My mom was once abusive and my dad has a bad temper, they both say rude things, get in my face and act crazy to me. I just get so mad i want to kill myself. I just feel no one understands what i go through, but i dont trust many people so i have no one to talk to. They say God wont put more on youre shoulders than you can bear but i just dont understand why God puts me through those things. I always give advice to people about not killing there selves and many different things. I just cant convince my self i deserve to be here and not in hell. I just dont understand sometimes. Why do i have to be the one all the crazy things happen to, i try my best to be a good person and God knows that. Anything i get mad at i just feel thats my sign i need to kill myself. How do i stop myself from thinking that ? What do i need to do ? I just dont understand.
adviceman49 answered Saturday May 5 2012, 10:48 am: First let me say there are people you can turn to who you can trust. They are your teachers, principal, Clergyman or even your doctor or if needed the police. All of the people I have just named are there to help you if you need their help.
If mom is being abusive any of the people I just named can help you and your mother. Whether it be physical abuse or mental abuse it is not right and you do not have sit back and take it. These people can help you as well as help mom be a better mother.
As for dads bad temper these same people can help him gain better control over his temper. Having a bad temper is sometimes linked to depression. You would be helping dad feel better if you were to get him help for his bad temper as well as saving yourself from the abuse you receive by him and his bad temper.
Most importantly is a group known as RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National, Network. They operate a 24/7 hotline you can call for help. That number is 1-800-656-HOPE. The people who take your call are trained to listen to you and help you find people in your hometown who can help you. There is no age requirement to make this call. The call is free as is the help they offer but most importantly it is confidential.
If you do need help with your suicidal thoughts you can dial 911 and help will be sent to you or you can go to any fire station and ask for help as well as any hospital emergency room. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
Amii answered Saturday May 5 2012, 8:27 am: First of all,I would just like to tell you not to panic and that every problem has a solution.Your problem is that your parents don't understand you,and that's normal.Some parents don't get what their teenage daughters are going through and don't give their children support.All you have to do is talk to your parents.Tell them what you're going through and how you are feeling.Express yourself and whenever they don't treat you right,tell them how you feel about it.Its better than keeping your problems to yourself and not doing anything about how terrible you're feeling.You can also go do stuff that make you happy.Go to the mall,go to the salon,go out with your friends and don't base your life on everything bad that's going on.I'm sure that you have several things that are going right in your life,but you're too focused on the negative feelings and things.So get up and do something about your life.Don't just sit there and think of ways to kill yourself.Follow you own advice and don't resort to bad harmful things.Life is fun,if you look at it in a positive perspective.So,live love and laugh.And talk to your parents asap.
Goodluck :)
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