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Completely embarrassed myself!
21/f So yesterday for cinco de mayo I went out with my boyfriend and his friends and we went to a bar to drink and then to a daytime club. Long story short I got out of control and drank way too much, apparently got wasted and his friend had to pull over for me to throw up (luckily I didn't in his car). Point is I embarrassed myself and feel terrible about it. I'm not one to do this often or at all really the last time it happened was last year in like October. And every time it does I feel so terrible my boyfriend doesn't drink so he was soberly noticing of it and when we got home he told me he was disappointed in me, made me feel so much worse, and then I cried tked to him for like 2 hours and it's just a whole mess. I know I was drunk but I remember everything and it was bad. What can I do to 1. Feel better about this and 2. Gain back some of the respect I lost in his eyes. I feel terrible right now :(
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First, don't let this deter you, but I'm on your boyfriend's side, generally.
There's nothing you can do to change what happened last night; you can't alter the past. You can, however, show your boyfriend that this isn't a regular thing for you by making that true.
Next time you go out, instead of ordering drink after drink, try alternating with water, or something nonalcoholic. Or keep yourself to one or two drinks. Also, if you don't drink often, realize that your tolerance is probably pretty low. Try to take your time and savor your drinks - order things that taste good, not necessarily what will get you tipsy quickly. Know your limits. Have a number in your mind, keep track of how many drinks you're downing, and don't go past it.
Anyway. As far as feeling better about what happened, chalk it up to bad judgment and make up your mind not to do it again. Your boyfriend, however, needs to do the same. If he's anything like me, he doesn't have to like what you did, and he has the right to be kind of annoyed for a day or so - but that's it - but he still likes you. He needs to either call it a dealbreaker, or not hold it against you.
I actually had a similar situation with my boyfriend awhile ago, but I wasn't there to watch him embarrass himself. When he told me what happened, I said something to the effect of, "I really don't like what you did. I have a serious problem with it. But I'm glad you're okay, and I love you... Just know that if you ever wind up in the hospital, so help me, I will verbally assault you until the sun comes up and I will not be nice about it."
That was pretty much it. I let it go after that; your boyfriend needs to do the same, and so do you. I'm not saying that getting so wasted wasn't a bad choice - it was. But you know that.
Instead of focusing on the past, work on changing the future. Respect your body; treat it with care, and no respect will have been lost. :)
Good luck.
Siren
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