Well, I'm just a girl. Nothing special just a compasionate girl who loves to give advice. I love to help people and advice is a great way to go about that.
I love to sing and play guitar, and my friends are my life. I love my parents, and my two cats. My hero is Slash, the guitarist from Guns N Roses and currently Velvet Revolver.
I also participate multipul sports, but my main are Volleyball, and Cheerleading. I am a Christ follower for life, and Jesus is the reason for every breathe I take.
Feel free to ask me questions because I take joy in answering them.
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I feel a bit embarrassed because I am a good 21 years older than most of you, so I feel kinda stupid. I got married a long time ago when I was only 19 to a guy who was in the Marine Corps and he physically abused me for 2 1/2 years, so I am no stranger to being abused. I just want this guy to see how much I love him and that I would do anything for him. Hopefully he will realize it soon before things get way out of hand. My family and friends already know that he is abusive and I have to listen to their lectures about why I should get out and that they don't understand why I am in that relationship. It's seriously hard to explain, but he kinda reminds me of my dad the way he is always putting me down, calling me names, being so negative and condescending, how everything I do is wrong. He calls me a dumb B****, a stupid B****, and a worthless B****, and not to mention he calls me his whore. I tried to break it off a few weeks ago with him and he accused me of sleeping with someone else and wouldn't take "no it's over" as an answer. i just feel stuck right now. I shouldn't be complaining since I put myself where I am.
Thanks for your comment and advice, i appreciate that someone cares so much. (link)
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Oh goodness,
What you need is some Jesus. Try going to www.youversion.com and looking up verses about depression, emptiness, love, hurt and pain.
God will speak to you. You body is HIS temple. Why should you let someone hurt gods temple?
You don't deserve any of the things this guy has done to you, and it seems to break everyone's heart around you when they see you hurt.
I hope this helped,
Notify me if you need further advice:)
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It seems like I never clean my room anymore! Well, that's not entirely true I do clean it but hardly ever. It just seems to take forever! The weird part is that I am a very clean person!
Maybe somebody here can help me how can I clean my room fast? I always seem to get distracted or maybe bored and find something else to do so how am I going to get around this? I guess it takes as long as it takes, so I guess I'm really asking how can I make the time go by faster while I'm cleaning my room if that makes any sense?
Thank you! (link)
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I listen to music or watch tv while I clean. I get into this zone, and I'm a cleaning machine;P
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Me-21/M Her-19/F
So I have been dating this girl for two years. We have been in an on-again-off-again relationship for the past few months. But things were looking up. I had my issues with commitment but things were turning around and in a very good way. But most relationships go that way don't they? Things get tough, but they turn around again and in this case were getting to be much better than they'd ever been. But we had an argument over something stupid. And it's not like it was something that could not be fixed or worked with. But I guess she was tired of it (and I can't blame her we had been coming out of a rough time) and so she left. Just like that she was gone. And so I've been living with an intense emptiness in me for about a week or more now. And I just want to know. How can i win her back? Or if not how can i move on?
Just a side note. I love this girl with all that I am, always have, and it's terrible going without. (link)
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You've gotten be a Romeo son.
Show her how you truly feel. If she loves you back, she'll forgive you and take you back like that. **snap** :)
Good luck dear,
Let me know if you need further advice.
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I just recently bought an iPod Touch, and I need to know how to buy/add apps to it. I am connected to the Internet on it, and everytime I click on 'App Store' it says, "Cannot connect to iTunes Store Invalid argument." I don't understand how to do it, can anyone tell me how? (link)
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Try this:
1. Go to settings.
2. Find wifi settings
3. Turn wifi off and back on again.
4. Reconnect to your wireless internet connection and try to go to the Itunes store again.
This works for me everytime my itouch goes crazy:P
Hope it helps!
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I like this guy since last semester, only to find that he's in my class this semester. yay! so, we kinda sat together (in the middle of the class) for the first few weeks. we even went out for lunch once. then one day he sat at a different seat, saying he likes seating at the edge (side of the class) better. so i sat with him. but my friend told me to be unavailable, so after that, i sat at my usual seat and he sat at his seat at the edge (just one seat apart from each other actually). sometimes, i'll sit next to him, but the next day when i sit at my usual spot, he'll have this disappointed face. then one day, i was feeling miserable so we hung out. then he asked if i wanted to have dinner. we had dinner and he paid for both our meals. as it was cold, he even lent me his jacket.
the next day, i said i plan to go xxx for spring break, and he said he wants to go too, but only if i want him to. is that considered flirting?
i feel that only when i initiate something, then something will happen. one of my friend said she knows the guy and he's really shy. another friend said he's really friendly (he came by and hugged her when he saw her), and no matter how shy he is, he'll make the first move if he likes you.
im confused.
say, is there a chance for me? because i really like him. and how can i trigger his interest? im very bad at flirting, and knowing when a guy flirts...
*sorry for the long-ass question!!!* (link)
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Normally teasing is flirting.
So is smiley faces through text message.
So are huge toothy grins.
Yes dear, he was flirting with you. If I had more information I could help you out better, but for now that's all I got for ya.
You actually might have to make the first move:)
GOOD LUCK!!:D
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Some months ago I was beaten and raped by a stranger. I feel lucky I wasn't killed. He has not been caught yet though I don't think it'll be very long till he is. I would like to get some protection for myself, just to feel safer, but I don't want to buy a real gun. I was thinking about stun guns but I don't know anything about them.
Would a stun gun be good enough to protect me against an attacker but not really hurt him? Would it be legal to carry one everywhere I go? (I live in the U.S.) If I used a stun gun on a person, could they file a lawsuit against me because of it? (link)
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If you tell the authorities you want a way of protection, I'm almost sure it's possible to obtain at least a (small voltage) taser.
I'm not possitive, but pretty sure.
I'm praying for you to be safe, and for this freak to be caught.
God bless ya!
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i like this boy fabian but i dont know if he likes me i think he likes me how do i find out. (link)
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Flirt with him and see if he flirts back.
Drop subtle hints that you like him, not so unsubtle that they aren't noticalbe; But not so unsubtle that they're TOO noticied.
Good luck,
Let me know if you need some more help:)
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I have this friend who thinks shes fat what should i do?
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The best you can do is try to boost her self esteem a bit.
Tell her she's pretty, tell her she's awesome, and if the problem progresses, tell an adult.
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I am a 17 old female. Okay I met my boyfriend about a year and a half ago, he lives about 3 hours away from me so you could kinda say we are long distance. Anyway when I first met him I was young and didn't have anyway to go see him so we remained friends. I didn't tell my mom about him because there was no chance in hell she would let me see him. Well we talked a lot and I really began to like him. About 8 months into knowing him I finally got my chance to see him. I had a car and my sister likes maybe 40 minutes from him so she let me go see him. My mom did know. I saw him and we ended up sleeping together. It wasn't the best choice I know but it happened. After that I was determined to see him, we were pretty much together after that. I continued to go see him about every other weekend without my mother knowing. It became harder and harder to stay away even though I knew I was doing wrong by not telling her. I fell for him the more I got to see him. Well after christmas he moved a little farther away but we both agreed to stay together. We were going to make it work. I was going to tell my mom when I was eighteen because then she couldn't do anything about it. Well the second time I go to see him I get caught. I covered my ass by saying I was somewhere else and drove home, that way I could keep him out of the mix. That night I came home I ended up telling her about him, I was scared I'd never get the chance to see him again. I didn't tell her that I had snuck off to see him, just that I had seen him once before. She agreed to let me see him if she came with. So a couple weeks later we go up there she drops me off and goes to the hotel. We spent a normal day together and she picked me up. Just recently she found out that I slept with him while I was there and now she won't let me see him. I have no car anymore since I got into an asccident. So I can't sneak if I wanted to. I really care about him and it will kill me to not see him until I'm eighteen. I have 8 months until then. I don't know what to do. (link)
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Ouch. This is a tough one. Yup, it may have been a bad choice for sleeping with him; but, if you really love him, you'll both wait. Stay in contact as long as possible until you turn eighteen and go from there.
That's all I got for ya hun,
Good luck!
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i need really funny things for my talent show at school can you help and give some ideas on what to do????
p.s. i heard you can do a rap song but i hate singing so something else please.
:)
THANKS (link)
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Well, maybe reinact a dane cook act? Clean it up of course, but it could still be hilarious:)
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i have this cruch on a girl and i dont know what to do...... (link)
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Well, is she close to you? As in a good friend? If so, just begin with flirting. Subtley.
(Ex:) "Wow, your hair is SO pretty today."
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"Holy crap, your so beautiful."
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"I don't see how the prettiest girl in school is single!"
Good luck man. Let me know if you need anymore help./
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okk look i was going out with this kid for 6 months and we got so close like we even made plans that well get married,but it got so hard to be together so we decided to take a break but not those breaks like see other people no we saw each other and kissed and said i love you like usual we acted like we were together he also got me a promise ring and diamond braclet all this stuff. but for some reason im those people who cant control them selves and always cheates on people so wat happen was i cheated on him with my friends ex i kissed my friends ex when we went out and i was scared to tell anyone so i told my friend he did it i lied to her. till the other day he went and told my bf how i kissed him and told all my freidns. after tht all my friends hate me now they wont talk to me and im dying here because ther everything to me and i need my bf bak please help me hes everything i got i cant lose him i hurt him like hell im serious he never cried ever till the day he found out im telling u i like stabed hhim in the heart whn he found out and now he wont talk to me and all my friends hate me please help me what do i do pleasee youl like save my life right here i need them bak all of them cuz now im alone
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First of all, you need to make things right with this 'kid' you are/were dating. Then move to your friends. Tell them you regret everything and express how much you care for them.
Anything else? I'm totally up to help:)
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Well, there is this guy, and well we were friends for a while. Like we never really meet in person but talked on phone, and computer you know, well all of a sudden he doesnt ever want to talk to me, i am so sad and depressed i have no idea what to do!! (link)
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Well, any information? Think back to before he stopped talking to you? Did you say anything offensive to him? Something strange?
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ok so im keep telling myself im over my freind let's call him ron, i mean he is dating my friends lets call her tracy. Ron liked her a lot it was really annoying and i had feelings for him at the time. so i got those two together and im happy they are. but everytime i see them together i get this sharp pain in my chest for a moment and than im fine. the thing is i want to be over ron so bad i've like him to long and i need to move on, but i just can't. I DON'T KNOW WHY!! it is so freakin annoying. Its my last semester in high school and its time to tie up lose ends but this problem will not go away. what should i do? i thought getting together would help and i be over this but its just become worse. UGH HELP!!! (link)
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Alright girlie, sounds like you have some confessing to do. You have to tell "Ron" your completly and totally in love with him. Then, from here on out, if he wants you enough he'll dump this "Tracey" and ask you to be his girl. That's my outlook; good luck!!
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i need help finding some friends that will always hangout with me and always do something. im the kid at school that is a great athlete and everybody views that im good at everything. I switched schools after middle school and none of my friends went to my new school so i knew absolutely no one there, it was hard to make friends cuz most kids ther already had ther cliques of friends and im kind of a shy kid with little self confidence so i had trouble finding friends, and i still dont have that one rly good friend. i hav a few friends but they all live at least 20 miles from me and its tough to get together. we do every once in awhile, but most weekends im alone and hav nothing to do. im also a little overweight which doesnt help my confidence. i just want to know how to make good friends, i had some at my middle school but we all went different ways... i went out with 2 girls at my old school and was friends with alot of them but everytime ive tried to text them or fbook message them to go do somthing or hangout they just make up some excuse everytime or just ignore me, its kind of frustrating and the same thing happens everytime... i dont rly hav those "go to friends" i had lots of friends at my old school but wasnt very good at sports and now im at my new school and hav very very few friends but im extremely good at my sport... what can i do to find some friends to hang out with? its frustrating when basically my only two friends cant hang out on new years eve and i hav to sit home with my parents when i envisioned hanging out with friends every weekend, having a girlfriend, going to parties, none of this has happened, and im afraid college would be the same. (link)
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My advice is try doing things you haven't before. Join a new club, play a new sport, talk to new people, that's how I got along when I moved. Basically, all you have to do is find one friend in a clique of some type and you'll meet more of their friend and more of their friends ect. Hope that helps ya!!
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Been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now. Lately, all we do is argue. It's always over really, really petty things, obviously because we're so frustrated with not being able to physically be with eachother, and we just miss eachother to bits.
Usually I want to fix the argument right away, but the last little argument we had, I just turned off my phone for 4 hours, and didn't talk to him. And honestly, it felt good. Of course I still worried, oh god, he's going to be so mad..but I felt worry free for a little while.
I never told him this, just said I left my phone at home on accident while I went out. But today we had another spat, and instead of solving it he just went to sleep. So, usually I text him some sweet things, apologizing for the stupidness of the argument, and say i love him.
But, this time I didn't. I don't know if it's that I'm just getting so sick of the constant arguments over literally nothing, or what. My question is, do you think its worth staying with him?
I like him a lot, and I'm supposed to be visiting him in march. But, I just feel in my gut that this isn't going how I wanted. I really DON'T want to break up with him, ONLY because he's the most sensitive person ever (his last ex, it took him about 2yrs to get over, and i'm his 1st relationship since then), and I don't want to hurt his feelings. And, if I break him with him, I KNOW i'll be so hurt/miserable too. I'll sit here feeling like a horrible person, and probably thinking of all the actual good times we had.
But, I can't help but think that the hurt of losing him may be better than dealing with these pointless arguments all the time. And if I completely cut off communication and stuff, which is easier in a long distance relationship, wouldn't it be easier to get over him?
Oh, please any advice you have would be so helpful!! Thanks! (link)
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You should wait until you see him to decide. Until then, be careful not to use fighting words and try not to get upset with him. Talk to him about it and make sure he understands you want to make this work out. Remember, it takes two in order to be in love..
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15/f
I'm going out with this guy. I can't say I love him. I don't. I like him but I can't say its love. My boyfriend told me he loves me. He really acts like it but I can't bring myself to believe it. He's 16 and I don't know if I can even bring myself to believe someone can love someone if they're like 15 and 16? I mean one of my friends always says she's in love and all stuff like that. You can tell its not true. I told him I don't believe him. I'm pretty honest with him and all. He really insists that he does. He really cares about me, I know that. Just how do I handle it? He told me and I act awkward about it.. (link)
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Love can come at a young age. All love really is, are two people who care about each oher a lot, and feel attracted to each another. Love can be there but only if you let it. And remember, it takes two in order to fall in love..
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So I'm 15. I like this guy who is 17, he's a senior now and I'm a sophomore. Is that a big age difference? He'll be 18 in a couple months so it would be considered an adult. We're friends and all so its cool. I'm just wondering about the age and how it would be when he turns 18. (link)
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Age is but a number created to hold us apart from our true love until it's time to meet them. Two years isn't really something to be incredibly concerned about. Just take percautions and make sure he is a good guy.
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14/f
I weight 100 - 102 pounds ? Somewhere around there. And I'm 5'4 - 5'5. Im pretty sure I'm a little underweight because all my other friends are at least 110 pounds. One of my friends say I just have high metabolism. I eat a regular diet, I eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Their all fair amounts where I actually am full. I don't think I eat too less, but I can't eat too much cause I get too bloated. But anyways, I don't have very big breasts either. Around, 24 AA - A ? Sorry if I don't always have exact measurements, :P. But the point is, how do I gain at least a bit more weight? Cause I think I weigh too less, though if you look at me, I look the same as my friends who weight 110+ ,just smaller breasts.
Any advice would help, Thanks. :) (link)
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No. You are not underweight. I am 5'8 and 121 pounds and I'm right where I should be for my age. Your fine and yes you probably do have a high metabolism. Hope I cleared things up for you!!
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So I have an older brother who is 19. We are extremely close and have always done everything together. Ever since we were little he has always been the one to sleep in and I was the early riser. Now that hes in college he has gotten worse. Every night he goes to bed at 2 or 3 in the morning. He dosnt wake up until 2pm usually. He has always complained about how he has insomia and he cant go to bed at a normal time even if he trys, I just think he has too many distractions like TV. Recently he has become more cranky and harder to get up out of bed. I know his drinking plays a part in this, but honestly asking a college kid to stop drinking completly is a lost cause. I just want to know how I can help to convince him to get his sleeping on a more healthy track. What tips are there to switch to a healthier sleeping pattern? Any info will help.
Also some information about him: Hes relativley healthy and in shape. He plays sports in college and always has. He parties, but I dont think his drinking is the real root of the problem, He's also not over or under weight. Normal height. No illnesses or conditons that we are aware of. Im not trying to stage an intervention to save his life. Its really not that serious. I just want him to be healthier and have more energy.
Thanks in advance!! (link)
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Maybe tell your brother to see his doctor about getting some medication to help him sleep. Also, drinking can really harm your sleeping schedual so cutting down would deffenitly be a great idea for him. Hope I helped you!
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