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I have been asking myself a lot lately if I still want my ex back, but I am very happy in my relationship with my fiance. But when I ended up finding out that my ex was talking to somebody I flipped out, I got very upset and felt like I was losing something.. I just don't know what.
I have been with my fiance almost 3 years, and in the last 3 years it's been some down and up days.. mainly up days. I don't know if I'm afraid of losing my ex because he's talking to somebody new or I'm afraid of moving on from my ex because I was with him for 12 years and we have three kids together. I just really don't know what to do, I feel like some days I just want to cry another days I just want to just scream why me.. because I don't want to be without my fiance, but I think sometimes I don't want to be without my ex either..which makes everything extremely difficult.
My fiance said that he knows I'm still in love with my ex, but it's not like I want him back it's just sometimes I get very emotional and I don't know how to react except with arguing and crying, and that's not fair to anybody involved. Any really good and genuine advice would very much be appreciated.. in due time everything will happen that's supposed to happen and if me and my fiance are meant to be, then we will be.
When it came time for me to part ways with my husband, I had a vision where I was standing at a big ceremony ribbon holding a pair of scissors. Then I heard a voice, (likely God) telling me that if I meant to carry through on a divorce, that I had to cut the ties to my current husband before I divorce. But these ties are in your imagination, although I believe they are really there but invisible. I was told if I cut that ribbon, of which each end was attached to each of our abdomens, then there was no going back, that relationship had to end to that so i would be ready to move on. I had teen/college age kids out of the house when I finally left. In the vision, I decided I was done, (verbally abused all marriage) but understood the gravity. I had since read about this phenomenon on the internet but can't recall what its called. But for many, this kind of cutting of the ribbon, or the connection formed between two people who were a couple, needs to happen. You of course will still see him when it comes to sharing the kids or visitations but with the connection severed, it should help a lot. You did leave for a reason. Keep that reason in mind, regardless of still having feelings for him. those should go in time if you visualize both of you with a cord or ribbon connecting you together and then visualize yourself cutting that connection. Our minds are powerful things and hopefully that should help. I'd love to hear back sometime down the road to know it worked. Just refer to what we both talked about and I'll remember you.
Blessings to you
(Rating: 5) Slowly but surely I am cutting those ties..I still have days where I miss the old us but I am getting more stronger every day. To where I know where my future lies and it's in me and my fiancee's hands. Thank you for all the help you do give.
Blessings to you as well.