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I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very in love with each other but it's def been a rocky relationship.We broke up 2 months ago for a month and decided to get back together bc we love each other too much. Everything was really good, the best its ever been actually... but then two weeks ago he started acting distant. On weekends he would just go with his guys and during the week he wanted space. I confronted him yesterday and asked what was going on. He said he wants space from me for a week and that he has a lot of tests to study for and things to take care of. So I tried to be understanding but yet today (when he was supposed to be so busy) he studied a little then went out with his friends. I just wonder if thats right that he needs space from me but none from his friends even tho he spend more time with them. It hurts and I confronted him about it and he was a complete a hole to me. He's gone thru this phase many times before but not since we've gotten back together. I personally don't think its right and somethings going on. What do you think? Is this normal? (link)
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hmm, sticky situation but maybe he really does just need a little space. maybe there is things he wants to talk about only with his guys.
try not to come on too strong. respect that he needs space. its not that hes not into you anymore, he probably just wants to spend time with his dudes.
have you ever heard of the saying "absence makes the heart fonder"? basically what it means is that when you're away from someone you love/care deeply about, when you see them again, there is more emotion and excitement. rather than seeing someone every day, it is more special. cherish these feelings and work on hanging out with him more. maybe ask him on a date to see a movie or ice skating or maybe even a homecooked dinner for two!
good luck (:
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Am a 16yr old , she's 16 too...we went out on 2dates so far but ummm can someone tell me how 2 ask her on a third one? We in the same skool she never comes and talks 2 me neither do i go n' talk 2 her but all we do is eye contact all riecess long , we chat alot too but i like her so much :/ not sure if she likes me back :/ 2dates,chat mostly every night , no talk in school at all , eye contact all the time , she told me alot abt herself like alot! But i jst told her some stuff :/ ddnt tell her dat i rly rly like her cz not sure if she does i want u guyz 2 try thinkin if she does like me or not? (link)
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well, chances are, if shes gone on not only one date but two with you, then she is into you. otherwise she wouldnt be sticking around. girls tend to be shy around new relationships especially. if you really like this girl then try opening up to her more. she will appreciate the effort you put into talking to her and getting to know her. once you build a solid good relationship with her, you can build up from that.
its best to have a friendship with someone before you date them. so you know how they act when they are their true selves. but its okay to be figuring this all out while dating her. but friendship is really the base to any relationship. without it, its like building a house with no support. eventually its gona crumble down.
so talk to this girl in school, approach her. she is probably waiting for you to make the first move and talk to her. just take a chance and go for it!
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I am a 17 year old female, I have an 18 year old male best friend. We've been best friends since the 3rd grade, so when we were 5 ish, I believe. I'm told on a daily basis that everybody knows we like each other except for us and that our friendship resembles, to a tee, Billy and Jane of the tv show Jane by Design. We would do anything for each other, he helps me with any problem I may encounter and I would help him with any problem as well. I was the one who helped him through his first and only heart break and I'll never forget the one time he stayed up til 3 in the morning and talked to me when I was crying my eyes out because my parents were fighting. Lately, things have been kinda awkward, we still talk and everything but he's been kinda quiet, he speaks in a quieter voice, he doesn't laugh loudly. Everyday he goes to his best guy friend's locker which is right across from mine, when his friend is done they walk to mine, when I'm done, we all walk to his then walk out to the parking lot together where my best friend will drive me home and his friend will go to his car and head home. Today, my friend and his friend went to his locker without me so I thought that maybe he was busy, so I decided to walk home. He calls me halfway to my house and asks where I am, I told him I'm walking and that it's okay and he said he was so so sorry that he walked to his locker without me, he had to call in to work and ask off. I told him that him making me walk for one day won't make him a bad friend, and he said that it makes him a terrible friend because he didn't tell me he was calling in and that he made me feel like I wasn't wanted. I told him that it wasn't a big deal, he said it is a big deal because it's cold and he's lonely and he's so used to me being in his passenger seat next to him that he hates being alone in his car now. Next thing I know, after we hang up, he's driving up behind me opening the door of his car for me to get in. I told my best friend and she said that not just a regular best friend would do that and that he cares about me. What do you think? Thanks! (link)
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i think that before when things were awkward, maybe he was getting shy about his growing feelings for you. i mean it is obvious that he does care about you in one way or another. it sounds like he goes through a lot to keep you happy. like any friend would. but i can see what you mean about your relationship being like jane and billys. when i watched that show i would always think that they were secretly in love with one another. you need to figure out what your feelings are for him and maybe try to figure out how he feels about you. dont worry about ruining your friendship or any of that bull crap. if its meant to be it will be. if not then will it really be that hard to go back to being just friends? i dont think so.
the point is; you only have one life, if you were to die tomorrow, would you be happy with the life you lived? if you find yourself thinking that you would be happier if you were dating your best friend then you should diffidently take a chance on him.
good luck
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Whenever my boyfriend is stressed out, I make sure I am there for him 100% and I always talk to him to calm him down and offer to help. This usually happens when he's stressed over work or homework. Basically I'm really verbally involved and supportive. Whenever I get stressed, over homework or just for whatever reason at the time, he often just doesn't support me the same as I do, and that frustrates me so much because I'm looking for the same from him that I give him. Am I over reacting? A lot of times he gets silent and says, what would you like me to do? I dont know if I am wrong or not. 20/f (link)
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the only way for him to really know how you feel is just to lay it on him lightly. just bring it up when you guys are hanging out. guys are really bad at taking hints, so if you want to put an end to this you need to tell him exactly how you feel. dont act defensively, listen to what he has to say aswell. try not to make it into an argument by simply asking him for help next time.
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I need advice! 12/f
There is a new kid in my class but I don't socialize with him that often. How do I socialize with him without creeping him out? Thanks!!! (link)
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just approach him one day, and start talking to him. theres nothing wrong with getting to know someone knew, right?! ask him some questions about what hes interested in, but not too many questions, you dont want to seem crazy. maybe crack a little joke about the class. dont think about it too much. planning the whole thing will just make you more nervous. the conversations should be able to flow naturally. if you just give it a shot im sure you'll be fine, and you and him will be friends in no time!
good luck (:
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