I told him i'm willing to do some things with him because i want this relationship to work. i really want this relationship to work. i think i'm in love with him.. i think he's the one.
we have been dating for about 7 months now and we recently had another discussion/argument/kinda fight about oral sex. he said he really wants me to give him head and wants to give me head. I've done it before. i'm no virgin mary. but i'm not crazy about it either. I just don't really "get off" when i do oral sex. can someone help me?
when he gives me head, it tickles. like sometimes i will start laughing because it will tickle. it doesn't really get me horny, but its not like uncomfortable. its just like enjoyable i guess. but i dont get off from it. does anyone know why i don't get off of it? and how i could?
when i give him head, i tend to gag a lot. I don't like the taste of cum or pre cum. i tried licking it and it just made me gag even more. there was a point when it felt like i needed to throw up.. so then i tried just sucking it without tongue and that was ok but he wasn't too crazy about it. so any advice on how i can get past the gagging? we tried putting a condom on him but it just tasted like latex :/ blech.
please help!!!!
thank you!!!
If your doing all of this to make the relationship work, then you are doing this for all the wrong reasons. Relationships need to be built on love, respect, trust and open communication. Sex is meant to deepen the relationship, not the basis for it. It may be time for you to evaluate where your relationship is and where you would like it to go. If this is the only real problem in the relationship, then you may want to examine why you feel that you need to do this in your sexual relationship in order to keep him happy. It's normal to feel some insecurities in a relationship and this is where you need to communicate with your boyfriend about this.
Ok, now for the sex advice. Some men prefer oral sex over intercourse and when the partner isn't to into it this could create a problem. This is where compromise and imagination comes into play.
It's possible to limit the oral sex by getting him involved in other things, such as creative foreplay or getting him excited to try out a new position you just read about. One thing my husband likes is to be teased. Place a blindfold on him and gently tie his hands behind his head. Not tight to where it hurts or freaks him out. Rub some oil onto your hands and gently touch him in different areas of his body. The anticipation will get him very excited. Spend some quality time doing this and take your time reaching his sensative spots. When you notice him responding, you can start moving up and down the inner thigh and slowly make your way to his manhood. You will notice when he is ready, slide yourself on top of him and remove the blindfold. This usually works like a charm and no oral sex needed. If you want to give him a little extra treat, you can use whipped cream or chocolate syrup and spend a few minuted down there before you get on top of him. It's a matter of being creative and compromise.
For you, the very top of the clitorous can be overly sensative and may not feel good if he is licking that area. Try to move his mouth down further and have him suck lightly. This should take away the oversensativity to where you can enjoy it. Being able to make a woman cum from oral sex makes the man feel more like a man. If he is unable to please you, move him off of you in a way that makes him feel that you are so turned on that all you want to do is pounce on him. This may save some hurt feelings and ego. Another option is food items or cherry flavored lotions. Grinding into him will also help. If none of this works, sit on top of him and move back and fourth. When he is licking you, slightly lean back. This should help you find your "feel good spot"
I hope this helps and best of luck to you.
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yeah but like i heard it had to do with blood an stuff and im kinda confused.
The phrase itself has nothing to do with blood, however, most women do bleed for a few days after loosing their virginity. Intercourse is also uncomfortable and sometimes painful for the first several times. I hope this helps :)
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okay. so i dont completely understand what "popping the cherry" means. like i no it has something to do with sex but like whats the details?
This is a term used for a female loosing her virginity.
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im 18/f and he's 19/m
I really like this guy and we have been talking every night for the last month, and met up for the first time.
The other day we got into a huge fight over the silliest thing, and since then things haven't been the same...this isn't our first fight either, but i didn't think he would be able to forgive me for a second time. But he called me the night after completely drunk wanting to sort everything out....he told me that he even cut himself over what i did and i cant believe i hurt the one person i like more then anything so badly :(
anyways we decided to put it behind us, and i realised it might take time for things to go back to the way they were...but now i'm doubting they ever will...he doesn't text me at all anymore, and i miss waking up to a text from him :( anyways the other night things got a bit heated between us...We ended up sending each other 'naughty' photos and we sexted (pretty much texting saying really naughty things etc etc) for the first time ever. he wanted those sorts of photos before we had the fight...but i didn't think or realise that he liked me like that but he did... However he was drunk when we sexted/took photos and i asked him alot of times if he was sure he wanted to do this with me...that he wouldnt regret it when he was sober. so anyways we did it...then he never texted me the next day and thats when i started getting worried, because he promised he would text me. He just told me that he was to busy with his band stuff..
Then last night i get texts from him...but again he was drunk...and he was saying adorable things to me. and he still hasnt texted me like he usually does today either.. and now i feel like he only likes me when he's drunk. i just want things to go back to the way they were :( ive asked my friends and they've all said that 'a drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts'.
i just dont know what to do, its driving me crazy him not talking to me as much as he used to before the fight...
help :(
Honey, if you go back and read your post, you already have all the answers you need. The man is young, he's playing in a band and drinks way to much. His priorities are on him right now and you are at the bottom of his list. He calls or texts you when he is drunk and has nothing better to do.
If you continue down this path with this guy the only thing you will end up with is a broken heart.
You deserve better and you KNOW you deserve better and this is what will give you the stregnth to kick this guy to the curb and find the guy that not only you deserve but deserves you.
So what do you do? You send him the lyrics "Call Me When Your Sober" by Evanescence and then you go out and find yourself a real man.
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My husband sent this song to his friend who is a woman I was mad if you received this from someone what would you think? he is 36 I am 31 and she is late 20s early 30's
Sweet disposition
Never too soon
Oh reckless abandon,
Like no one's watching you
A moment, a love
A dream, a laugh
A kiss, a cry
Our rights, our wrongs
A moment, a love
A dream, a laugh
A moment, a love
A dream, a laugh
Just stay there
Cause I'll be comin' over
While our bloods still young
It's so young, it runs
Won't stop til it's over
Won't stop to surrender
Songs of desperation
I played them for you
A moment, a love
A dream, a laugh
A kiss, a cry
our rights, our wrongs
A moment, a love
A dream, a laugh
A moment, a love
A dream, a laugh
A relationship should be built around respect, trust and open communication. When there is a break-down in any of these areas there will be problems. Evaluate your own feelings about the situation and ask yourself why you are feeling this way. Has he been unfaithful in the past? Is he being secretive? If you normally have a good relationship then it is time for you to sit down with him and tell him why you are feeling the way you do and to let him know that it is causing a drift in your marriage. Be open and non-judgemental and allow him to express his feelings without confrontation. Once the communication is back, you will be able to work on finding a resolution to the issue while stregnthening your relationship.
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I am 15 and he is 18. I met him last summer and he was kind, nice, shy and sweet. After a while, he became my boyfriend, but he lives in America and I live in Greece. He always says that he loves me and that he'll marry me and that no girl is like me, but he has had 4 other girlfriends while we were together, other girls post dirty stuff on his fb wall, he's told me twice that I am embarassing him in front of his friends, and whenever I just have some tears on my eyes and tell him that I'm kind of bothered, he just laughs sarcastically and tells me that he cannot take any girl drama. I love him, but he's not the same person anymore. I can't really say no to him cuz if he leaves me i'll be alone and I just hurt. I'm not a slut, i'm a rebel, i deserve some respect! But I can't even talk to him, he always shouts :'( What should I do? I'm afraid I will leave him eventually...but I'm not ready to be alone again. He recently told me that he doesn't need me, that I just "add to his happiness". What should I do? :'(
Honey, your investing your heart into a relationship that isn't worth saving. When a guy starts treating you like this he is basically telling you that he is ready to move on and so should you.
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