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First time asking someone out
Sorry it's so long, but I desparately need help. This is an easy 5 because there's so many things I need help with. Alright, I've asked a bunch of questions on how to get my crush to like me, and it looks like I just need to ask her out! I need some help doing that, though. First: I want a nice special way to deliver it, like they did at the end of Bye Bye Birdie. Can someone help me there? Also, someone suggested writing a poem for her, I suck at poetry, can someone give me tips? Besides, her name doesn't have any rhymes.... Then there's my parents. They've been betting on whether I'm gonna get a crush before my best friends (we're all nerds) and obviously don't know about me and my crush. How can I tell them? Note: I'm a shy person. Come to think of it, where's a good place to ask her out to? I don't really see any worthwile movies out apart from the Aristocrats, which I can't see until I'm 17. So what's a good place? Dinner? Bowling?
And finally, there's rejection. What happens if she says no? I'm a shy person, and I really don't want to have her say no... I mean, she said she liked me as a friend when I told her I liked her, and instead of getting over her, as time passed, I thought about her more. I've been devastated since, and this is the only way. Please help!!!!!!
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aww thts so cute!
neways i think you should rit eher a little note and maybe put like one flower on it and give it to her.almost any girl would like that.rite ur # down on the note and tell her to call you.then when she does be like meet at " " for dinner and then maybe go to a prak or sumthing afterwards.and you can like swing and talk and stuff.o and you can push her on the swings! that would be so sweet!then just be like i wuz wondering if you wanna go out with me?1 and then shell say yes! and if she doesnt then just be liek ok but i dont want that to change anything in our friendship.and with your parents just be like whoevers betting for me is gunna win!!
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I think i may be able to help!!! I think it is great that you have a crush! Ask her if she will go bowling with you! Then when yall are siting down doing whatever yall are doing talk to her tell her that you like her!If you r in love explain how you feel this isnt somthing that just happens! If she rejects you she really isnt worth it remember.. the only one who is worth your tears is the only one who will never make you cry!
~Allie Cat~
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I <3 nerds :) Anyways. First off, if you want your parents to get the idea that something's up, put on some cologne and walk around the house humming, and act all distracted when they try and talk to you. They'll ask about it for sure, and then tell them about this girl. I think it's kinda funny that they're betting on it ;). Next, for the girl. I forget what they did exactly at the end of Bye Bye Birdie...but I do remember how sweet it was. If you're shy, there's a very good way to ask her. Buy a boquet and pick a sweet poem...possibly something by Tennisson, I like him, and write it on a little card. Then say something like "Meet me for dinner on Friday?" And leave your number. Then let her call you, I'm sure she will. Make reservations for a restaurant in advance, if it's a nicer place, you can always cancel if she can't make it that day or something. I hope this goes well for you, I know how you're feeling!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Well if you are shy, a nice cute way to do it, without having to do it to her face is just write her a nice note. And then tie a little ribbon or something ontop of the note with a little daisy or flower on it ( not like a whole bouqet cause then that'll look like you're trying to bribe her into going out with you ) just be sweet and sincere. And in the note just explain how after she said she liked you as a friend, you still couldn't get over her and as time passed you thought about her more and you want to try again and ask her if she will go out with you. And have her write her answer back and give you the note. A good place to take a girl somewhere on the first date is a movie. You might think there's no good movies out to see, but she might. Let her pick the movie. And if she can't decide on one, have her go over your house and you can rent one/ or watch one you already have. Which'll also be good for the date cause since you are at your house in your a comfortable place and might ease up more. And talk to your parents about this first ; they might be able to help you out with some stuff. Just tell them that you have this crush on this girl and you are planning to ask her out and if they can help. And finally, about rejection ; don't worry about it. Sometimes it happens to people, and I know it hurts, but it may not seem like it but sometimes it's worth it. Because hey, at least you gave it a shot which some guys don't have the guts to try and also if you never did ask her out, there'd always be what if? What if she does like you and you never asked her out? You would be losing the chance of a possible relationship happening. So just ask her out ; and if she says no ; she says no. But ask her if you still want to be friends so at least you have some sort of relationship with her and can be close to her and talk to her. And then who knows? Get to know her really well and maybe someday she'll like you back ( unless she already does ;-) ..) =) If you want to talk more, please IM me at:
MELii x MARiiE
...I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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i'd totally be gentlemen about it. get her flowers. every girl loves flowers. i know you're a shy person, but if you never tell her how you feel, then how will you ever know if you guys could've had a great relationship? talk to your parents too. maybe they can help you out a bit. chocolate and flowers would be the best bet. i'd ask her to a dinner/movie theme. unless you know she likes bowling, then that'd be cool. er maybe that could be a 2nd date thing. try dinner/movie first. rejection can be scary, but like if you never give it a chance you could be really missing out. ok maybe she doesn't wanna date you right away er anything, but you guys could become close friends and then she'll start to really like you as a bf. juss try it. she'll be really flattered either way.
good luck!
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Delivery is not so much as the process in getting to it. With delivery, you need to engage her into a conversation, and try to bend it closer and closer to your relationship with her as just friends. Eventually, when you hit the spot, you just ask "Do you want to be more than just friends?". That should be the best way. I would not advise writing poetry though, as some times it is seen as a bit, well, soft, for lack of a better word. Especially if it is just a one way love.
Your parents are easy. Just talk to one of them, and say thast you really like this girl and want to get together with her. Tell them who she is, and they normally accept.
I'd suggest finding a common interest you have with her, and go out there. Like if you both like hiking, go there. But if not, I'd suggest going bowling. It's a much nicer, less intimate atmosphere than dinner.
If she says no, then she says no. It'd be best to just move on, be it whether you need to force yourself to like someone else or try to find reasons to hate her. I suggest the first method.
-Steven
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I think it would be really cute to write her a poem or a letter & give her flowers. Since you said you aren't that good with poetry, you could write her a letter explaining your feelings for her & ask her out in the letter, but have her read it in front of you. If she says yes, give her the flowers afterwards so it doesn't seem like a bribe to get her to say yes.
About your parents: I would just tell them that you really like someone & you're going to take the next step & ask her out, so they might as well quit betting!
I think going bowling would be better than going to dinner because you'd be more relaxed & then maybe afterwards you can hang out at your house & thats when you can give her the letter (that way you don't have that many people around).
If she says no (which I'm sure she won't!) try not to worry about it. Atleast you tried! Otherwise you would always wonder "what if". I don't think she'll say no, but remember - if she does: you seem like a great guy & I'm sure anyone would be happy to go out with you!! Good luck hun! If you need anything else or want to tell me how it went, leave it in my inbox!
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okay.. i'll try to help. i think she should say yes, because she know you like her. if you ask her, and she says no, then she's not worth it, promise. you seem like a really great guy that doesn't deserve rejection. i know that if a guy asked me to go bowling, i would totally go! it's so fun, and u get alot of time to spend with eachother, more than a movie or something like that. here's another plus... bowling's cheap! so good luck with that! hope she says yes, and you guys have a good time on your date! best wishes!
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well for starters to tell you parent just be totally upfront with them..tell them there's a girl and you really like her..Now.. to ask her um bowling no never ask someone out bowling..take her out to dinner and then maby after go for a walk in the prack you can sit down n b like look at the stars there so beautiful.. just like you type of stuff then just ask her!! its not very hard and for them poem wellif you leave me a msg on my inbox i ould help you with at just go to my advice column n click get advice and it will go to me and i can help you with a poem if you rly want one.. and if she says so just be like well can we still b friends DO NOT GET NERVOUS!! just stay calm and b like thats fine but can we still be friends.. alright hope i helped you out good luck!!!
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If I were you, I would ask her when its just you 2 in a room (just in case you get rejected, it wont be as painful). You could buy her a necklace. And if she says yes, tell her "Im really glad you said yes. I also bought you this necklace, I saw it in the store and I thought it'd look beautiful on such a beautiful girl like you." Or something cutsy things like that.
IF you're really stuck for words say this:
" (her name), I really like you. I know that you said that you dont like me more than a friend. But the thing is (her name), I really like you and I would do anything to have you as my girlfriend. So this last time, will you go out with me?"
there ya go! need more help leave one in my inbox!!
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