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I really, really need help here-serious help only, please. i've never really said this to anyone before, let alone a bunch of strangers over the internet, but here it goes. I think i'm gay and to make it worse, i'm madly OBSESSED with this kid in my class. Now, I go to an all boys high school, but i've had these feelings since before i went there. I first met him when we were both taking the entrance exam to get into the high school. now we're really close friends and i am just crazy about him. i mean, to the point where i have pictures of him on my computer. But i don't know if he feels the same way though. I highly doubt he does. what i want to know is should i come out and tell him(and the wolrd) that i have feelings for him, or should i just keep it all inside? i am seriously asking for your help on this one because i really need it. (link)
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First of all, if you think you might be gay but you aren't sure, I would try hanging out with some girls and see if you are attracted to any of them. Could you see yourself doing anything with a guy? Or could you see yourself doing stuff with a girl? If the answer is both, then you are bisexual - not gay.
I think you should find out if your friend is gay or straight first. I know its hard to keep your feelings bottled in, but if hes straight...he might take it the wrong way if you tell him that you have feelings for him.
Eventually, if you're positive that you're gay, you could try going to a support group to meet other gays and get the support that you need. You can't keep it a secret forever.
Just remember -- there is nothing wrong with being gay. Its not something that you have any control over. The people that truly love and care about you will accept it. It might be hard at first, but eventually - they'll get used to it and accept it.
If you need anything else, don't hesitate to leave it in my inbox. Or if you want to talk to me personally, just leave your e-mail or your AIM screen name in my inbox and I will contact you. I'm trying to stay anonymous on here...which is why I don't give mine out. Good luck with everything and I hope I helped.
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Which is the best way to get in touch w/ a guy?
Call
Email
in person
pass by in the hall n hand him a note
its nothing personal i just want to know what you think. (link)
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Your best bet would be to talk to him in person. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, you could hand hime a note in the hallway. I wouldn't try calling or e-mailing because if you call, you won't always get ahold of the person. He could be out of town or out with friends and you wouldn't be able to talk to him. If you e-mailed him, he might not get it right away and you would be all anxious wondering whether or not you got it. So I say do it in person. =]
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I've been with my boyfriend since I was 14, and he was 17. I'm 17 now, and he's 20. We always talk about getting married when I'm like 19-20, and I know it's what we both want, but I feel like my family would say I'm too young and that they'd be disappointed in me. But it's really what both of us want, we really love eachother. We know his family is cool with it, but why do I feel like mine wont be? (link)
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I would just talk to your family about it & explain to them that you really love him & you want to spend the rest of your life with him. If it's what you want, I'm sure they will understand.
I don't think 19 or 20 is too young to get married as long as you truly love each other. Anything is possible when you're in love!
Good luck with everything hun & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox!
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Hey I dont have a question I just wanted to tell you how everything went with the senior and everything.I would send you something in your inbox but I dont know how.Haha I called him but it was busy so Ill try again later.I wanted to tell you your advice really helped and I added you on my favorite columnists list.Im new at this advice thing so if you want to help me out that would be great!! Thanks
~Ariel~ (link)
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Aw, thanks! I hope everything works out with him! I'll add you back. Good luck with everything sweetie & if you need help with anything let me know & I'll leave my email in your inbox (I'm trying to say anonymous!)
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I have a crush on a boy. My friends tell me I should leave a rose in his locker. Do boys like stuff like that? (link)
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I would just write him a note & slip it in his locker. Guys aren't really into roses. Girls like getting them, but guys get embarassed about stuff like that. Just write him a note & let him know that you like him & see if he's interested! Good luck! If you need anything else leave it in my inbox!
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Ok there is this senior in my art class and I know him from our mothers because they work together.By the way I am a senior.I told my mom I think he likes me because of the way he acts around me and she said dont even try it.I wouldnt anyway because I only like him as a friend.Then on Friday he gave me his number and said call me if you want to hang out.I dont want to be mean but I want to hang out with him but I am afraid he will ask me out and I dont want to so does anyone know what I should if he does??Ill rate high for any answer (link)
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If you want to hang out with him, go ahead! I would just call him & say "Maybe we can hang out with a group of friends this weekend" that way he'll understand that you don't want to hang out with him alone. I'm sure he'll understand, but if he seems like he doesn't, just say something like "I'm glad we're hanging out. You're such a great friend". He should get the picture after that. Good luck hun!
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There this new guy in Early childhood class and he is the only guy in it and he lives next to me.I REALLY like him and I told my friend that and she is all over him.Then I asked her if she liked him and she said ewww no!!! I cant get my mind off of him.I think he likes my friend because no doubt she is really pretty.But everytime we see each at home he says hi in a really hot way and smiles and then he goes hola to me.He is soo hot.Should I make the first move or should I try to forget about him.I rate high!!! (link)
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I would go for it! If your friend doesn't like him, then I don't see why not. Plus, you live right next door to each other so it would be easier for you two to hang out. Just ask him if he wants to come over and watch a movie or something! Good luck sweetie! ;]
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Can i simply have a yes or no answer to this question:
My brother used to put his hands down the back of my trousers and grab my butt and stuff like that, i told him to stop but he wouldnt. is this abuse? (link)
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Yes, that is considered sexual abuse. Especially since you told him to stop. I would talk to a parent about it.
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i am 15 and going to be a sophmore at my highschool. and i guess me and robbie had a crush on eachother in 5th grade and we went out in 6th grade and 7th but on and off ( you now how those middle school relationships are, dont mean anything) but i guess its funny because we even talked in middle school after elementary and he IMed me the other for the first time since like 8th grade.. but we have been talking online the last couple of weeks and lastnight he asked me to hangout sometime next week. we will probably end up going to see a movie or sumthing but honestly ive never really been on a date. ive had serious relationships but i mean we didnt go on dates first, i dont know how to explain it. so i need some ideas on where to go, what i could wear, and some stuff to talk about. thanks alottt (link)
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You could go to the movies, like you said. Thats always a really great place for a first date. If you do that, maybe you can go out to eat somewhere afterwards that way you guys can talk. Another good place to go on a first date is bowling. I know it sounds corny, but its a lot of fun & you're more relaxed since you're having a good time.
About what to wear - its really up to you. Dress cute, but comfortable. Jeans & tank top/ cute shirt. Just about anything! You could even wear a cute jean skirt & a tank top or a cute shirt. It's really up to you. I don't really know what your style is like...but just make sure you feel comfortable.
What to talk about - just be yourself! Talk about things you would normally talk about with your friends. Talk about movies, music, or just anything that you're interested in. Chances are, he's nervous too.
Just relax & have a good time!
If you need anything else, leave it in my inbox! Good luck sweetie!
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My best/only real friend just said he likes me, but i dont like him like that what do i do?
He is always depressed and i dont want to hurt him.
Help fast!
I'll rate 5's (link)
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Just be honest with him.
Tell him that he's your best friend & that you don't want anything to ever happen to mess that up & if you went out & ended up breaking up, things might change & you don't want that.
Since he gets depressed easily, tell him that there are plenty of girls who would be happy to go out with him to make him feel better. Then hang out with him not too long after telling him. That way he knows that nothing has changed with your friendship.
Hope I helped!
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heyy i was the girl who asked about how my friends bf was flirting with me and stuff.. he hasnt said anything lately.. should i still tell my friend about it? or just keep it quiet and wait to see if he keeps doing it... thank s (link)
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I would just keep quiet about it until he does it again. If you bring it up, you might end up fighting with your friend. But, if he does do it again - you should tell her. Hope I helped!
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ok, I'm caught between 3 girls I really like all 3... but I don't know who to choose or what to do, so please help (I'm just using there 1st inishal)
A (14/F)- a really good friend of mine, shes very sweet & she really likes me, but she lives pretty far away & her & I always have diffrent scheduals, shes liked me for a while, & shes sort of weird at times, but I stayed up untill 4 A.M. talking to her 1 night... so I really like to talk to her...
S (14/F)- my ex., shes really pretty & really sweet, but her & I broke up after her dad died cos she sort of went crazy for a while, & I hadn't exactly been a good boyfriend cos I had alot going on in my life at the moment... & so I understood, but I like her alot, & I think she might like me to cos I heard from her best friend (S & A are best friends, but they both a another best friend Steph. so there just all 3 best friends) that she & A were arguing over who would go out with me (afew days ago, me & S broke up afew months ago) & S was on the phone & kept saying "shut up!" & so yeah... but she lives far away too, & shes bi, but it really dosen't bother me that much
B (13/F)- ok... this is where it gets weird... shes a friend of mine's cosin, but they live in Florida (I live in Texas) & I just started talking to her afew days ago & she said she really liked me & felt like she could talk to me about anything & that she just about loved me, & said she wish I was there with her, & then she asked them if she could come to Texas next month with them & they said yes, so I'll be meeting her next month (they might even stay at my house cos thats what they did last time they were here), & I really like her, but she lives SO far away, & my friend sort of seemed protective of her the other day, cos he was saying "yeah, I love 'her name'" & so it just sort of made me think... maby I should back off... but I don't know
& I just don't know what to do or who to choose or what ever...
thank you SO much for your help! (link)
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Ok, well I can't tell you WHO to choose because you should always follow your heart & not do what other people tell you, but I can try my best to help.
A: You're really good friends & you like talking to her, but you said she acts weird sometimes. If you had a relationship, you might get annoyed by her being weird.
S: She sounds like the one you're more interested out of A & S & she doesn't seem to do anything that annoys you.
B: You really like her but she DOES live far away. Yes, you would be able to see her every once in a while through your cousins - but long distance relationships are VERY difficult to maintain & a lot of the times, you end up fighting with them a lot more.
If I were you, I would go with S & you could still stay very good friends with the other 2. However, that is just my opinion. You should always follow your heart. It's just a matter of asking yourself: who means the most to me?
Hope I helped! If you need anything else - leave it in my inbox & if you need more help with this just leave your s/n or e-mail in my feedback message. Good luck sweetie!
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Sorry it's so long, but I desparately need help. This is an easy 5 because there's so many things I need help with. Alright, I've asked a bunch of questions on how to get my crush to like me, and it looks like I just need to ask her out! I need some help doing that, though. First: I want a nice special way to deliver it, like they did at the end of Bye Bye Birdie. Can someone help me there? Also, someone suggested writing a poem for her, I suck at poetry, can someone give me tips? Besides, her name doesn't have any rhymes.... Then there's my parents. They've been betting on whether I'm gonna get a crush before my best friends (we're all nerds) and obviously don't know about me and my crush. How can I tell them? Note: I'm a shy person. Come to think of it, where's a good place to ask her out to? I don't really see any worthwile movies out apart from the Aristocrats, which I can't see until I'm 17. So what's a good place? Dinner? Bowling?
And finally, there's rejection. What happens if she says no? I'm a shy person, and I really don't want to have her say no... I mean, she said she liked me as a friend when I told her I liked her, and instead of getting over her, as time passed, I thought about her more. I've been devastated since, and this is the only way. Please help!!!!!! (link)
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I think it would be really cute to write her a poem or a letter & give her flowers. Since you said you aren't that good with poetry, you could write her a letter explaining your feelings for her & ask her out in the letter, but have her read it in front of you. If she says yes, give her the flowers afterwards so it doesn't seem like a bribe to get her to say yes.
About your parents: I would just tell them that you really like someone & you're going to take the next step & ask her out, so they might as well quit betting!
I think going bowling would be better than going to dinner because you'd be more relaxed & then maybe afterwards you can hang out at your house & thats when you can give her the letter (that way you don't have that many people around).
If she says no (which I'm sure she won't!) try not to worry about it. Atleast you tried! Otherwise you would always wonder "what if". I don't think she'll say no, but remember - if she does: you seem like a great guy & I'm sure anyone would be happy to go out with you!! Good luck hun! If you need anything else or want to tell me how it went, leave it in my inbox!
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ok i like this boy and i have probably talked to him 6 times in a year. i have liked him for 2 years now and lots of people have told him i liked him but he thought they were lying so he didnt do anything about it. i just talked to him today about his classes and and we had our laughs but other than that how do i become more than just someone he see everyday and only talk to 6 times a year. i just want to be his friend first but i get really nervous and then i dont talk to him. like i said i dont have to be his girlfried just someone he would like to talk to or someone he can trust! please help!
thanks!
i rate high for good answers! (link)
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I would just try to talk to him more && just tell him that you would like to become friends with him. Thats usually the best way to go about it. I'm sure after a while you guys will talk a lot more && then he'll be able to trust you && you'll be able to trust him. Sometimes guys are just shy && don't know what else to say in the conversation, so just try to be talkative! Good luck with everything && I hope I helped! If you need anything else - dont hesitate to leave it in my inbox!
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yess thats what i mean.. but i like this guy and im always there for him and i help him out. hes going through a tough time right now and im doing all i can. he just doesnt seem to notice it. i mean i no he knows i help but he doesnt do antyhing. i really like him. what more can i do for him to help him out and maybe possibly get him to like me .. ? thanks in advance (link)
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If you're doing all you can to help, there isn't really anything else that you can do except continue being there for him.
Maybe he likes you && he just doesn't know how to tell you. Sometimes when someone is going through a tough time && someone else takes the time to help them out, they end up developing feelings for the person. So, you never know - he could like you && just be too shy to do anything about it. I would just hint around about who you like && see if he catches on! If he does, take it from there. Good luck with everything! If you need anything else, just leave it in my inbox!
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I am kind of sad because all of my friends have a b/f and I dont...... I know it sounds child like but it has been this way for a year now... I mean I am not the best looking but I still want someone.... idk what I should do..... btw 15/female (link)
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You have nothing to worry about. All of my friends have boyfriends too, but I'm single && loving it! Sure, sometimes I get lonely without a boyfriend, but you still have plenty of time! You're 15. Most people don't meet "the one" until college. Sometimes even after! So don't worry! Your time will come. && in the mean time, enjoy being single! Hope I helped! Good luck with everything!
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13/m. me and my girlfried have been going out for about a year. But we have never really done anything like even go to the movies!!!! So yah. This is all because she wont tell her parents about us. Im not at all a bad kid. Im pretty good looking, good grades, never got suspended, nice, ect. I'm getting a little tired of this b/c i want to be able to do stuff with her. should i dump her and move on? or should I stay with her? Why wont she tell them? I no its not b/c her parents think she is too young, and she has like a really good relationship with her parents. What should i do? Stay? or go? Please help!!!! I RATE HIGH!!! (link)
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Before doing anything really drastic, I would just ask her about it. Ask her why she hasn't told them & let her know that you want to be able to do things with her. Maybe then she'll talk to them & you'll be happier with the relationship. If she doesn't tell them, I would try hanging out with some of your friends & inviting her & her friends. I'm sure her parents wouldn't mind her hanging out with a group of friends. Sooner or later, she's going to have to tell them & I'm sure she will eventually! Just give it time! If you need anything else, just leave it in my inbox! Good luck with everything!
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My ex boyfriend and I still have feelings for each other. The only reason we broke up was because of an Instant Messanger Misunderstanding since someone always goes on his screenname. Well, he has a girlfriend who he only likes as a friend (which I think he got to make me jealous.) He and I want to get together but I'm afraid I'm going to get hurt? So should we keep ourselves a secret, should we tell his girlfriend about us, or should I just tell him its not a good idea? We really like each other. So any advice would be great. I'll rate 5's for Helpful advice. (link)
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If he doesn't really like his girlfriend, it isn't right for him to continue seeing her. By doing this, he'll only be leading her on & make her have false hope for something that will never happen.
If you two still have feelings for each other, I would just try again & see what happens. The feelings are obviously still there for a reason. If someone always goes on his screen name, I would just have a code or something with him. For example - tell him to say a certain word or phrase when it's him on the screen name. If he doesn't say it when you think he's on, then you'll know that it isn't him & you can avoid any future misunderstandings.
I hope everything works out! If you need anything else just leave it in my inbox.
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Hi I'm in the 6th grade but anyways well wen i'm in skool there is this boy who whacks this chair against my chair, calls me stupid all the time, hits me and kicks me and all that crap and yet hes nice to me but i just dno if thats a sign of flirting and him wantign to get my attetion or just him hateing me and we are friends he sed it himself...plz help i'm just real confused (link)
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Aw! He definitely likes you. I remember when I was in 5th grade, this boy that I was friends with kept doing that to me & I was afraid that he hated me, but he admitted to having a big crush on me once we got older! Anyways, boys are weird like that & they're too shy to let you know how they really feel so they tease you instead. Don't worry - they'll grow out of it!
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this isn't really a ? but a survey for guys. what do guys like best in a girl
looks
blonde or brunette?
color eyes?
height?
skinny or average weight?
populararity or just a nice average girl?
i'll give everyone who answers everything a 5.
thanks Kate (link)
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I asked a few of my guy friends:
Nate:
1. blonde
2. green or blue
3. shorter or the same height
4. either - doesn't really matter
5. nice average girl
Andy:
1. brown
2. blue
3. same height
4. average weight
5. nice average girl
Tom:
1. red or brown
2. brown or blue
3. shorter
4. doesn't matter
5. nice average girl
Bryce:
1. brown
2. blue or green
3. shorter or same height
4. either
5. nice average girl
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