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I am 27 my BF 27.
I am in a long distance relationship for five years. We see each other 2/3 times a year. My boyfriend is very caring and nice. And off course I trust him a lot.
A few months back a saw a girl commenting on few of his post. and by her comment it seems like they chat sometimes. She always reacts with love react to his post. and sometimes comments praising his singing.
Now my BF has other female friends, they are his classmates and colleagues. And I am not insecure about them at all. But this girl is not his classmate or colleague.
Now I am not saying that he is having something with her. Like I said earlier I trust him completely. But I don't know why I have this weird feeling that the girl has a crush on my BF and she is trying to impress him. Should I do something about it? It is bothering me a lot. I didn't ask my bf about the girl yet. Should I ask him? How can I ask him? or should I just ignore it?
BTW we don't share our couple picture online or post anything about our relationship online. As me and my BF both are very private person. Our close friends and family members know about our relationship. But we don't showoff online.
When you ask how to react, to my perspective, I believe you have already reacted, or you would not have written this. Have you ever met in person? If not, the relationship you speak of is only over the web, not in real life. In a real life, RL, relationship, trust can be grown from seeing what the partner acts like consistently--like when tired, hurt, upset, angry etc does the person change in how they treat you. A guy can say, you are the only one for me but you are a picture on the screen and words on screen or in text or calls, not face to face where we miss seeing the facial expressions, tone of voice and so on. Another thing crucial to a relationship at the beginning is romantic chemistry.This is only something you can tell exists if done in RL. I met guys who sounded great but when met in RL, we both realized there was no chemistry and said so to each other.
Notice I am not talking about the other girl because she is in the same boat as you, applying more value to the online LDR than it deserves. I have done this all, so I am not talking about something I know nothing about.I felt hopeful about guys I met online but I never wanted someone far away, but someone within a certain amt of miles away so I can see the person regularly, not over the internet. Technology should really only be used to learn of the existence of the other person and if they sound good, to schedule to meet in person asap. And if a couple have a RL relationship but one goes away for college or into the military, then yes...an LDR goes a long way into making life bearable until you can see each other again in RL. So if you have had a RL relationship with this person, you then know whether you can lay your imagination or concerns to rest. In an LDR where the two have never met, there is always the chance that the unexpected could happen, such as one of the two of you meeting someone in RL whom you begin to see and get serious about. It is much easier for a guy to start dating a girl in person, while keeping up the LDR with you. You say you trust him so that shold be end of story, no reaction needed, other than loving thoughts of your sweetie.
(Rating: 1) At least read the question carefully before answering. I clearly mentioned that we see each other 2/3 times a year. And off course I met him offline. Me and my bf used live in the same city 10 years ago. We were batchmate. Then after college he got into university in another city and left. How the hell that is a online relationship! Disgusting answer!