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Life is an adventure but Life doesn't come with user manuals for everything. School subjects do little to prepare us. Its no wonder we all need helpful advice sometimes. Blessings to you!
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Im currently a freshman, enrolled at a 2 year university college campus. I havent paid for anything out of pocket, it was covered by financial aid. I thought i was going to go into music, but realized its not my priority anymore and had an existential crisis where i broke down crying because i dont know what i want to do anymore, and im having a hard time with school. Not that its hard, im just not motivated. I attend class, but dont do the work. Im 18 and just moved out of my parents' house. Im only able to work 20 hours a week (housekeeping is during the day) and need to get another job, but that'll leave me with even less time/motivation for school work. Im seriously considering dropping at semester. I know its hard to go back when you leave. I know it makes it hard to get a good job, but what does that matter if i dont know what carreer I want? Im feeling like i need to just work and make time for life while Im young, because no one really gets that chance until theyre too old to enjoy the nitty gritty of the adventures. I want to work, and save, and travel, and just really live instead of stressing over the amount of money im wasting and things im relearning over for the third or so time. I just dont feel like it's for me... someone please help, i really need some advice. Im so confused about my life right now.
I agree with adviceman. Even at 20 I wasn't sure what I would study if I went to college. I took the tests a college gives to find out where your interests lie by answering a set of questions. The vocational areas that got the highest ratings where the ones to go for. I came out even scores on all areas, non stuck out as higher interest. This was over 30 years ago and I doubt college offer such tests anymore.
At 18 or even 20, we don't really know what we want to do. Best thing for you is to take time off from school, start a job you can get without a degree and work a couple years and also put away money in savings. If you have roomates, that helps with cost, and you can ease into school slowly when you've figured out what you want to do. It may be that you have not yet experienced or done things that would give you a clue that this is something you really like and may have a forte for. Theres nothing wrong with going to school part time and working once you are going for something you have interest in. Interest will help you want to do the homework rather than avoid it
(Rating: 5) You always give me advice, and It's always helpful and insightful. I've been asking questions for five years now and I've never said thank you. Thank you, so much!