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Q: Today, my ex boyfriend called me the name of his current girlfriend. And for some reason this made me FURIOUS... why...?? I honestly don't know why I got so mad... Maybe cause he and I dated for a longggg time, and they're fairly recent and I think she's a whore and not good enough for him? Or maybe cause I obviously still have feelings for him... Hahaha yeah I really don't know why I got so mad. Has any one had the same experience? It happened in study hall, and he was trying to crack his knuckle in my ear and I tried to run away from him cause it grosses me out and he grabs my wrist and goes "(her name)!"

Sounds like you need to back off. You aren't dating this guy for a reason. Remember? You broke up. It doesn't matter what you think of her. Your place is not to judge her. In fact, if you think about it, you weren't 'good enough' for him, and he seems to think she's better for him than you were. It's time to step back and let her be his girlfriend now.

As for calling you her name, it's a pretty common thing when you're in a relationship. I accidentally grabbed my sister's butt after being alone with my fiance for a month. You get into patterns, and they stick sometimes.

If his behaviour bothers you, leave him alone. It's time to move on.

Rating: 4

I broke up with him. Were still friends. I don't care why he did it, just wanted to know why it made me so mad and wondering if anyone else had ever had a similar experience/feeling and understood maybe a little better than I did. Thanks for trying.

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