It all depends on the relationship.

If you are in an open relationship and have mutually decided that it's okay to do this, it's not cheating. If you're in a monogamous relationship and aren't comfortable with your partner fooling around, they shouldn't be doing so.

If your boyfriend is being active with others (even if it's another guy and they're not having full-on sex), the most important thing for you is to make sure that you're safe. Don't have any unprotected sexual contact of any type with your boyfriend as long as he's fooling around with other people.

If you're not happy with the situation, you need to give him the ultimatum. Either he stops or your relationship does. This isn't something that you can just deal with if it's not your cup of tea. If you are okay with it, then make sure that both of you are being safe and that you keep checking in with each other to make sure that nobody's harbouring resentments.

I understand all that. But if you were in this situation . What would you do/think?

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