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Most confusing guy ever, no lie.
Sorry this is long, but i really need help.
So i dated a guy for about a week. then we broke up. well i really like him. and i was very upset when we broke up. well one night we were with some friends. and he was holding me in his arms something i missed very much. and i thought maybe he misses me and wants me back. at that time we started making out. and then the next day he didnt really say much to me. ands i was like wtf okay whatever. the next weekend we kissed again and really made out this time. and he held me as tight as he possibly could. and it felt like he didnt want to let go. and i was sure he wanted me back. well i sent him a message and said hey what was all that about. he replyed back and said he wasnt sure. and i said well i mean do you like me or what im confused, what was that night all about. he said i dont know...i didnt want anything to happen when i got there, it just happenend like that. Now all the times something happen with us, he was the one to start it.
i replyed back and said well i mean do you like me or are you using me for the moment type of thing. dont worry about hurting my feelings i just wanna know the truth. he read it and never replyed back. some of my friends say maybe he is afried of his own emotions. but he doesnt talk to me unless were together with our friends. and even then he is kinda distant, trying to keep something from happening. now theres another group of girls he kinda messes around with well one of them and it really bothers me and my group of girls bc we dont really like them.
my question is, do you know why he is being like this. i am really torn up about it. and i cant talk to him or see him much right now.
thank you so much!
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Of course you are confused... Women in their twenties and thirties are still suffering through similiar situations and asking the same question: 'Does he like me or not?'
When I was about twenty, I read a book that you may have heard of 'He's Just Not That Into You,' by Liz and Greg. Greg debunks a lot of the myths that females believe in. He's a guy, he knows how guys work.
ANYWAY... Here it is... Basicly, this guy is telling you that he likes you well enough to make out with you, but that he doesn't like you enough to date you. If it weren't true, you wouldn't have broken up... He wouldn't be claiming that he's 'confused' about his feelings.
And you're thinking, 'If this is true, why doesn't he just say so?' I mean... You told him that he could tell you the truth and that he didn't have to worry about your feelings. Even so, he's still probably afraid of being 'the bad guy' and hurting your feelings anyway... Because, woman to woman, let's face it... Your feelings would be hurt. I know mine would be hurt. And... Being the bad guy is hard. One day you'll have to tell a really nice guy that really likes you that you're just not interested... He'll start asking questions... And then you will know how much it sucks to be the bad guy.
So... My advice is this... Back off. Don't call, don't text, don't email, and the next time you see him... Be polite but try to keep your interaction with him to a minimum. I know that's easier said than done, but try. Eventually you'll move on and find a guy that does want to date you.
And if I'm wrong... Giving him some space still couldn't hurt. Don't chase him, let him chase you.
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I think he is just using you, and he doesn't want to tell you that because he doesn't want you to stop making out with him whenever he wants you to. Leave this douche alone! He is just a player.
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