Member Since: May 7, 2012
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Last Update: May 10, 2012
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Hi, you commented on my post about faries earlier today and I know I already rated and commented but I re read your post and decided I'm not done yet. Look, my life right now sucks and I found something happy to at least pretend was real. I'm not shallow and I have a life and even though it sucks, I love it. Your lucky I'm not a little kid that had to read that. This site is called Advicenators which means you give advice and what you gave me was not the kind of advice ANYONE on here is looking for. (link)
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thats fine but like you said, your life sucks so you found something you could at least PRETEND was real, meaning that you already new that they were fake so your question was pointless and you knew that.
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The guy that i have just seen around well we was talking tonight and he asked me to come over so we can just talk. So we just talk and what not and listen to music and got to know each other some and He is 16 and I'm 21. We live in the state of south carolina. Is that wrong? We both are gay. But our parents kinda sorta know. But he says he trusts me and I trust him. He asked for cigarettes and should i get if for him? He asked me out tonight. I really like him and he likes me. I'm not sure what to do. help please. (link)
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I believe it is wrong on your part because as a 16 year old minor he is not completely sure about his sexuality right now even if he thinks he is and you as an adult are taking advantage of him by getting a hold of him and helping to shape his feelings and thoughts before he grows into an adult and even if he was completely sure about his sexuality you are still to old to be spending time with a sixteen year old boy who is not your relative. he can't even go to many of the places that you can go to and it is illeagle for him to do many of the things that you can do. seeing how you are both gay and he is a sixteen year old boy your interest is obviously somewhat romantic and at his age it is wrong for you to even entertain the idea of being with him. you have to much life experience to be hanging around that child, he is not ready to hang out with someone with your life exp. email me at ericsmith@yahoo.com and tell me what you think of my answer. thanks
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My biological dad never really wanted me and growing up he never really paid me much attention especially once my parents got divorced. I was lucky if I got a call on my birthday/Christmas/holidays and as soon as I turned 18 I was lucky if I got a phone call once a year. I have an amazing stepfather who I consider my dad now. But it feels like I'm always getting into relationships with guys who never really want me either. I'm well aware that I seem to be most attracted to guys who end up disappointing me yet the guys who are constantly stable in my life I have no interest in them. It's like I purposely get into these relationships knowing very well it's not going to last and they're just going to leave me. It's weird how I can have such low expectations with my dad yet such high expectations from guys that are just like him. So now i'm just wondering if my sucky relationship with my real dad effects my relationships? Am I really one of those cliche girls with "daddy issues"? I don't sleep around, I've actual only been with two guys and we were in a serious relationship. I'm not trying to make excuses for myself I'm just trying to figure out the source of my issues so maybe I can finally move on and stop going back to people who disappoint me the most. (link)
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your father may be part of the cause of this but it is now in your hands to either find a guy who won't disappoint you and be with him or keep getting with guys who disappoint you. you might want to stop dating for a while and find yourself and improve your own qualities. email me at ericsmith@yahoo.com and tell me what you think of my answer. thanks
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Can anyone explain batism to me? I am baptized, but my boyfriend is not; yet he believes in God. Is it true if someone isn't baptised they will not go to "heaven?" (link)
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the Bible says that a person must be born again by water baptism in the name of the father the son and the holy spirit to receive the kingdom. so yes a person must be baptised in the name of the father the son and the holy spirit. are baptism is a symbol that shows that we have left our former sinful life to do Gods will.
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i want to suiside. plz help me what is the correct way to suiside myself without pain
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email me and tell me why you want to commit suicide first ericsmith@yahoo.com
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Last year I met this guy in one of my classes and he was everything i look for in a guy. We flirted alot and we went out twice. We always talked about getting together but i had surgery over the summer and he just stopped talking to me. I was mad and depressed because i liked him sooo much. I deleted him off facebook so i could forget about him but this year he is in 2 of my classes and i see him everyday. Now we barely talk and i never found out why we just stopped being close. I thought about talking to him about and ask him what happened but idk if would be awkward after...i still think i like him, any advice on whether i should pursue him or not? (link)
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don't pursue him because he is the one who just stopped talking to you. he obviously lost interest in you or is trying to make you chase him so he can be in control. if you pursue him after he stopped talking to you then he will no that you want him bad and he will use it to have his way with you. Email me at ericsmith@yahoo.com and let me know what you think of my answer. thanks
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I cheated on my boyfriend today, i really dont feel bad about it though. i dont know why i dont feel the need to tell him, the only thing i did was make-out cuz and he fingerd me only cuz he didnt have a condom. i sound so stupid i have no clue what is powering me to do this and i feel like i just wanna be bad and its not like this my bf treats me bad he actually is amazing i just feel trapped like i had a 4 year relationship 7 months ago and another one 2months ago. this guy is perfect like too perfect to let go so help me make sense of myself! (link)
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you probably don't feel bad because you feel freedom from what you are doing and you feel like you deserve to experience what you are experiencing especially since you have been in long relationships prior to your cheating. It feels good to have your cake and eat it too and that is exactly what you are doing. it feels amazing to you because you have a great bf who fulfills one side of your needs and you also have the guy who full fills your desire to cut loose and be wild by cheating with him. but sooner or later someone's feelings are going to get hurt bad so if you want to be a person who is worthy of respect you need to choose to either have a bf or just hang loose and find guys to party and have sex with. but beware just partying and having sex with guys could give you a bad reputation and leave your future cold and empty. Email me at ericsmith689@yahoo.com and let me know what you think of my answer. thanks
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My ex and I have been separated from since the beginning of the year. I am slowly staring to get over him and I am so proud of myself for making progess. Anyway, lately I can't help but re-read our old conversations (I saved some for memories, I tend to do this with guys I've really liked, I have some saved on my computer, e-mail, tumblr, etc), I even re-read the questions I posted on here about help I needed with him. I just want to reminisce on what we've had and establish that all of it is down the drain but realize that I did learn something. It hurts to read it sometimes though because I just can't help but miss him...Well im not sure if i miss him but i miss being happy knowing that I had someone and someone had me. But from what I've read, we seem to have had problems all the time. From reading everything I see now that the main thing we lacked in our relationship was communication. He was my first boyfriend so I had to learn everything through him, but I wasn't his first...but his longest. But I feel that I have learned A LOT over the past few years from when the cycle of relationships and boyfriends started. He's moved on to another girl now, they're just friends but I know he;s trying to take it slow with her to make sure it lasts... He's trying to do everything better than what he did with me, which is smart in his case, even though I can't help but feel cheated somewhat. (Our relationship was a little rocky from the start) I have realized we can't and won't be together, and I'm okay with that. I do admit that I am a bit lonely and I miss having someone to care for and to care for me in a special way. But why do I keep reading these things about him? I've had another ex but I don't read anything about him.. well there's not much about him that I saved but I dont even find him worth thinking about (that relationship only lasted a month and I gained nothing out of it, just lost a friend..) But yeah, should I be doing this? Is this my way of my healing process? Do you think I'm still trying to hold onto him? (link)
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It means that you haven't fully got over what you and your x once had and I suggest that you keep the messages until you get over him or find a new man to take him out of you mind but here is the key. until you get over him save the messages but slow start forcing yourself to not look back at them anymore and soon you will have trained yourself to not keep dwelling on your past with him. and hey email me at ericsmith@yahoo.com and let me know what you think about my answer.
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It's finally happened...for my whole life, I have been very very good at respecting the "off limits" zone when it comes to guys who already have a GF...but now, this guy has me absolutely smitten with him...it just kind of happened, without warning...and I can tell, and so can my friends, that he seems to be smitten with me too...but he's taken. Naturally, I am compelled to get him out of my mind as far as becoming a boyfriend goes, but my heart longs for him. I am so, so ready to love, having had my heart broken my whole life, and this man is someone who I could easily see myself falling deeply in love with...
And again, he's taken! X( His girlfriend seems nice, and we are nice to each other, though there is much guilt and awkwardness on my part now because of my feelings for him...they have not been together all that long, and I have no clue how well the relationship is going. Maybe they choose to stay low profile, but it just doesn't seem like they are in love, really...I really don't know...
Obviously, I am *NOT* going to make a move on him, and not sure what I will do if he makes a move on me...I am aware that perhaps he may a 'record' of doing this to other girls, though I don't know for sure...it's just a possibility...
Say he DID break up with her...(which is the only way I am going to pursue this, and I am not going to try to do anything to make this happen either) how long would it be appropriate to wait to get together with him? How would I deal with talking to her afterwords? Am I just doing something horribly wrong in general? Has anyone ever had this happen to them, and CAN it end well?
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first you need to find out what he wants you for ask him: "will you dump your current gf to be with me?" or do u just want me as something extra on the side while you stay with your gf? then make your decision based on that because it sounds to me like you want him all to yourself but he may be planning on having you and his gf.
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My mom was once abusive and my dad has a bad temper, they both say rude things, get in my face and act crazy to me. I just get so mad i want to kill myself. I just feel no one understands what i go through, but i dont trust many people so i have no one to talk to. They say God wont put more on youre shoulders than you can bear but i just dont understand why God puts me through those things. I always give advice to people about not killing there selves and many different things. I just cant convince my self i deserve to be here and not in hell. I just dont understand sometimes. Why do i have to be the one all the crazy things happen to, i try my best to be a good person and God knows that. Anything i get mad at i just feel thats my sign i need to kill myself. How do i stop myself from thinking that ? What do i need to do ? I just dont understand. (link)
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well for one, you don't deserve to be in hell because you never asked to be born into this wicked world. Read my advice column and look for the answer I give to the guys question who said he feels no emotion. in it you will find my life story thus far and i guaranty that once you read what i am going through you will realize how worth living your life is then email me at ericsmith689@yahoo.com and let me know what you think.
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Well my boyfriend wants to take my virginity im 14 and he 15. Should i let him or no ? I feel were to young but he says i dont havet to if i dont want to but i dont know what to do. (link)
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if you lose your virginity at fourteen it will open up your deepest emotions up and a 15 yr old boy is in highschool and more than likely once his reputation improves he will be having sex with more girls than just you and your heart will be crushed and it will take years for you to have self confidence and happiness again and once you go to highschools other boys will see your weakness in your low self esteem and they will prey on you, and yur feelings will still be so crushed still by your last bf that you will let them take advantage of you and next thing you know you will be getting passed around the school for sex and will be known as a ho when all you wanted to do was fell good about yourself again.
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My best friend (named Raymond) always scares/tickles me whenever I don't see it coming! He thinks my friend is hot, but the he told me he does that just to annoy me. I told him I liked him. We talk like 123456 hours everyday. I'm in grade 7, and he said he'll start getting serious with relationships in grade 8. How will I know if he likes me or not? I have no clue. (link)
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if he doesn't tell you that he likes you and wants to date then just enjoy his company and move on if someone else comes along because a boy who doesn't tell a girl he likes her either doesn't want to be serious with her, doesn't like her or is not ready for a relationship and you trying to be with a boy like that will break your heart at an early age and start you down a bad road.
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My girlfriend has depression, it's not as severe as it could be, but it often worries me as I can't always be there to see how she's coping when she is having a 'down' day as we're both at university. I don't know how I can help to make her feel better when she is feeling like this, she has self-harmed before and neither of us want it to get to that point again. She says that I am helping, but as I'm not there I don't know if she's just saying that to make me feel at ease...I also know that depression is an illness that isn't going to disappear overnight, I just wondered if anyone had any tips on how I could help her to cope? Just to make her day a little better? Anything.
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depending on what kind of depression she has she might need to be on medication and some depression will not go away even when others help so just try being around her and keeping her company not always talking to her about the depression but just talking about fun topics and watching movies etc. and be there to listen and comfort her when she does bring up her feelings.
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I'm from pondicherry(india).... My age is 19...actually i aspired to become a doctor....but because of unavoidable situation i was forced to do engineering.... But still i cant take this engineering field since al my interest is towards only medical.... I have no one to support me to do medical... Now i cant concentrate on engineering thoughts of medical is just killing me like a hell.... Please tell me the way how to overcome this... Please am just dyng here please help me... Am doing my b.tech eee 2nd yr.... (link)
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your 19, Take control of your own life.
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So my boyfriend and I broke up several months ago. Once we broke up, I kinda went on a rampage of having sex and I picked up herpes from a horrible person who denies having anything. Well, me and my ex are seeing each other once again and about a month ago, we had sex at a party (once drunk & once in the morning, sober).
We've continued to see each other and last night, he entered me a couple times, but I stopped him. This morning, I went to kiss him and he jokingly said that I might have an STD and if I do have one, that I would have to tell him.
I don't know if he knows or what, but I'm afraid that he won't want to be with me anymore when I do tell him.
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you have to tell him because herpes can be caught even when wearing a condom because the pubic area is still exposed. wouldn't u have liked to been able to choose whether u wanted to sleep with someone with herpes or not? so give your ex the right to choose whether he wants to risk getting herpes or not.
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how can i drive myself to move on and be motivated to reach my dreams when no matter how good i become i'll just be alone. doesn't matter if i get straight As or fail. i want to help others, because i think i am good, but why should i feel like helping others when they don't even truly care about me? always alone, while everyone else hangs with their friends, sharing fun high school memories. and then when i don't do anything, and don't reach my high expectations, because i don't have the fuel to progress, the guilt wears me away until i dissolve. and then everybody acts like they didn't see it coming. i only find true love, understanding, and acceptance from music, but i can't take a record out for a movie. if friendship is so difficult how could i even find romantic love, when i crave that also. crushing on a guy everyday, but not being able to do anything about it. he wouldn't really want someone like me. i guess if you saw me you wouldn't know what's hidden under my plastic smile, and nice clothes, cause if you did you'd probably just run away to someone else not as f***ed
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what you must remember is that for most of us life is long. 80 90 or even 100 years in some cases so you might find a certain job or go to a different school in the future and meet nice friends who truly love you and want to be around you. and in the mean time you can work on your own personality and attitude to make sure that you are ready when you meet those friends. and as far as finding someone to date that will come as well but make sure you are a thoughtful and caring person so you won't break anyone's heart when the right person for you comes along.
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Im not quite sure but do only guys cum or do girls cum too? (link)
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girls cum to but it is much harder for them than it is for boys and it takes much longer.
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I know that a lot of people on the website are older than me and that adults don't ever beleive in this stuff and that's why they never see them but do you think faries are real? Last night I was outside looking at the stars and I saw a flash of light in a tree next to me then heard what sounded like wings flapping back and forth then it was gone. Also, a friend of mine glitter on her bed when she woke up after she put a tooth under her pillow for the tooth fairy. What do you think? (link)
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why don't you post a question like this on twitter or your facebook page where people will appreciate it. This is a serious site for people with serious problems and question they need an answer to. some are fighting against suicide some are faced with mental illness and depression and the loss of love ones so stop trolling on here because you are obviously some rotten ass punk kid who has never experienced any hardships in life but eventually you will and when your faced with a serious physical illness or your mother and father die or who ever your closest to dies and leaves you alone on your own in this world maybe some kid will make light of your situation even though he knows better and you can laugh about that you selfish asshole, who ever has been teaching you about life has done a bad job and you will probably just laugh at this message that I am typing to you because u are too ignorant and immature to see its importance. get a life kid because your headed for a shallow and worthless future.
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I am an 18 year old male and I have been a pretty emotionally dead person for...well since my early childhood. And when I say dead I don't mean depressed or really down or anything of that nature. It's nearly impossible for me to feel anything genuine and I can only put a mask of fakeness on so I don't seem so far out. When I was in a psychology class I read about something called anti-social personality disorder and it almost disturbed me how similar the symptoms were to my own character. I've done enough to put myself away for the better half of my life and I haven't felt a shred of remorse or conscience. Anyways, I'm wondering if my lack of emotion is a cause of concern. Nothing brings me joy, pain, or sorrow and I can't even feel love for my own family anymore. NOTHING will make me feel anything and it bothers me. All I feel like is a body and a brain without a soul. Something is wrong with me but I don't know what. I'm a very intelligent person and all it seems I can do is succeed with material things like work while my relationships are built on false pretenses and emotions I never even felt but acted like I did. My question is: If there is anybody somewhat educated about this...what could be wrong with me? Do I have anti-social personality disorder?...and am I stuck with this? (link)
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Hi if you are reading this please contact me at ericsmith689@yahoo.com because i have the same problem accept mine just started 3 years ago when I was 23yrs old. all my life I had emotional problems with anger and depression, but in 2009 I became so depressed that I couldn function at work or school or at functions with my friends, I was also having mood swings toward my girlfriend screaming at her and calling her names and saying i never wanted to talk to her again just because she would text me back 15 minutes late sometimes. I also became paranoid and thought people who worked in resteraunts were trying to poison my food. After going through this long enough I completely broke down and stopped going outside and talking to my friends, I stopped going to work without telling my boss why.Ikeep in mind that before this all happens i was a faithful christian who loved God and had strong views on right from wrong. after 6 months I started noticing that I no longer felt anxious paranoid or depressed but I still didn't feel happy or back to my old self either. slowly I started calling old friends back and going back to church. but something was different. I no longer felt the need to be around other people and I no longer felt the need to talk to people. around my friends I became quiet and distanced even when we were hanging out together. though I had went back to church I no longer felt hate and disgust toward the devil and toward sinful behavior. I no longer felt a connection with God or any love for him. when people would tell me crazy stories or when I would see something gruesome on the t.v. or internet it didn't seems horrible to me like it would have in the past.when ever I would try to read my bible or start trying to study old school books from college it would seem useless and pointless.when friends would try to tell me things to encourage me it no longer affected me. it all just felt pointless. I also felt no love or anger toward any of my family members anymore. the people who I loved in the past i didn't love anymore and the people I had anger towards I no longer had anger towards. the first thing I did was leave my religion because I no longer felt love for God and no longer felt remorseful about anything. then I started going to the mall talking to all the girls I could. I now had the ability to approach women without feeling nervous or anxious, because in my mind what they thought about me no longer mattered. the only problem was that I noticed that talking to women was no longer exciting or enjoyable for me and when I finally lost my virginity to a woman the sex didn't even feel as good to me as masturbation had felt just a few months ago when I was still going to church and saving myself till marriage. it was weird. it was like I still felt that sensation in my penis but the mental and emotional pleasure that comes from sex and masturbation was no longer there. and in order to get an erection the woman had to suck me or jack me off. looking at a womans body no longer made me horny and it seemed worthless to try all the sexual positions that I use to fantasize about, it was no longer appealing. I used to be passionate about making beats and writing poetry but that was no longer fun or appealing. my sister had moved to florida a year ago and she was now calling me all the time cause my mom told her what I had gone through but i rarely cared to talk to my sister. I never called her and most of the time didn't pick up the phone when she called, it just seemed pointless to call her and talk. and by the way by this time my mom is constantly saying "u need to see a psychiatrist" but i keep refusing. I nolonger even go to regular doctor appointments for physicals and checkups, I stop going to the cause it all just seems pointless and the idea of getting sick and dieing is still not a good thing to me but trying to prevent it by regularly seeing a doctor no longer seems worth while. after a year of this I finally go to the psychiatrist and tell them about the anxiety and paranoi i faced and about my current symptoms. based on the paranoia anxiety and emotional problems I had at first they diagnosed me with schizoaffetive disorder and prescribed me medication. I keep saying but no I no longer have anxiety and paranoia I fell nothing, no emotion so these pills won't help. but they insist so I have been taking the meds for two years and I still feel no emotion or pleasure or happiness or sadness or anger at all. no matter what happens I don't cry get happy or get angry. life like this is misery because nothing matters in my mind. in my mind life is just a bunch of nothing for a person like me. nothing feels good or pleasurable, nothing catches my eye or sparks a flame of passion in my heart and I can't grow as a person because i have no emotions to help me become a better person as I experience life. no matter what I do or where I go life is the same to me everyday because i still feel no emotion even when Im in a different state with family or friends, even if I go to Cedar Point and get on a roller coaster Even if a pretty woman with big breasts shows me her tits. and the worst thing of all is that no one believes me or understands when I tell them that I feel no emotion and don't get any joy out of life. they think that its just me keeping to myself and not letting myself enjoy life. that is so frustrating, to have a condition that no one believes or understands. I have been thinking about killing myself because I have been telling psychiatrists these symptoms for 2 years and taking medication for 2 years and haven't seen or felt a change. Many times I think, if everything in life is going to feel pointless on bland and uninteresting to me from now and and if I feel no love for God and see no point of going back to him then I am better off dead. I haven't done it yet cause I think i might do it wrong and end up crippled or brain damaged and I still don't really want to die. just seems like there is nothing to live for. so any one reading this please email me a hello or something so I can see what u have to say about it ericsmith689@yahoo.com
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