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Am I too young?
I've been with my boyfriend since I was 14, and he was 17. I'm 17 now, and he's 20. We always talk about getting married when I'm like 19-20, and I know it's what we both want, but I feel like my family would say I'm too young and that they'd be disappointed in me. But it's really what both of us want, we really love eachother. We know his family is cool with it, but why do I feel like mine wont be?
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It's not bad to talk about getting married. The downsides to it might be disappointment if you ever broke up, but other than that...it's good to dream and have goals.
So it's not bad talking about getting married, but you should really consider the AGE you will get married. Personally, I do think 19-20 is too young to be married. I say this because you just got out of high school and you're not THAT sure about what you want in your life yet. Do you really want to tie yourself down and get married before you yourself even know yourself fully? As for me, I'm planning to get married after college. This is because during college you'll have time to discover yourself and focus on your career...things like that. If you two really love each other, waiting a few years won't be a hassle. You have the rest of your lives to spend together.
As for feeling like your family would feel disappointed, it's normal. Your boyfriend is an older guy...of course his family won't be too shocked or even slightly disappointed. But you are a bit younger...you're a few years behind your boyfriend. So don't be angry or sad if your family doesn't give you the reaction you hope for...it's understandable why they would feel that way.
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because you are still a minor. as soon as you turn eightteen start sending applications to college and such showing your family that you plan on going and you want to have an idependant life as well as one with the guy, if youve been with him this long, it sounds like you really do love him.
19 and 20 is a little bit young.
i'd get to know each other a little bit more, and within two years itd be fine to get married.
make sure you dont try to over due yourself with things, make yourself first and him second.
the yall together, third.
-hope it helpd-
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TALK. To your family. To your friends. Really, it's your choice, but not having your family behind you often makes life harder. Let them see how much you two love each other, what you'll do for each other-and remember, if worst comes to worst-they can't break the bonds of love, even if they don't approve.
good luck.
<3 katherine
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I would just talk to your family about it & explain to them that you really love him & you want to spend the rest of your life with him. If it's what you want, I'm sure they will understand.
I don't think 19 or 20 is too young to get married as long as you truly love each other. Anything is possible when you're in love!
Good luck with everything hun & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox!
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Perhaps you should look at it from a different perspective:
Why exactly do you think your family would not encourage you to get married at this time? Do they think your boyfriend is a good prospect for your lifelong partner? Or perhaps you should consider that it's no necessarily the specific AGE they are focused on. Maybe they would prefer you achieve certain goals and experience more as a young adult before making this serious, lifetime commitment. You and your boyfriend still have a lot of growing and maturing to do.
Ultimately, you will be an adult of legal age at this time, and the choice is yours and yours alone to live with. But it has been my experience when all of my family and friends have the same advice for me, in the end they usually have my best interest in mind.
I hope you two cents might shed a light you might not have considered. Feel free to drop me a line if you'd like to chat.
Kindest Regards,
Anne Nonimous
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dear asker ♥ if its what both of you really want, try to explain that to your family..tell them that its really important to you. im sure after a while they`ll realize that you are really in love. his family is probably cool with it because he is the older one in the realationship. just don`t give up. hope i helped a bit.
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