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I feel a bit embarrassed because I am a good 21 years older than most of you, so I feel kinda stupid. I got married a long time ago when I was only 19 to a guy who was in the Marine Corps and he physically abused me for 2 1/2 years, so I am no stranger to being abused. I just want this guy to see how much I love him and that I would do anything for him. Hopefully he will realize it soon before things get way out of hand. My family and friends already know that he is abusive and I have to listen to their lectures about why I should get out and that they don't understand why I am in that relationship. It's seriously hard to explain, but he kinda reminds me of my dad the way he is always putting me down, calling me names, being so negative and condescending, how everything I do is wrong. He calls me a dumb B****, a stupid B****, and a worthless B****, and not to mention he calls me his whore. I tried to break it off a few weeks ago with him and he accused me of sleeping with someone else and wouldn't take "no it's over" as an answer. i just feel stuck right now. I shouldn't be complaining since I put myself where I am.
Thanks for your comment and advice, i appreciate that someone cares so much. (link)
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Oh goodness,
What you need is some Jesus. Try going to www.youversion.com and looking up verses about depression, emptiness, love, hurt and pain.
God will speak to you. You body is HIS temple. Why should you let someone hurt gods temple?
You don't deserve any of the things this guy has done to you, and it seems to break everyone's heart around you when they see you hurt.
I hope this helped,
Notify me if you need further advice:)
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Me-21/M Her-19/F
So I have been dating this girl for two years. We have been in an on-again-off-again relationship for the past few months. But things were looking up. I had my issues with commitment but things were turning around and in a very good way. But most relationships go that way don't they? Things get tough, but they turn around again and in this case were getting to be much better than they'd ever been. But we had an argument over something stupid. And it's not like it was something that could not be fixed or worked with. But I guess she was tired of it (and I can't blame her we had been coming out of a rough time) and so she left. Just like that she was gone. And so I've been living with an intense emptiness in me for about a week or more now. And I just want to know. How can i win her back? Or if not how can i move on?
Just a side note. I love this girl with all that I am, always have, and it's terrible going without. (link)
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You've gotten be a Romeo son.
Show her how you truly feel. If she loves you back, she'll forgive you and take you back like that. **snap** :)
Good luck dear,
Let me know if you need further advice.
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I like this guy since last semester, only to find that he's in my class this semester. yay! so, we kinda sat together (in the middle of the class) for the first few weeks. we even went out for lunch once. then one day he sat at a different seat, saying he likes seating at the edge (side of the class) better. so i sat with him. but my friend told me to be unavailable, so after that, i sat at my usual seat and he sat at his seat at the edge (just one seat apart from each other actually). sometimes, i'll sit next to him, but the next day when i sit at my usual spot, he'll have this disappointed face. then one day, i was feeling miserable so we hung out. then he asked if i wanted to have dinner. we had dinner and he paid for both our meals. as it was cold, he even lent me his jacket.
the next day, i said i plan to go xxx for spring break, and he said he wants to go too, but only if i want him to. is that considered flirting?
i feel that only when i initiate something, then something will happen. one of my friend said she knows the guy and he's really shy. another friend said he's really friendly (he came by and hugged her when he saw her), and no matter how shy he is, he'll make the first move if he likes you.
im confused.
say, is there a chance for me? because i really like him. and how can i trigger his interest? im very bad at flirting, and knowing when a guy flirts...
*sorry for the long-ass question!!!* (link)
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Normally teasing is flirting.
So is smiley faces through text message.
So are huge toothy grins.
Yes dear, he was flirting with you. If I had more information I could help you out better, but for now that's all I got for ya.
You actually might have to make the first move:)
GOOD LUCK!!:D
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i like this boy fabian but i dont know if he likes me i think he likes me how do i find out. (link)
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Flirt with him and see if he flirts back.
Drop subtle hints that you like him, not so unsubtle that they aren't noticalbe; But not so unsubtle that they're TOO noticied.
Good luck,
Let me know if you need some more help:)
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I have this friend who thinks shes fat what should i do?
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The best you can do is try to boost her self esteem a bit.
Tell her she's pretty, tell her she's awesome, and if the problem progresses, tell an adult.
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I am a 17 old female. Okay I met my boyfriend about a year and a half ago, he lives about 3 hours away from me so you could kinda say we are long distance. Anyway when I first met him I was young and didn't have anyway to go see him so we remained friends. I didn't tell my mom about him because there was no chance in hell she would let me see him. Well we talked a lot and I really began to like him. About 8 months into knowing him I finally got my chance to see him. I had a car and my sister likes maybe 40 minutes from him so she let me go see him. My mom did know. I saw him and we ended up sleeping together. It wasn't the best choice I know but it happened. After that I was determined to see him, we were pretty much together after that. I continued to go see him about every other weekend without my mother knowing. It became harder and harder to stay away even though I knew I was doing wrong by not telling her. I fell for him the more I got to see him. Well after christmas he moved a little farther away but we both agreed to stay together. We were going to make it work. I was going to tell my mom when I was eighteen because then she couldn't do anything about it. Well the second time I go to see him I get caught. I covered my ass by saying I was somewhere else and drove home, that way I could keep him out of the mix. That night I came home I ended up telling her about him, I was scared I'd never get the chance to see him again. I didn't tell her that I had snuck off to see him, just that I had seen him once before. She agreed to let me see him if she came with. So a couple weeks later we go up there she drops me off and goes to the hotel. We spent a normal day together and she picked me up. Just recently she found out that I slept with him while I was there and now she won't let me see him. I have no car anymore since I got into an asccident. So I can't sneak if I wanted to. I really care about him and it will kill me to not see him until I'm eighteen. I have 8 months until then. I don't know what to do. (link)
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Ouch. This is a tough one. Yup, it may have been a bad choice for sleeping with him; but, if you really love him, you'll both wait. Stay in contact as long as possible until you turn eighteen and go from there.
That's all I got for ya hun,
Good luck!
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i have this cruch on a girl and i dont know what to do...... (link)
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Well, is she close to you? As in a good friend? If so, just begin with flirting. Subtley.
(Ex:) "Wow, your hair is SO pretty today."
or
"Holy crap, your so beautiful."
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"I don't see how the prettiest girl in school is single!"
Good luck man. Let me know if you need anymore help./
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okk look i was going out with this kid for 6 months and we got so close like we even made plans that well get married,but it got so hard to be together so we decided to take a break but not those breaks like see other people no we saw each other and kissed and said i love you like usual we acted like we were together he also got me a promise ring and diamond braclet all this stuff. but for some reason im those people who cant control them selves and always cheates on people so wat happen was i cheated on him with my friends ex i kissed my friends ex when we went out and i was scared to tell anyone so i told my friend he did it i lied to her. till the other day he went and told my bf how i kissed him and told all my freidns. after tht all my friends hate me now they wont talk to me and im dying here because ther everything to me and i need my bf bak please help me hes everything i got i cant lose him i hurt him like hell im serious he never cried ever till the day he found out im telling u i like stabed hhim in the heart whn he found out and now he wont talk to me and all my friends hate me please help me what do i do pleasee youl like save my life right here i need them bak all of them cuz now im alone
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First of all, you need to make things right with this 'kid' you are/were dating. Then move to your friends. Tell them you regret everything and express how much you care for them.
Anything else? I'm totally up to help:)
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ok so im keep telling myself im over my freind let's call him ron, i mean he is dating my friends lets call her tracy. Ron liked her a lot it was really annoying and i had feelings for him at the time. so i got those two together and im happy they are. but everytime i see them together i get this sharp pain in my chest for a moment and than im fine. the thing is i want to be over ron so bad i've like him to long and i need to move on, but i just can't. I DON'T KNOW WHY!! it is so freakin annoying. Its my last semester in high school and its time to tie up lose ends but this problem will not go away. what should i do? i thought getting together would help and i be over this but its just become worse. UGH HELP!!! (link)
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Alright girlie, sounds like you have some confessing to do. You have to tell "Ron" your completly and totally in love with him. Then, from here on out, if he wants you enough he'll dump this "Tracey" and ask you to be his girl. That's my outlook; good luck!!
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Been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now. Lately, all we do is argue. It's always over really, really petty things, obviously because we're so frustrated with not being able to physically be with eachother, and we just miss eachother to bits.
Usually I want to fix the argument right away, but the last little argument we had, I just turned off my phone for 4 hours, and didn't talk to him. And honestly, it felt good. Of course I still worried, oh god, he's going to be so mad..but I felt worry free for a little while.
I never told him this, just said I left my phone at home on accident while I went out. But today we had another spat, and instead of solving it he just went to sleep. So, usually I text him some sweet things, apologizing for the stupidness of the argument, and say i love him.
But, this time I didn't. I don't know if it's that I'm just getting so sick of the constant arguments over literally nothing, or what. My question is, do you think its worth staying with him?
I like him a lot, and I'm supposed to be visiting him in march. But, I just feel in my gut that this isn't going how I wanted. I really DON'T want to break up with him, ONLY because he's the most sensitive person ever (his last ex, it took him about 2yrs to get over, and i'm his 1st relationship since then), and I don't want to hurt his feelings. And, if I break him with him, I KNOW i'll be so hurt/miserable too. I'll sit here feeling like a horrible person, and probably thinking of all the actual good times we had.
But, I can't help but think that the hurt of losing him may be better than dealing with these pointless arguments all the time. And if I completely cut off communication and stuff, which is easier in a long distance relationship, wouldn't it be easier to get over him?
Oh, please any advice you have would be so helpful!! Thanks! (link)
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You should wait until you see him to decide. Until then, be careful not to use fighting words and try not to get upset with him. Talk to him about it and make sure he understands you want to make this work out. Remember, it takes two in order to be in love..
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I'm going out with this guy. I can't say I love him. I don't. I like him but I can't say its love. My boyfriend told me he loves me. He really acts like it but I can't bring myself to believe it. He's 16 and I don't know if I can even bring myself to believe someone can love someone if they're like 15 and 16? I mean one of my friends always says she's in love and all stuff like that. You can tell its not true. I told him I don't believe him. I'm pretty honest with him and all. He really insists that he does. He really cares about me, I know that. Just how do I handle it? He told me and I act awkward about it.. (link)
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Love can come at a young age. All love really is, are two people who care about each oher a lot, and feel attracted to each another. Love can be there but only if you let it. And remember, it takes two in order to fall in love..
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So I'm 15. I like this guy who is 17, he's a senior now and I'm a sophomore. Is that a big age difference? He'll be 18 in a couple months so it would be considered an adult. We're friends and all so its cool. I'm just wondering about the age and how it would be when he turns 18. (link)
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Age is but a number created to hold us apart from our true love until it's time to meet them. Two years isn't really something to be incredibly concerned about. Just take percautions and make sure he is a good guy.
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(M, 24)My girlfriend broke up with me recently after a 3 year relationship. She brought up moving in together and engagement regularly, I wanted the same, I loved her very much and wanted to spend my life with her (she knew this). However, I was paying off loans and did not have the money to take that step yet. She knew that I would be done with them in 2 months and could then proceed. We were all set to go on a trip together with friends which had been planned out for a few months and she was really excited about it. She had just started a new job and had been there a week, I noticed her not talking as much as before. We talked and she said she may not want those things anymore. By the end of the weekend everything seemed fine considering it ended with her suggesting more places we could live as well as saying she loved me and acting normal, 5 days later she calls me at 2am after a night out with her co-workers, I had been waiting all night to drive out and see her she tells me that she doesn't have the same feelings for me and it's over and she wasn't going on the trip even though it was days away. She said when she was out a co-worker kissed her and she felt something and a bunch of little issues had built into big things and she was unhappy (I didn't see at all nor did my family and friends especially considering she was one to tell me exactly how she felt). I was crushed and have no idea how it just ended so quickly after everything we shared and seemingly being so in love and excited about the future. Is this a work infatuation? Does she still have feelings but is pursuing other things on impulse? Why would she call me her soul mate and best friend days before and then end things? Was she just giving lip service in saying all this to me even though she appeared to be sincere in her feelings? I apologize for the story but I am really hurt and clueless about the woman I thought I would spend forever with and who appeared to want the same up until now. Thank you (link)
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That's so awful! Now, you need to talk to this chick. She seems to be VERY confused. You have to consider she could have been under the influence of acohol and her senses weren't acting normal, thus when this co-worker kiss her she could have began to feel something that wasn't really there. I hope my feedback helps you and goodluck.
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what does it mean when a guy texts you, and you respond, but then he doesn't text back?
he has a girl. and he knows i like him.
what do i do? (link)
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Well, If he has a girlfriend and isn't responding to reply texts, that probably means hes confused about you too. Try not to come on too strong or the situation could get worse. Don't immediately text him back, wait awhile. I hope that helps some!;)
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Okay so here's the deal... I'm fourteen, girl and I'm a freshman in highschool. I recently started dating a sixteen year old boy, sophomore. He's great and what not and weve been dating for a little over two months. The problem is this... Our town sucks. Haha, like really. There is nothing to do besides see a movie or go bowling. Weve done some fun stuff, like midnight sledding and guitar hero fests, haha, but its just hard to find exciting stuff to do around here... And the past few times weve hung out its just been chilling in one of our basements watching a movie. So its gotten pretty dry (not the relationship, the relationship is great) were just kinda bored... any ideas?? (link)
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This is what me and my friends do in our small town: Going to Walmart to do absolutly nothing productive and act like fools, Going to the movies seeing a horror movie and screaming at random times, Just driving around, Telling jokes, Playing football, and hanging out at our city's lake. Hope that helps you out a little!
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I'm like bipolar about this. I love being in relationships and seem to always be looking for one that I think will last a long time but once I'm in one after about 3-4 weeks i get bored with the person and either dump them or end up cheating[I'm working on that though cause i know cheating is wrong]. When I'm single though i get very lonely after a while even if m talking to someone. Even now I've been single for about a month now and I'm lonely. I really do want i long relationship but I don't what usually happens to me to happen yet again.
advice please:) (link)
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Ummm okay, it sounds to me like your looking for love in all the wrong places. I think you need to figure stuff out with YOU before you date anyone else. If you become bored with the person your dating try to remember what it was like before when you first met them that attracted you to them. Hope that helps ya!:)
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F/17. I dated this girl who I met in my freshman year starting in September of sophomore year. Now, I'm halfway through junior year. We fell in love over the course of an English project in which I was playing the role of her husband. Well, things blossomed and we officially began dating. But her mom and everyone reacted badly, and things fell apart. I was totally devastated but came to terms when we decided to be together secretly without the title. But a month ago, her friends set her up with a boy and she really liked him. Now, they're dating and she's losing interest in me. I'm still so in love with her and she assures me she's not leaving but I don't know. What can I do to get through this? Is she finished being with me? She does everything for me. She buys me necessities, feeds me, etc. I need specific instructions on what I can do to get through this whichever way it plays out. I have the tendency to be unable to cope well, and have self injured in the past, I don't want to go back to that. I also have separation anxiety where she's concerned. It's really strong. My therapist just doesn't help. Sorry this is ling, but can you please tell me what to do and how? Thanks. (link)
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So, it sounds to me taht this girl is going through the '"I'm tired of pretending...I don't really think I loved him anyway'" stange. Come on BOY! You gotta prove her wrong! Do to her what she's doing to you. Grab one of your good girlish friends and pretend to start something with them. Let 'her' catch you hugging or holding hands. Be subtle, because if she sees you kissing or making out it might make her a little too mad...after that I promise you if she loves you at all then she will realize she doesn't want to lose you and be all yours honey! I hope that helps you out!
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