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So I’ve only had 4 driving lessons and I have 6 more. My driving instructor critizes everything I do. He says I don’t listen to him and that I’m not watching my surroundings even thoughI am. I always listen to him but when I do multiple mistakes it’s a problem. Mind you I don’t get to practice at home because we only have one car and my dad uses it for work from 7am to 7pm and when he’s home I’m at work. The only time i get to practice is during my driving lessons. Also my driving lessons are once a week. However he always expects me to know everything but I feel like I’m not improving because of how spaced out my lessons are. Today he said I’m not controlling the car meanwhile he’s holding the steering wheel, he won’t let me steer at all and he’s accelerating the gas, pressing the brakes etc. Then when I do it he gets mad again saying that I’m not listening to him. What do I do? Last week I ended up crying during my lesson because it was only my third one and he already expected me to check my blind spots, change lanes, turn the car properly etc . Meanwhile I was never taught to check my blind spots (maybe it’s commen sense but whatever), I still have trouble turning etc. After he saw me crying he apologized saying he realized it was only my third lesson but he’s just being hard cause that’s what makes a good driver I understand that bad his approach is discouraging making me feel like I don’t know anything. Today it got to the point where he told me to get out of the drivers seat and he showed me how to turn and then when I got back and couldn’t do it he got mad and ended the lesson saying I don’t listen. Then he asked if I wanted to drive cause it seems like I don’t want to. Any tips on how I should approach the situation? My friend said I can call and ask for another instructor but if I do I’d have to start from square one.
You are not catching on because you're not teachable, you just don't have enough practice time and experience and a class is really only going to help you polish up what you already know. As for blind spots, Lordy girl, that is one of the major causes of accidents besides following too closely and not being able to stop in time. I am mentioning driving style rather than texting and driving which is skyrocketing cause of accidents. You will need to learn how to handle driving and blind spots. The blind spot is different with each different car you use.
Heres an idea, if the family car is not available for you to practice, how about an aunt or uncle who lives close by and may be willing to help out? My daughter already had a drivers license but wanted to learn to drive stick which I had. We did not go out on an roads but went to a nearly empty parking lot where she got to practice without the concern of the road and how to drive among other cars. You first need to become comfortable with your ability to handle a car in a parking lot, get down the smooth stops and smooth turns, etc. before even going on the road. I vote for getting a new instructor and starting over as you need the extra time.
(Rating: 4) Yeah I did driving classes already it’s just the physical lessons now. I watched a YouTube tutorial on how to check my middle mirror and blind spots while signaling I hope I can actually do it in person. As for finding another relative my aunt that lives near by doesn’t drive either she takes public transit so my only hope is my dads car. I think you’re right I might have to just request for a new instructor