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Thank you for reading my question.

I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….

I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.

For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.

Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.

This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.

Thank you so very much.

What luck, I am in Starbucks and had been chatting with a gal who is celebrating in a pride parade tomorrow. So I ask her what terms might fit. She suggested that 'gender fluid' sounds like what you are experiencing. Here is a dictionary explanation of the term and it sure sounds like what you are saying: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=gender%20fluid

I would also suggest you join an on line chat site where you can post questions for other young people with the same issues to answer from their experiences.

Here is one site, but if you prefer a teen site you'd have to search for one on line: https://www.healthfulchat.org/support/lgbt-chat-room.html

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much, this helped a lot!
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