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What's the point of life when i'm never able to make and keep friends?
how can i drive myself to move on and be motivated to reach my dreams when no matter how good i become i'll just be alone. doesn't matter if i get straight As or fail. i want to help others, because i think i am good, but why should i feel like helping others when they don't even truly care about me? always alone, while everyone else hangs with their friends, sharing fun high school memories. and then when i don't do anything, and don't reach my high expectations, because i don't have the fuel to progress, the guilt wears me away until i dissolve. and then everybody acts like they didn't see it coming. i only find true love, understanding, and acceptance from music, but i can't take a record out for a movie. if friendship is so difficult how could i even find romantic love, when i crave that also. crushing on a guy everyday, but not being able to do anything about it. he wouldn't really want someone like me. i guess if you saw me you wouldn't know what's hidden under my plastic smile, and nice clothes, cause if you did you'd probably just run away to someone else not as f***ed
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First of all, let me congratulate you.
Some people dont understand that the meaning of a good life isn't reaching their dreams or becoming rich, it's being with people and loving them. That's how you become happy. Some take their whole lives to realize this, others never do.
But you know all that.
Okay, so. relationships.
One thing you need to understand is that if you want someone meaningful, you're gonna have to be patient. Friendships and relationships find meaning over time, after years of memories have been made. Sometimes they don't even work out. But you have to move on from those and have faith that there IS someone out there who's willing to love you and accept you for who you are. It took me a while to meet my friends, and then years after that to completely trust them. That's okay.That's how it works. Don't feel bad if some people don't fit your standard, because that's the way you are.
Another is that crush you have? You mentioned he wouldn't want someone like you. That means that you don't think you're good enough for him, which most likely stems from your own disappointment at yourself. Don't do that. You're not f***ed up, you're just human, and none of us are perfect. But what we can be is better-we can be strong. We can face hardship and disappointment, and not let it discourage us from working harder. From doing better. We can be brave, loving, caring, so many things. You already are, you just haven't found people to show it to.
I wouldn't run away. In fact, I'd probably come running and embrace you, thinking "God, she's just as insecure as me," cause the truth is, we all want to feel loved and we all sometimes think we're not good enough for it. But we are. And the sooner we accept that, the better our life will become. People are always attracted to strength, you know. They crave inspiration and motivation. What they don't know is that the best place to get it from? It's themselves.
Don't be afraid to get hurt. If someone turns out not to love you as much as you thought they did, it's their problem, not yours. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there and love and get hurt. After all, how will you be able to find them if you don't look in the first place?
I wish you all the best and I hope this helps.
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You sound so much like me, and your situation is mine exactly. I genuinely believe I'm a very good person, and I really care for others and know how to make them feel better. Yet somehow I've never been able to keep a single friend. I've had three boyfriends in the past year. Now I'm single and the reasons for my breakups were totally not within my control. My first bf turned out to be gay, the second sexually abused me, and the third decided he didn't want a girlfriend right after we were making out! The ways I lost my friends are crazy. I believed that I was cursed in relationships. It really sucks. My advice would be to take something you're really good at, and makes you feel better like drawing, writing, etc. and really pursue it. People will be amazed and hopefully you'll make new friends. Also building up your self esteem helps a lot and people will take notice and treat you better. Be confident with who you are as a person, and be real. Good luck! Hope you find your true love!
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oouuu i can help i in high school i look at everyone to see the people who are loners or pick on i helped them alot also i was just like that as well if want me to help let me know :D
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what you must remember is that for most of us life is long. 80 90 or even 100 years in some cases so you might find a certain job or go to a different school in the future and meet nice friends who truly love you and want to be around you. and in the mean time you can work on your own personality and attitude to make sure that you are ready when you meet those friends. and as far as finding someone to date that will come as well but make sure you are a thoughtful and caring person so you won't break anyone's heart when the right person for you comes along.
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