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My husband has been having an issue with going to work here lately. At first I wasn’t saying anything. But now I’m getting worried about our future. I have been now saying things about missing work and yes I have fussed about it. All he says to me is to mind my own business. I told him that we love together and that him not going to work is mind business because it affects me as well. Am I in the wrong?
A husband and wife are a team, like ...lets say two people who are co owners of a business. If there are two owners, one can't make a big decision without the other and what one does affects the other and the possibility of hurting the business. If looked at in that context, which is how I see it, a husband and wife are like co owners, just called marriage partners and are in a marriage together. What one does, as your husband does, will affect you. Do you have a right to be concerned? Yes, because you are marriage partners. If you were singles that sometimes dated, then you would not have the right to be concerned over any guy you know as far as what he does, doesn't do, and as much as you might like to think, doesn't affect you because it can't legally affect you. As long as you are married to him, you will be held responsible legally if anything goes wrong. If he goes into debt, so do you, if a couple splits without a legal divorce, either partner will be sought out to pay up the others debts if for some reason they can't.
The reason he says 'mind your own business' could be to deflect a conversation he is embarrassed, not ready to talk about, or never wants to admit and talk about. The truth of how this world system is set up is all about money so if you don't work, you have no money to pay for things. With the pandemic, that was reason enough for people to question how they go about bringing home the paycheck. Many who can return have decided not to and beg to do work on line from home. Since the variant is still going around, thats not a bad idea. Do you know why he is missing work? I assume he is not physically ill and does have a job? If employed by someone and not self employed, he won't have a job forever if he avoids it. So he needs to talk and if he won't do it for you, ask him to go see a counselor. If he is unwilling to admit to a problem, to talking, to seeing a professional who might be able to help him through whatever holds him back, you may have to give him an ultimatum that you are willing to go through with, no empty threats ...and that may get him moving. However, if things get really bad for both of you, then like two partners not seeing eye to eye, the company suffers and falls apart, well the same can happen to a marriage. I hope something great will happen for both of you soon.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for your feedback. I thought I was in the right but sometimes in my marriage I get convinced that I am wrong it feels good to get outside help