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I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
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Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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well me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago, we still talk and stuff. but we haven't seen each other ever since the break up.. and I miss him like crazy, and so does he.. and ever since we broke up he's been acting different.. he told me he feels like his concious left meaning he doesn't care for anything or anyone.. and even his mom doesn't like it WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?.. my brother told me its probably because of you guys, cause you guys had to break up from the situation (we had to break up because I'm moving to pennsylvania, and he's going to iraq in may) and I think my brothers right of why he is acting like that but I don't know.. I miss him like crazy.. and main reason I need help is because should I just meet up with him or come over his house? because I get to scared if I invite myself over and if he doesn't want me over I'll feel stupid =\... he calls me like at 1am most of the time just to talk to me haha, he's crazy ;).
so I don't know help me out! what should I do, what should I say? anything!
Please help!
thankkss xoxo. (link)
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Follow your gut instinct, if you feel that you should go and see him, then go and do that and talk it over face to face. My guess is that he's reacting to this breakup to very different way to other people.
I'm going to take a guess here and say that since he broke up with you, he may feel as if he likes/loves anything or anyone, he'll get hurt again and he may be trying to protect himslef from being hurt again. I'm assuming that the relationship has been going for quite a while if you're feeling like this.
Go, see him and talk it over and what you want to do because I think it will be the best thing for the two of you to do right now. And if he doesn't want you there, then just say you want to talk and I think the fact that you drove/walked etc. to go and see him should show him that you're serious about talking to him.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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hey, well we were together for about 2months (yeah I know not that long) but we've known each other for about 2 years. And when we started talking to each other, wow I honeslty never felt like this before, we connected so quickly, we've gotten so close to each other, and I never usually get this close to someone..it was amazing! The reason why we broke up is because of the situation were in (you know already haha) because we don't want to get hurt in the long run, we've gotten so attached to each other, we just don't want it to kill us more when he leaves to Iraq and when I move. So its bad timing for us =\. I know that maybe its not right for us now, maybe in the future who knows.. but just the fact that I can't stand not being with him but its for the best.. and yeah your right, he is scared that I'll cheat on him when he's away or something, but I NEVER cheated on my boyfriends, I'm not tha kind of girl, and he knows that.. its because he got hurt when he went away.. and I understand how he feels because I've been hurt too.. and that's probably the other reason why we broke up.. we talk to each other almost everday, and I love talking to him, but I don't know what to do, I want to tell him that I miss and stuff but I feel like there's no point in saying that because it won't make a difference.. and most of all I'm scared to do go up to him and say it (I'm such a baby) I don't know... And I know he misses me to like crazy because my friend hannah told me he does, but he's upset because it has to be for the best.. I don't know... what to do about this, its so difficult..
My brother told me if you don't tell him you'll regret it in the long run.. is he right? I don't know =\
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