I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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Hi I'm Sarah I'm 19 & my boyfriend David is 18 (Turns 19 next month). I will ask my questions now: "Is this truly love? & Will we last?" but you miiiight want to read the synopsis first.
We liked each other the whole 2nd quarter of Sophomore year. Actually he liked me longer. But we never started talking until mid way through the year. We instantly had a connection. All of our friends could tell we liked each other. School ended & summer hit & he came one day with a bunch of flowers of all my favorite colors & a fake rose that he hand made & said "I Want You To Be My Girlfriend Until The Last Rose Dies". He pretty much won me over. & within time we exchanged our "I Love You(s)". At the time my career had just started that summer & I didn't think I had time for a boyfriend so very naively I broke up with him.
We dated again my Senior year. This time we felt even more of a connection. We grew stronger as a couple. He told me it completely tore him apart him when I broke up with him. At this point we were both 18 with still no cars for transportation or cell phones. Just the home phone or myspace to communicate. Sometimes he would longboard to visit me at my house & he would borrow his brothers car to visit me.
I'm the type of girl that can be very insecure due to my past. I feel unwanted, uncared for, & unloved if I don't hear from my significant other everyday or at least a week at the most. By the end of the week I start freaking out because I'm worried they don't care & we're falling apart.
David got really busy & we didn't talk for 2 weeks. I over thought the situation & broke up with him again because I thought he didn't care anymore.
We are currently going out again for our 3rd time to give our love another chance. He doesn't love me any less because I keep breaking up with him. I don't plan to break up with him again this time. But in a way I'm glad we did take our breaks along the road because we both have experienced other people to try and find that same connection but we both felt nothing like what we have. Plus we feel like we learned from our mistakes which only makes us stronger as a couple. I told him communication is so important to me in a relationship & now we text each other every day & surprisingly he's normally the first one to text me :)
We only want to be with each other because we feel we're right for each other. We connect mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. We are both out of HS now & taking a year off for college. We are both working to save up for an appartment so we can live together. We do not have a car, were working on that as well. But he has a longboard & I have legs so we can see each other that way & we both have cellphones now to communicate more often which is GREAT! We are on our 3rd week in since we became a couple and we are doing great. We've never felt something this strong with another person. Whenever we're together it's always comforting, sweet, romantic, & sexy. We can talk about anything. Our relationship...it just feels right. We are so in love. At least we feel. I feel that it's love & how we care about each other so that has makes us keep coming back together.
But from other persons perspective...
PLEASE HONEST ANSWER
Is this love? Do you think we can last this time forever or at least a long time from now?
Thank you for your time. Sorry this was long. (link)
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Yes, to be quite frank, I think that this relationship will last.
When I first saw the title, I first thought that this is going to be one of those letters which are the 'same old, same old' where the girl loves the boy, he did for one time and then fell out of love with the girl, even though she still loves him.
This is a unique relationship in the fact that the both of you still love each other fiercely, even though you've broken up three times. And the fact that you want to move in together is another great sign. And others have tried to get that same connection, yet haven't makes this relationship even more unique.
However, there is one downside which you may not like but I'm going to write it anyway. On this site, not only do you hear of the 'same old, same old', but you also hear of how others thought that they're relationship was 'perfect', but things began to go wrong and the relationship fell apart and hearts were broken. Too many girls and boys have been lured into that false sense of security and it would be heartbreaking should this not work between the two of you.
Now, I'm not saying that this is going to happen to the two of you because I think it is quite obvious that it won't, considering that you've learnt from your mistakes, you love each other etc. but I just want you to know that it can happen. All I ask if for you to keep an open mind and make only the decisions which you feel are right at the right time.
May you have a long lasting relationship,
triquetra
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Rating: 5
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You are so sweet for spending your time to answer my question. And you really thought out your answer and I appreciate it greatly. Thank you.
Your advice was very helpful.
When you said relationships aren't always as perfect as they seem & seem to fall apart. I really took some time to think about that. Because David & I do sometimes have our heads in the cloud 9. And loosing each other is what we fear most. Hopefully as long as we keep fearing that, we'll stay together. LoL.
I ranked you a top 5 :)
Thank you once again!
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