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Just need opinions
19/f, I've been in with my boyfriend for a year. We used to send each other cute texts almost every night and it of course lightened but now I feel like it has stopped. We still love each other, and I brought this up to him asking if he still feels the same way about me, then sent him an old cute text and told him how we haven't exchanged any of those in a while. He reassured me that he feels the same way, and ended up sending me a cute text that night. But it has stopped again. I guess I'm the type of girl that needs reassuring? opinions? am I crazy for this?
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My fiance and I used to do this before. When I woke up, when I went to bed, when I would just be laying around I would be getting cute texts from him...it has stopped! But you know what, to get the ball rolling why don't you try doing it to him and that might get him to start doing it again. I'm sure it wasn't a one way street before either...to where he was just saying it and you didn't say anything back. Start it up, be more sweet, bring the spark back and watch how fast you guys will reconnect.
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You're not crazy. Some girls need to be showed how much their loved, just as much as being told.
I am having this same issue with my fiance. We've been together for almost 2 years. I told my fiance that at the beginning of a relationship, the guy & the girl are doing things to KEEP each other, "being sweet, doing sweet things, romantic dates, ect"; but after a while, they both (more so the man) feels like they don't have to do that type of stuff anymore, becuase the girl should already know he loves her. Which is true. but like you, I know my boyfriend loves me, but its good to be reminded, you know??
My boyfriend use to send me sweet texts every day, and it made my day SO much better; and that after 6-7 months, it just stopped.
THe thing is, after about 6 months, the honey moon stage begins to disappear. The puppy love stops, and thats when the REAL feelings come out and when you see the REAL person that you're boyfriend is.
Of course you're boyfriend still loves you the same, if he didn't, he wouldn't be with you. Guys aren't afraid of leaving a girl, like a girl would be leaving someone who they have been with for longer than 10 months. Girls are more heistante.
Idk about you, but this issue really got to me one night. (usually when I'm about to start my period, and I become very emotional) and I was just depressed. I broke down and told him, and he had no idea it bothered me this much; his explanation was "I thought you knew I loved you, I didn't know I needed to prove it"--I told him that I do know he loves me, but I'd like to be shown every once and a while. He promised he would work on it, because he doesn't want me feeling unloved, unappreciated, ect.
A guy won't notice these things, unless you point it out to them. Have a talk with you're man, and tell him why it bothers you. Communication is the best trait in a relationship. Since me & my man have had this talk, nothing has changed. He says it because he isn't the romantic type. I hated telling him this, but its a deal breaker. I told him that if he can't show me he loves me an appreciates me; than I will find someone who will. THERE ARE PLENTY OF GUYS OUT THERE, THAT DO THESE KIND OF THINGS; Ya know?
Now, another thing, I told my boyfriend that now I feel like he's only doing it because I mentioned it; I see it as, if you really love someone as much as he claims than it should just come natural, and his response was "i never think of it".
I remember one day, I asked my boyfriend (before we had this talk) to send me a sweet text, and he said, you can't just ask for it; and i said thats the sad part, if I don't ask for it, I'll never receive it; it hurts, I know it does.
But maybe you're boyfriend will have a better reaction than mine did. All you can do is try.
If you don't see an improvement, or alteast him trying in so many weeks/months; than thats how you know he isn't the romantic type. You either accept him for what he is, or figure out if you can go you're entire life with him not being sweet and appreciatinng you.
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I know it sucks, trust me. I'm in the same boat; all you really want is just a simple text, maybe some flowers, or just a little card telling you how much you mean to him; actions speak louder than words; i guess its just hard to understand why its so hard for them to just do something like that; idkk.
But I wish the best for you. I hope you have better luck with yours than I did with mine!
If you need anything, inbox me!
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