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E-mail: ami.it@hotmail.com
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Member Since: May 4, 2012
Answers: 13
Last Update: May 10, 2012
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Im 39 my girlfriends yougnger my heath is slowly but surly getting worse i HATE myself AND FEEL WORTHLESS I POSITIVE THE ONLY PERSON I LOVE IS GOING TO LEAVE... I'VE alway s hade bother with deprestion , low self esteam i feel im an idiot who is just wasting the earths scant resorces, i've try'ed 2 comit suioside a few times (some have been VERY painful) so i only WANT ADVICE 2 DO IT PAINLESLY , QUICKLY AND GARANTED TO WORK THANK YOU friends...
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Hello my friend,okay so you feel hopeless and negative about almost everything in your life.That's not a way to live.You are better than that.If you're feeling depressed,go out have fun,go party,you are never too old to have fun and live you life.And why would your girlfriend leave you?Be the best boyfriend ever,and I garuntee you that she will love you more than ever.Take her out on a date,buy her flowers,tell her how much you love her and you won't be losing her.So stop feeling bad and hopeless about your life,there are so many things you haven't explored and found out.Instead of thinking of ways to kill yourslef,think of ways to turn your like upside down.Go see a doctor and check your health.Get out there and live your life.Afterall,you only live once,but once is enough if you do it right.
Goodluck :)
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Hi. At the beginning of this year, my best friend went to another school. She won't answer my messages, texts or calls (or anybody's in my class, for that matter.) I also told her I liked her and i'm just really depressed. Plz answer. Thanks. (link)
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Having a best friend is one of the most important factors for happiness.You obviously love your best friend and you're worried about her,go to her house,catch up on stuff,listen to music,do the things you two used to do before to regain your friendship.Obviously changing schools is a very hard thing to do,what if your friend didn't fit in her new school?What if she didn't make any friends?You have to know how she's really feeling,and you have to show her that you care and that you will be there for her no matter what.And don't worry,we all go through rough times with our friends,but in the end if you truely care about each other,youlle fight to let your friendship last.
Goodluck :)
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So next year I'll be a sophomore and the guy I like is going to be a senior. I met him at the beginning of the school year and I've started to get to know him better in the past 6 months. Recently, I've started thinking about him in a different way. Normally, I always think about the annoying parts of guys, but with him, he just seems so perfect to me. I just don't know how to describe how I feel when I think about him. It's a feeling I've never had before when I've dated and liked other guys. Every time we talk, I just can't stop smiling. It's gotten to the point where I feel kind of ridiculous. I don't think anything is ever going to happen between us, so I don't really know what to do. It's really hard to not think about him because I see him at the time. I just need some help (link)
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Honey,you're inlove.And there's nothing better than the feeling of love.I know how you feel,you wanna be with him everyday and every second.And when you're around him,you must really happy and extatic.Here's the deal,I think that you should get to know the guy more and find out more about his personality,lifestyle,family.Get to know him really well.After that,you will decide if he's the guy you really want.And if he is,then stay close to him,and I'm sure he will feel the same way about you.You can always ask him how he feels about you.I know it sounds akward,but you don't have anything to lose.Ask him in an indirect way and hopefully he won't miss the chance to tell you that he loves you too.In case he rejected you,don't be sad or get annoyed,stay friends with him and try to avoid the akwardness between you two.And always,always,always remember that you're beautiful,and be confident of who you are no matter what.
Goodluck :)
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I recently startd chatin with s guy and finally I met him on a blind apparentli we ended up at his house.. Then he started kissing me out of my own will and however we made out,I felt bad after it bcos I hardly kno him and we just saw eachother for the first time.. So he asked me out after I told him how I felt and I said yes.. We are just a few days old and he wants to have sex with me I don't know if this is real or is he fooling with me and tells me that he loves me.. He also hasn't made our relationship publis too I am confused I need advice... (link)
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Slow down girl,you just met him,and you met him off the internet.So you don't know his true personality and who he really is.You never know,he might turn out to be an awesome person,or he might be after the sex and the bad stuff.Plus,the fact that he kissed you on the first date shows that he's there for the sex and pleasure.I think you should get to know him better,see where he's from,know about his family,and the environment he comes from.And after you do,then you will decide if you guys were meant to be.Concerning sex,please don't rush things,and don't let him pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.Stay strong and wise.
Goodluck :)
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Hi if you are reading this please contact me at ericsmith689@yahoo.com- my problem started 3 years ago when I was 23yrs old. all my life I had emotional problems with anger and depression, but in 2009 I became so depressed that I couldn function at work or school or at functions with my friends, I was also having mood swings toward my girlfriend screaming at her and calling her names and saying i never wanted to talk to her again just because she would text me back 15 minutes late sometimes. I also became paranoid and thought people who worked in resteraunts were trying to poison my food. After going through this long enough I completely broke down and stopped going outside and talking to my friends, I stopped going to work without telling my boss why.Ikeep in mind that before this all happens i was a faithful christian who loved God and had strong views on right from wrong. after 6 months I started noticing that I no longer felt anxious paranoid or depressed but I still didn't feel happy or back to my old self either. slowly I started calling old friends back and going back to church. but something was different. I no longer felt the need to be around other people and I no longer felt the need to talk to people. around my friends I became quiet and distanced even when we were hanging out together. though I had went back to church I no longer felt hate and disgust toward the devil and toward sinful behavior. I no longer felt a connection with God or any love for him. when people would tell me crazy stories or when I would see something gruesome on the t.v. or internet it didn't seems horrible to me like it would have in the past.when ever I would try to read my bible or start trying to study old school books from college it would seem useless and pointless.when friends would try to tell me things to encourage me it no longer affected me. it all just felt pointless. I also felt no love or anger toward any of my family members anymore. the people who I loved in the past i didn't love anymore and the people I had anger towards I no longer had anger towards. the first thing I did was leave my religion because I no longer felt love for God and no longer felt remorseful about anything. then I started going to the mall talking to all the girls I could. I now had the ability to approach women without feeling nervous or anxious, because in my mind what they thought about me no longer mattered. the only problem was that I noticed that talking to women was no longer exciting or enjoyable for me and when I finally lost my virginity to a woman the sex didn't even feel as good to me as masturbation had felt just a few months ago when I was still going to church and saving myself till marriage. it was weird. it was like I still felt that sensation in my penis but the mental and emotional pleasure that comes from sex and masturbation was no longer there. and in order to get an erection the woman had to suck me or jack me off. looking at a womans body no longer made me horny and it seemed worthless to try all the sexual positions that I use to fantasize about, it was no longer appealing. I used to be passionate about making beats and writing poetry but that was no longer fun or appealing. my sister had moved to florida a year ago and she was now calling me all the time cause my mom told her what I had gone through but i rarely cared to talk to my sister. I never called her and most of the time didn't pick up the phone when she called, it just seemed pointless to call her and talk. and by the way by this time my mom is constantly saying "u need to see a psychiatrist" but i keep refusing. I nolonger even go to regular doctor appointments for physicals and checkups, I stop going to the cause it all just seems pointless and the idea of getting sick and dieing is still not a good thing to me but trying to prevent it by regularly seeing a doctor no longer seems worth while. after a year of this I finally go to the psychiatrist and tell them about the anxiety and paranoi i faced and about my current symptoms. based on the paranoia anxiety and emotional problems I had at first they diagnosed me with schizoaffetive disorder and prescribed me medication. I keep saying but no I no longer have anxiety and paranoia I fell nothing, no emotion so these pills won't help. but they insist so I have been taking the meds for two years and I still feel no emotion or pleasure or happiness or sadness or anger at all. no matter what happens I don't cry get happy or get angry. life like this is misery because nothing matters in my mind. in my mind life is just a bunch of nothing for a person like me. nothing feels good or pleasurable, nothing catches my eye or sparks a flame of passion in my heart and I can't grow as a person because i have no emotions to help me become a better person as I experience life. no matter what I do or where I go life is the same to me everyday because i still feel no emotion even when Im in a different state with family or friends, even if I go to Cedar Point and get on a roller coaster Even if a pretty woman with big breasts shows me her tits. and the worst thing of all is that no one believes me or understands when I tell them that I feel no emotion and don't get any joy out of life. they think that its just me keeping to myself and not letting myself enjoy life. that is so frustrating, to have a condition that no one believes or understands. I have been thinking about killing myself because I have been telling psychiatrists these symptoms for 2 years and taking medication for 2 years and haven't seen or felt a change. Many times I think, if everything in life is going to feel pointless on bland and uninteresting to me from now and and if I feel no love for God and see no point of going back to him then I am better off dead. I haven't done it yet cause I think i might do it wrong and end up crippled or brain damaged and I still don't really want to die. just seems like there is nothing to live for. so any one reading this please email me a hello or something so I can see what u have to say about it ericsmith689@yahoo.com (link)
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I sent you an email.:)
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i want to suiside. plz help me what is the correct way to suiside myself without pain
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Why do you want to commit suicide?Look,I know that there might be a lot of depressing stuff going on in your life,but trust me,commiting suicide isn't the answer to anything.When you feel down and depressed and sick of everything,do something about it.Trust me everybody has those days where they feel like the unluckiest person on earth and the world is crashing down on them and nothing feels right.But how about looking at life from the positive point of view.How about noticing everything beautiful around us.How about getting up and getting that strenghth and defeating everything that you think has defeated you.How about waking up in the morning and thanking god for every good thing you have and promise yourself that youlle keep on going no matter how hard the obsticles you face are.No matter what,you're better than that and you're stronger than that.Go out,have fun,laugh,and don't think about things that upset you because its just not worth it.Suicide is never the answer.Afterall,you only live once.
Hope I helped
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my boyfriend wants sex i do too,but im very nervous. i dont know how to respond to him. to nervous to think. am 18 (link)
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Don't panick and don't be nervous.I'm here to help you with whatever youu need.First of all,ide like to point out that sex is not a joke,sex isn't something you discuss with your boyfriend while shopping.I'm sure that have sex must be a fabulous idea for the two of you,and it is between two couples that truely love each other.Look,I want you to know that when a girl loses her virginity its a big deal.So you have to lose your virginity with someone you know you can't live without,with someone that you don't want to ever lose,with someone you know will always be there for you and will back you up in everything no matter what.And if you don't know how to respond,tell him how you truely feel.Tell him that you're nervous and scared and that you always want him near you.If you're not ready,then tell him.And he shouldn't be mad at you because if he truely truely loves you then he will wait too and give you all the time you need.So bottom line,don't rush things,you can never bring your virginity back.And if someday you feel ready,then goodluck and enjoy that speacial moment with that speacial person.
Hope I helped,goodluck :)xx
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So my boyfriend and I broke up several months ago. Once we broke up, I kinda went on a rampage of having sex and I picked up herpes from a horrible person who denies having anything. Well, me and my ex are seeing each other once again and about a month ago, we had sex at a party (once drunk & once in the morning, sober).
We've continued to see each other and last night, he entered me a couple times, but I stopped him. This morning, I went to kiss him and he jokingly said that I might have an STD and if I do have one, that I would have to tell him.
I don't know if he knows or what, but I'm afraid that he won't want to be with me anymore when I do tell him.
Advice on how to break the news to him? (link)
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The most important factor in a relationship is trust.I think you should tell you boyfriend the truth.Being in a relationship is about loving and accepting each others flaws no matter what.If he doesn't take the news postively then it just wasn't meant to be,but if he does then he truely loves you and he's willing to do everything possible to be with you.In case he couldn't handle the news and he left you,don't worry.I'm sure that there are tons of guys that would die to be with a girl like you.Be confident,and postive.You're beautiful,and stay strong no matter what happens.
Goodluch :)xx
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What is a good nickname to give to your boyfriend? (link)
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It usually depends what your boyfriends name is.You can call him boo,lover,baby,hunny,any name you feel describes how much you love him.:)
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Well my boyfriend wants to take my virginity im 14 and he 15. Should i let him or no ? I feel were to young but he says i dont havet to if i dont want to but i dont know what to do. (link)
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Your boyfriend is right.You don't have to if you don't want to.First of all,losing your virginity is one the biggest things you're ganna do in your life.So when you lose your virginity,you want to lose it to someone you love,to someone you know will always be there for you,to someone you can live without.You have to rememeber that speacial day,where that speacial moment happened with that one speacial person.So my advice to you is to think it through.If you don't know what you want,then wait.Lose your virginity when you know what you want,and when you're sure.Goodluck,and don't rush yourself.If he truely loves you then he will give you all of the time you need.
Hope I helped :)
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My mom was once abusive and my dad has a bad temper, they both say rude things, get in my face and act crazy to me. I just get so mad i want to kill myself. I just feel no one understands what i go through, but i dont trust many people so i have no one to talk to. They say God wont put more on youre shoulders than you can bear but i just dont understand why God puts me through those things. I always give advice to people about not killing there selves and many different things. I just cant convince my self i deserve to be here and not in hell. I just dont understand sometimes. Why do i have to be the one all the crazy things happen to, i try my best to be a good person and God knows that. Anything i get mad at i just feel thats my sign i need to kill myself. How do i stop myself from thinking that ? What do i need to do ? I just dont understand. (link)
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First of all,I would just like to tell you not to panic and that every problem has a solution.Your problem is that your parents don't understand you,and that's normal.Some parents don't get what their teenage daughters are going through and don't give their children support.All you have to do is talk to your parents.Tell them what you're going through and how you are feeling.Express yourself and whenever they don't treat you right,tell them how you feel about it.Its better than keeping your problems to yourself and not doing anything about how terrible you're feeling.You can also go do stuff that make you happy.Go to the mall,go to the salon,go out with your friends and don't base your life on everything bad that's going on.I'm sure that you have several things that are going right in your life,but you're too focused on the negative feelings and things.So get up and do something about your life.Don't just sit there and think of ways to kill yourself.Follow you own advice and don't resort to bad harmful things.Life is fun,if you look at it in a positive perspective.So,live love and laugh.And talk to your parents asap.
Goodluck :)
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Well, I've been pretty obese for a long time, and I'm just sick of it..... I try losing weight, but I always end up gaining it back! I want to lose weight, but how can I gain will power? (link)
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Losing weight is one of the hardest things a person can do.I know how you feel.You get all excited and tell yourslef that you want to start dieting and then the next day you end up eating a lot!The problem is that well,food is just there,all you have to do is pick it up and eat it.And doesn't it feel so good on the way in?But looking at all of those gorgeous skinny celebrities and that popular skinny girl in school or maybe your perfect cousin with that perfect curvy body makes you feel bad,depressed,and makes you want to quit those bad habits of eating.These perfect skinny people remind us of our goal and remind is to put that doghnut down because its ganna be worth it when we get on that scale and see the numbers we have always dreamed of seeing turn into reality.That's the moment where you're ganna say I made it.Perserverence my friend is ganna get you through it all.I know its hard,but you can make it easy.
Here are some tips:
1.Eat a big healthy breakfast,eat less amount during lunch,eat a very small quantity for dinner
2.Quit the junk food.
3.Eat small meals more frequently.about 5 small healthy meals
4.Drink water water water water! And stay away from coke!
5.exersise,exersise exersise!
6.Carry a food journal so you can count and manage your calorie intake
7.Be confident and believe in yourself
8.Put a picture of the person you want your body to look like so you can be constantly reminded of how much you want to lose wieght
9.occupy yourself so you don't think of food
10.Reward yourslef once a week with any treat you like
Goodluck xx
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I am a college student & almost 20 years old. I have friends, but rarely get to see them. My mom doesn't really like me going anywhere, & when I do she yells at me & won't talk to me for days. I make plans to go see friends away at school & she even gives me all these ideas on how to get there & what to take, etc. & then the very last minute, is all "nooo, you can't go." She does this with any plans I make! & I always end up canceling. I've lost a decent amount of friends because of this.
I sit home every weekend, & I am so bored & unhappy all the time, because I never do anything. & I don't mean like staying out all night or something, I mean simple things, like going shopping with a friend or going to the movies or something.
What do I do?
My dad usually disagrees with her, but then she gets mad so he ends up agreeing with her. So I have nobody on my side about anything. & I don't want to just move out, that is just pushing the issue under the rug, & that would be expensive..
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You have every right to feel that way.You are 20 ,which means that your are old enough to make some decisions on your own.You should also understand that your mom might be in a situation where she doesn't want her daughter to grow up,where she thinks that if she let's you do whatever you want to do that will ruin your relationship and drive you away from home.So the key to this problem is talking to your mom.Let your mom understand what you're dealing with and tell her to remember when she was 20 and ask her if she wanted to stay home doing nothing on weekends when she was your age.Maybe then she will understand your point of view.You should also listen to her,see why she doesn't want you to do all of these things.Tell her to trust you and that she raised you right and that you know the right from the wrong.
If all of that doesn't work,go out with your mom,bond with each other,go shopping,do your hair,het a manicure,get facials together,and maybe then she will realize that you've all grown up and that you're ready to go out on your own.
Good luck. :)xx
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