It's easy to fall into the pit of "I am ugly and therefore worthless". We've all been guilty of it at one time or another. I know I spent a good chunk of time wailing to my mother when I was a teenager about how hideous I was.

The big thing is to separate your looks from your self-worth. You were born with your looks. Even if you were ugly (which I doubt), you're not a bad person for being born ugly. How you look has nothing to do with what sort of a person you are.

I have known some very beautiful women who are, at the same time, absolutely hideous. Physically they're gorgeous but their empty, ugly personalities really seep out and mess up the whole image. I've also known average looking women who are stunningly beautiful because of their strength, their sense of humour, their kindness and compassion. I know it seems totally cliched (and I would have laughed at this as a teenager) but beauty really does come from inside.

Take care of yourself. Stay clean and look reasonably put together, and that's really going to be enough. If you take the time to look like you care about and respect yourself, you'll do just fine. Imagine if all those nasty girls who spend an hour on their hair and makeup every day spent 5 minutes instead and then the remaining 55 minutes improving themselves: wouldn't that be a big difference?

You can't define your self worth by how you look. Your eye colour, hair style and body shape aren't who you are. They're just packaging for your true self. Learn to love yourself for your actual beauty: your personality.

If you think I'm crazy, here's a real-life example. In my group of high-school friends, there were 2 models who were really mean and about 6 of us who were average to below average. Guess who's married, 10 years later? The models are chronically single, 2 of the average ones are married, and the rest are in long-term relationships waiting on engagement. In the long run, it really, really is what's on the inside that counts.

Thank you so much.its just I need a new look brave my old look is not getting me anywhere.i am a teen and I just wanna be pretty.i just feel like I ain't good enough.

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My name is Amanda and I'm 26 years old. I'm currently studying electrical engineering. Armed with a fairly odd sense of humour and a sunny outlook on life, I'll take on just about anything. I'm also cussedly stubborn, which has its ups and downs. Things get tough sometimes, and I've never been one to run from it.

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