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Q: I'm a quiet girl, don't associate myself with others much because i don't want to be negatively assosiated with people in any way by accident.

Well I was walking the walkway and this guy that's the same grade as me but SHORTER called me a douchebag and one of his friends were like "that's mean!" but then someone from their group was like "YOU'RE A DOUCHEBAG!" and then another person from their group said "Come on (name), get over here and beat the crap out of them! Don't let them stomp over you like this!"

But like how adults always say to not fight back, I just continued walking down the hallway. I'm just going to leave this to God and hope that Karma will come into play. I went into the bathroom, and just sat there, starring.

Why would they randomly decide to call me a douchebag like this? I never did any harm to anybody. I have them in a couple of my classes and we rarely talk but we talked a few times and they were NEVER like that before.

I'm just so hurt, my self esteem is so low, and it took my whole strength to keep my self from bursting out in tears during the whole day at school. What do i do now?

And how can I let out this anger and stress in a healthy way other than listening to music? (because that isn't really letting it out).

I think that shouting real loud as loud as i can like in the movie works but I'm never at home alone and I don't drive o it's not like I can drive myself to the park and scream...

Thank you so much in advance
Yes it is bullying. I'm also shy. One time I was at my brother's locker retrieving my personal items and this guy in a group of girls started throwing bottles and trash on the floor at me. He was two years lower than me and I didn't even know him. I ignored them and walked away. I really wanted to cry too. People sometimes just do mean things. You have to keep your head up and walk away. Do not let him get to you. He is not worth your time. People are bored with their own sad lives and have nothing better to do than to ruin other people's. As long as you do not react back they should stop. Talking to other people helps the best. Discuss this with friends, in a diary, family, or even your guidance counselor, whoever you feel comfortable talking to. If it helps, scream into a pillow and shed some tears. Crying is not a form of weakness. It also relieves stress. I hope you feel better.

thank you so much!

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