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This is a really stupid question, but I need answers. I'd rather answers from guys.Yesterday, my best fiend and I were joking around, and she was making jokes about me wanting to give my boyfriend a blowjob. The thought was just a joke yesterda, but now I really want to give him a blowjob! So, my question is, what are some good things to do to make it feel good for him? Also, how do I ask him if I can give him a blowjob (without it being akward)? Any advice would help. Thanks! (link)
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Guy checking in...
First off, blowjobs and oral sex in general are a big part of intimacy and sometimes can be very sensual or down and dirty. If you're both std free and monogamous, then by all means go for it. As far getting the ball rolling, if he's a normal male all you have to do is get your hand on his crotch and he should get the hint. Plan the right time though, if you've never done it you don't want to pick a time when he's 'not clean' as that may definitely ruin the first moment. Just be open with him.
To me the most important thing a girl can do is mix it up...use your hand to stroke while just sucking the tip or licking while making eye contact. While pretty obvious, practice makes perfect and all guys are different so don't be afraid to communicate and ask him while doing it he likes it. It's better to ask and have him guide you than to keep doing something he hates (on that note avoid teeth). Play safe and remember to communicate.
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I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very in love with each other but it's def been a rocky relationship.We broke up 2 months ago for a month and decided to get back together bc we love each other too much. Everything was really good, the best its ever been actually... but then two weeks ago he started acting distant. On weekends he would just go with his guys and during the week he wanted space. I confronted him yesterday and asked what was going on. He said he wants space from me for a week and that he has a lot of tests to study for and things to take care of. So I tried to be understanding but yet today (when he was supposed to be so busy) he studied a little then went out with his friends. I just wonder if thats right that he needs space from me but none from his friends even tho he spend more time with them. It hurts and I confronted him about it and he was a complete a hole to me. He's gone thru this phase many times before but not since we've gotten back together. I personally don't think its right and somethings going on. What do you think? Is this normal? (link)
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Relationships are all about respect and by him doing what he's doing, he's basically saying you're not important and he doesn't respect you enough to consider your feelings. How much do you love and respect yourself? There's a saying...whoever loves the least in a relationship has the most power and by what you've said I think it's pretty obvious. Move on girl and find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated...and respects you!
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I ALWAYS have sinus infections. Other than that, I am generally pretty healthy and can't think of what would cause a sinus infection other than the fact that I do give a fair amount of head. And my boyfriend will sometimes like thrust into my throat pretty forcefully to the point where my throat is sore.
This should be obvious, but just incase it isn't preaching about how giving head is a sin or whatever is a waste of my time as well as your own so please try to refrain. Not trying to be judged here, just wondering if this could be the cause of my sinus infections. (link)
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Hard oral sex will definitely cause sore throats as the muscles in the jaw and neck area tense up quite a bit. The sinus infections are more than likey not caused by that but that's something a doctor should check. They are dangerous and brain swelling or damage can occur if left untreated. Common stuffiness can be lessened with decongestants. Try taking one a few hours before sex and see if you notice less head congestion, etc...
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So, this is kind of long, for those of you who have time to read. It's a little bit of different things. So, in a nutshell, it's family, school, and sex. Here we go:
I am 21/f, by the way
Family: At the beginning of this semester, I lost my 19 year old cousin to cancer. My cousin was more like my little brother. We grew up together and lived very close. He was my best friend. We were extremely close. So, this has taken a huge toll on me. In fact, he didn't die from cancer. He had a bone marrow transplant done to cure the cancer, and then he died of complications with it. So, it's even worst because he died of what was suppose to cure him. I have a lot of faith and come from a very religious family. So, I am holding on to my faith. However, one cannot deny that it is extremely difficult. So, this situation has impaired me from doing too good in school this semester. It's just been REALLY hard! Then, during finals week, my kitty passed away. And those of you who have pets understand how special they are and how much that hurts.
School: At the beginning of the semester, I thought of changing my major to education because I thought I wanted to be a teacher. Then, I started to do field hours in a school and realized that being a teacher wasn't for me. So, I switched back to psychology and I should be graduating in December. But, going to classes that I hated made school even worse! If I were going to some classes that I enjoyed a little bit, I wouldn't mind school as much. But, I hated these classes. So, it just made it harder. I am taking a larger load of classes now, but I figure it's worth it for graduating a little earlier. It's just that I still have like this depression inside of me, and I don't know if it will go away.
Sex: So, I also lost my virginity about a month ago. So, I started up on birth control. Since I started taking it, I started feeling SUPER sick, MORE depressed, and a super low sex drive. It's like I've been living in a daze. But, it's hard to blame it ALL on the birth control because look at everything that's happened to me in this short period of time. I don't blame the pills for feeling sad once in a while, because my cousin passed away just in February. Of course I'm gonna be sad. What I am blaming the pills for is feeling sad periods of depression for hours on end, being tired all the time, oversleeping. It's like a desire to do nothing. I blame it for the cravings I've been getting and for living in a daze and for feeling sick. Today was the first day without it. I did not take it this morning. And I felt fabulous today. I haven't craved weird foods. I'm not as moody. And my sex drive is a little better. I'm not feeling paranoid every second. I haven't felt like throwing up today, either! My question is... has anyone had this experience with Loestrin 24? When I was taking it, the blood in my period when I was on the placebo pills was BLACK. it was very scary. And will I be okay with just using a condom?
Thank you!!! (link)
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First off, really sorry about your cousin and kitty. Please let your self grieve. It's healthy to let yourself just cry it out. Secondly, though not a doctor, I know depression. I don't think the problem is the birth control. I think its exaggerating the underlining problems, most likely depression. No one can tell you that just from a forum but all things point to you having a hopefully mild depression. Stress and depression make all things worse. You can't 'think' your way out of it, you have to do your way out through keeping busy or meds.
I would stop the birth control and use condoms and common sense. If you're feeling weird, your body's trying to tell you something. Good luck and keep your head up. You've got a long life ahead and things work themselves out.
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I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 46 yeards old! We have been to together for a year and a half! My parents don't wants us together! They don't think he is financially stable enough, to old for me, and they don't like him!! So I'm not sure how to break up with him cuss he is very sensitive and possible might hurt himself? (link)
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If he can't handle the news like that at 46 then he's not much of a man. Best way is to just be straight forward, then cut all ties. No phone calls, no texts, nothing. If he's clingy the smallest bit you give him he'll think he's got a chance.
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so my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over 2 1/2 years. everythings been going fine up until last month when he started becoming really clingy. when i would want to hang out with my friends he would think that i like them more or that hes not important. we used to talk every night on the phone for an hour but i stopped calling every single night because ive been so busy. but its hard because every time i try to explain it to him he asks the same questions over and over. and when hes sad like this it really brings me down. it seems like ive been putting a lot of time into making him happy lately. we do have a long distance relationship, he lives 30 mins away and i only see him on weekends in the summer and maybe once or twice a month in the winter. so anyways, lately ive been noticing other guys. and there is this one guy i like. its just that hes nice and funny and we get along so well. no one knows i even look at anyone else like that, and its hard to even admit to myself that i like this other guy, because i just get guilty every time i think about it.
so as of now i cant see whats better for me. at times i think im so stupid for liking this other kid at my school, but other times i just find myself happier when im with this kid at school, then when im talking on the phone with my boyfriend.
dont get me wrong, i love my boyfriend a lot and he has always respected me, but his attitude and his actions lately has just been suffocating me. and maybe my way of escape is through this other guy at school. but i, finding myself falling harder and harder for this guy. i dont know if he likes me or not, its so hard to tell with guys. but all i know is that i am attracted to him and i dont know what to do about it. (link)
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You'll always regret it if you stay with him and you will end up resenting your boyfriend I think your gut instinct is telling you your relationship isn't a long term thing and the reality is you deep down wanting more and different. Trust your instinct.
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Hi,
I have a problem with my body shape, I feel Like im so small and unwanted by men.. I'm 5"2 ft and about 120 pund , but the man I want is about 6 ft so its a huge difference .. I wear a 34 B bra and I feel that is too small , I think that I might have a problem in getting men esp that im 20 and never been touched before despite the fact that I have a nice face .. do you think that my small size affect my attractiveness as a woman? where exactly is the problem? (link)
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A lot of men find petite women attractive (I'm one of them) and 5'2" is not too short by any standard. You'll find that as the above advice said that there is someone for everyone and there is certainly someone out there who is going to fall head over for just the way you are.
Keep in mind the average height of males is 5'11 so a 5'2" women is just perfect. Tall women make the average male feel less secure and many prefer shorter women.
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I just learned that my boyfriend of a year is still visiting dating sites. He has friends on facebook that I had questioned him about. His response was "they are just friends." I msgd one of them and she informed me that she did meet him on one of those sites. Should I consider this a form of cheating and should I let him go? (link)
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I can give you the answer you probably won't like. Odds are if you suspect him, you're right. If he's meeting people on sites or being secretive, than odds are he's cheating/or leading up to it. You may confront him and he will keep denying it until you find out the truth, but by then you may be the only one getting hurt.
Someone in a serious relationship who cares about the other person doesn't need to reach out to sites like that. That shows a complete lack of respect and a future tendency which should be flags for you. Think about moving on and good luck.
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