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Is this relationship healthy?
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very in love with each other but it's def been a rocky relationship.We broke up 2 months ago for a month and decided to get back together bc we love each other too much. Everything was really good, the best its ever been actually... but then two weeks ago he started acting distant. On weekends he would just go with his guys and during the week he wanted space. I confronted him yesterday and asked what was going on. He said he wants space from me for a week and that he has a lot of tests to study for and things to take care of. So I tried to be understanding but yet today (when he was supposed to be so busy) he studied a little then went out with his friends. I just wonder if thats right that he needs space from me but none from his friends even tho he spend more time with them. It hurts and I confronted him about it and he was a complete a hole to me. He's gone thru this phase many times before but not since we've gotten back together. I personally don't think its right and somethings going on. What do you think? Is this normal?
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It is pretty normal. But do you really want to be with a guy that needs "time" away from you? I think you deserve somebody that pays more attention to you and wants to be with you more than he wants to be with his friend. And especially since there is a chance he could be locked up, he should be wanting to spend time with you! I think you need to say goodbye and find somebody you deserve and somebody that will pay as much attention to you as you will to him.
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hmm, sticky situation but maybe he really does just need a little space. maybe there is things he wants to talk about only with his guys.
try not to come on too strong. respect that he needs space. its not that hes not into you anymore, he probably just wants to spend time with his dudes.
have you ever heard of the saying "absence makes the heart fonder"? basically what it means is that when you're away from someone you love/care deeply about, when you see them again, there is more emotion and excitement. rather than seeing someone every day, it is more special. cherish these feelings and work on hanging out with him more. maybe ask him on a date to see a movie or ice skating or maybe even a homecooked dinner for two!
good luck (:
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Relationships are all about respect and by him doing what he's doing, he's basically saying you're not important and he doesn't respect you enough to consider your feelings. How much do you love and respect yourself? There's a saying...whoever loves the least in a relationship has the most power and by what you've said I think it's pretty obvious. Move on girl and find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated...and respects you!
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Girl -- I agree, I don't think it's right at all. :( You two have been together for a long time, the fact that he's not talking to you and treating you like that.
I mean I know couples go through up and down phases and bad times that you work through, but if you broke up before and he didn't realize how much he needs you and isn't taking your relationship more seriously - you have to realize if you want to do this with him anymore?
It's hard to say why boys want space. I think we'll never know the answer :/ but if he does go to jail/prison for drugs I would definitley break it off. That in itself is not healthy for you or your relationship. He probably knows he's doing something bad and shady and wants to avoid you because of it right?
sorry if that wasn't too helpful love, hope you can figure things out <3
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