I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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Do you think it's wrong to only ever look at the bad in people? I always seem to see the good in people. I was trying to explain to my friend that I think people should not just look at the bad in people, but also the good (we were talking about this upcoming presidential election). She thinks i'm stupid for even thinking it, and that you have to see the bad in people. Do you agree with me or do you agree with my friend? Am I wrong to be offended by this? Let me know what you think. I mean if you've ever done something bad in your life do you want everyone to focus on only that? Or do you want them to see the good things you've done too? (link)
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Well, I think that it is a good thing that you should see both sides of a person: the good and the bad because if you just see the good, then when that person does something which you wouldn't have expected them to do, then you're in for a shock and then left confused about how you see that person.
Trust me on this, I've been there and done that and I found that if you just see the bad in others, you get a very balanced view of that person. And especially if it's something as important as presidential elections, because how you view that candidate, affects how you see the other person as well.
When somebody does a little bad thing, people can brush it off because they still know the real you and they know that you're not always like that. But if it is something big like murder or something of that nature, and you don't know that person, naturally, people will hold that against you for the rest of your life and it's difficult for you to change how they see you.
I'm kinda in that situation (but not with the murder thank goodness!!!) where my school friends kinda see me as this crazy person who's uptight and a little sadistic, but in reality, I'm not like that at all. I'm really a fun person to be around, a person who's willing to offer help and just listen to people if they've got a problem and can be quite funny sometimes! So you see? It's important for you to know a person through and through, the good and the bad, otherwise you may find it hard to change your views of that person later on if they do something which you'd never expected them to do.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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