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im so torn :(
so my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over 2 1/2 years. everythings been going fine up until last month when he started becoming really clingy. when i would want to hang out with my friends he would think that i like them more or that hes not important. we used to talk every night on the phone for an hour but i stopped calling every single night because ive been so busy. but its hard because every time i try to explain it to him he asks the same questions over and over. and when hes sad like this it really brings me down. it seems like ive been putting a lot of time into making him happy lately. we do have a long distance relationship, he lives 30 mins away and i only see him on weekends in the summer and maybe once or twice a month in the winter. so anyways, lately ive been noticing other guys. and there is this one guy i like. its just that hes nice and funny and we get along so well. no one knows i even look at anyone else like that, and its hard to even admit to myself that i like this other guy, because i just get guilty every time i think about it.
so as of now i cant see whats better for me. at times i think im so stupid for liking this other kid at my school, but other times i just find myself happier when im with this kid at school, then when im talking on the phone with my boyfriend.
dont get me wrong, i love my boyfriend a lot and he has always respected me, but his attitude and his actions lately has just been suffocating me. and maybe my way of escape is through this other guy at school. but i, finding myself falling harder and harder for this guy. i dont know if he likes me or not, its so hard to tell with guys. but all i know is that i am attracted to him and i dont know what to do about it.
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You're not technically a long distance relationship..it's 30 minutes. If you guys wanted to make it work you would...that's not that far! It's my trip to the mall. It seems like you don't really care and that you don't really love your boyfriend. I think this is where you guys need to split and you need to find your own happiness because everybody deserves it.
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You'll always regret it if you stay with him and you will end up resenting your boyfriend I think your gut instinct is telling you your relationship isn't a long term thing and the reality is you deep down wanting more and different. Trust your instinct.
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i have been in your shoes, believe me it IS hard. But sometimes we feel like when we've been with someone a long period, you kinda want to explore new things. If you get to know this other guy and he is not a jerk than become friends. If your bf gets jealous of something do what i used to do. I used to smile and say, "You're so cute when you get jealous." It's OK to just talk to someone. If you do feel smothered then try talking to your bf. work things out, don't keep it all inside.
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