Q: hi im 19y.o guy bi im trying to get this guy out of my head but i cant seem to block him out when im with my girlfriend he suddenly pops in my mind how can i erase him from my mind for good?

Q: my boyfriend of two years and i have had a couple issues with him messaging girls on facebook. i found a conversation once of him telling her he'll send pictures if she does of her boobs, it was graphic and i was upset, yelled and left the house and he came out (after going upstairs to see what i was upset about, i told him to read his messages) and told me that it was an old message that popped up and it was before me (he was a sort of man slut when he was younger, we're both in our early 20's, by the way) but when i wanted to bring it back up to clarify the date he said he had deleted it cause he didn't want to re-read it all, it was embarassing.


other situations have just been smaller things like calling girls pretty and they call him gorgeous, she gives him her number or he has vice versa, if they actually text eachother, i have no idea.


we've had about three major fights about every 6 months or so about this, and the last fight was the worst, we almost broke up. he said he loves me (i am the only person he's ever said this to, me as well, he comes from a bad background so he has trouble trusting people, etc. and i know he really does love me) that i'm his soulmate, there'll never be anyone else but me not trusting him is making the relationship feel tainted, that there's nothing else he can say. some of the girls he mssaged and "flirted" with were co-workers at his old job and that's just how they always talked, the other girls he was just saying hi too, he never texts these girls, he doesn't even respond to some of their messages, he gets messages like these all the time he can't help it. i just find it odd because he doesn't like a lot of people, he finds a lot of them backstabbing and moronic and finds girls for the most part to be sluts (not saying ALL girls ARE but the ones that contact him because hes cute and in a band are) so i just don't see why he messages them if he finds them stupid and slutty and not worth to talk to? i told him how i'm just scared he's going to leave me (me and him met over facebook messaging so i feel it would be just as easy for him to do with another girl), but i apologized for blowing up and i was going to try and stop. the thought of losing him makes me sick.


but i just keep getting this feeling like it'll never stop, he's already said a couple times he would, he deactivated his facebook once because of it all but he's in a band so he has to have one for socializing and marketing purposes, everyone in the band has to be active, which i DO understand. but now, i was just on the computer and his facebook was up and i KNOW i should stop, but i just keep getting this gut feeling and i was right. i found more messages (these are all archived by the way so they're like, messages hidden, put on the backburner, so to speak) to some more girls just saying hi, they didn't answer, one girl gave him her number and said to text her, and he replied "sext you ;)" and she asked why he never texted her (he doesn't have a phone right now though so i dont have to worry about that) and there was a couple other pretty girls he said hello to as well. also ran into an ex the other day and was saying how he tried to hide from her so they wouldn't get in a conversation, etc., but then he messaged her a hi as well.

i just feel like he wouldn't TRULY lie to me, he doesn't seem the type and after two years i think i would know. i and i know there's no way he can cheat on me pyshically cause we live together, we're honestly together 24/7, we even work together currently and have to share the same hours cause of ride situations. part of me just wants to say this is him being a guy, flirting around, some people think that's ok? but i just don't see why he would still find this ok if we've had SEVERAL fights, BIG fights over it, obviously i don't like it. it just seems like sometimes he gives me these answers that SOUND right at the time and i go along with them, but when i think back they don't seem that correct of an argument. AND he's constantly making comments if my phone goes off if its some guy or says about how guys always like my facebook pictures, if i go here dudes are going to hit me on and he's not there to do anything about it, so he's protective over me.

but i'm scared to bring it up anymore cause if i do, i'm sure we'll be done and i honestly couldn't handle that, he is my other half.


during our last fight he told me if i ever see something just to ask him about it but i'm too scared that he'll blow up. you know how some people say to "just do this" but when you actually do it they get pissed anyways...

i just wish i could stop looking at his messages, i just keep hoping to see nothing going on and there's just always something i have to find



i just want some people's opinions. do you think it's just a typical guy flirting, boosting his ego a bit, all couples do it a little (even though i don't flirt with anyone, i barely talk to any guys anymore) or should i bring it up to him? sorry this is such a long ramble, there's just so much to explain i haven't even explained it all so i can more if there's anything else i should add later

Q: I am dating a guy i really like but he doesn't want to make our relationship public.. He uses other girls as his display picture and wall papers but he has never used mine... I want to talk to him about it but I don't want to seem overbearing

Q: This guy. Goodness, this guy.

We're friends. He's 18, I'm 21. Our friendship started fast and escalated and we spend a ton of time together, and undoubtedly I'm attracted to him. He says he's not into girls like me (he wants the skinny perfect blonde, of course), but then he acts like he is. He'll have conversations with me about very personal, private things he's never said (or probably will say) to other people, and he gets sad if we don't get to hang out for more than a day or two. But, there's nothing specific happening between us. I'm too damn nervous to make a move, in case he's not interested despite the way he acts toward me v. other people... so what do you think he wants? How do I find out, short of an awkward conversation where I just have to ask? He makes me feel like a nervous 12 year old girl.

Q: I have never had a first kiss before. His do you kiss someone?

Q: I cheated on my boyfriend today, i really dont feel bad about it though. i dont know why i dont feel the need to tell him, the only thing i did was make-out cuz and he fingerd me only cuz he didnt have a condom. i sound so stupid i have no clue what is powering me to do this and i feel like i just wanna be bad and its not like this my bf treats me bad he actually is amazing i just feel trapped like i had a 4 year relationship 7 months ago and another one 2months ago. this guy is perfect like too perfect to let go so help me make sense of myself!

Q: 21/F
My biological dad never really wanted me and growing up he never really paid me much attention especially once my parents got divorced. I was lucky if I got a call on my birthday/Christmas/holidays and as soon as I turned 18 I was lucky if I got a phone call once a year. I have an amazing stepfather who I consider my dad now. But it feels like I'm always getting into relationships with guys who never really want me either. I'm well aware that I seem to be most attracted to guys who end up disappointing me yet the guys who are constantly stable in my life I have no interest in them. It's like I purposely get into these relationships knowing very well it's not going to last and they're just going to leave me. It's weird how I can have such low expectations with my dad yet such high expectations from guys that are just like him. So now i'm just wondering if my sucky relationship with my real dad effects my relationships? Am I really one of those cliche girls with "daddy issues"? I don't sleep around, I've actual only been with two guys and we were in a serious relationship. I'm not trying to make excuses for myself I'm just trying to figure out the source of my issues so maybe I can finally move on and stop going back to people who disappoint me the most.

Q: Ok, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a few months now and we really like each other and he has lately been asking if he could touch/feel them, what should I tell him, oh and I am 12 and he is 13, Thanks.

Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very in love with each other but it's def been a rocky relationship.We broke up 2 months ago for a month and decided to get back together bc we love each other too much. Everything was really good, the best its ever been actually... but then two weeks ago he started acting distant. On weekends he would just go with his guys and during the week he wanted space. I confronted him yesterday and asked what was going on. He said he wants space from me for a week and that he has a lot of tests to study for and things to take care of. So I tried to be understanding but yet today (when he was supposed to be so busy) he studied a little then went out with his friends. I just wonder if thats right that he needs space from me but none from his friends even tho he spend more time with them. It hurts and I confronted him about it and he was a complete a hole to me. He's gone thru this phase many times before but not since we've gotten back together. I personally don't think its right and somethings going on. What do you think? Is this normal?

Q: so my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over 2 1/2 years. everythings been going fine up until last month when he started becoming really clingy. when i would want to hang out with my friends he would think that i like them more or that hes not important. we used to talk every night on the phone for an hour but i stopped calling every single night because ive been so busy. but its hard because every time i try to explain it to him he asks the same questions over and over. and when hes sad like this it really brings me down. it seems like ive been putting a lot of time into making him happy lately. we do have a long distance relationship, he lives 30 mins away and i only see him on weekends in the summer and maybe once or twice a month in the winter. so anyways, lately ive been noticing other guys. and there is this one guy i like. its just that hes nice and funny and we get along so well. no one knows i even look at anyone else like that, and its hard to even admit to myself that i like this other guy, because i just get guilty every time i think about it.
so as of now i cant see whats better for me. at times i think im so stupid for liking this other kid at my school, but other times i just find myself happier when im with this kid at school, then when im talking on the phone with my boyfriend.
dont get me wrong, i love my boyfriend a lot and he has always respected me, but his attitude and his actions lately has just been suffocating me. and maybe my way of escape is through this other guy at school. but i, finding myself falling harder and harder for this guy. i dont know if he likes me or not, its so hard to tell with guys. but all i know is that i am attracted to him and i dont know what to do about it.

Q: So, My boyfriend dumped me a few months ago, and i still want him back. Which method would make him regret dumping me more; going around acting like I don't care about the breakup, and flirt with a lot of guys, OR be more reserved and chilled out, and look like I miss him? Your advice is deeply appreciated.

Q: I need advice on boys. 13/f. So I've like this guy for about 5 months now right? And I know he likes me because my friend overheard him talking his friend about me. So now it feels kinda awkward around him. I get jealous when he hugs his female friends. We barely interact during class and outside of class. I'm tired of waiting for him to make a move. I want action! What should I do???!!!

Q: The other night my boyfriend decided to check my FB page and found evidence of flirting back in 2009. Now he thinks I lied abt saying he is the only one for me. Please note I didn't actually meet him till 2011 though we started talking end of 2008. How can I mend this rift when he refuses to talk about it? I'm 36. Also please note we are currently 11000 miles apart.

Q: Hi. I really need to find a way to be alone with my bofriend. I want to give him a blowjob, and he really wants one. The only problem is, we're never alone. When we're not at school, we're being supervised by our parents. How can we find a way to be alone with each other? Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Q: 19/f, I've been in with my boyfriend for a year. We used to send each other cute texts almost every night and it of course lightened but now I feel like it has stopped. We still love each other, and I brought this up to him asking if he still feels the same way about me, then sent him an old cute text and told him how we haven't exchanged any of those in a while. He reassured me that he feels the same way, and ended up sending me a cute text that night. But it has stopped again. I guess I'm the type of girl that needs reassuring? opinions? am I crazy for this?

Q: The guy that i have just seen around well we was talking tonight and he asked me to come over so we can just talk. So we just talk and what not and listen to music and got to know each other some and He is 16 and I'm 21. We live in the state of south carolina. Is that wrong? We both are gay. But our parents kinda sorta know. But he says he trusts me and I trust him. He asked for cigarettes and should i get if for him? He asked me out tonight. I really like him and he likes me. I'm not sure what to do. help please.

Q: hi ya, my boyfriend and i live together and we've been dating for 2 years. we've been saving up for getting a mortgage recently. he was at work the other and he texted me said, ''he's in a happy frame of mind because may be, he's with a very nice girlfriend,'' what is he saying guys? he says he loves me at least 4 times a day but he hasn't made this sort of comment lately. he used to when we first started dating. so, guys, what does he really mean? thank you all.

Q: so me and this guy have known each other for a while, and have been friends for around 4 years. hes diffidently my best guy friend. so anyways every year i feel like were becoming closer and closer. and this year i kinda started to fall for him. recently, i noticed that whenever we talk, especially when i look him in the eye and talk to him, he smiles and blushes, and occasionally looks away for a moment. and when other people talk to him he doesnt do that. atleast not that i know of. no one knows i like him tho. hes really funny, we get along great. we know how to make each other laugh and i like that a lot. but sometimes i just feel like i text him too much about pointless stuff that he doesnt care about and i want to talk to him so badly but i just dont want to seem like annoying, you know?
so anyways, sometimes he can be a bit of a jerk with some of the things he says, but its lessened a lot and he is usually joking around.
but this weekend im going to his sweet 16 birthday party and im excited but i dont know what to expect.
how can i really tell if he likes me or not? its so hard to tell with guys, whether they're into you, just being nice, or flirting is just how they act, or if they're even flirting at all

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