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hello! i'm abby. october is my birth month! i am a cheerleader on competition this year. i got hurt at one of the camps over the summer and now i am in a leg brace because of it. i tore a ligament and chipped a bone, all because i twisted my ankle. haha, i'm a klutz. and i am also a self-proclaimed helpless romantic, i've read too many fairytales. i am a non-cusser, and i hate hearing cuss words. love me or hate me, it's your choice.

advice

Ok so its olmost valentines day and i need some major help!!

wat r some cute little thing to write in my bf's valentines day card?

wat r sum good things to get him for valentines day?

ok heres some info on him


hes only been going out with me 4 a week

He loves sports

he is amazingly sweet

i wouldn't b able to live without him and he luvs me 2!

so i really need ur help i need to no wat i am gettin him by morning so i can tell my sis wat to pick up at the mall 4 me cause i have school :(

honestly, i doubt you are truly in love with this boy. only a week of dating and you can't live without him?! riiiight.

but yet, i feel the need to give you advice.

tell him exactly how you feel about him in the card, don't leave a single thing out. draw a picture illistrating your love if you can't find the right words. or do both!!!

get him a cool baseball hat with his favorite team, a cool new shirt, bubblegum, roses (guys like recieving flowers), a cool manly bracelet, a homemade anklet, the best card ever! (really big), hugs & kisses, a sweet indoor date, something to help him in his sport, a box of chocolates, or yourself!!

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okay im the girl that made a bet with her boyfriend about our football teams. and it kinda weird and please dont give me the speech about how i shoudnt date some one that is that much older but im 13 and hes 17

Thank you for replying, if you feel like it is not appropriate to be sexual with your boyfriend, then stick to the fun stuff, make him do something embarrasing in a public place like walk around bocking like a chicken around the mall, or put him on a leash and walk him like a dog. If you do feel okay being sexual with him, then you can do LOADS of stuff. Make him give you a lap dance, or if you are really far into your relationship, make him try something new in bed. ;) Most of all just have fun with it, make him do something that you would like to see him do. If you lose, though, be a good sport and do what he tells you to do, unless it is something too sexuaal and you don't feel comfortable doing it, ask him to rethink what he will make you do then.

Good luck, hope your team wins!!!

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(she's 13 im 15)
ok last night i told this girl how i felt i told her everything and she said it was the nicest thing anyone has ever said to her and it made her cry and so she said she would think about it and so i talk to her today she said once again it was the sweetest thing anyone has told her and that i was an amazing guy but she doesn't feel the same way which sucks to here but im ok with that but she feels horrible about it and keeps asking if im ok does this mean she could possibly have a change of heart?

No, she is just worried that she hurt your feelings because you are a nice guy. Her mind is made up. Make her jealous, though, and maybe she will like you.

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Lol. Ok. Most of you should enjoy this..

I'm talking to the boy I like when he asks me for my number, and I give it to him, and then I want to leave before the conversation starts dragging on, so when my phone starts to vibrate I see my way out and say "sorry, I have to take this, so see ya later" I hear him say "you're ridiculous" while walking away.. but don't think much of it. Once I get to my room I try to call the number back, cause it wasnt listed in my phone book when it hits me -- HE WAS THE ONE CALLING ME SO I WOULD HAVE HIS NUMBER.

How embarrassing is that? What would you think if you were him? And what's the best thing to do.. try to explain or pretend it ever happened?

Silly, I know. But I didnt ruin my chances, did I?

No, I don't think that you completely ruined your chances. Don't lie to him. Tell him that you didn't know who is was, sill you, and you thought it would be rude to take a call while you were talking to him. Tell him you wanted to wrap the conversation up because it might've been someone that really needed to talk to you. =DD

Silly you.

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hi, i am a virgen , and my boyfriend wants to have anal sex, if he cums in my ass can i get pregnant?

It's very uncomfortable and really close to your va-j-j, so watch out. And don't let him donkey punch you.

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last year i loved this guy and my best friend
went out with him because i told her it was
okay to. i told her it was okay because i was texting
him one night and he's like, do you know if
she likes me? and so i found out he didn't
like me. so i was in denial about liking
him and i told her it was okay.

then this year i started liking this guy
and i don't love him or anything but i really
do like him and then my best friend's friend
started dating him tonight because i was
again, in denial. why do i keep losing them?

You don't have confidence in yourself, and you let other people step on you. You need to make it clear when you like someone, tell everyone to back off because he is yours. And if another person starts to like him, then tell her that you like him also and may the best girl win.

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ok I am a 17 year old male. I have been dating this girl for almost 7 months but recently I started talking to this girl. Who is really nice, and cute and awesome, and I have started to develop feelings for her. Unfortunately she has a bf too. But I told her that I had feelings for her and she told me I was her kind of guy. What's should I do?

First things first, get rid of your current girlfriend before you do ANYTHING else with this new girl. Hopefully you could talk this new girl into breaking up with her boyfriend. Then, if everything goes as planned, you two will date. =D

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i just got Fancy by Jessica Simpson.
i think it smells amazing.

do you think if i put a bunch on and go talk to my crush tomorrow he'll notice me in a good way?
I heard that smells trigger something....like if someone smells something good they'll be attracted to it or feel good or whatever.


anything will be appreciated! :D

The types of smells that you are talking about actually come from a person's body. The boy/girl has no choice on whether they like "your smell" or not, it's just their hormones. I bet if you do wear a nice smelling perfume, though, he will notice you. And be sure not to put too much on.

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okay well me and my boyfriend of 2 and half months made a bet. the bet was that when our favorite football teams play against each other whos ever team win the loser has to do what ever the winner wants (ANYTHING!) and i have no clue on what to do!:( it be if i could get some ideas thanks ahead of time!!

Depends on how old ya'll are. Ask me again and tell all.

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Sorry this is long, but i really need help.

So i dated a guy for about a week. then we broke up. well i really like him. and i was very upset when we broke up. well one night we were with some friends. and he was holding me in his arms something i missed very much. and i thought maybe he misses me and wants me back. at that time we started making out. and then the next day he didnt really say much to me. ands i was like wtf okay whatever. the next weekend we kissed again and really made out this time. and he held me as tight as he possibly could. and it felt like he didnt want to let go. and i was sure he wanted me back. well i sent him a message and said hey what was all that about. he replyed back and said he wasnt sure. and i said well i mean do you like me or what im confused, what was that night all about. he said i dont know...i didnt want anything to happen when i got there, it just happenend like that. Now all the times something happen with us, he was the one to start it.
i replyed back and said well i mean do you like me or are you using me for the moment type of thing. dont worry about hurting my feelings i just wanna know the truth. he read it and never replyed back. some of my friends say maybe he is afried of his own emotions. but he doesnt talk to me unless were together with our friends. and even then he is kinda distant, trying to keep something from happening. now theres another group of girls he kinda messes around with well one of them and it really bothers me and my group of girls bc we dont really like them.
my question is, do you know why he is being like this. i am really torn up about it. and i cant talk to him or see him much right now.
thank you so much!

I think he is just using you, and he doesn't want to tell you that because he doesn't want you to stop making out with him whenever he wants you to. Leave this douche alone! He is just a player.

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my boyfriend of almost two years cheated on me. he madeout with a girl when he was drunk and i forgave him.

a few monthes later he didnt call me one night and then he called the next night saying his phone charger was messed up and he was sick and fell asleep at six. that weekend i figured out he lied to me and was really drinking with 2 gay guys and two girls. i dont have a problem with gay people but this guy always flirts with my boyfriend.


should i give him another chance.?

If it's a guy flirting with your boyfriend, I wouldn't worry about it, unless your boyfriend is gay. I think once he does something with someone else again, that's when you should not give him a second chance.

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so i like this guy named G and im not sure if he likes me. in general G is a really flirty guy but when he is with me is really flirty and touchy like EXTREMELY touchy and flirty sexual. we talked on video chat for 3 hours and he and i have a very strong friendship. how can i tell if he likes me or is just flirting for fun?

I think he is just flirting, he sounds like a playa. Usually touchy guys like that don't care. If you must go out with him, the go ahead, but don't say some crazy advice girl didn't warn ya.

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17/F

Alright, so this question is going to make me sound extremely stupid, but should I convert my religion to try to get with this guy that i really like? He's mormon, and I looked up some stuff and it says that mormons can only date other mormons. I really want to be with him. We dont actually know each other. Ive introduced myself twice and he thinks im crazy, but I want him to notice me in a good way and i think going to his church and being all mormon will be a good way to get his attention and show him that im right for him.
Plus I have no real religion as of right now. I mean I believe in God and all that but I dont go to church.

Any advice will be appriciated
Thanks

I don't think you should. If he hasn't noticed you and you have introduced yourself twice now, then forget him. The perfect person will come along, and you won't have to change a thing about yourself for him.

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I really love this guy, and he loves me too... But how do you know if your really in love? I really do love him, I just want to know if anyone else can describe how you know... I can't seem to put it into words.

It's not something that we advice givers can tell you. If you have any doubt in your mind that you don't love him 100%, then you probably don't. You get butterflies whenever you see him, and usually you feel like it's just you and him in the whole world when you are together. I hope it's real for you.

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me(13) and my bf(17)weve been together for about 2 and a half months and i love him w/ all my heart and i know he does 2 but for the past couple weeks he hasnt acted like it at all.i mean he still says that he loves me and evrything when we talk like on the phone which is like 2times aweek now when it used 2 b evryday.and like we barely evr c each other bc we go 2 dif. schools but he only started acting like this since he gota job but i have noidea wat todo or thnk like evryday iwant2 cry I DNT NO WAT 2 DO

You should type using correct grammar, haha. You're boyfriend is really old for you. Maybe he doesn't want to go out with you anymore. Usually when boys, men in your case, act differently, there is something wrong and they might want to take a break. Give him space. Which is easier said than done, but hey, it may fix things between you. If that doesn't work, talk to him about it. He is old, and will understand, it might be hard to do, but it must be done.

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Dear Columnist,

I have a girlfriend, we've been together for a few weeks now, but she has already made it evident that she has secrets about her life that she is not comfortable with telling me. I was not too worried about them until her friends mother, (who she lives with) let me in on a big secret, but made me swear not to tell my girlfriend that I know. She told me last night because me and my girlfriend were fighting over sexual issues. The problem was, that I was kissing her, and touching her, and we were about to have sex, but all she wanted to do was kiss, and she was very reluctant to have sex, or touch me, but all she gave was a lot of far fetched excuses. This irritated me because this has been going on for the past week or so with her. After our fight, we still haven't truly made up, but I had time to talk 1 on 1 with her friends mother. I explained my situation, knowing that she is a very open person, and would have no problem offering her advice based on how we have talked about practically anything and everything since I have met the woman. But I did not expect what she was about to reveal to me by a long shot. We were sitting there in the living room just me and her, and she tells me that my girlfriend has some medical issues that she has been reluctant to tell me, and that might be the missing piece in this puzzle here. She then goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has heart issues, and explains them to me... I did not know how to feel about this, but it didn't seem life threatening, so I was still relaxed. Then she goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has Hepatitis C. This is a very serious condition; and I could be at a great risk of getting it from her. Since last night I have not been able to collect myself, and I've just been a wreck because now I feel like a jerk for pressuring her into sexual relations, when she was resisting, not because of me, but because she wanted to protect me, because she doesn't know if she can get me infected with the same dangerous disease. As far as I know, her knowledge on the disease is limited. Now I can't relax, because I want to tell her how sorry I am, and how I can't even explain how I feel about it, but on the same note I don't wanna blow her friend's mom's cover by saying how she revealed my girlfriends best kept secret. For this would hurt the relationship between myself and her friends mother, and she might not tell me any information ever again. I also feel upset towards my girlfriend for not telling me but I don't know what to do?!?
There's a whole bunch of emotion going on with me, I know I still love my girlfriend, but how do I handle this situation? Please help, the quicker the better..

Sincerely,

PeoplePerson27

Wow, all this happening in such a little amount of time? Maybe you should give her some space. OPTIONAL: Be very careful with even kissing her. Treat her like an angel, or something that could break if you touched her in the lightest way. NOT OPTIONAL: Then, in a couple more weeks (or now) ask her if she wants to tell you anyting. Tell her one of your own secrets. If she doesn't tell you any of the secrets that you discussed with her friends mom don't make a big deal about it. She will tell you when she is ready.. In the mean time, tell her you are sorry that you pressured her into almost having sex with you when she was not ready. And tell her you will never do that again. Love her.

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Do girls think magicians are hotter than guitarist,drummers and jocks?

Some find them creepy while some find them hot.

What is your take on this?

thanks

No. Although magic tricks are cool, it is lame and will get you know where major in life. Same with all the others too, though. =D

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i have classes with my ex boyfriend and hes always flirting with other girls, and i get so sad to the point where i feel like im about to start crying in class. what can i do to get over it.

To show him that you have moved on, flirt with anyone and everyone in that class, nerds, girls, teachers, ANYONE. Show him that you are "over" him also.

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well my best friend lets say girl has a lil brother named lets say guy. well me and guy only have a 1month age difference and weve been txting for a whilenow and we have a ton incommon like we both love sports.we both know that we kinda like each other alil. and girl is all for it.like whenever im with her she'll start singing the wedding march and be like u and guy are going2 get married and ijust say w.e.how do i get her stop thinking that?and idontknow what 2do with guy.4more info. message me if needed

First of all let me congratulate you on finding a wonderful guy.
Tell "girl" to be nice to you. Tell her that this relationship will not work out if she keeps nagging and being rude to you. Tell her that it will be odd, but you would like her help in making it a sucessful relationship.
As for "guy", just keep flirting with him and if "girl" keeps it up while all of you are together, IGNORE HER! and if he asks you out...GREAT!

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I was going out with this one guy that I really liked for a little over a month. But then he started wanting to know where I was, who I was with, and all that stuff. He called me a million times a day and when I didn't answer his call he'd keep calling until i'd pick up. or he'd leave messages cussing at me asking why the f*** I wasn't answering my cell. Plus, he wanted all my time and if I was busy, he would just ask to come with me and do it too or come with me and my friends. So, I broke up with him.
Now, he calls me still and leaves a million more messages, wants to be "friends" and now he's bugging me even more now then he did when we were going out. He says, "I love you, babe" and all that crap.
should I take it or call the cops or what??
please help me!

Half of Abby 2: Well dont call the "popo" because they probably wouldn't do anything.

Half of Abby 1: If this happens at school I would talk to the guidance counselor. This is bad. Tell him that if he doesn't stop you will tell his mom and other important people.

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