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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles.


I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!


I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.

I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.


I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.


I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!




♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥

advice

Okay, (rather long, brace yourself)
so my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost eight months.
And he does things that really piss me off to no end, he does really immature things, and he goes out of his way to make me feel bad about myself.
Ill give some examples.

Immaturity

When im telling him an important story, and say things like "He came really fast"
He'll laugh at the sexual content.
the other day a basket ball hit me in the face.
and i call him im like
"Jake, i was playing basketball with alyssa and the ball hit me in the face, it really hurts"
He'll laugh at the balls part.
Like, its funny the first few times, but then it just gets annoying, and it makes me feel like he doesnt care about me.
Or he'll (please dont get offended) say the N word to me and he gets mad when i dont laugh.
Im like, "Thats not funny, its mean"
and just other things, and they may seem funny, but he brings them up at the worst times.

Making me Feel Bad

We were video-chatting the other day, and my web cam is attatched to my lap top, so, when i move around it moves with me.
And i guess my boobs zoomed in on the screen,
and he'll start laughing and be like "Your tits were on the screen"
Or ill dive in his pool.
and i KNOW my bathing suit top didnt fall down, and he'll make something up to say he saw my boobs. And i'll automatically be embarrassed.
When i know that didnt happen.
Or if i point something out about him that annoys me or bothers me.
He'll turn it around and blame it on me, or make it look like its my fault
For instance, I was watching gossip girl one night, and he knows that i cant talk on the phone and watch t.v at the same time.
So, i was like "We can talk on AIM"
And he was like "nono its fine go watch tv, ill do hw or something"
I take funny pictures of myself and send it to him cuz i think theyre funny, and when i dont do something he wants, he threatens to put them on facebook.
Or he shows people, when i strictly told him not to,and one time he set one as his backround
I just dont trust his witht hem anymore
and he makes me feel really bad.
On purpose.

Showing off in front of his friends

He is a totally different person in front of his friends. He'll show me off in front of them about how we make out and stuff, and act like he doesnt care about my opinion, and says really hurtful things even though he's 'just kidding.'

Too close for comfort

he shares things with me that really gross me out, and he relies on the fact that we love eachother so much that i wont break up with him. He's got that wrong, becuase i can totally still dump his ass. We made a promise to eachother that we'd stay together long as possible, and he gets too comfortable with that, and thinks he can do anything, and i wont break up with him for it. Like saying mean things about my friends, and all of the above.

Now, my sisters wedding is coming up in about 2 weeks, and i invited him to it.
Im the maid of honor and i wanted him to be my date.
I cant break up with him now.
and i know if i do, despite all these things, i'll still be upset.
Why is that i can come up with a billion things i hate about him, but i still love him, and would be really upset if we broke up?
That makes no sense.

Also, what should i do about these problems?
Sorry for writing so much.
I really hope you can help

Unfortunately, each person is different and each person matures at a different speed. It seems to me that your boyfriend is just immature and still stuck in that annoying boy phase where sexual words are funny and teasing is okay. It is not okay for him to blackmail you or go behind your back and do something he says he wont(show your pics around). You should be able to trust your boyfriend, especially after 8 months, and if you can't, I suggest you leave him. I know you care about him and thats expected, however, right now, it doesn't seem like he fully understands what a committment is on any level. Maybe you breaking up with him will make him realize. He may think its all "harmless fun" and doesn't truly see how it is making you feel. I would try seriously sitting down and talking to him about it ALL, and if that doesn't help, I would break up with him. It's not going to work on these terms right now.

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