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what does this mean?
(she's 13 im 15)
ok last night i told this girl how i felt i told her everything and she said it was the nicest thing anyone has ever said to her and it made her cry and so she said she would think about it and so i talk to her today she said once again it was the sweetest thing anyone has told her and that i was an amazing guy but she doesn't feel the same way which sucks to here but im ok with that but she feels horrible about it and keeps asking if im ok does this mean she could possibly have a change of heart?
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No.
More than likely, she won't. Why? Because if she doesn't feel the same way you do when you confess, shes going to cut herself off completely.
Next time, don't tell a girl how you feel until AFTER you know she feels the same way. You have to give her time to work herself up to feeling the same way.
Simply put, men are decisive. Men decide they want something, and pursue it directly. Girls don't work the same way. Girls like being pursued, but they want to want being pursued first. They want to be interested in you before you start going after them.
So what do you do?
- Smile alot. Small smiles. Practice in the mirror if you want (no shame in it, your facial expression is as much a tool for you to use as anything) and give girls small smiles. Let them know you make them smile, but don't grin too much.
- Ask girls questions. Girls love to talk about themselves, so if you act interested in them they more easily become interested in you. Listen to what a girl says. Ask her to explain things. Jump in with your own stories or comments that relate and let her talk about herself some more.
- Don't tell a girl everything you're thinking. Girls like puzzles. They like guys that they can't understand right from the start. So keep how you feel to yourself. Act interested without saying that you are. If she likes you back, its stronger because she'll be sitting there when you aren't around wondering if you like her back.
Girls think about guys more than you probably imagine. If a girl likes you, shes going to think about you alot. You want to give her more reasons to think about you. Make her smile when youre around. Try to make her laugh.
- Don't be something you arent. If you're shy, be shy, but talk to her anyway. If you're nerdy, be nerdy. Most people can tell when you're faking something, and genuine responses get you alot.
Remember, you don't want to say everything you're thinking, but you don't want to lie, either.
- Don't smother. Yeah, you might want to spend every waking minute around her. She doesn't yet. You gotta work on that. Don't call more than twice without hearing from her until the next day, leave a message. Don't text more than 2-3 times without a response. Girls can't miss you if you're always around, that includes calls, texts, and e-mails.
- Do not under any circumstances be sad without a VERY good reason.
This is a big one. Emo has been all the rage lately and everyone thinks being sad helps you out, but it really doesnt.
You want her to think you're a happy, or at least level headed person. If you're sad it should be for a specific reason that she can sympathize with. Otherwise, bury it until you've been on a few dates.
My general rule is you shouldn't be mopey, and shouldn't be upset about anything unless its something family related or something like that. Your grandmother being sick will make her want to comfort you, you being upset about something a sibling or parent did is probably going to make her wish she were something else.
Thats not to say you can't complain a little bit. One of the easiest ways people find things in common is by figuring out what they both hate. But if you tell the story about how your dad gave you a ridiculous lecture and grounded you for three weeks because you did something stupid, the story should be funny and you should only be a little annoyed about it, not upset.
Basically, if you can laugh at it, hopefully she can too. Plus funny gets you bonus points with girls.
You've got more than enough to read, I can't tell you the girl will change her mind, they usually don't.
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No, she is just worried that she hurt your feelings because you are a nice guy. Her mind is made up. Make her jealous, though, and maybe she will like you.
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Obviously she feels guilty that you care more for her than she does of you. She feels guilty that you took your relationship way more seriously than she has. This guilt is normal and she's asking you how she feels because she's obviosuly upset that she may have hurt you. This is the common female, ALWAYS worrying. But you need to confront her and let her know that everything's okay. She basically means that she doesnt know if she should try harder to feel the same for you, or if she should just let it go and move on, but that decision isn't up to you, it's up to her, let her make it.
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she might just really geniunly feel bad about rejecting you.
so dont read too much into it.
but yeah, definitley ask her why she keeps asking you if youre okay if she doesnt feel the same way.
but like i said, she might just be a really nice girl and feel bad and want to make sure youre okay.
so dont get your hopes up, and im sorry.
i hope it works out for you next time!
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ask her. you will never know the actual answer unless you ask her. Be like how come you keep asking if i am okay. it sucks that you dont feel the same way but i am alright with it.
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